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ronald4lif:
It appears you still love this girl and you are out to amend things up. If that be the case changing your number won't help matters. Call or chat her up to apologise. Actually, you both owe each other an apology but sadly[b]women will always play the victim[/b]. You've got nothing to lose by calling her up. Better than allow pride takes over you whilst you wrestle the emotional break down

divAnnie:
Did u have to say that? Fineee you are right, women love playing the victim but its sooo cool playing the victim in r/ship somtimes. The guy should just work things out with her though

Good you know I was right

So make una try change biko

ronald4lif:
Sorry I didn't see where you insulted her mom in the write up. Or you forgot to mention that part and what exactly did you said relating to her mom

I think what brought about the argument and verbal exchange in the first place is trust, you don't trust her and without this a distance relationship will never work. Both of you were wrong. On your part you shouldn't have reacted to the extend of exchanging words and reminding her that you were not her father and threatening not to fulfill a promise you made. You did the right thing by insisting she Skype or have a chat with you, only problem was the reaction.

She's equally wrong by prioritising her friends over her you in a day like this. Sure she can hang out with her friends but should have make out time for you as well. Have you two been having trust issues before?

It appears you still love this girl and you are out to amend things up. If that be the case changing your number won't help matters. Call or chat her up to apologise. Actually, you both owe each other an apology but sadly women will always play the victim. You've got nothing to lose by calling her up. Better than allow pride takes over you whilst you wrestle the emotional break down

ronald4lif:
Good you know I was right

So make una try change biko

adrainuche:
*modified*

She called me a fool and I said if I was a fool her mum won't be calling me asking be for money ... I said a lot of stuff like I said I have a foul mouth.

divAnnie:
hw could you have said that? Your mouth is really foul. I wish 2 e-knock you right nw!! Don't ever insult anyone in her family ooo

jamex93:
my guy for get DAT gal Jor....I tell u, she has another guy, n about d money m sure she will get it from d new guy......4get ha

divAnnie:
Its not easy jare

I know, like you girls always say 'don't you know I am a girl'

You're wrong you wait for his apology, he's wrong he apologises.

God dey watch una for 12D sha

adrainuche:
I even said more than that if for some reason I reavealed our conversation it going to be nasty I have a foul mouth and she knows ..

divAnnie:
why do guys always feel that a girl is always cheating? Na wa oo.

ronald4lif:


Well, whichever decision you think it's best for you go for it. Only that you've to look more deep into yourself to be sure you can handle the impending stress that comes with sudden emotional breakdown. If you can fine but if you can't then try to work things out, earlier the better.

Meanwhile, let's hope if she will try to reach you too in the coming few hours or days, you two were wrong and owe each other an apology. Or it could also be that she's seeing someone else and may not even bother to reach you. Should that be the case then you are right to move on too. All the best mate

divAnnie:
Did u have to say that? Fineee you are right, women love playing the victim but its sooo cool playing the victim in r/ship somtimes. The guy should just work things out with her though

There is Nothing "So cool" about playing the victim in a relationship.

It's just a cheap emotional blackmail which doesn't make sense and is totally childish.

If you're wrong simply apologise. Apologies are not restricted to one gender alone.

ronald4lif:
I know, like you girls always say 'don't you know I am a girl'

You're wrong you wait for his apology, he's wrong he apologises.

God dey watch una for 12D sha

divAnnie:
the foul mouth is not something to be proud of. I rest my case, all the best

adrainuche:
Thank you, Mehn am impressed getting good responses from romancelanders have found my new home, she's isn't going to reach me I changed my number and wiped my phone, I will do everything possible to move on its only going to take time... I was wrong that am sure but deasing me on Vals day to be with her friends means she already got over me ..

naijaboiy:
There is Nothing "So cool" about playing the victim in a relationship.

It's just a cheap emotional blackmail which doesn't make sense and is totally childish.

If you're wrong simply apologise. Apologies are not restricted to one gender alone.

naijaboiy:
There is Nothing "So cool" about playing the victim in a relationship.

It's just a cheap emotional blackmail which doesn't make sense and is totally childish.

If you're wrong simply apologise. Apologies are not restricted to one gender alone.

divAnnie:
I agree with ur second statement but I agree more 2 the first. We are girls!!

No wahala, that's why many of us are taking a break, seemingly a relationship nowadays is a full time job coupled with extra shifts.

After money, women should be topping the list of problems

Men go survive

ronald4lif:
I see there's no other means she can reach you then; Facebook etc. How about Skype? Aren't you friends on there

ronald4lif:
No wahala, that's why many of us are taking a break, seemingly a relationship nowadays is a full time job coupled with extra shifts.

After money, women should be topping the list of problems

Men go survive

adrainuche:
Blocked her and her sister some of her friends I knew I blocked, if I don't move on I will still keep on investing finicially and emotionally the finicial part I don't mind but the emotional part its crazy lemme leave the earlier the better ifwe meet some other cool. Funny enough I had got she and her sis some smart phones I don't even know what I would do with them ... Am emotionally broken

adrainuche:
So early hours in the morning on valentines day 12am my time and about 5pm Nigerian time I called to wish my GF happy Valentines like normal people do I told her I was going to call her early hours in the morning Nigeria time so we could talk on phone or even Skype or something since we were miles apart, why I said so was to make sure she doesn't feel lonely..

Behold my GF now my Ex refused she said she was going our with her friends to my dismay, I was surprised that Girls now decide to hang out with other Girls on valentines day which I thought was an out right lie, however I had promise her some finicial assistance and I told her if she leaft with her friends on valentines day that I won't help her again ... That's when it all started.



She then told me that I wasn't her husband and I shouldn't control her that if it was because of my finicial assistance that she doesn't need it meanwhile she has some of my money which I gave her and i was suppose to complete it so she and her family could get a new apartment. I also as well retaliated I told her I wasn't her dad and I see no reason y I should help her with finicial assistance then we started throwing words at each other and I may have insulted her and friends and so on I was angry...

I requested I needed my money back she said she wasn't going to give me that theres nothing i could do. After much argument I finally told her she could have it..

Then we decided to End the relationship, she hasnt called me and i had gone to an extent of changing my number hence there's no means of communicating, however before I did that I called her to apologize to her and sister, her sister was mad at me, she said I insulted their mum and she doesn't want to talk to me, I tried to explain but at the end it resulted to nothing. I hanged up and promise not to call or say hye again ...



I felt the reason my EX din't want me to call her was because she had a date with someone else because have never heard when Nigerian Girls now go on Valentine dates or get together by then selves when guys are asking them out..

Have asked my friends around some said I may be right while some said I may be wrong but however I felt I did what was right. although looking at what transpired he doesn't seem a big deal and I must confess I have a foul mouth ..

Hence was it right for me to have insisted on us talking together on phone or skyping or I would have allowed her gone to her so called Girls Get Together on a valentines Day

*modified*

She called me a fool and I said if I was a fool her mum won't be calling me asking be for money ... I said a lot of stuff like I said I have a foul mouth.

divAnnie:
I agree with u. R/ships work when we let our pride down. My statement was just pure sarcasm

Kolade354:
You are a certified maga so you dont see any beautiful babe to date abroad? And you dey trust nigeria gurlz,most of dem are hungry gurlz...............Next time luk for a mature and reasonable babe to date at where you are working and Living.