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| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by olu4life(m): 11:49pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
Idowuogbo:U are very stupid for what u just said. I can remember I insisted on not visiting because of ur types,if not for pickabeau that pleaded with me to go. Must u talk? So I went to DJs place for paparazzi? Hey,watch ur tongue. Are u bedridden that u can't visit DJ or u are just here to run ur mouth as usual. Watch it 22 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Originalsly: 11:50pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
pickabeau1:Am I to take this to mean that you guys have quit and left DJ in limbo? |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Idowuogbo(f): 11:51pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
coogar:ehn? You mean the same lizzy wey I know?  :oForgerrit! These lots don bisect the girl already na....e don do abeg! She don try. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by coogar: 11:52pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
Idowuogbo: lizzy? caracta is also lizzy? ID, how do you come up with these things? are you a sorceress? 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Idowuogbo(f): 11:53pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
coogar:Yup!  |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Lateralmaths(m): 11:55pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
TEHN we have begged,we have pleaded with you guys to continue. The truth is that backing out now is plain wickedness and its unacceptable. You guys have given DJ hope, why dash that hope now? 2 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 11:55pm On Jan 26, 2015 |
coogar: THIS IS NOT ABOUT SHORTAGE OF HUMAN RESOURCES BECAUSE THEY SHOULD HAVE COME BACK TO THIS THREAD TO REQUEST FOR MORE HANDS BUT THEY NEVER DID FOR ONCE THIS IS NOT ABOUT FINANCE BECAUSE EVEN TODAY DJ SAID WE SHOULD ASSIST HIS MUM WITH CASH , WITHIN HOURS NEW FUNDS WERE MADE AVAILABLE BY 2 GOOD MEMBER OF THIS FORUM THIS IS NOT ABOUT THE BACKSLASH BECAUSE TEHN ALEADY HAVE A VISION AND MISSION STATEMENT THEN ITS ABOUT WHAT THEY KNOW AND WE DONT KNOW SIMPLE 14 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 12:00am On Jan 27, 2015 |
It is so sad to see how things have degenerated to this level. I totally understand TeHN's decision, while it is not really a good one I think we led them to it. We are all at fault in one way or the other. Mynd44, don't know how to thank you but I'm sure God will bless you for the enormous sacrifice. You've done a whole lot for Dj, humanity will never forget you. Babyosisi, what can I say? Even when you were 'attacked,' insulted, had your integrity questioned, called all sort of names, you still 'couldn't' give up. I salute your dedication to this course, God bless you too, real good. To everyone that has supported this course, I say a big thank you and God bless you all. @TeHN, can you please reconsider your stance? Remember, it's for Dj, he's the reason we all are here. Smh, too many people wanting to claim right and appear they care the most. God is watching us all. 3 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Mynd44: 12:00am On Jan 27, 2015 |
coogar:Anger has nothing to do with this but when someone comes out of the blues to accuse me of taking funds for my own use I think I have a right not to allow such BS stand. I bet you would have done same too. I have been on this case since November 11. I even had to drag a friend along because I did not know the way to Eruwa. I remember going to 5 hospitals on the 14th in Lagos and being with Hameed everyday for more than a month straight. If after all that someone can come out and imply I have been taking funds for personal gains and you don't find anything wrong with that statement you need to think about it again. If you think stepping off is about wanting to be right, you might consider that I was with Hameed today at LUTH for an appointment I begged a friend to arrange so we can have options. I could have just told him I won't be and no one will actually hold me. The case has gotten to a point where others are needed to play their part. To those who say anyone gave up, I guess giving up also includes putting down the plans and way forward. I also called the hospital in VI today to make sure the bill was okay and corrected some things just so when whoever will take this up will find it easy. I don't have time for anger but I take exception to being accused of diverting funds. Anyone who draws sub from this is on his/her own 30 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 12:03am On Jan 27, 2015 |
pickabeau1: WHO ARE YOU GIVING CONDITION AND WHO ASK YOU TO PAY THE MONEY FOR CHEMO YOU GUYS SHOULD HANDOVER THE WHOLE MONEY TO DJ FAMILY AND STOP TELLING US THAT NONSENSE |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by pickabeau1: 12:04am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Themaingate: Ok |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by r231(m): 12:04am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Themaingate: Okay please let's get this straight.......what do we know? That has always been the problem what we know....so please lay it out what exactly do we know? Every single email you sent was acknowledged by me and all your suggestions were taken as well yet you come on the thread talking about white man calling you..........do you know how many emails and calls we get daily regarding this case from the same India hospital YOU recommended  One thing about life is we are all human try to understand that......AND for the record we are not abandoning