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HUSBAND SCARCITY...a must read
This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many women
today. If
you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there
were more men than women then, or there was
an adequate corresponding numbers of both
genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women
had values and were prepared to build a home
and not park into a built home. Then, once a
young man comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a
wife and the woman really appreciates him and
helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to insinuate? We created
what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity"
for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask
an average girl to define her dream husband; you
get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair,
and rich, own a house at least, and be
presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in
order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the
number of girls around you and the number of
men that meet that standard, and you will see the
problem. You would be hearing girls say, "I cannot
suffer in my father's house and then go and start
suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if
from the beginning, you have everything you want and
there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run
away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big and end small. The
problem is that the description majority of ladies give
of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 ladies
want the same kind of man and the man that fits what
they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick
one. Then, what becomes of 49 others?
They simply start
lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the
face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage
age who possesses all those things
these ladies want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet
fraud is not enough to match all those searching for
already made husbands. If you look around, majority of
the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who
are ready to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband
now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A
husband is that man God made and then saw that it
may be hard for man to really actualize the purpose for
making him, without a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and
fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a
mission of building the family that will serve God here
on earth.
For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it
is a way into bondage. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where God
has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION. Join in
alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT
VALUES.
I am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are
husband materials. What I am insinuating is that you
should stop setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances. Look
metaphysical (beyond physical).
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE
OWNS OR
HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And
that
which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the
physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is
temporal and that which is not seen is
permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer.
God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made
her for
Adam's need

Marriage isnt a poverty alleviation program...lol i like that line....

Cutehector4u:
Marriage isnt a poverty alleviation program...lol i like that line....

Wives appears to be more scarce than husbands, most of what we have now is friends with benefits and both genders are culpable

ronald4lif:
Wives appears to be more scarce than husbands, most of what we have now is friends with benefits and both genders are culpable

Gbam!

Go on dreaming. Go to mobofree.com dating page and see hw guys are advertising themselves, desperately looking for a wife? Anyways am nt in support of ladies lusting after men's wealth.

Go on dreaming. Go to mobofree.com dating page and see hw guys are advertising themselves, desperately looking for wives Anyways am nt in support of ladies lusting after men's wealth.

This is a beautiful write-up. I think the problem with most ladies is the inability to identify potential.

Someone once told me 'A lady should only be in a relationship with a man who has identified his purpose and has achieved it or is working towards achieving it'.

Good men are not scarce, husbands are not scarce.

ronald4lif:
Wives appears to be more scarce than husbands, most of what we have now is friends with benefits and both genders are culpable

lol either ways .... Well any one dat wishes to get married should look inward and ask him or herself ds question..am i a wife or husband material? If not, how will i tailor myself to be one so dat wen i hav worked on myself, then d mr right or ms right will come

SupaSunny:
This is a beautiful write-up. I think the problem with most ladies is the inability to identify potential.

Someone once told me 'A lady should only be in a relationship with a man who has identified his purpose and has achieved it or is working towards achieving it'.

Good men are not scarce, husbands are not scarce.

true sir,a man without purpose should not even marry