I've been trying to end my 2 year relationship for a few months. There are several reasons but the MAIN reason is that I am NOT happy with myself. I need to make some adjustments to improve my life and I need some space to refocus. I love him but I don't NEED to be in a relationship at this time with anyone. We promised each other that we would always be honest about how we were feeling. I reminded him of this when I tried to break things off six weeks ago. I told him that I would still be there for him if he needed anything. I respect him but I need to take care of some things in my peronal life that require my full attention.
I proposed that we go back to being friends but he rejected my offer. Even though we started as friends he said he isnt willing to have a friendship with me if I end the relationship. I don't think it's fair because I've been genuinely good to him. After much consideration and further frustration, I've decided to break it off tonight face to face. At the moment he is having some financial difficulties and I plan to gift him 40k to help ease the sting. I hope he undersatands that I sincerely care for him as I refocus on my own life.
Would you guys/ladies feel better if your honey left you with a break up gift?..or no??

why not?....just kiding, well, if he accept that money, it virtually mean, he's not truely inlove with you, cos from my calculation, no amount can buy LOVE......even if he accept the gift, it doesnt mean it will ease the pain in letting you go,...simply means he just accepted it for the need he has at that moment! #my oppinion though.

No amount can buy my love...

temitemi1:
No amount can buy my love...

Am just hoping he knows it's nothing about him. I hope he can consider picking up with me in d future is he is still available

Me ion understand abeg

FLAWLES:
Me ion understand abeg

It's just not a good time for me.

if its range in millions

girls n dia wahala... don't expect to change his emotions by bribing him

Can't you just continue the relationship but tell him you need to focus on some things.. No need to end it.. Just let him knw you have higher priorities for now and that he shud understand that you really love him... Its important that he knws you still love him.. With time you'll get that "space" you need, and you'd respect him more. You don't need to end relationship to focus on other things...

Dats why i said love is overrated.. You think he doesn't have his own personal life too... Sometimes you just need someone to encourage you.. Someone you can think of an smile...it can be painful na...I'm currently experiencing that pain...just be mindful of whatever you want to do... Cos it's your choice.. And if u regret later, its your fault... Noone here can change your mind... So be mindful and try to put yourself in his shoes.
Good luck

There's no harm in giving out breakup gifts. Just don't give it to him directly. He may turn it down given the situation of things.

ifex370:
girls n dia wahala... don't expect to change his emotions by bribing him

You think dat is what he will think?..it is not my intention

nieema:

You think dat is what he will think?..it is not my intention

of course... a man has his pride, dumping him and bribing him will destroy his self esteem... he might end up hating you with passion

yorex2011:
Can't you just continue the relationship but tell him you need to focus on some things.. No need to end it.. Just let him knw you have higher priorities for now and that he shud understand that you really love him... Its important that he knws you still love him.. With time you'll get that "space" you need, and you'd respect him more. You don't need to end relationship to focus on other things...

I love and respect him. I hope to have a future with him one day.
How am I supposed to keep giving him my best when I dont feel good about my life. I know I may lose him. But sometimes I feel like I've already lost myself under the pressure of relationship obligations...my own emotional energy is low. I just ask him for consideration to allow me space and a little time to recharge. I love him no doubt and have told him this much.

yorex2011:
Can't you just continue the relationship but tell him you need to focus on some things.. No need to end it.. Just let him knw you have higher priorities for now and that he shud understand that you really love him... Its important that he knws you still love him.. With time you'll get that "space" you need, and you'd respect him more. You don't need to end relationship to focus on other things...

brother you said it oo... more wisdom

yorex2011:
Dats why i said love is overrated.. You think he doesn't have his own personal life too... Sometimes you just need someone to encourage you.. Someone you can think of an smile...it can be painful na...I'm currently experiencing that pain...just be mindful of whatever you want to do... Cos it's your choice.. And if u regret later, its your fault... Noone here can change your mind... So be mindful and try to put yourself in his shoes.
Good luck

I have considered this and that is why I agreed to continue with him as til now. Before we began dating, we were good friends. It was a supportive relationship without any romance, we were there for each other without any dating relationship. I thought that friendship was d foundation of our relationship. I wonder how he can throw all of it away?? just because I am trying to figure out some personal issues...how is that love?

nieema:

I love and respect him. I hope to have a future with him one day.
How am I supposed to keep giving him my best when I dont feel good about my life. I know I may lose him. But sometimes I feel like I've already lost myself under the pressure of relationship obligations...my own emotional energy is low. I just ask him for consideration to allow me space and a little time to recharge. I love him no doubt and have told him this much.

Well.. I guess its left for him now... Its never easy when things like this happen.. Buh if he really plans a future with you.. He'll support you...

nieema:

I have considered this and that is why I agreed to continue with him as til now. Before we began dating, we were good friends. It was a supportive relationship without any romance, we were there for each other without any dating relationship. I thought that friendship was d foundation of our relationship. I wonder how he can throw all of it away?? just because I am trying to figure out some personal issues...how is that love?

Somethings are really not easy as they seem.. Emotions are not easy to tame... I dunno how to explain it... Just do what your heart tells you... I'm not trying to change your mind... Only trying to speak like i was him.. Cheers

I do fücking appluad your courage; it's not that fücking easy to tell someone you've been in a relationship with that your fücking breaking up ‘face to face’.

but as for the ‘breakup gift’ being cash that's a whole new different shït; you know him best & what his fücking going through @ the monent; but i can fücking say this most guys would love a fücking whole day of ‘breakup sex’

yorex2011:


Somethings are really not easy as they seem.. Emotions are not easy to tame... I dunno how to explain it... Just do what your heart tells you... I'm not trying to change your mind... Only trying to speak like i was him.. Cheers

Maybe I can also give him some break up loving...just kidding
Seriously, thanks for your advise sir.

fuckshit:
I do fücking appluad your courage; it's not that fücking easy to tell someone you've been in a relationship with that your fücking breaking up ‘face to face’.

but as for the ‘breakup gift’ being cash that's a whole new different shït; you know him best & what his fücking going through @ the monent; but i can fücking say this most guys would love a fücking whole day of ‘breakup sex’

Lol...funny ooo. I honestly think it would send mixed signals which is why I will be sure to wear granny panties when I meet him this evening....lol

nieema:

Maybe I can also give him some break up loving...just kidding
Seriously, thanks for your advise sir.

You're welcome.. Wish you the best

To Remain Broke Is Better Than Breaking Up. Talk Less Of A Gift For That.

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Aba how this one take enter front page wey many creative topics de waste for romance section .
Yeye de smell

Nooooooooooooooo

Wait lemme ask my frnd Mr. Google.... I will b back

Why would you give anyone a break up gift? That's almost mean cuz whenever said person thinks of the gift or sees it, it will bring up bad memories.

Some people even trash their gifts from relationships

I ll out rightly reject the gift!how does the cash equate the love,time,feelings etc that has been built over d 2years!


U don't av a tangible point here,I see that hs wickedness...hurting the heart that loves you!U shall surely regret ur action later



Not insulting you pls,just trying to put myself in his shoes!!!!


Anyway.....Best wishes



Merry christmas peeps

yes na,na last sex they sure pass,dat na gift na