the patient. There are 2 options there, you guys complained that we are not carrying you along now you are along so let's find the best option for DJ 5 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by ochon: 12:05am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. ~ William James What has happened, has happened. We now have to forge ahead with the limited options we have. I understand the call for TeHN and its field workers/volunteers to reconsider and don't back out at this precarious moment, but TeHN has made their decisions and won't go back against it. So let's not waste more time dilly-dallying over past mistakes, what-might-have-been's or past events. With the new development, all well-meaning hands should be on deck and the point of discourse refocused on saving DJ. We can't give up now no matter the current difficulties that reared its ugly head today. DJ remains the focal point and I believe that God will provide a way for us to cater for DJ. We can still do this guys. With more dedicated hands and determined spirits, we can still pull this off. So here are few numbered points I wanna share: 1. The most important thing now is that we need funds. We can't be short on cash midway into this herculean task. No matter what we decide, I THINK we need more funds. I think before TeHN finally take a step back, they'd try to see if it's possible to get an estimate of the total cost for the duration of 18 weeks of treatment (I'm obviously choosing option 1 in R231's post). This will help us know how much we gonna donate so we don't donate less than the estimate. And for the records, I choose option 1. I'd like to believe that LCC reached out to their partners in NY and they gave a good verdict. So since they're professionals, we've to hope they're right in their assessments. 2. I chose Option A (DJ's brother) since "DJ’s brother has been extremely helpful all through the way and he is conversant with all processes as well as locations." We need someone that's been with TeHN all these while, accompanied them to the various hospitals and whom the doctors can easily recognize. Someone with in-depth knowledge of the challenges of this mission. He won't sit idle and watch his brother die. He'll be there for DJ no matter what. So he's a good option for now. But DJ's brother has to create an account distinct from that of DJ's to keep us updated all through. Updates are very important. It can't be ignored. It doesn't have to be daily, but at least it'd be weekly and he'll answer the questions when asked to keep us abreast with the events. Challenges: When TeHN finally transfers the whole money to his account, there's probability of doubts of well usage of the money coming up MORE now it's in the hands of ONE individual. With TeHN, it came up, but with the likes of Jarus handling it, there was high degree of reliability on him. So let's get prepared for it. 3. If we're to consider Option B, then this suggestion should be put on FP so we can get larger number of audience who can volunteer to be the new team. Challenges: This option is the best (two heads are better than one) but getting a new team might be difficult. We can still consider it if only it will be on FP. If not, we'd be wasting our time. We need a new team in this option fast, have them meet with TeHN offline and have the up to date info about the whole mission relayed to them before they can push forward. 4. I'd like to advise every contributor on this thread to never be afraid of speaking your mind. Irrespective of what has and will happen on this thread including related ones like it in future, don't be afraid to speak your mind. But PLEASE leave out insults and invectives in your posts. If you wanna make a claim, verify it because emotions are heavily involved in these situations. Constructive criticism is always welcomed. Negative criticisms breeds rancour and fights. 5. What has happened has happened, but it should please not deter anyone from helping some in need out there or on NL, in future; neither should it stop our mammoth support DJ. Don't ever see TeHN in future and swear not to help an innocent person over TeHN backing out on this case. You're not doing it for TeHN, but to help someone in need. I know some people are already discouraged, but before you walk away into the sunset and forget this thread and future people that needs us, ask yourself this question - "Am I really doing this for people to appreciate me and not insult me? Am I doing this for people not criticize me or am I doing it for that hapless DJ/patient lying helpless on the bed, with his life in threat? wouldn't I want people to help me out if I'm faced with similar situations? Will my conscience be clear knowing I left a man/woman I could've helped out?" Yeah, we're in a quagmire, but with unified zeal, we can still get DJ to his optimum health. God will create other ways if one door closes. God can use anybody occasionally to volunteer for the cause of seeing DJ hale and hearty again. Let's not be found wanting when our attention are needed. Let's get on with the one we can achieve now, once there's life, there's hope!! 6. Finally, even though I feel bad with the turn out of events, I'll still give honor to whom honor is due. Thank you to all those that contributed negatively or positively on this issue. Even in the midst of the harsh criticisms, lay some hidden truths. That we didn't agree to it doesn't mean that somewhere in our hearts, we didn't admit our faults. Those of you that campaigned for funds, those that "shared" posts so that DJ's case could been known all through the breadth of NL, those that paid in cash or kind (prayers etc), may God enrich you and give the determination to do more for DJ and others in need. I can't thank you enough. And lastly to TeHN, thanks for all your efforts. It might not had ended as we wanted it with you guys, but there's no denying the immense effort that you guys put into this matter in the time y'all have been involved, especially your foot workers. The battle is not yet over, God is with us. DJ will live by God's grace no matter how tough this task seems, Amen. