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Sanchez01:
YOu claimed he neglected her, which is quite untrue. According to the OP, she stated that circumstances placed them apart. In judgement, I have learnt to put things in others' point of view, rather than see them my way. Families parted them.

I mean he rejected the baby not her

passionate88:
Then take the child to your parent.... Try as much as possible not to send her to his mom... If you do, that might be the last time you'd see her... There's this case of Otedola and a woman that claimed she had a child for him and the child was taken from her when she was a kid, since then she'd not seen the child and this happened like 20 years ago

exactly what his friend told me that I shouldn't even think of letting him take my baby that I might never set my eye on her again.

Hazardd:
if you dont have any other guy,how are you going to get married?
thats means you still you still have hope of reconcilation with your baby dad

reconciliation is the least thing in my mind now. I just don't want to fall into a wrong hand again that's why I'm just taking my time.

i dont have anytin to say.

Sanchez01:
It is obvious you didn't read the OP's thread well enough.


OP, kindly hold on to your baby. A mother's love is always stronger. Keep her, lest any man comes to you with the hope of taking your solace away

thanks for your advice. she's the only source of my happiness so I can't just let him take away my precious gift

Court straight ooo or Do some African tinz dat would make him forget dat he has a child sef wif U ..#u understand dah kind tin

Hazardd:
whether he reject his baby mama or not,the child still remains his as long as he is catering for her from day 1 to 5years.

The child remains theirs. Children do better with their parents, if not both then d mother can take care of d child.

apparentlylaw:
Court straight ooo or Do some African tinz dat would make him forget dat he has a child sef wif U ..#u understand dah kind tin

I don't understand please can you put me on?

passionate88:
Ok... Sorry I had to compare you to such... I've seen it happened before

people are different please. thanks anyway

pretydamsel1:
I don't understand please can you put me on?

As in go Spiritual ..Spiritual in the negative way sha ....nd tell d baba to cast a spell dat would make ya baby daddy to forget he has a child

apparentlylaw:
As in go Spiritual ..Spiritual in the negative way sha ....nd tell d baba to cast a spell dat would make ya baby daddy to forget he has a child

haba I can't do that

'asaply' give my brother his daughter back. do you know what it takes to impregnant a woman?
mtcheew..

Don't give him the child...avoid child labour, avoid your child been abused....you don't know your child's fate when she leaves you.....
How do you plan on taking care of the child when you go for service??

SkinnyDude:
'asaply' give my brother his daughter back. do you know what it takes to impregnant a woman?
mtcheew..

u well so? oh seems you are an Igbo guy. but sorry I won't give him back my princess

damoskiy:
Don't give him the child...avoid child labour, avoid your child been abused....you don't know your child's fate when she leaves you.....
How do you plan on taking care of the child when you go for service??

I can't leave her with my parent because he might go and kidnap her so my sis ask me to bring her to Lagos for the main time till I'm done. thanks a lot for your advice, I appreciate

Ma'am dat baby should be under your care.Dnt allow the man to take away ur baby.He is nt even taking the child under his custody,he wana go drop her with his mama,ma'am dnt allow him

pretydamsel1:
I can't leave her with my parent because he might go and kidnap her so my sis ask me to bring her to Lagos for the main time till I'm done. thanks a lot for your advice, I appreciate

all well nd good...neva trust anybody....don't allow people use your child to make money....Say no to child labour.

MhizVee:
Ma'am dat baby should be under your care.Dnt allow the man to take away ur baby.He is nt even taking the child under his custody,he wana go drop her with his mama,ma'am dnt allow him

thanks girlfriend

damoskiy:
all well nd good...neva trust anybody....don't allow people use your child to make money....Say no to child labour.

thanks Damoskiy

pretydamsel1:
u well so? oh seems you are an Igbo guy. but sorry I won't give him back my princess

since Emeka my brother is trying for his daughter. give him his daughter, marriage is not by force. he doesn't want to marry outside his tribe. period!
reason like a graduate. dont make that baby a bastard.

pretydamsel1:
thanks girlfriend

u r welcum

pretydamsel1:
thanks Damoskiy

uwc Ma anytime...

