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andromida:
Just this? Nahhh the list is too short.

Ilekokonit:
Spoken by a true to form sex obsessed, wayward hedonistic British woman

And stop being deceptive, almost all British women have one.

You ladies even pass it around at your so called baby / bridal showers

Ilekokonit:
Tips To Keeping A Good African Man - © Ilekokonit - 4 Nov 2014

·     Recognise that not every westernised idea or norm is good for the longevity of an African relationship
·     Respect your man, respect his African values
·     Don’t rubbish African culture for the sake of feminism
·     Know or learn what being an African man is all about
·     Recognise that a woman living alone for a long concerted time reduces a woman’s compatibility with a proper African man
·     Don’t puncture his balloon just to get even or drag him down
·     Don’t be hateful, spiteful or seek revenge
·     Be forgiving, Don’t be mean and Don’t be wicked
·     Recognise that even Beyoncé who sang “independent woman” is still holding tight to her man, likewise the Queen of England and Margaret Thatcher before her death
·     Keep the parts of your body that are meant to be hidden, hidden and not on public display
·     Serve as a good role model to his children especially his daughter(s)
·     Don’t by your way of life / dressing set bad moral examples for his children especially his daughter(s)
·     Don’t stop him from bringing up his children with good old school African values
·     Never antagonize him in front of anyone especially his kids even behind his back
·     Recognize that a boy’s first and everlasting hero is his father and so, never belittle, curse, shout at or castigate him in front of his children especially his sons. Remember that in almost ALL cases, the boy will remind you in later years how you maltreated his dad when he was young and he couldn’t do anything about it
·     Recognise that a woman’s crown is her man
·     Be DRAMA FREE, Don’t be rude, saucy or stroppy
·     Don’t be selfish or self-centered
·     Don’t be addicted to TV, fashion, jewelries or your career !!!
·     Don’t keep up with the jones
·     Believe in for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health because he seriously does whatever the situation
·     Don’t be evil or fetish
·     You Don’t need a pastor or imam to tell you about the future of your relationship
·     Value his opinion above that of your pastor or imam or even your parents
·     Realise that 2 cannot work together unless they agree
·     Don’t compete with him financially or otherwise fully realizing that he is willing to share everything he has with you
·     Don’t have the erroneous belief that "his money is your money and your money is your money"
·     Don’t keep secrets from him
·     Don’t be crafty, evasive, deceitful or manipulative
·     Don’t try to manipulative him with anything (not even religion)
·     Don’t be combative, cantankerous
·     Don’t tear your own home apart with your very own hands like the woman who does just that with her own hands in Proverbs 14:1 and is described by the bible as foolish
·     Realise that a foolish woman keeps talking but a wise woman understands the power of her words as well as her silence
·     Realise that it is a FACT when Proverbs 21:9 says that It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house and as such keeps your home peaceful
·     Don’t be moody, unfriendly or stubborn to him
·     REALISE THAT PART OF WHAT PUTS A MAN OFF HIS WIFE FOR GOOD IS THE FACIAL EXPRESSIONS YOU USE WHEN QUARELLING WITH HIM
·     Realise the difference between slapping your man in a film and slapping your man in real life
·     Keep friends who are family orientated and want to last in their relationships with their other halves
·     Don’t threaten to harm yourself or drink bleach just to get his attention or win an argument
·     Faces issues head on without hiding behind non issues
·     Don’t deny him his conjugal rights
·     Want to grow old with him together, be in the relationship for the long haul
·     Don’t be crafty, evasive, cagey or secretive
·     Don’t have unnecessary male friends
·     allow him access to your phone if you are not hiding anything
·     Don’t be deceived by your being young or by your beautiful face, realise that the real beauty of a woman is in your character
·     Don’t believe that because you are beautiful then you cannot be corrected
·     Don’t lie to him
·     Don’t be a combative feminist
·     Don’t indulge in being married to an inanimate object
·     Don’t smoke and if you do drink, do so rarely, moderately and only on social occasions and Don’t form the habit of drinking alone (Even most men Don’t drink alone except for alcoholics)
·     Don’t do drugs
·     Value the old school family values that our parents held dear
·     Treat him like your mum treated your dad (hopefully, your mum treated your dad well)
·     Realise that no man wants to live with a combative quarrelsome woman
·     Don’t hide behind crocodile tears just to get your way
·     Don’t always have an answer for everything (nobody does)
·     Don’t talk at 1000 miles per hour just because you can
·     Think before you talk
·     Don’t monopolize the conversation.
·     Conversation is a 2 way thing. You talk, keep quiet, let him talk, and you listen, then ponder his response before forming your response