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Lateralmaths(m): 12:06am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Mynd44:Bros we appreciate all your efforts. What we are saying is DJ's wellbeing comes first in any proposed way forward. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 12:06am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Lateralmaths: YES SIR THEY GAVE UP LONG AGO WITHOUT TELLING US |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by r231(m): 12:10am On Jan 27, 2015 |
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| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 12:23am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Mynd44, You've started this good work.Will you just drop it by the wayside? You've watched him through the highs and the lows,held his hands,helped him to feed,stayed by his bedside.Can you truly turn your back on him now?I believe you can't.Even if people don't understand and appreciate the difficulty in being a field worker,most people here do and are cheering you on and praying for strength for you.Same for all those who volunteer their time and efforts.Words cannot be enough to show appreciation for the work you do. Many of us are asking you specifically not to let the questioning of your integrity cause you to drop something you've been so invested in.Truth is that people have a right to ask questions.What matters is how we react to it.It's difficult to ignore snide comments,insults and inuendos but this is the internet.Most times,it's best to ignore and just focus on what's important and that's DJ. If it's possible,please have a rethink.Thank you @Those that have been exchanging words, This is a faceless forum.I don't understand how we let ourselves get to the point of trading insults and accusations.What's the point?Why would i let someone i don't know from Adam cause me high bp?All i see here is trampled egos and mis communication.It doesn't have to be this way.If you have been insulted and accused,sorry!!Things like this are part and parcel of life. @Tehn The only criticism I have is bad PR.I had said a while back that sometimes,when people feel left out no matter how good the intentions are,there's bound to be unrest and agitation.Updating more often and ignoring those poking you would have done a lot of good.And also not poking others also would help. People here felt left out and that's why there was so much i said so and insults.I feel that when people donate money to a cause,they want to be extremely involved in every step and most times that is not possible and that's why more regular updates would have been helpful. As you all have always said,it's about Dj. @All I have never seen where if you want someone to do something for you,you antagonize the person.Most of us are not on ground so can't do much.Won't it be better to encourage and give polite criticism especially when its a life involved.Let us cheer the field workers,people donating,people praying,and those working behind the scenes.It's not easy to sit down and rack your brain over how to help a patient who is in such dire straits. I'm a bit surprised that people are still saying be careful about what you type cos Dj is reading. By now,he should be aware of his illness,the prognosis and the options available to him. Ofcourse this news should have been given to him by a medical personnel,with his family surrounding him for support (with his consent).When he knows these options,he would then be fully involved with his treatment plan esp if pallative.Some people reject chemo cos of the stress involved.Some choose to live fully and face the illness head on along with the consequences plus faith. Our job should be to cheer him on,whatever his choice and donate if and when needed not spreading bad blood for no just cause. Dj i'm sure will be more distressed when he reads what's going on. Right now,he needs calm and serenity..he needs to be kept comfortable and painfree while he decides along with those who have been with him on this journey the next step to take. Let's try and be calm. Sisi Chaircover,pickabeau,jaybee,r231 & co...if it's possible please relent and just finish up.You've done what you can in the best way you can.You are all humans and there will always be room for criticism and improvement. Cheers & best wishes to Dj! 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by coogar: 12:23am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Mynd44: i am sure everyone has commended your dedicated efforts - yes, you are right. i wouldn't take 1% of what they might have said to you and this is why you guys are heroes for doing what you do without being paid to do it. the point is - the welfare of DJ dola is the main priority, not the sidetalks, gossips and accusations. if we all listen to the things people have said in passing, there would be a world war. i would rather you guys see this project to fruition before worrying about what your detractors have said. Themaingate: what could that possibly be? 4 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 12:30am On Jan 27, 2015 |
