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My husband praises me at home ,but goes outside telling people how bad I am .that am evil that he regret marrying me just last last month I lost my pregnancy, we shed tears together ,to my surprise he called some family members telling them I did abortion .has been like this since six years we got married. Whenever I confront him he start begging me saying he is sorry ,that it cant happen again telling me am a good woman,he love me so much,that he is ready to give his life for me ,but goes around painting me black in front of people. Pls help me ,am afraid of the future with him :

How did you know that he speaks ill of you to people?

Do you have a child for him yet?

Should we come confront your husband for you?

What should I bring along, a Bible or stick?

Like the last one that happened, they were calling me saying that they disappointed in me how can I abort my child,I told them is not true.

Vessi:
Do you have a child for him yet?

Exact question I was going to ask

Yes we have two children ,a boy and a girl

Mr chisom101 is a chameleon


In some NLers world
Divorce him for he can kill his children and say its u *no be my opinion be that o*

My dear I honestly believe that your husband loves you but it doess appear he has a problem.

Self -pity

You see we are so used to using this word that it has become harmless and indeed a bit of self pity does one good but
Pity for oneself; especially exaggerated or self-indulgent pity where you believe that you are the victim who has done no wrong and is deserving of condolence from everyone.
Self-pity is the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is v addictive and easily becomes chronic.
You end up pitying yourself and believing you have done no wrong and someone else is responsible for you problems. You also loose thouch with reality of the situation.

This is also one condition that is largely ignored and most people would never admit the have this problem.

I think you need to observe it more and ask an expert, he might need help.

Mental health is very important in your choice of partner. If it does not make sense, it does not for a reason. And if the person cannot help how they behave, then maybe they need mental help. He has to admit he has a problem and you both should seek help. I am serious. A lot of the spousal abuse that is verbal, physical and emotional stems from deep mental health issues and unresolved problems of the abuser

unbelievable!

baby124:
Mental health is very important in your choice of partner. If it does not make sense, it does not for a reason. And if the person cannot help how they behave, then maybe they need mental help. He has to admit he has a problem and you both should seek help. I am serious. A lot of the spousal abuse that is verbal, physical and emotional stems from deep mental health issues and unresolved problems of the abuser

. Very true

Be a little bit more patient with him,and just try to give deaf ear to rumours.

mutter:
My dear I honestly believe that your husband loves you but it doess appear he has a problem.

Self -pity

You see we are so used to using this word that it has become harmless and indeed a bit of self pity does one good but
Pity for oneself; especially exaggerated or self-indulgent pity where you believe that you are the victim who has done no wrong and is deserving of condolence from everyone.
Self-pity is the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is v addictive and easily becomes chronic.
You end up pitying yourself and believing you have done no wrong and someone else is responsible for you problems. You also loose thouch with reality of the situation.

This is also one condition that is largely ignored and most people would never admit the have this problem.

I think you need to observe it more and ask an expert, he might need help.

baby124:
Mental health is very important in your choice of partner. If it does not make sense, it does not for a reason. And if the person cannot help how they behave, then maybe they need mental help. He has to admit he has a problem and you both should seek help. I am serious. A lot of the spousal abuse that is verbal, physical and emotional stems from deep mental health issues and unresolved problems of the abuser

I agree with both posts. It's either an emotional or mental issue or it falls somewhere in between. I have seen were a man obviously cares for his wife and they live well together but his sisters are in bad marriages. When they start bad mouthing his wife he does not defend her. In fact he feels bullied to agree. I think it comes from years of having two overly pushy older sisters and a dad not being around but what the heck do I know.

World worst husband's day on Nairaland. My sister endure your husband is a saint compared to the one that asked his wife to swallow his fluid to prove her love.

brito:
World worst husband's day on Nairaland. My sister endure your husband is a saint compared to the one that asked his wife to swallow his fluid to prove her love.

ROTFLMAO