·     Don’t be over-ambitious or money motivated if you want to keep an African man
·     Don’t strive to keep up with the Jones, Don’t copy your friends especially their bad behaviors including haughtiness and pride towards your man
·     Don’t copy the way loud, foul-mouthed Nollywood actresses abuse men. Copying them is a recipe for quick divorce
·     Don’t feel superior to your man and never treat him with disdain or arrogance
·     Don’t be stingy to him if he is generous to you
·     Realise that him loving you is not a sign of weakness
·     Never try to give him orders
·     Make respect your watch word
·     Love a harmonious home
·     NEVER keep grudges, never bottles things up
·     openly discuss issues as they arise
·     NEVER discuss your marital issues with your parents, friends or any 3rd party
·     Be in the relationship for the long haul and Don’t be a serial man changer just because you think your beauty will last forever
·     NEVER EVER feel that there are many fish in the ocean (not all fish are good. Some are poisonous in the short or long run)
·     If you get a good man, do your best to keep him irrespective of what your “friends” say as ENOUGH African men are delaying marriage because of the aggression and wild ways of the potential suitors currently available
·     Realise that the phrase money is not everything did not just fall from the sky. There was a reason it was coined those many years ago
·     Realise that a lot of “proper” African men see educated African women as too combative and so tone down your “gra gra” when you are in his company
·     You may be a manager of teacher at work but drop those badges at the door before you enter the house as no African likes being lectured by his woman. You are his woman and not his lecturer.
·     If you meet a new guy who is honest enough to tell you he is currently unemployed, never assume that he is going to ask you for money as REAL African men never ask a woman for money nor collect such if offered
·     Never get used to living alone for too long lest you become so used to your freedom, space and singleness that sub-consciously you frustrate every new man you meet because your spirit wants to remain free
·     Realise that NOT everything that helps you climb the career ladder is helpful to your marriage. Some of them are destructive to African marriages
·     Never use sex as a weapon
·     Whenever your hubby chooses a late night hubby away from the home or chooses to go alone to the beer parlor repeatedly instead of staying with you at home and only comes back at around 2am or later on a consistent basis then he is trying to say to you that his love for you is dying a slow death and he can no longer bear your company as you are making his life miserable at home and/or you are no longer listening to him
·     Don’t neglect your man supposedly because of religious duties, realise that there is a time for everything and Don’t spend too many hours at church/mosque leaving your man lonely at home
·     Don’t hide behind religion or religious phrases just to control your man, Don’t choose to pontificate and sermonize him instead of discussing real issues with your non-religious hat on
·     Don’t adopt a holier than thou attitude with him
·     Don’t lecture him, Don’t sermonize when he is discussing something with you with his rational mind
·     Don’t form the bad habit of lying to him especially if he is truthful to you
·     NEVER put your career or business above your relationship !!!
·     Don’t feel your joint kids are your property or a meal ticket for you in the future and never use his kids as a weapon or bargaining ticket with him
·     NEVER turn his children against him
·     Be kind to him
·     Don’t practice NLP - neuro linguistic programming (or any other type of mind control techniques that Westernised women use to climb the career ladder) on him as most smart men know when they are being manipulated
·     Never use NLP techniques on him when discussing issues with him in a ploy to put him on the defensive so that you will win the argument
·     Don’t argue with him unnecessarily or argue with him just to tick your log book of arguments you have won with him
·     Don’t try to control him IN ANY WAY
·     Don’t give him orders
·     Don’t argue with him just for arguments sake
·     Don’t wind him up or stress him when there is no need for it
·     If you try to control him or play unnecessary mind games on him or try to control his mind in the first few weeks of meeting him, then chances are that that relationship will not last (that’s even if it starts in the first place)
·     Remember that unnecessarily or repeatedly stressing your man only quickens the end of that relationship
·     Realise that “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” is just a book that Steve Harvey made loads of money from.
·     A lady should always be a lady in her actions and in thoughts and “Acting Like a Lady and Thinking Like a Man” is not just difficult to maintain, it is deceptive, it portrays the woman as unnecessarily competitive and aggressive and is a sure fire way to a quick divorce or separation
·     Wishing you all the best as you search for that “Good” African man of which there are loads IF YOU KNOW HOW TO KEEP THEM INTERESTED FOR THE LONG HAUL

