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Sophyrocks:
Yes o. I just noticed that he criticised the 'Act like a lady, think like a man' book. Is he o.k? Any man who criticises that book has a huuuuuuuge inferiority complex and very low self esteem. He is angry that a fellow man broke the 'Bro' code and exposed their secrets on how best to handle them. Such men enjoy the emotional stress ladies go through because of them. That book helps women to be more emotionally intelligent as total dependence on emotions lead to poor choices and expensive mistakes that they would suffer from. It helps women remain focused on the most important things that matter other than just Love. Dnt know why a man would enjoy seeing women make poor choices. I guess it boosts his Ego. Is that not why we advise ladies to be more careful of decisions made based on just emotions? I run away from any man who criticises that book. Says a lot about his personality and how he treats women.

the quote "act like a lady, think like a man" does that mean that women can't think rightly by nature or are they dumb to think like a woman?

SAMBARRY:
Then other wise people said

this sums it all up

jeez..see list.

SirShymex:
This picture is cray!

www.nairaland.com/attachments/1836143_image_jpeg9f360c5ab7736510df54c882e9dbf188

Lol! That's Mountain of Fire style of prayer

crackhaus:
Crowd/mob mentality - one attacks, the rest follow.

On here, most are all about fronting 'girl-power' and 'sistas before misters', but in the real world they can hardly stand themselves - constantly nitpicking, competing, and tearing each other down.

Sometimes, I actually wonder if these women actually live in Nigeria. I really think feminism on nairaland will die when men stop responding to these troll. Nairaland 'feminists' are a pain in my man a~ss!!!

Most of these things listed by the OP are true, very true. Although i do admit that twill be difficult to keep them all but a wise girl will do well to learn as much as she can.

Dont listen to all these girls who want to sound tough or feminist. They dont get married and even the few dt do dont last in their husband's house.


Be wise.

Chillisauce:
How can someone spew this whole horse sh1t this early morning. Not only the time taken to write this, you also took the time to separate them in colors
Unbelievable

I took time to read it, some worthy points but @OP must understand.. we are only human.. you can only hope and pray and do your best especially with African Men, many turn out well and most are just below average

sucess001:
Some of these things listed by the OP are true. very true. although i admit that twill be difficult to keep them all but a wise girl will do well to learn as much as she can.

Dont listen to all these girls who want to sound tough or feminist. They dont get married and even the few dt do dont last in their husband's house.


Be wise.

this is not a universal truth....meaning the probability of your conclusion is not always 1.

it's like saying bad things don't happen to good people and vice versa. thinking adhering to a set pattern of rules will always create the same eventuality is quite ingenuous.

voltron:
I took time to read it, some worthy points but @OP must understand.. we are only human.. you can only hope and pray and do your best especially with African Men, many turn out well and most are just below average

Good for you, i don't read bull crap. I smell one from a mile away.

leLabyrinthe:
this is not a universal truth....meaning the probability of your conclusion is not always 1.

it's like saying bad things don't happen to good people and vice versa. thinking adhering to a set pattern of rules will always create the same eventuality is quite ingenuous.

Again...thats your opinion...


your beliefs work for you...

Sophyrocks:
Lol. The colors added beauty to the fantasy. That is why it is just mere fantasy. Real men know such ladies who follow that 100 commandments in the op dnt exist. As imperfect humans, we are still struggling with the 10 commandments from God. Na im person go forge 100 for baby dolls. GOD THANK U 4 GIVING US JUST 10 COMMANDMENTS. Chai, God is sooo merciful. Humans beings wicked o.

You try sef, you still remember 10 commandement.

I don even forget some of them.
God help me. A sorrowful sinner

EnlightenedSoul:
Defense against what?

Some of it actually contains good tips (many of which were common sense). The rest/most read like mindless babble. Digesting the post yielded moments of agreement, disagreement, incredulity, and shocked amusement. However, by the time I was skimming through the comments, I had room for but one sentiment: the ever potent feeling of gratitude.

Defense against the role of an African woman.

Although the post was quite repetitive but I assumed anyone with a clear mind got the message. It didn't demean any woman in all honesty.

Lol. By the time this gets to page 10, I hope the Op will be alive. See as them dey attack the guy,lol!

i wish i could say whats on my mind...but errrr.











make i de read de laff jare....

sucess001:
Again...thats your opinion...


your beliefs work for you...

there is difference between an opinion and a fact!

good people also encounter undesirable eventualities - fact

I need to be good so that I can attract more of good- an opinion or belief system

Even if the OP's write-up is right, his insultive replies belittle him. Will he engage his woman in war of words. He needs to work on that. *A beg no insult me ooo*

" a woman's crown is her man", please who died and made an ordinary man God?

andromida:
@ bolded now that is desperation.

Even when its not a singles nights the overwhelming majority of people in a church are always women why?

Maybe if you explain to the flings that they just that they will behave.

