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Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by GodMode: 3:58pm On Dec 18, 2014
Ezechinwa:


my sister.. Am also experiencing the same.. the only difference is that i have told her about my feelings,but she isnt ready yet for a relationship... is really hard to move on when you got someone on your mind...

She is not interested... Forget about her... She didn't want to say "NO"... so she said "she isn't ready for a relationship"..

Delete her number and all her pictures immediately... Cos u're never ever going to forget her.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Nobody: 4:20pm On Dec 18, 2014
This is a feminine issue and lo! See the way the male folks are jumping on each other trying to help out.Pls let a female help her out.The male folks should just keep off ah ah!.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Godiloveu(f): 4:21pm On Dec 18, 2014
Lisaflex:
Abort mission!!! Never ever do dt, cos u'll regret it...A lot of dudes wld go on n on abt hw dey wouldn't mind if a girl does dt buh wen d situation arises,its a diff ball game....On d oda hand, if he happens 2 be among d few(1%) dt do not mind,u myt start 2 2nd guess d r/ship(relate everyfn he does wrong or evry ish u guys hv 2 d fact dt u made d 1st mv) n dts not healthy


seconded plsssssssssssssssssss in d name of sisterhood dont voice out. the situation will go ugly in no time. maintain d way u re wit him but be watchful of any intruder coming to steal ur place. he might let it out soon (telling u he love 's u)

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Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Hidentity(m): 4:23pm On Dec 18, 2014
jenniferjon:
I'm in love with a guy, we ve been friends for a while now but we beginning to get intimate and my feelings r rapidly developing for him, I really want to share how I feel with him but am scared that this mite freak him out n he may just run away or this cud get awkward between us but I bliv telling som1 how u feel either u a guy or a girl is d right thing to do..
I rily do need to know if I sud tell him how I feel or just keep my feelings till he tells me if he has feelings for me ..I bliv som guys find it awkward wen gurls tell dem how dey feel bou dem... wat will u advice I do pls?

Friend, you need to ask yourself some questions and do the answering at the same time. Here are few of them:

1: Is he in a relationship? If yes, you need check if approaching him is right. Not because of the girl herself but once you know he has a gf and he is sure you are aware, his idea of what you want from him will change. You should get my message here.

2: If the first is NO, considering the space of time you've been together, you must have noticed a few things about his idea of a relationship or something. Is he chasing a girl? Did he ever tell you he likes a girl? How does he react when you are with him and he sees other girls? I think that he won't go telling you about his interest in other girls or put up attitudes that will make you feel he is interested in other girls if he likes you. You should read beyond this lines.

3: Are you aware of his philosophy about your envisaged act? You can ask him his take on that first. Here is the logic, if he resents it, then you just take to acting it instead of saying it, but if he likes it or he sees no evil in it. Tell him your fears about such 'backfiring'. For example, ask him this "but what do you think about guys running from a girl that asked them out or making her a subject/object of mockery. He would most likely not like such act, then you can be sure the chance of him trying those acts would be low if he eventually says NO.

4: Is he the timid type? Is it that he wants you as a friend alone? is it that you put up attitudes that is laying him off? The answer to these would help in knowing why he is not hitting the cue ball first *winks*

From the above, several concepts could evolve as long as you relax and observe well.

Finally, Christmas is here, then New year, then Valentine. The idea is people are more liberal, interesting, loving, nice and real this time. Why not take that advantage. Present him gifts that speak volume. If he acts up, tell him it is just in the spirit of Christmas or New year. You can also make a story up on how your friend asked a guy out and he took it personal. Then wait for his actions and reaction.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Orikinla(m): 4:28pm On Dec 18, 2014
If you are really pretty and sexy, the guy will be over the moon. But if you are not, he will be scared.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Infomizer(m): 4:31pm On Dec 18, 2014
jenniferjon:
The funniest thing is that i don't even know wat we r doing any more..maybe its a rlntnshp or its benefit but intimacy is just involved...I just wanna find out how he feels so I can move on n stop hoping jor

Why buy the cow when the milk is free?

You took one risk by opening your legs, take it a notch further by opening your mouth...Whatever the outcome is is in your best interest. Trust me.

