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jmoore:
Hmmmm. so gold digging is good?

VickyyB:
No gender is a gold digger.
The phrase is mostly used when a broke arsè guy has been dumped by his gf.
No gf for a lazy man or probably, he could get an ashewo for 200naira or a low class girl.

Mynd44:
And a guy that knows he is not sincere about a girl but keeps giving her hope so he can sleep with her is a what?

That is not gold digging, it is called being manipulative

Mynd44:
Do you have a quality in a woman that you cannot do without and if a woman has everything but that you wont be interested? If yes you are a gold digger.

Now tell me: Is that a good or bad thing?

DonaldGenes:
point of correction Lady, You don't call a guy 'Niqqag' It's mark of disrespect to us...Just like we don't like referencing the word 'Biiiiatch'

tosyne2much:
I don't just get.. are you trying to woman wrapper here or trying to portray a good image in the presence of the ladies ?

If we argue this thing from now till next year, it will not change the fact that ladies will always be gold digging than men for as long as financial pressure is placed on men than women

jmoore:
Why do we like to make things more complicated? Is there a new definition of gold digger?

Mynd44:
Why?

People have what they call deal breakers and if you don't have that quality, it wont work no matter what else you have. They can manage you for a while but that hole will still be there.

A man who does not like fat women does not like fat women no matter who she is. She might cook like his mother or be as respectful as my dog but he still will not like her.

The heart will love who the heart will love. It is conditioned That wat. A woman who is not attracted to broke guys will not see your kindness. You will only be a good friend and that's all

1one:
As much as there are deal breakers... I believe we should still give room to exercise some form of flexibility, particularly if these desires of ours are more superficial than innate.

If you marry a slim, sexy woman, being that even dating a fat woman was a deal breaker for you, what now happens when maybe due to child birth or a perpetuating type of eating habit, she becomes so fat that she virtually starts to leak out like a 50kilogramms worth of shiiit in a 10kilogramm shiiit bag. If the heart will love whom the heart will love, then are you saying we are nothing but helpless zombies and puppets left to the dictates of our hearts/emotions/feelings?

Everybody is entitled to have their tastes and preferences, their deal breakers and must haves... But really is there anything that is absolute?....A rich man can become poor, a pauper can become a king, a big bossomed lady can become flat chested, a slipper chested lady can become a milk factory... So what gives?

I think we should all have tastes... Yes... But let them be more inate than superficial.

Mynd44:
You are just talking about variable change which is normal but for that attraction to be started. For romance to blossom there must a standard which the person must attain before you are attracted.

If the person then loses those qualities later, you might have seen another part you like and decide to stay.

Before their is attraction there must be the point of that attraction and if that point is absent you can only talk and talk.

If you don't have it, you dont

VickyyB:
No gender is a gold digger.
The phrase is mostly used when a broke arsè guy has been dumped by his gf.
[s] No gf for a lazy man or probably, he could get an ashewo for 200naira or a low class girl [/s] .

1one:
I agree.... But those standards must/should border more on personality than physique, on content rather than structure...In this time and age, it's not a common trend, but when have we ever done what we are supposed to do as humans.

This is how true relationships are forged, content and character, not structure and physique.... If there has to be a mixed proportion of the two which of course there should be I'm not denying that... Then it should be 60/40 in favour of content and character any other, if otherwise then it becomes what we know as the conventional meaning of the term "gold digging"

1one:
I agree.... But those standards must/should border more on personality than physique, on content rather than structure...In this time and age, it's not a common trend, but when have we ever done what we are supposed to do as humans.

This is how true relationships are forged, content and character, not structure and physique.... If there has to be a mixed proportion of the two which of course there should be I'm not denying that... Then it should be 60/40 in favour of content and character any other, if otherwise then it becomes what we know as the conventional meaning of the term "gold digging"

Mynd44:
Dude, you need a pulpit and a microphone.

This is not a church. Preaching morals is lost. How dare you say someone looking for sexual compatibility is wrong? Or a woman searching for financial security ?

These are things that can drive one nuts Na.

tosyne2much:
we can never underestimate the power of the bolded in a relationship. However, it has to do with individual's discretion. Some select the dream man based on what they have been told by friends while some choose based on the high expectations from both friends and families [/i]

tosyne2much:
You are blessed

Wetin u dey drink sef ?

Mynd44:
Dude, you need a pulpit and a microphone.

This is not a church. Preaching morals is lost. How dare you say someone looking for sexual compatibility is wrong? Or a woman searching for financial security?

These are things that can drive one nuts Na.

1one:
Orijin

Mynd44:
Individual discretions yes. Now imagine if a girl grew up poor and saw poverty in her neighborhood and how little kids suffer and starve and she decides her kids will have a better life. That her kids must live is a better neighborhood, attend good schools and eat good food hence she will work hard and whoever she marries must also be able to provide that dream. Is it her fault?

A guy who has seen his dad frustrated cos his mum is not as sexually active as his dad and that caused friction will want to marry a woman who is sexually compactible. Is it shallow thinking? Yes but is it right? Hell yes

tosyne2much:
I respect ur intelligence

tosyne2much:
All your aforementioned points cannot be attributed to gold digging

When we are talking about gold digging, there's actually no point to justify why a lady should be gold digging.. All what you have up there are out of gold digging. Gold digging and greediness are synonymous if you don't know

Mynd44:
Gold digging is not out of greed . It is just personal preferences.

She likes guys with money cos they spoil her, she goes for them

He likes girls with big boobs cos he enjoys it, he chases them.

Where is the greed?

remsonik:
Pls the constant whining and women bashing on this topic is getting boring

1one:
Many of the comments on this thread raise up really interesting thoughts, at least for me.

Gold digging is not just about money, but rather about our interests, tastes, preferences and other things we would rather not do without in a partner of our choice.

Whether we are digging for money, for bossoms, for good accent, for height, for white teeth,.... In a way it's still gold digging, and at the very basic level, gold digging is healthy, Infact very advisable to an extent, because it's better to be with someone that satisfies many or most of your key tastes, so that you won't be forced to helplessly look elsewhere

That said, there's still a very dark side to gold digging, and I think that's what the question of this thread is about. It becomes a dark form of gold digging when you totally abandon all the other rubies, sapphires, and diamonds dotting the path of the gold.... If someone has other amiable qualities (peaceful, respectful, intelligent) but you choose to ditch them because they've got no gold(no money, short heighted, flat bossoms etc)... Now that's a type of gold digging that should be kicked against

VickyyB:
No gender is a gold digger.

VickyyB:
The phrase is mostly used when a broke arsè guy has been dumped by his gf.

VickyyB:
No gf for a lazy man or probably, he could get an ashewo for 200 naira or a low class girl.

Mynd44:
There is nothing like "Gold-digging" it is a lie we tell ourselves to hide our ego.

A lot of us have tastes. We won't go after a girl/guy who does not have that quality l. If a woman or man is concerned about her financial security and see finds it attractive in a man why should we blame her?

A lot of men love women with big boobs and won't look at women with small boobs and no one insults them Na.

If a girl does not like you cos you are not rich enough, move on and find one that does not consider money.

Stop Bìtching

tosyne2much:
forget about taste here.. Gold digging is gold digging (simple)

It's not only when a lady scam you that she's being referred to as a gold digger

Any lady who knows she will not date you and keeps fooling you just for her own selfish interest is a gold digger

Btw, the dictionary is specific about the definition of gold diggers.. It refers to specifically ladies as gold diggers

Elantracey:
You have a very good head on your shoulders



Don't start hyping yourself o