Well by the time the bad african man is leaving the expired woman he has done his sperm donor and father figure duties don't be suprised she needs a new sugar boy sef. Its not only men that get done with women, women get done with men and are happy when they have their freedom too afte rall she has worn the mrs title, has kids with a known dada within matrimony so all her check lists are ticked now she can go back to being senior mummy without answering to any man. Don't mess with African women.

Perhaps, the reason why the overwhelming majority of Church goers are always black women is because black women are just lazy can be easily manipulated, just as the serpent did Eve. However, if men are the ones who need women the most, I still don't see any reason why women should always outnumber men by 3-1 at every singles' night. The Church doesn't even allow polygyny anymore - and a guy is only entitled to one chic. Why the surplus? Can you please explain this anomaly?

Well, I'm always truthful upfront with every chic I'm with. And they always know where they stand cos any chic I probably just talk to a few minutes like once a week or should know where she stands. Isn't it?

Er, you have a point. But most women have an expiry date. But men go on forever till they have three legs - with the walking stick completing the equation. They can get their toy boys but that doesn't negate the fact that the man has sucked all her pees, ran off due to her madness, and he's somewhere in Burj Khalifa, Dubai, with fresh young chics. But women on the other hand always get stuck with abusive rich African men.

GuyFawkes:
Defense against the role of an African woman.

Although the post was quite repetitive but I assumed anyone with a clear mind got the message. It didn't demean any woman in all honesty.

Right, ok...

tintingz:
the quote "act like a lady, think like a man" does that mean that women can't think rightly by nature or are they dumb to think like a woman?

You are asking me?

Mr Ilekokonit, are you married? I mean to insult or anything untoward, just curious.

2CatWoman:
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I think the OP has good intentions and a lot of folks are just worried about the current trend which will lead to more self-destruction of the black race. We are already messed up as a people. And the only thing we've always had is the black family and black women. Now look at the trend in the last 3-4 decades with single parents households, and how it's getting worse by day, with babies having babies - and most women celebrating being single mums as the most fashionable thing to do these days.

This trend started in America about three decades ago with the Reagan crack era, and it has now extended its tentacles everywhere. So what's pride in building the future of a race that's already at the bottom of the totem pole of everything, on something that started with injustice against certain demographic of black diaspora?

Yes, we're the same as other folks with cultural differences. However, our biggest problem today is eroding our unique cultural/experience that makes our different, and things that have always worked for us, in trying to be like others. Yes, certain aspects of our culture can't fit into the 21st century - just as certain aspects of other cultures. However, we can't just throw away everything in trying to be like others. Thus losing our identity as a people - all in the name of being modern. The Chinese and all Asians never did that, and it seems the next century is their century. So, why can't we keep what we already have, discard the primeval aspect of it, and bring it into the 21st century? It's our identity as a people.

I think I spoke about dearth of black economics, inability to create wealth, and entrepreneurship in the UK with Uncle e-Guerrilla on here last year. Not making excuses, but I think it has more to do with the hardship older generation of black Brits went through. We've never had so many black people in this country like we do today. It has always been assimilation since the 18th century. Hence even the few successful ones before the Blair's multi-cultural Britain era, also had to dissociate themselves from the black community, save for a few. And that has to do with a lot of them being raised by white foster parents.

However, I'd say times are changing especially with the internet, and a lot of young guys being more acquainted with the African American model, especially with music. Outside that, more folks are graduating from Uni, and they understand the concept of wealth creation better, with more folks working in FTSE 100 companies. Also, because the black community is somewhat big now, you can easily make money within the community as a starting off point, and project to others afterwards. And due to our unique experience, we can easily do what we're doing and still associate with the black community effectively. My generation is making major moves. Furthermore, when I look at my cousin's mates (still part of my generation but with more than 5 years' gap) - they're even far ahead of mine when we were at their age in terms of growth on wealth creation. So, I believe you'll see a different trend in the next 15-20 years when everything matures.

Lol, I might be super-Yoruba on here most times, but I'm somewhat an illiterate when it comes to reading Yoruba. I understand it, but cos it's a tonal language, I've never paid attention to reading it.

SirShymex:
Perhaps, the reason why the overwhelming majority of Church goers are always black women is because black women are just lazy can be easily manipulated, just as the serpent did Eve. However, if men are the ones who need women the most, I still don't see any reason why women should always outnumber men by 3-1 at every singles' night. The Church doesn't even allow polygyny anymore - and a guy is only entitled to one chic. Why the surplus? Can you please explain this anomaly?

Well, I'm always truthful upfront with every chic I'm with. And they always know where they stand cos any chic I probably just talk to a few minutes like once a week or should know where she stands. Isn't it?

Er, you have a point. But most women have an expiry date. But men go on forever till they have three legs - with the walking stick completing the equation. They can get their toy boys but that doesn't negate the fact that the man has sucked all her pees, ran off due to her madness, and he's somewhere in Burj Khalifa, Dubai, with fresh young chics. But women on the other hand always get stuck with abusive rich African men.