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Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Olufemiolaolu(m): 4:46pm On Dec 18, 2014
jenniferjon:
The funniest thing is that i don't even know wat we r doing any more..maybe its a rlntnshp or its benefit but intimacy is just involved...I just wanna find out how he feels so I can move on n stop hoping jor
if intimacy is involved without him asking you out, it means you have simply made ur self a dime a dozen. i.e too cheap.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Nobody: 4:49pm On Dec 18, 2014
its worth trying if ure in india bt dont ever try it here because ull be taken for granted.All u have to do is to make him miss u.if ure calling him everyday change it to once a week.And if he calls u dnt pick d call bt pick it leta.Step two:ask him to advice u concerning a guy dat wants to date u.if he tells u to go ahead dat means he doesnt luv u.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by streetzz: 4:50pm On Dec 18, 2014
★★★Wen we guyz tell u ladiez we luv u,
most of d tymz u disbliv us
tinkin we'r PlayaZ [dnt tell me
u'r balls] Playaz
wit only 1 aim... dat pu**y!

U also do tink we'll dump u lyk a bin
wen we'r thru wit d diggin!
& den lyk d playaz we are,
we go out into d field, lukin 4 more
balls 2 play! hahaha...

On d reverz, who knws?
diz guy myt jst b tinkin same, jst lyk
u alwayz do!
& wen u finally get 2 tell him hw u feel,

He would den scream deep into ur
heart,..........PLAYAAARRRRR!!!!!!!
Hoooooooh.. i feel d reverberationz!
som guyz feel dat too. hahaha

Maybe u shld tell him
Maybe u shld show him
Maybe he myt luv u as well, i jst said
MaybE! hmm...
Maybe he'z jst d real PlayeR!!!
★★★
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by HumbledbYGrace(f): 4:51pm On Dec 18, 2014
Skimpledawg:

Tel 'em dear!!! 'Resident run' ? HBG, wetin dah 1 mean abeg grin
we know na, truth of the matter is, if this lady let emotions do this to her and she ends up telling the guy she loves him its going to end just as Mahatma Gandhi would put it; “Your believes becomes your thoughts, your thoughts becomes your words, your words becomes your actions, your actions becomes your habits, you habits your values, your values becomes your destiny.”

@ Op its not late o
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by meltech(m): 5:02pm On Dec 18, 2014
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Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Nobody: 5:04pm On Dec 18, 2014
jenniferjon:
I'm in love with a guy, we ve been friends for a while now but we beginning to get intimate and my feelings r rapidly developing for him, I really want to share how I feel with him but am scared that this mite freak him out n he may just run away or this cud get awkward between us but I bliv telling som1 how u feel either u a guy or a girl is d right thing to do..
I rily do need to know if I sud tell him how I feel or just keep my feelings till he tells me if he has feelings for me ..I bliv som guys find it awkward wen gurls tell dem how dey feel bou dem... wat will u advice I do pls?

If u don't feel comfortable telling him how u feel just go with the flow and let things play out naturally & forget how some guys feel or whatever
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Penboy: 5:04pm On Dec 18, 2014
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Skimpledawg:

P.S: niqqas stopped asking ladies out since 1990, we just go with the flow! cool
Before nko, I believe you should be married by now nah! grin
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by slimfit1(m): 5:14pm On Dec 18, 2014
Fancy not love different meaning.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Nobody: 5:16pm On Dec 18, 2014
jenniferjon:
I'm in love with a guy, we ve been friends for a while now but we beginning to get intimate and my feelings r rapidly developing for him, I really want to share how I feel with him but am scared that this mite freak him out n he may just run away or this cud get awkward between us but I bliv telling som1 how u feel either u a guy or a girl is d right thing to do..
I rily do need to know if I sud tell him how I feel or just keep my feelings till he tells me if he has feelings for me ..I bliv som guys find it awkward wen gurls tell dem how dey feel bou dem... wat will u advice I do pls?

You better just keep it to yourself before you go fall your own hand. That guy might as well have a secret feelings for someone else just the way you are having feelings for him.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by dude99(m): 5:26pm On Dec 18, 2014
This happened to me although am a guy,there is this friend of mine,a lady,we are very very close,she knows I love her and I also knows she has feelings for me,I bleeped up shaa because probably unwas a kinda shy guy,am in 300 and she is in 400 level,I think the friend has Ben showing me red lights since,there were times she would tell me to hug her but i would'nt not because u don't want to but i might be sweating then and i don't hug when sweating,there was a time also that she she wanted to kiss my of my cheek and I pull my cheek away cause I was sweating also.I love this lady so much that I cried cause I wasn't able to tell her how I feel,there was this some weeks ago she was in my room and I talked about my feelings for her, and I asked her to date my,she said she can't because she have less than one months to graduate,I know she loves me though!Although have to provided any solution to your question but I just wanna let you know how it is to love someone so much that you can't tell them your feelings about them.I will advise you study the guy well and if you sense that he loves you,look for a time you two will be together and just tell him a kinda story that about your love for him and the lady in love not being able to tell the guy,then ask him what he would have done if he were to be the one.Over and out!
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by chigoizie7(m): 5:33pm On Dec 18, 2014
My question is? What's the diff between being in a relationship when u will always be kissed nd get laid and a friends with benefit where u will also be laid nd kissed? Why are women complicating issues? Why do dey always want it to be defined? Its still the same thing, relationships or friends with benefits, u will still be dumped if he want to.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Gr8tasign: 5:40pm On Dec 18, 2014
Young woman, what again are u look for?
His is arleady ur friend/or how do u define ur own love?

