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Op, this kind of issue is straightforward. Tell him to ask her if she likes him enough to start a relationship. If her answer is negative/she keeps dragging her feet, let him move on ooooo. I am sure there are other ladies to choose from. He shouldnt come to nairaland and start complaining that he was friendzoned. Na so e dey start o.

Sophyrocks:
Fine. that means she needs to make more observations and get to know him more. That is a better tangible answer she is to give to him. He will then understand and be patient. she has to be more realistic with her answer. You keep praying even in relationship not to talk of before relationship because not all relationships lead to marriage. More revelations will be revealed while dating not just before dating. Engagements and introductions break off everyday.

i get ur point and thats y i said earlier that his friend should be firm and straight forward when next he his asking her so as to know where this is leading to.

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relationship for a committed christian is usually more than like and emotions.

GBAM!!!


I couldn't have said it any better.

@afrok..I av meet the babe ones but what I could sensed is that she wouldn't want to rush to any Relationship/courtship... She is meant for people that can wait and endure

askakim:
@afrok..I av meet the babe ones but what I could sensed is that she wouldn't want to rush to any Relationship/courtship... She is meant for people that can wait and endure

Okay! If ur friend truly love her, then he should have patience. With patience, we can cook Stone and it'll soften, never rush what U think is urs unless U aren't sure it's urs.

Time is the giver of all things, tell ur friend to look beyond the 3rd month of making his intentions known but rather give her enough time.

the guy should pray about it too

@OP

I think your friend was the one that even put himself in this "fix"... But being that you've already acquiesced to his christain baby hood I wouldn't hammer so much on what he would have done... The next series of statements I'm going to make are not to be accepted by everybody, we all have our individual principles and reasons or motivations for doing things.

For any christain guy who has a true connection to God, emotions and feelings are the last things you want to bank on as validations for "asking a girl out".. Infact your emotions and feelings should take a back seat... Particularly because emotions are fleeting and are majorly informed by physical senses(not all though) you wouldn't want to pick your destiny helper, your life mate just because your dick rose at the sight of her bouncy breastz or because she cooks better than chef casper.... Choosing who to even be friends with is a decision you have to table before God, how much more who you want to spend the rest of your life with.

As a christain guy, you need to understand that your life has a purpose, there's a deliberate intent that God had in mind for you, there's a side of God himself that he wants you to reflect to the world through your many giftings, flairs abilities and what have you and that's why you need a help mate... A mate that would expressly compliment you and help you fulfil that intent God has for you... The same goes with the ladies, but since the crux of my post is on guys, I'd leave that for later.


So in essence, Your friend should know that as the lady in question is praying about it, he too should go and pray about it... God is a God of order..I personally don't see why God would lead me to someone he has not already whispered about to...so that when I eventually show up in her life.... All she need do is just go back to God for clarification, it's not that time she should start doing 50 days Jesu Jesu gbo mi gbo mi prayers... You don't get umbrellas when the rains come, you get umbrellas in the dry season in preparation for the rain.


Pardon me if what I've said is a bit "jargonised"... I'm just finding it difficult to relate all my points as coherently as possible because there are so many points popping in to my head.

Cheers mate

@1one.. Will u still keep praying, waiting if you are in his shoes? The Lady is just been slow to him

askakim:
@1one.. Will u still keep praying, waiting if you are in his shoes? The Lady is just been slow to him

I would pray until when there's a peace in my heart/or until when I hear God say she's the one for me... and if in the process of praying God says she's not the one for me... I'd be sure to tell her that I too had prayed about it and I'm sorry to say but my decision to ask her out was impulsive, that God has told me that she's not the one for me.

Tnx.. 1one