@ bolded fear of the so called expiry date.

Not all the women get stuck some send the men off to yonder early, and others enjoy their side parties with their lovers.

I am curious when is the expiry date for most women?

50calibre:
Hahaha you should have at least smashed her, before taking flight

Of course!! Barbershops are the number one grapevine spots, I feel for these women at times, some don't even get any form of male attention, it's really bad for them out here.

Lol, always learn to run away from desperate women before you get in too deep. If she were the type who's into casual relationships, that's one cougar I won't mind keeping - with her big ti.ts and nice batty. And she speak eloquently as well. But you can't be messing around with someone begging for husband - esp. with the age difference and roid rage that might come after she finds out that you're just playing her and smashing her for fun. Angry black woman syndrome!

Mate, that's the truth. Once they turn 27/28 upwards, a lot of them don't even get any attention from males. Hence the need to always chase men everywhere covertly. Yet the same folks would be on the internet running their mouths - GTFOH. Your prime is age 20-25/26. Better do the right thing at that age, before you become a victim. It's hard on these streets, I tell ya.

andromida:
@ bolded fear of the so called expiry date.

Not all the women get stuck some send the men off to yonder early, and others enjoy their side parties with their lovers.

I am curious when is the expiry date for most women?

Women have an expiry date. From age 27-30, the attention they get from guys would reduce drastically. And the clock is going to start ticking fast at age 30. We know wagwan...guys studied the game and perfected it.

They enjoy the side parties in secret, whilst covering their shame. But men take their youngins everywhere with pride. Heck, they can even re-marry and start a new family. But what young guy wants to marry a woman in her late 40s?

SirShymex:
Women have an expiry date. From age 27-30, the attention they get from guys would reduce drastically. And the clock is going to start ticking fast at age 30. We know wagwan...guys studied the game and perfected it.

They enjoy the side parties in secret, whilst covering their shame. But men take their youngins everywhere with pride. Heck, they can even re-marry and start a new family. But what young guy wants to marry a woman in her late 40s?

I don't think any woman in her late 40's plans on marrying a young guy. They probably will be looking at men in their age group and above.

Misogynist2014:
Sometimes, I actually wonder if these women actually live in Nigeria. I really think feminism on nairaland will die when men stop responding to these troll. Nairaland 'feminists' are a pain in my man a~ss!!!

Actually, I find their antics more humorous than a pain in any of my man-organs

OP what you listed is the TRUTH and that is the problem today women have rejected the TRUTH and have refused to function in the capacity they where created and meant to function in. Same problem lucifer had he wasn't comfortable in the position he was meant to function in and sort to challenge God and b like God and he paid dearly...

Same with some women they want to be like men, they challenge the men and want to lord over men and are paying for IT...The man is the head and should be submitted too and respected.

The meaning of Husband is MASTER. Learn to accept that ur husband is ur MAStER and u should submit totally to him.

Most women forget that there is beauty in submission, respect and obedience. They wonder why there man don't notice them, compliment them and give them the necessary attention..The question is why will a man give u all those when u have refused to submit and obey him?

To the wise ladies on this thread ur BEAUTY lies in UR OBEDIENCE and SUBMISSION.

andromida:
I don't think any woman in her late 40's plans on marrying a young guy. They probably will be looking at men in their age group and above.

Lol, that's senior citizens' marriage. They might as well give up on life and retire to old people's home and continue life there with other senior citizens. But the hussy on the other hand would be on these streets with fresh youngins in their 20s, looking younger and having a blast.

SirShymex:
Lol, that's senior citizens' marriage. They might as well give up on life and retire to old people's home and continue life there with other senior citizens. But the hussy on the other hand would be on these streets with fresh youngins in their 20s, looking younger and having a blast.

Having a blast? are you sure? looking younger? Lol

Anyway men have great capability of living in denial.

andromida:
Having a blast? are you sure? looking younger? Lol

Anyway men have great capability of living in denial.

Living in denial? I've got tons of Uncles in their 40s enjoying life to the fullest with young chics, looking fresh to death in clubs. Heck, I even give them hook ups from time to time. What do these other women do apart from naij parties?

Women are the ones who thrive in living in denial, lying their ar.ses off like men can't see through them loool.

Better make good use of ya complete package now, my good e-friend andromida the android.

SirShymex:
Living in denial? I've got tons of Uncles in their 40s enjoying life to the fullest with young chics, looking fresh to death in clubs. Heck, I even give them hook ups from time to time. What do these other women do apart from naij parties?

Women are the ones who thrive in living in denial, lying their ar.ses off like men can't see through them loool.

Better make good use of ya complete package now,my good e-friend andromida the android.

So because men in their 40's most likely married are changing youngins like hankies it means they are having a blast. hmmm

If i perish, i perish.