I tire.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Bensonking: 5:40pm On Dec 18, 2014
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by DJEhimond(m): 5:42pm On Dec 18, 2014
I hope its not me o ... Lemme check ur dp first.
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Nobody: 5:44pm On Dec 18, 2014
GodMode:


She is not interested... Forget about her... She didn't want to say "NO"... so she said "she isn't ready for a relationship"..

Delete her number and all her pictures immediately... Cos u're never ever going to forget her.


thanks ... really appreciate it .. i just hav to move on cuz she will never be interested...
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Nobody: 5:48pm On Dec 18, 2014
dude99:
This happened to me although am a guy,there is this friend of mine,a lady,we are very very close,she knows I love her and I also knows she has feelings for me,I bleeped up shaa because probably unwas a kinda shy guy,am in 300 and she is in 400 level,I think the friend has Ben showing me red lights since,there were times she would tell me to hug her but i would'nt not because u don't want to but i might be sweating then and i don't hug when sweating,there was a time also that she she wanted to kiss my of my cheek and I pull my cheek away cause I was sweating also.I love this lady so much that I cried cause I wasn't able to tell her how I feel,there was this some weeks ago she was in my room and I talked about my feelings for her, and I asked her to date my,she said she can't because she have less than one months to graduate,I know she loves me though!Although have to provided any solution to your question but I just wanna let you know how it is to love someone so much that you can't tell them your feelings about them.I will advise you study the guy well and if you sense that he loves you,look for a time you two will be together and just tell him a kinda story that about your love for him and the lady in love not being able to tell the guy,then ask him what he would have done if he were to be the one.Over and out!


pls what school do you attend?
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by dude99(m): 5:52pm On Dec 18, 2014
Ezechinwa:



pls what school do you attend?
Hmm!don't wanna mention it!
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Lisaflex(f): 5:52pm On Dec 18, 2014
nairaman66:


Entire grammatical syntax error! System failure... Please restart! cheesy








meaning?
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by dude99(m): 5:54pm On Dec 18, 2014
Ezechinwa:



pls what school do you attend?
Something about what I wrote?
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Lisaflex(f): 5:55pm On Dec 18, 2014
bollify:


You are so on point, especially on the bolded. However, if she is mature enough not to relate whatever happens to the fact that she was first to tell the guy her feelings, then I think she can go ahead. It also largely depends on the guy's maturity. But in any case, since they are already intimate (in the op's sense of the word), I think the risk is worth taking as it will absolve her the stress of struggling with a 'what if' and she can defined her direction in the relationship.


U hv a point
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Lisaflex(f): 6:00pm On Dec 18, 2014
Lekison:
1%?...chai guys don suffer o

Dts d truth nau...4get all ds stuff u guys type here...In reality most of u do d opposite
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by BigBen10: 6:00pm On Dec 18, 2014
Op feel free to tell the guy. Nobody knows what will happen. Good or Bad you will survive just as all guys have survived.

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Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Lisaflex(f): 6:02pm On Dec 18, 2014
Hazardd:


Who is this one! sad

All guys are not the same.
Let her watch and be snatched by another girl.

Neva said or implied dt all guys r d same
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Nobody: 6:06pm On Dec 18, 2014
dude99:

Something about what I wrote?

maybe.. you focused more on your studies dan her... and now you feel the time is right.?.. bro, she can't say yes cuz she dey prepare for d next level...
Re: How To Decently Tell A Guy You Are In Love With Him - Nairalander Needs Advice. by Tygg: 6:14pm On Dec 18, 2014
samflexxy:
this just proves it you're a small boy, a matured will know how to handle the situation without taking her for granted.


Guy if you don't have reasonable advice to give to some one just sharrap



Be waiting for ya mention
interesting xo your the matured 1 in this conversation.nd ur advice is d best..mtcheeewww.,,ma guy has said his mind xo hold ur peace....

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