SkinnyDude:
since Emeka my brother is trying for his daughter. give him his daughter, marriage is not by force. he doesn't want to marry outside his tribe. period!
reason like a graduate. dont make that baby a bastard.

I don't have to waste my time with you. but you know what? is better for her to be a bastard than to have a father that doesn't care. I won't give him my daughter period

Sorry... but I thought Igbos or (some part maybe) cannot claim a child if they are not married to the mother? Just curious

SkinnyDude:
since Emeka my brother is trying for his daughter. give him his daughter, marriage is not by force. he doesn't want to marry outside his tribe. period!
reason like a graduate. dont make that baby a bastard.

Seriously

pretydamsel1:
I don't have to waste my time with you. but you know what? is better for her to be a bastard than to have a father that doesn't care. I won't give him my daughter period

I looked at all the comments uve got here, I'm afraid they are NOT helpful to you at all. I am a man and we have similar cases. If you are not careful, ur mistake and her father's may av negative impact on ur daughter dt just came on her own jeje. There is little I mean little you can do to modern-train that girl without his father. Cooperate wt each other whether eventually married or nt, atleast cos of dt child.

Don't be deceived, the girl wl give u trouble to take her to her father when the time comes. In my own case, I was d one begging my baby mama to let us jointly train our boy in the best way but she was rude, aggressive, violent and hiding my baby frm me, .
But today, she has been looking for me everywhere. She cannot even go to my parents cos she was very rude to them.

But I discovered dt it sharks all single mothers at ds early stage u re nw, later they wl calm down wt their baby fathers and cooperate to train their child jointly.

Best of luck in ur decision making (either to sue him or take his child to your sister or cooperate wt his family to train d child togeda). Pls choose one.

By the way, hw do u feed ursf and d child or ar u working?

NOTE: Neither am I an Igbo nor Akwa Ibom man.

Please take her to court,if not for Nigeria...if it's Usa he will pay child support till ur gal turn 21

Take him to court...

yadipson:
I looked at all the comments uve got here, I'm afraid they are NOT helpful to you at all. I am a man and we have similar cases. If you are not careful, ur mistake and her father's may av negative impact on ur daughter dt just came on her own jeje. There is little I mean little you can do to modern-train that girl without his father. Cooperate wt each other whether eventually married or nt, atleast cos of dt child.

Don't be deceived, the girl wl give u trouble to take her to her father when the time comes. In my own case, I was d one begging my baby mama to let us jointly train our boy in the best way but she was rude, aggressive, violent and hiding my baby frm me, .
But today, she has been looking for me everywhere. She cannot even go to my parents cos she was very rude to them.

But I discovered dt it sharks all single mothers at ds early stage u re nw, later they wl calm down wt their baby fathers and cooperate to train their child jointly.

Best of luck in ur decision making (either to sue him or take his child to your sister or cooperate wt his family to train d child togeda). Pls choose one.

By the way, hw do u feed ursf and d child or ar u working?

NOTE: Neither am I an Igbo nor Akwa Ibom man.

I understand your point but I wasn't in any way rude to his parent even when his mother came all the way from Anambra and throw my things and that of her grandchild out of his sons house, all I did was to plead with her not to treat me that way. nothing in this life will make me beg him to come and train my daughter again. in place of feeding, it has been my parent and my sis and his uncle too has been very supportive( his uncle is a good man and he hasn't 4 once support them)

lollipop25:
Sorry... but I thought Igbos or (some part maybe) cannot claim a child if they are not married to the mother? Just curious

some part do claim

pretydamsel1:
haba I can't do that

Eiyah ....U knw wat run ...Run to where he can't find u and ur child and start a new life

pretydamsel1:
some part do claim

Ohh ok

apparentlylaw:
Eiyah ....U knw wat run ...Run to where he can't find u and ur child and start a new life

thanx