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naijaboiy:
Lol..alright!

But I guess you have done it once or twice.

softysparky:
@op, why didn't you want her to go out and have fun with friends or do you intend to call and Skype with her the whole day?

divAnnie:
Yea, once or twice or a million times

You need to change

softysparky:
@op, why didn't you want her to go out and have fun with friends or do you intend to call and Skype with her the whole day?
And after your 3hrs call what will then happen to her? you will go about your other business and she will be so lonely @home.
My friend you can't be over there and here at the same time, and you threatening her to withdraw whatever financial help you promised is childish.

adrainuche:
Maybe I was been a maga I dint feel she was playing me for a fool I once went to her house and am sure she needed money. This was the first time I did a LDR have never done it before maybe have learnt, I don't think all naija girls are hungry my sister aunts and mum live in naija dey are far from hungry ... U don't have to quote the whole thing before u reply me especially with what us saying ...

adrainuche:
Maybe I was been a maga I dint feel she was playing me for a fool I once went to her house and am sure she needed money. This was the first time I did a LDR have never done it before maybe have learnt, I don't think all naija girls are hungry my sister aunts and mum live in naija dey are far from hungry ...

Odunharry:
lol

naijaboiy:
You need to change

softysparky:
Happy val dear.

You no do me val ohh, where my present

softysparky:
Happy val dear.

ronald4lif:
You no do me val ohh, where my present

Odunharry:
same love...had smtngs in mind 4 u bt fvck up happen.

Will make it up sha

ronald4lif:
I know, like you girls always say 'don't you know I am a girl'

You're wrong you wait for his apology, he's wrong he apologises.

God dey watch una for 12D sha

naijaboiy:
There is Nothing "So cool" about playing the victim in a relationship.

It's just a cheap emotional blackmail which doesn't make sense and is totally childish.

If you're wrong simply apologise. Apologies are not restricted to one gender alone.

softysparky:
See this one....
You wan work for Chevron then collect salary for PWC?

To your tent ooh Israel

Lol! I know get work ohh , still a job seeker

You no gree employ me na

At least vals gift in replace of a tfare after transporting myself to drop my resume and it got bounced won't be bad bikonu

divAnnie:
ok. I hope u r nt forming all self righteous oo, pple do it once in a while evn tho its wrong. The face u r making right now just feels irky to me. Thanks for the advice. Happy val

ronald4lif:
Lol! I know get work ohh , still a job seeker

You no gree employ me na

At least vals gift in replace of a tfare after transporting myself to drop my resume and it got bounced won't be bad bikonu

softysparky:
Maybe you are not being 'maggard'

You don't switch someone off and on at will simply because you are assisting them financially.
What if she was telling the truth about hanging out with her friends or what if she went out with them without informing you?
Only God knows the hurtful things you said to her since you can't even remember.

Odunharry:
u dey mind girls....
I Dont totally blame some of them who do..many people(guys/girls) are like that bt some girls do that intentionally..

naijaboiy:
Its really annoying.

Well I personally have a way of handling such situations when it happens.

naijaboiy:
Its really annoying.

Well I personally have a way of handling such situations when it happens.

Odunharry:
a gal cant err and xpect me to apologise. she go wait taya her leg go catch fire.

You get am! That emotional bullshit will never work for me.

Once I notice it I turn deaf ears sharp sharp.

When them see say you nor send na dem go still beg you finally.

ronald4lif:


Haha guys are vexing.

But honestly, that line has been over used, they always have this mentality of 'I am a girl', even when it's not necessary. A few days ago I was standing infront of a friend's shop and this particular girl was coming in and I just said hello and she said hi, then she stopped and in my mind I was like why is she not going inside, the next thing I heard is please be a gentleman and help me with the door. Although she had something on her one hand which may have called for such but her guts was much mehn. I hesitated a bit but had to coz she said pleaded

There are many cases where a guy is expected to take lead when with a girl but the general mentality and that most of them see such things as a birth right it's the problem. Imagine a guy and a girl had an issue where words were exchanged but the guy is expected to apologise first. Not only that ohh, after apologising she then do shakara before accepting. This life sha, women go give account to every thing they did to guys

i wonder why those kyn ladies nor dey cross my path...

The closest experience I had is in school here,, when I was at an ATM stand on a very long queue and a girl just came from no where to enter my front.

I was surprised and I quickly went to notify her that there was a queue which she's supposed to join.

She was like "please pity a lady now,,i'm in a hurry"
Well I told her that so many people have been standing on the queue and i'm pretty sure they are also in a hurry so it won't be right if I allowed her to stand in my front.