lilmax:
@op don't waste your time with them..... They are yet to recover from being a woman, they don't like men......so they jump at any opportunity they get to bash men

Ilekokonit:
And yet the Oyinbo man you are copying his ways refuses to marry you and if they ever date you, they date the exceptionally attractive ones amongst you as a trophy babe and a lot of times for sexual curiosity and experimentation plus the additional bragging rights to their friends at the pub.

Is it any wonder that there is an epidemic of ageing never married single feminist African women with grey hairs ALL OVER the globe but they are still so hard of hearing that they REPEATEDLY mismanage their relationships with African men with this their unrepentant stubbornness.

How can you be the woman and at the same time want to be the man in a relationship

Carry on and when menopause and the unavoidable effects of ageing sets in all round, your eye go clear.

owolawee:
Hmm..i actually agree with his post tho im a lady. Any wise woman shud actually not be offended with d post. A wonderful wife can make a man do anythin for her without being manipulative. A man that has a good wife shud also know how to treat her well. Cus there's only so much a person can take #ok odabo

Godmystrength:
I wanted to read everything, i tried to read everything, but i had to stop reading at a point. The post is just too long and refusing to finish......and with the different colors.....

And @Ilekokonit, why are you abusing everybody in your language? Is that African Manly?? and how are you any better than the people you are accusing of ''running motor mouth like meter''?? Shey jeje o.... Pelepele dowo e o...

shakrullah:
Haba let me tell all of u men that are searching for a lady that is beautiful, kind, god fearing, charming and every other thing that d op mentioned it is not possible. u are looking for God. its only God that is perfect. so be contempted with what u have.

3cycle:
The scripture said "wife submit to your husband" just one instruction and mere dust is giving me a list?
Funny

Ilekokonit:
I don't know if women realise that men (not wimp's) are territorial by nature and are not monogamous by nature, so if you want a relationship that will last, don't give him an excuse to revert back to wanting his freedom by deliberately turning yourself into his adversary.

Ilekokonit:
Above is the first deep woman to respond.

Wisdom is the principal thing and with all your getting get understanding.

Of course a Good man will always cherish and treat a Good wife with the love she deserves. but it is the finding of an intrinsically Good woman that is not in a competition to outspeak her man that is the problem nowadays.

To those single or married, keep lecturing your African man at every opportunity as if he is your student and wait to see if that relationship will last. Except your man is pretending which does not forebode well for you long term.

I know westernised women dont like any man that calls himself an african man, but tough !!!. you can go and marry oyinbo if they will have you.

I don't know if women realise that men (not wimp's) are territorial by nature and are not monogamous by nature, so if you want a relationship that will last, don't give him an excuse to revert back to wanting his freedom by deliberately turning yourself into his adversary.

Any woman hereon young or old that reads my "very informed" list and happily follows them will ALWAYS have a long lasting relationship with her African man.

You can only reap what you sow, you can not sow arrogance, hate, mouthiness, pride, haughtiness, "gra gra", "I too know" and the other variants that Feminism teaches you and EXPECT a "properly brought up" African man to hang around for long.

Ki ori inuu yin ma ba tode je o. don't let that habit forming devilish anger that rises up in you whenever you are battling a man to checkmate your future happiness.

Remember anger is one letter short of danger !!! A word is enough for the wise.

[b]Don't let your education deceive you, we are all educated [/b]butwhat the feminist oyinbo wrote in their books WILL NEVER work with a PROPER AFRICAN MAN. CHIKENA. !!!

kandikane:


You know the shop he is talking about

2CatWoman:
Nooooo [size=5pt]but that area used to be known for those types of shops mainly aimed at men.

He probably works in such a place and was just annoyed when his now ex came in to buy XXXXXXL size . Issokay[/size]

UjSizzle:
.........don't forget to change his diapers regularly

5minsmadness:
I read this from the beginning to the end
Click 'like' if you did the same

nepp:
Ladies save yourselves the trouble and get a Love Machine instead. They're easier to keep.

5minsmadness:
Em, yes, but what do you think about the points you read?

5minsmadness:
[/quote]Are you sure?

OP was the one quoting the address not me. How did he know they were British Nigerians unless he was somehow inside?

Any single woman who remains stubborn will NEVER keep a man for long.

Any married woman who is cantankerous to her man will lose him to a better behaved woman.

Thats how nature intended it to be.

The ones in the UK are hopeless anyway as England is the single parent capital of Europe and a lot of single women and single mothers in the UK don't need a permanent man anyway as they are addicted to their intimacy gadgets.


Go and see them at the intimacy gadget shop near tottenham court road Tube station, you will think they just won the lottery. Some of them are more discreet and do mail order from theyknowwhere.co.uk.

Shameless lot.

Lets not even talk about the escorts a.k.a love peddlers disguising as good girls in London.

Obirin so iwa nu, o loun o rile oko gbe.

Awon alainitiju gbo gbo.

Godmystrength:
why did you have to quote the whole post? Na wa for you o...

SirShymex:
What else do you want? African women don't like stories - just show them the money, with ya status certified, and beat that pum the right way. Trust me, they will never leave you even if you are an abusive spouse.

Allow all the loose talk and fvckery you read on here, folks are just frontin'. Heck, even their friends would want a piece of you if you have those three things lool.

5minsmadness:
It was a gift to myself for reading the whole thing. It weren't easy at all

2CatWoman:
Nooo but that area used to be known for those types of shops mainly aimed at men.

He probably works in such a place and was just annoyed when his now ex came in to buy XXXXXXL size . Issokay

Kachisbarbie:

I wanna make sure my younger sisters avoid men with a combination/permutation of your name
___not because your assertion is wrong, but the way you spelt them out...hmm, shows you would be very rigid.

what is the problem with speaking the undiluted expectations of most men who are raised in Africa with proper african values