I choose option A. If DJ were in the much touted India, wouldn't the funds have been in the care of his family? So what's the big deal in making payments to the hospital and handing the rest to the family? There is already a plan in motion for his treatment going forward so where does abandonment come into play here? By the way, the treatment may last weeks, months and if he's extremely lucky, years. So we expect the Tehn volunteer to keep following him here and there for unknown amounts of time? What other goal do we have for Tehn please? Abi is cancer treatment a one time thing then it's over? Let Tehn ensure the hospital is paid and the chemo starts like the option A suggestion and hand the rest over to the family. They would still be able to check in on him now and again. Or will the chemo only work if a Tehn member is physically present to watch it drip into his veins? 6 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by olu4life(m): 12:31am On Jan 27, 2015 |
@ochon @madampinkolo Thank u very much. U have said much and at the same time said a lot. @mynd44 we might have had our differences but I will still say to u "WELL DONE". Please don't back down now. Do u need an assistance in d field work? So as to know d way forward. Would have easily wish to be on ground but work stuff won't let me. So please how can we come in? Way forward biko. Please don't refer me to d option of new team 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 12:35am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Also, if DJ is really unaware of his prognosis like people are saying, he should be made aware asap. Shame on the doctors if they haven't done so already. That way there is no tiptoeing around how the prognosis might be affecting the decision making process. For anyone who wants to know what Tehn knows that they don't know, pls whip out your phone and google malignant ascites which is what DJ presented with. All the info you desire can be found there. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 12:36am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Themaingate:please give us what you are smoking  5 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by sunnshyn(f): 12:37am On Jan 27, 2015 |
ileobatojo: I agree with you. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Mynd44: 12:39am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Madampinkolo:No one mentioned turning back on DJ. Far from it, which is why a detailed treatment plan options has been provided. Whichever plan is chosen can be decided. I had to make sure I got the options and sent it in this morning so the way forward will be easy. People live to sit back behind their device and type without know what's happening. I prepared those accounts my myself. I could have hidden whatever I wanted to. The total logistics there is about 48,000 I have spent more than that in personal cash and I still had my own life on hold in this period. For the first month or there about, no one even knew I was involved cos I did not really like the noise but issues made me talk. I don't really care about the thanks and appreciation cos really they mean nothing to me but the decision has been taken, we simply can not go on with this case. It is not pride or anger. It is the reality on ground and the sooner everyone accepts this and proffer ways of going forward, the better. 3 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Mynd44: 12:42am On Jan 27, 2015 |
coogar:The solution is in sight. We have dropped the plans. These plans are what we will do if we were going to continue anyway so it is about getting the numbers and follow the steps in front. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by coogar: 12:46am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Mynd44: that's reassuring then! from my understanding, you are saying TEHN is stepping aside but the individuals are making their own personal effort to make sure all is well with DJ dola. i think i can live with that.  |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Mynd44: 12:48am On Jan 27, 2015 |
People don't actually know that this TEHN thing is like a job of some sorts even without financial benefits. Reports, mails at 2am that must be replied. Else OAM4J and CC will skin my head. When EmmySexxy first came and said she knows things that we were hidding, I remember R231 actually gave me something similar to a query. That is how serious it is and how serious we take this. Pickabeau calls for upwards of 15 minutes. And yet you really think we are just going to let go because of insults 3 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Mynd44: 12:51am On Jan 27, 2015 |
coogar:Any individual can do anything on his/her own terms Na. I am not saying someone is though sha. But we need people to understand that these options we brought forward are the best we have. Last Wednesday alone, I went to LASUTH, Gbagada general hospital and Island general hospital before I was able to bully a friend to get me an appointment with LUTH for today. All these are options we have looked into which is what we always do. We have brought the best options down. Pick the most suitable and form a team to follow it up 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Idowuogbo(f): 12:59am On Jan 27, 2015 |
Mondisweets:Stop nau |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by OAM4J: 1:01am On Jan 27, 2015 |
ileobatojo: Thanks. That is our preferred option too. We have the estimate for the full treatment already and we have enough money to cover it. We can make the payment for the full treatment and hand over the rest to his family for his welfare and logistics and close the case from our end. We of course will still check up on him from time to time. 2 Likes |
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