The girl just got angry and left,,probably to another ATM stand where she'll find a guy that will be touched by her story.

Wetin concern me

naijaboiy:

You get am! That emotional bullshit will never work for me.

Once I notice it I turn deaf ears sharp sharp.

When them see say you nor send na dem go still beg you finally.

D1ck:
Abeg teach me sir

Bro,,when a girl is wrong and tries to play the victim...you simply ignore her and face your own.

A girl that really wants things to work will drop her pride and apologise.

But oga if you're at fault abeg be a man and apologise. It wouldn't take anything from you.

naijaboiy:
i wonder why those kyn ladies nor dey cross my path...

The closest experience I had is in school here,, when I was at an ATM stand on a very long queue and a girl just came from no where to enter my front.

I was surprised and I quickly went to notify her that there was a queue which she's supposed to join.

She was like "please pity a lady now,,i'm in a hurry"
Well I told her that so many people have been standing on the queue and i'm pretty sure they are also in a hurry so it won't be right if I allowed her to stand in my front.

The girl just got angry and left,,probably to another ATM stand where she'll find a guy that will be touched by her story.

Wetin concern me

You for be a gentleman na

But even if you had wanted to other people were behind you and may even reject if you had allowed her.

Such girls comes my way all the time but I somehow hardly rejects. I will have to develop some hardness walahi

ronald4lif:
You for be a gentleman na

But even if you had wanted to other people were behind you and may even reject if you had allowed her.

Such girls comes my way all the time but I somehow hardly rejects. I will have to develop some hardness walahi

Lol,,was I not gentlemanly enough to tell her about the other people on the queue?

Well that was not even the problem. The problem was the way she just jumped in my front like it was her right and I shouldn't complain cos she's one fine girl.

adrainuche:
So early hours in the morning on valentines day 12am my time and about 5pm Nigerian time I called to wish my GF happy Valentines like normal people do I told her I was going to call her early hours in the morning Nigeria time so we could talk on phone or even Skype or something since we were miles apart, why I said so was to make sure she doesn't feel lonely..

Behold my GF now my Ex refused she said she was going our with her friends to my dismay, I was surprised that Girls now decide to hang out with other Girls on valentines day which I thought was an out right lie, however I had promise her some finicial assistance and I told her if she leaft with her friends on valentines day that I won't help her again ... That's when it all started.



She then told me that I wasn't her husband and I shouldn't control her that if it was because of my finicial assistance that she doesn't need it meanwhile she has some of my money which I gave her and i was suppose to complete it so she and her family could get a new apartment. I also as well retaliated I told her I wasn't her dad and I see no reason y I should help her with finicial assistance then we started throwing words at each other and I may have insulted her and friends and so on I was angry...

I requested I needed my money back she said she wasn't going to give me that theres nothing i could do. After much argument I finally told her she could have it..

Then we decided to End the relationship, she hasnt called me and i had gone to an extent of changing my number hence there's no means of communicating, however before I did that I called her to apologize to her and sister, her sister was mad at me, she said I insulted their mum and she doesn't want to talk to me, I tried to explain but at the end it resulted to nothing. I hanged up and promise not to call or say hye again ...



I felt the reason my EX din't want me to call her was because she had a date with someone else because have never heard when Nigerian Girls now go on Valentine dates or get together by then selves when guys are asking them out..

Have asked my friends around some said I may be right while some said I may be wrong but however I felt I did what was right. although looking at what transpired he doesn't seem a big deal and I must confess I have a foul mouth ..

Hence was it right for me to have insisted on us talking together on phone or skyping or I would have allowed her gone to her so called Girls Get Together on a valentines Day

*modified*

She called me a fool and I said if I was a fool her mum won't be calling me asking be for money ... I said a lot of stuff like I said I have a foul mouth.

ronald4lif:
Sorry I didn't see where you insulted her mom in the write up. Or you forgot to mention that part and what exactly did you said relating to her mom

I think what brought about the argument and verbal exchange in the first place is trust, you don't trust her and without this a distance relationship will never work. Both of you were wrong. On your part you shouldn't have reacted to the extend of exchanging words and reminding her that you were not her father and threatening not to fulfill a promise you made. You did the right thing by insisting she Skype or have a chat with you, only problem was the reaction.

She's equally wrong by prioritising her friends over her you in a day like this. Sure she can hang out with her friends but should have make out time for you as well. Have you two been having trust issues before?

It appears you still love this girl and you are out to amend things up. If that be the case changing your number won't help matters. Call or chat her up to apologise. Actually, you both owe each other an apology but sadly women will always play the victim. You've got nothing to lose by calling her up. Better than allow pride takes over you whilst you wrestle the emotional break down