Tellmeurmind:
Please I need your advice. I'm a married man with kids, and I'm also involved in an extra -marital relationship with a lady in my office.

She is an early 30s. I'm so much involved with her to the extent that I cannot sleep without seeing her in a day. We have both known that we can’t marry each other but that doesn't stop us from always being together.

Any slightest quarrel with her always affects my family at home. She is praying for a Husband and she always tell me about any man who comes her way but because of my selfishness and impure ambitions, I always condemn them.

I don’t always want to see her with any man or hear that a man is calling her. With all these, I still have a strong mind that I'm blocking her from settling down with her Mr Right. I always feel like letting her go but I find it difficult.

Please, what do I do to let her go?

IVORY2009:


hmmmm, wat will I say, a man will always be a man, this is the more reasons while some religion bodies will advocate for a man to marry more than one wife, they believe it will reduce the man's rate of cheating.

vitality22:

Madam, God bless you reallllllllll good

Braggante:
Trust me, you will never be free until one of you leaves that office. Either you resign or she does, as long as you keep seeing each other, emotions will always run. Feelings will always breed.
I was in that situation once, once I left the office, the feelings died and I focused on what was important. Fortunately for me however I was/am not married. In your case, any rift with your wife, and she will be the first one you will call and spend time with, to the detriment of your marriage. It's a wasted venture cos ure not getting married to her neither are u leaving ur wife for her.
But oju to m'ora, ko le lo'un o m'ora mo. Once de be, forever de be. So leave her/get another job.
In the alternative, make sure she's hooked up. Scratch that. Ensure she's hooked up, and advise her on being faithful to her boyfriend. Both of you will need a lot of discipline for this to work.

In either case, commit yourself to loving your wife more. Make it a duty. Spend more time with your wife. Flaunt your wife and boast about her always. Splurge on her and always talk about how much you love her, even before your mistress. Ditch your mistress with excuses of having a romantic date with your wife. That way, the picture will get clearer. Spend all your money on your family, or family project, and when ure always broke cos of that, ull become unattractive to Ur mistress and she'll ditch u.
Cheers

Dahjhi:
its nothing but canal-lity joor, even stopping her from getting married. If he allowed her to marry its possible her lust will vanish from his mind. (hw much we wan do for sex wey we go say make day nor break nah..

GodMode:


The woman can also cheat... If he catches his wife banging another guy... He'll know what betrayal feels like..

The OP deserves a taste of his own medicine.

cococandy can't do this to me

Tellmeurmind:
Please I need your advice. I'm a married man with kids, and I'm also involved in an extra -marital relationship with a lady in my office.

She is an early 30s. I'm so much involved with her to the extent that I cannot sleep without seeing her in a day. We have both known that we can’t marry each other but that doesn't stop us from always being together.

Any slightest quarrel with her always affects my family at home. She is praying for a Husband and she always tell me about any man who comes her way but because of my selfishness and impure ambitions, I always condemn them.

I don’t always want to see her with any man or hear that a man is calling her. With all these, I still have a strong mind that I'm blocking her from settling down with her Mr Right. I always feel like letting her go but I find it difficult.

Please, what do I do to let her go?

chaircover:
Free her from your bondage or her to free you from her bondage
Some men make me laugh sometimes
In your mind you think you are in control but in reality you are not
How do you know that she is not calculating and scheming to dispose of your wife and become your wife
Sometimes men like playing with fire and always underestimating things
I hope you dont become a negative lesson story to frighten another man who is about to cheat
Unless you are not sleeping with her or eating her food . . .
If you are, then you may be the one in bondage
Read between the lines pls and do the needful.

bennyrazz:
are you sure you are not under a jinx like this? until you impregnate her before you eyes open. You've tasted her, now is time to move on. Have it at the back of your mind that she's just one of those traps/mistakes. She has suitors and you are the one chasing them away, why? my brother you are getting yourself into serious trouble o.When those suitors stop coming, you are in soup. She will scatter your marriage.

babyosisi:
Who knows,this may be exactly what his wife did to another woman in her single days
Karma is a female dog

IVORY2009:


I hv seen an issue as this, the lady in question got married, but that did not help issues, when both of them are in love, it is very difficult for them to stop seeing each other, except by devine intervention.

adamskutty:
cut off ur d1ck

PerfumeRepublik:
Who Cooks up all this tales on NL ?

babaluckey:
Hey, take her as your best friend, stop sleeping with her, cut off all activities you have with her and pay more attention to your (family) wife and kid/s, do not put up a fight or argument with her. I promise you someday, she will notice your motive and understand where you are going to and that will give her the impression that you are done with her and she will move on with her life.

roymary:



Greed and sentiment aside, which of the Vjays do you enjoy the most? Who has the better ringtone- Who delivers more juice ? I blame your wife though- she must have been too carried away with other chores that she forgot to pay attention to your excessive waist demands.

Is the mistress more beautiful? Is she neater and smell better? Do you have more intelligent conversations with your wife or the mistress? Who cooks better? Who is more hardworking and supportive? Do you think the mistress would cheat on you as well? Does something tells you your wife would be unfaithful if opportunity presents itself?

Evaluate these facts and see who has the higher score then quickly follow that route . Stop when you are ahead before you get caught and wifey will lose trust in you forever.

NB: Lets play a game- let me start wooing your mistress and distract her from you a little bit. It works.

nattyhero:
Holla. guy u are in a fix. You are d only one who can free ureself, am a married man also involved with a single lady. I just recently emasculated myself. if u truely love her as u claim then blank her from ur mind. Family na number 1

Tellmeurmind:

we dont ve a single branch. if i resign what do you think my family will be eating?

kccarew:
Am sorry to say, but I would have to say it, foolish advise, what if all the good qualities is found in the other lady not his wife, u still advise he follows it, haaabaa! When he was doing for better or worse with his wife, he didn't know he would meet other prettier ladies out there, and its only a follish man that will set trap for his wife, the bible says woo unto a man that sets trap for his neighbour, for he will be the one to fall inside.be careful oga oo, for it is by ones advise you know who they truely are.

Tellmeurmind:
Please I need your advice. I'm a married man with kids, and I'm also involved in an extra -marital relationship with a lady in my office.

She is an early 30s. I'm so much involved with her to the extent that I cannot sleep without seeing her in a day. We have both known that we can’t marry each other but that doesn't stop us from always being together.

Any slightest quarrel with her always affects my family at home. She is praying for a Husband and she always tell me about any man who comes her way but because of my selfishness and impure ambitions, I always condemn them.

I don’t always want to see her with any man or hear that a man is calling her. With all these, I still have a strong mind that I'm blocking her from settling down with her Mr Right. I always feel like letting her go but I find it difficult.

Please, what do I do to let her go?