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flamingtiger:
always dragging jesus into every discussion .don't worry na my portion

I thought I was the only one that always sees them.

Smh

PROCTOR:
I pray this for our generation concerning marriage....
That we cherish marriage
that we protect it
that we stay married

ain't saying amen to that

justcallbuki:
we have bypass that stage and its getting better everyday!
Uhmmn never knew i will still b in dis marriage till now! Thank u lord for d perservarance n patient

get a divorce...... Enjoy your freedom

braine:
It’s said that the first year of marriage is the hardest one. The adjustments and changes that spouses encounter as newlyweds topple almost every other period in life — you and your spouse may feel stuck between the couple you used to be and the married couple you want to become. Marriage is a big risk; it can guarantee a lifetime of love, fulfillment, security and satisfaction, but it can also lead to quarrels, abuse, loneliness and divorce.
Here are the top eight challenges that spouses may need to overcome in their first year:

1) Domesticity Problems
The first thing that springs to mind is anything associated with domesticity. This means anything that can be lumped into what we like to call “household chores,”like washing the dishes, doing the laundry, tidying up or cooking dinner. For many recently married people, sharing a house with someone else is entirely new. Trying to divide the tasks in a fair and even way can put an enormous strain on a relationship.

2) Financial Issues
Financial issues always crop up in the first year of marriage. Being married means sharing everything, spending money together,saving money together and dividing the income fairly. For the first time ever, you can’t simply decide to save up for a holiday or a new car; nor can you impulsively buy that new pair of designer boots. Your partner’s financial sensibilities have to be taken into account.

3) Romance Challenge
When you’re married, it’s easy to stop being romantic.There’s an element of safety, and the “you’re not going anywhere” mentality comes with a dwindling of the things that can make a relationship worth it; texting and calling from work, going out for a nice meal, flirting and looking good for one another.

4) Personality Differences
Living together means spending a lot of time together, so it’s inevitable that certainlifestyle differenceswill become abundantly clear. You might enjoy eating out while your partner might like to stay in and cook. You might like reading, and your partner might prefer watching television. It’s important to negotiate, compromise and find a balance.

5) Lifestyle Changes
As a married couple, the first year will bring a whirlwind of lifestyle changes. In your dating period, it was probably very relaxed, casual and fun. In a marriage, these things are inevitably combined withsome of the more boring stuff, like planning, working, stressing over money and sleeping early as opposed to going out and dancing. It’s important not to resent your partner for this.

6) Parental Influence
When you’re dating, it’s just the two of you. When you’re married, it’s the whole family or both families. You have in-laws to impress. You’ve taken their child away, so they’re bound to stick their noses into your affairs.Parental influencecan be a real burden on your marriage before you get used to it.

7) Unexpected Fights
The first year of marriage is said to bring aninflux of fighting. This is probably because you’re with each other all the time for the first time since your relationship began. Plus, the fights may have an intensity that they didn’t have before, and you might feel like you have fewer places to escape.

Independent Plans
It becomes easy to start acting independentlyof one another in the first year.Bound by the wedding ring, you might feel more inclined to make plans without consulting your partner. If you get into the habit of doing this early on, there’s a danger it might affect your entire marriage.

Marriage can be the most rewarding decision that you’ll make in your life. If you make it to your first anniversary, you’re halfway there. By establishing a strong base on which to build, the rest of your married life should be something you can anticipate, plan towards and look forward to.

https://mydayregistry.com/gifts/8-challenges-to-overcome-your-first-year-of-marriage/

the only challenge is the real person being hidden........ That is why I always say partnership works better

unmask:
the only challenge is the real person being hidden........ That is why I always say partnership works better

Partnership? How do you mean?

Courtship clears all that abg.

no mo night n shack tins ... dullling! me no lyk am at all.

Amen to that

PROCTOR:
I pray this for our generation concerning marriage....
That we cherish marriage
that we protect it
that we stay married

braine:
It’s said that the first year of marriage is the hardest one. The adjustments and changes that spouses encounter as newlyweds topple almost every other period in life — you and your spouse may feel stuck between the couple you used to be and the married couple you want to become. Marriage is a big risk; it can guarantee a lifetime of love, fulfillment, security and satisfaction, but it can also lead to quarrels, abuse, loneliness and divorce.
Here are the top eight challenges that spouses may need to overcome in their first year:

1) Domesticity Problems
The first thing that springs to mind is anything associated with domesticity. This means anything that can be lumped into what we like to call “household chores,”like washing the dishes, doing the laundry, tidying up or cooking dinner. For many recently married people, sharing a house with someone else is entirely new. Trying to divide the tasks in a fair and even way can put an enormous strain on a relationship.

2) Financial Issues
Financial issues always crop up in the first year of marriage. Being married means sharing everything, spending money together,saving money together and dividing the income fairly. For the first time ever, you can’t simply decide to save up for a holiday or a new car; nor can you impulsively buy that new pair of designer boots. Your partner’s financial sensibilities have to be taken into account.

3) Romance Challenge
When you’re married, it’s easy to stop being romantic.There’s an element of safety, and the “you’re not going anywhere” mentality comes with a dwindling of the things that can make a relationship worth it; texting and calling from work, going out for a nice meal, flirting and looking good for one another.

