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For some time now I’m confused about my feelings and I think that by writing the story it would be easier for me to find an answer.
After marrying the man, with whom I
thought I would spend the rest of my
life, we started trying for a baby. After 4
years and several IVF attempts I finally
got pregnant. It was a hard pregnancy.
The whole time I felt that my husband
was cheating. We had many
conversations, and of course he denied
it. It got to point where I started to think
that I was hormonal, crazy or just
imagining stuff because of the
pregnancy.
I decide to find out if i was right and
no surprise there he was cheating on
me the whole time. There I was
pregnant and the man decided he was in love with some girl, who smugly
decided to come to my home with a
bunch of her friends.
After that I was scared for the baby and
myself. After he said he was “sorry”
and that he “loved me” I decided to stay
with him until I give birth and then make a decision.
Currently my child is alive and well, a
really happy baby, very loved by
everyone, including his father. But this
relationship does not work for me, I
cannot swallow the insult. He lost my
trust and in some ways my love. I think
I will be better of without him.
Please tell me what you think.

What I think is that your decision to leave is not a right one too. Who in this world has not been or would not be chEated

Is he still cheating on you?

Move your post to the family section. That's where you'll get professional experience from the cheats and the cheated. However, you're better off staying.

If you think you will be 'better off' without your adulterous husband, do you also think that your child will be better off without his father?


Once a marriage produces offspring, the interest of the spouses become secondary to that of their kids.... Even David 'cheated' on God. . Yet he was still called a 'Man after God's heart'.. So if the hubby is really sorry for playing an 'away match', because of the kid, please give him another chance... That kid needs his father as much as he needs you

How dare you threating to move out of ur matrimonial home for some uselless gurls who do not deserve it or you think husband plenty for outside
Any woman that expect his husband not to cheat on her must be +++. Most men can never be trustworthy esp when their wife is sick or pregnant.

forgive him.

Cheating is painful o ma but leaving ur home is not d best thing for u to do
i will advice u stay and make ur marriage work, dat child deserve all d luv he can get (parental) Being a single mother is harder than u think ok
U didn't complain of him treating u bad except cheating on u while u were pregnant so i suppose by now dat relationship has bn terminated
My advice is dat u stay and build ur home d way u want it to b!

Leave the useless man jarwe and leave your baby with him , chances are your baby will probably grow up to be like his(her) cheating father , so I say leave the fvcking cheater and potential cheater and go back to your father's house ... That way you won't be cheated on and you will eat free food..... Tscheeww , Nairalanders asking schewpid questions since 340 B.C

sirbegojay:
For some time now I’m confused about my feelings and I think that by writing the story it would be easier for me to find an answer.
After marrying the man, with whom I
thought I would spend the rest of my
life, we started trying for a baby. After 4
years and several IVF attempts I finally
got pregnant. It was a hard pregnancy.
The whole time I felt that my husband
was cheating. We had many
conversations, and of course he denied
it. It got to point where I started to think
that I was hormonal, crazy or just
imagining stuff because of the
pregnancy.
I decide to find out if i was right and
no surprise there he was cheating on
me the whole time. There I was
pregnant and the man decided he was in love with some girl, who smugly
decided to come to my home with a
bunch of her friends.
After that I was scared for the baby and
myself. After he said he was “sorry”
and that he “loved me” I decided to stay
with him until I give birth and then make a decision.
Currently my child is alive and well, a
really happy baby, very loved by
everyone, including his father. But this
relationship does not work for me, I
cannot swallow the insult. He lost my
trust and in some ways my love. I think
I will be better of without him.
Please tell me what you think.

Painful! I know!!

Bt remember u were pregnant & perhaps with difficulties, it was not easy for him(not justifying him)

Also as many ve said, ur union has given life to a baby that need to be factored in

Remember also that he did not throw you out when u had difficulty conceiving

Don't also forget that the corner chick may be on the waiting for you to make that move

Advice: Have a down to earth talk with him on hw he hurt ur feelings and the marriage. Forgive him & build ur home bearing in mind that:

only God is perfect not even angels!

For us men, abeg make we try na haba!

Since 9yrs I married only last yr I spent months with my family ie Aug 2013-Jun 2014 and my principle is my wife must not suspect me! If by any means I had reason to misbehave, my counselor/wife hears it immediately and this have helped us build trust in our home!

I can understand the loss of trust and the pains its ok to feel everything you feel assume he was under a lot of pressure. He messed up.

Forgive him if you can. I hope he has learnt from his mistakes and is repentant.

who told u dat the person u want to mk ur solace, will nt cheat on u?
if u guyz r married legally, dat means u've signed a life contract if nt, u r jez his baby mama. i assume u both r legally married so there is no need to leave him cos he cheated. av u cum to think of it? what if u didn't find out?. so many men av cheated on their wives several times without their wives finding out. jez tk it as if it didn't happen, he didn't even cheat. btw, he hs apologised and u also said he reitrated his luv 4 u. i'm sure konji pushed him. dats y so many nairalanders usually xay "konji is a bas***". Bt he should learn to control his libido, he is nw a married man, no more d bachelor dat he used to be. m sure he is working on it.
Rekindle d fire of ur luv 4 him and 4get abt all his wrong deeds, u will surely av a blissful marriage.

sweethrt have a talk with your husband...
find out exactly why he cheated.. is he a serial cheater?.. does he sleep around or is he faithful to his side chic?..lol..

my point is if it was a one time thing or a distraction den u av a good man... make it work like dey v mentioned above.. for the sake of ur child..

I v always said sumthing to myself dat when I get married I will mentally n emotionally wear khaki and become a soldier.. it is fight to d finish as long as there is no physical abuse.. I knw its easier said dan don but if d decision is made den its a start..

God strengthen u o my sister.. e no easy at all

This is so painful... I don't even know what to say. Just for the sake of your baby who will so need his/her daddy's care, just let it go and watch him in the coming months. Sorry.

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Ve a rethink b4 u mk dat decision