4) Personality Differences
Living together means spending a lot of time together, so it’s inevitable that certainlifestyle differenceswill become abundantly clear. You might enjoy eating out while your partner might like to stay in and cook. You might like reading, and your partner might prefer watching television. It’s important to negotiate, compromise and find a balance.

5) Lifestyle Changes
As a married couple, the first year will bring a whirlwind of lifestyle changes. In your dating period, it was probably very relaxed, casual and fun. In a marriage, these things are inevitably combined withsome of the more boring stuff, like planning, working, stressing over money and sleeping early as opposed to going out and dancing. It’s important not to resent your partner for this.

6) Parental Influence
When you’re dating, it’s just the two of you. When you’re married, it’s the whole family or both families. You have in-laws to impress. You’ve taken their child away, so they’re bound to stick their noses into your affairs.Parental influencecan be a real burden on your marriage before you get used to it.

7) Unexpected Fights
The first year of marriage is said to bring aninflux of fighting. This is probably because you’re with each other all the time for the first time since your relationship began. Plus, the fights may have an intensity that they didn’t have before, and you might feel like you have fewer places to escape.

Independent Plans
It becomes easy to start acting independentlyof one another in the first year.Bound by the wedding ring, you might feel more inclined to make plans without consulting your partner. If you get into the habit of doing this early on, there’s a danger it might affect your entire marriage.

Marriage can be the most rewarding decision that you’ll make in your life. If you make it to your first anniversary, you’re halfway there. By establishing a strong base on which to build, the rest of your married life should be something you can anticipate, plan towards and look forward to.

https://mydayregistry.com/gifts/8-challenges-to-overcome-your-first-year-of-marriage/

Thanks. What a great practical teaching.



God will help us to overcome all the challenges of a matrimonial home.

If you are not yet married, you better believe this post.

However, of all the points mentioned above the second can really be trying. It is always touchy when you have yourself being challenged by your wife; that she's not being carried along in your expenditure.

Boy"O"Boy, it is not easy as you are so used to doing things previously without consultation. But dont worry, you can always learn and adjust as long as you are not too cocky about this.

A man is more comfortable to do this particularly when CASH is really there. For those struggling financially; it's more challenging.

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Nursy:
When I get to the bridge I will cross over..... I just don't want unnecessary stress from a man who calls himself my husband.

With this kind of attitude, you might just get burned. Sorry to say.

okabe:
With this kind of attitude, you might just get burned. Sorry to say.

why would u say that? Do u know me personally that made u make such statement...
Sigh! Nairalanders sha....

unmask:
get a divorce...... Enjoy your freedom

all dis children sef,what are you doing here BTW ehn?

justcallbuki:
all dis children sef,what are you doing here BTW ehn?

would rather be a child with freedom, than an adult in shackles...... Get a shrink to have a no holds barred conversation with married folks and see how many would prefer being single and free....

Final notes, don't let society decide what happiness should mean for you.... Marriage is just marriage no prizes and no rewards

braine:
Partnership? How do you mean?

civil partnership where each person knows the other can walk out at any time, so there would be no need for pretence......

Utewnojo

UTEWUOJO:
Dat's true

Bros na wetin I do you?.. U don't know me for you to make such statement..
Sigh! Nairalanders sha!

okabe:
With this kind of attitude, you might just get burned. Sorry to say.

Nursy:
Bros na wetin I do you?.. U don't know me for you to make such statement..
Sigh! Nairalanders sha!

Sorry if I poked a soft spot. But I still maintain that you check the attitude. I don't need to know you in person to make meaning out of what you posted

unmask:
civil partnership where each person knows the other can walk out at any time, so there would be no need for pretence......

Tgis sounds interesting.

Ok... Thank you.

okabe:
Sorry if I poked a soft spot. But I still maintain that you check the attitude. I don't need to know you in person to make meaning out of what you posted

Nursy:
Ok... Thank you.

Uwc

Hmmmm. Dunno why sha. But I just av phobia for marriage, I'm scared of making d wrong choice and I'm also afraid of remaining single #Gamophobia #anuptaphobia

missphumby:
Hmmmm. Dunno why sha. But I just av phobia for marriage, I'm scared of making d wrong choice and I'm also afraid of remaining single #Gamophobia #anuptaphobia

Yeah I know that feeling. Its like the first day school. you'll make the right choice if you are good personally, you'll attract your type.

@@nobody abeg no vex...are u a male or female??

uzobaby:
@@nobody abeg no vex...are u a male or female??

Who's nobody?

braine:
Who's nobody?

a nairalnder dat I dn't knw weda na he/she

uzobaby:
a nairalnder dat I dn't knw weda na he/she

That happens sometimes. The person was probably banned or the account has been deactivated

ugotex85:
8 challenges cha? Was that why my friend defined marriage as public toilet, while those outside are in a haste to rush in, those inside are in a hurry to rush out? Hmmm, God help us o..

No. That definition is wrong. This because a marriage is what you make out of it. Some marriages are indeed like the public toilet but some are really working beautifully.

Whatever becomes of your marriage depends first on you, then secondly your spouse. Not the other way round. If you are a man, are matured enough in mind to be that lady's husband? Will she find in you a support that her parents used to be to her? Or you will be her problem?

If you are a woman, are you ready to support and help that man? If for whatever reason you can't respect him DON'T marry him.

Mine is working so beautifully despite the challenges we have faced and the ones that lie ahead.