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| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by bjcole(m): 5:37pm On Oct 27, 2012 |
jidegirl12:I hope is not surprising you, & u dont need 2 shame them, u also discuss somethings about ur profession with friends, so its nt new, Drs r human, they r nt super & didnt drop 4rm another planet. 1 Like |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by slimyem: 5:54pm On Oct 27, 2012 |
Mr.bjcole,just remember that your wife's health is much more important than your unfounded and unnecessary fears...... Hope you know that opening could cause her serious infections?? Let the poor woman get the help she needs from a professional gyneacologist be it male or female as soon as possible before the problem compounds . |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Mowire: 7:59pm On Oct 27, 2012 |
IMO, this bjcole's behaviour should be added to the list of irresponsible behaviours. How can a man put his personal insecurity above the well being of his, supposed, wife?! 1 Like |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Nobody: 8:18pm On Oct 27, 2012 |
In developed sane societies, those illiterate Professionals will loose their license for making confidential patient information a subject of drunk beer parlor gist. When did men become such shameless gossips? Going to sit and gossip about sick womens veejays 1 Like |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by baby124: 8:45pm On Oct 27, 2012 |
debrief08: In developed sane societies, those illiterate Professionals will loose their license for making confidential patient information a subject of drunk beer parlor gist. Nigerian men are that stupid. I know a Dr.that even discussed his wife's not so glamorously smelling down below with me. I guess I was supposed to drop pant. What do you expect with the useless uncertified, quack education they get? I bet they don't teach them ethics. Even the older ones may engage in this. 1 Like |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Nobody: 11:17pm On Oct 27, 2012 |
bjcole: I hope is not surprising you, & u dont need 2 shame them, u also discuss somethings about ur profession with friends, so its nt new, Drs r human, they r nt super & didnt drop 4rm another planet. Ehem.... I never discuss my clients stuff with my friends o Biko ! I drank vodka with morphine? I said I bring my work docs home for my hubby to assist me with some that he has knowledge in. And my hubby is family so he'll never do such thing about my life. Touchè , good job digging the dirt , nice try tho  |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Nobody: 11:28pm On Oct 27, 2012 |
It's okay man, everybody is just concerned about your woman esp the married ones cos know how excruciating the discomfort and pain is. That's all. |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by delishpot: 10:25am On Oct 28, 2012 |
@ poster, I understand your worry. See eh, doctors are there to help you. Even female gynea may talk trash about fellow womans down below after a procedure. So, my advice is that you consider your wife's health. She has a tear? She has a new baby to take care of and maybe since you are a "manly man" you expect her to run around you too. Why not let her go have her down below fixed? If it were you that had pain in your peepee and one of your pals used too hot water on it will it take too long for you to decide enough is enough and get treatment even if it were provided by an alien woman? Don't delay abeg cos the wound may worsen and then it will be a team of male and female gyneas that will fix it. Cos if one feels the wound has gone beyound him he will invite more to come and have a look and see how they can fix this kind of problem. Abeg don't behave like boko haram men. Let a man treat your wife Mba. Ngwa allow the girl child to go to school and become a doctor or anyother thing to help the lives of her fellow women, Mba na haram. 4 Likes |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Nobody: 11:24am On Oct 28, 2012 |
I will not go to a WOMAN gyn because it makes me uncomfortable. @OP the doctor is not going to run off with your wife, and your wife won't be traumatized. She needs to have her stitches replaced and the needs money. Please let go of your unfounded fears and get your wife the medical care she needs. |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by bjcole(m): 1:00pm On Oct 28, 2012 |
thks 2 those wit appreciable comments, i ve nt said we ve emergency here & i didnt say she wont see a qualified personnel, u guys dnt even knw if its been taken care of, i just dont understand why some ladies will always put issues down 2 insecurity & jealousy, u can imagine dat lady taged very controlling. I opened dis thread nt 4 insult bt advice. Why wont i ve say over who my wife opens her kitty 4. |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by bjcole(m): 1:16pm On Oct 28, 2012 |
Even my wife agrees dat its nt going 2 comfortable, but its just what women go thru, & someone here saying becos all manners of things in dis world ve done 2 her own kitty, so its not big deal, whats my biz if ur kitty is every Dr ' s lab.Som ladies n my office had given some horrible exp. 4rm some f d guys, & i ve heard som careless talk 4rm som Drs dats r pals, is dat not an enough ground 4 reservatn. hw wil a woman dat has b openin her kitty 2 Drs 4 all manners of operatn 4rm teenage be too w n |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by bjcole(m): 1:39pm On Oct 28, 2012 |
debrief08: In developed sane societies, those illiterate Professionals will loose their license for making confidential patient information a subject of drunk beer parlor gist.tak it easy madam, even Drs in ur develop sane countries r nt any better, a man is man, be it dr, engr or meco, he just nid 2 act as a pros in ur presence. Some f u can nt discuss ur experience wit ur hubby, |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Nobody: 3:33pm On Oct 28, 2012 |
Oga Bjcole, Health is wealth, if getting poked will keep me from cervical cancer then I will gladly let them poke as I do every 3 years. Every woman should get regular checks, because when cancer strikes that precious place won't be precious anymore. Secondly, in my first marriage we could concieve naturally, so I had to get series of tests and when we tried fertility treatment I had to get so much poking so I could have a baby, no shame in that. Women face so many risks down there, the smallest thing could lead to a major infection or disease, that small thing today may cause plenty wahala with delays. If any Doctor wants to get off on talking about my Veejays, good for him, all I know is I am healthy down there and whatever it takes I will keep getting checked to keep myself healthy for my husband and my kids. It is ignorance that kills. Go to the cancer ward of any hospital, cervical cancer is the second highest killer of women, by the time wome decide to go to check it is too late, this is due to attitudes like you have displayed especially in the north, women get to the hospital when it is too late 1 Like |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by minute(f): 4:59pm On Oct 28, 2012 |
I am sure that there is a VERY small percentage of Doctors that are not professional and things do happen for the worst . . . ever see 20/20 or 48Hrs? For the other 99.99% of the professionals, they are just that! Medical malpractice is so expensive that they cannot afford not to be. These Drs are required by law to have their nurses with them during an episiotomy not only to protect the patient but also to protect themselves as there are some patients out there that assume that the Drs are doing what they should not be doing and can and often times, make unbased allegations. As far as using a male OB-GYN, if you could see some of the things that I have seen, one would be a fricking fool not to use one. As a woman, having an episiotomy repair is not an overly pleasant experience whether it is being done by a man or a woman Dr. I guess a lot of it is modesty more than anything just as a man having his penis handled by another person other than their sexual partner. |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Nobody: 11:50am On Oct 29, 2012 |
@ Topic My gyno is a man . . . Initially it was weird but eventually I got used to it. I guess the professionalism of the Doctor matters a lot. Recently I had to see another doctor and he made me feel uncomfortable . . . kept saying I didn't look like a mother; asking hubby why he liked slim women; calling me 'sweet sixteen'; asking me how I got a scar in a very private place  e.t.c. I didn't think it was right for a doctor who got to see me naked to comment on my stature and ask embarrassing questions!  I could still have ignored the comments cos he came highly recommended but he did get a bit 'touchy'. Okay maybe I was already biased against him and could have mis-interpreted . . but God he gives me the creeps! Of course I stopped seeing him . . . . My point is that it's not such a bad thing for a woman to see a male gynecologist, but some Doctors can be perverts. So your wife has to be cautious and be ready to run at the slightest hint of un-professionalism! |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by here: 8:25am On Oct 30, 2012 |
..."its ok to be weak" Believe me I appreciate nairaland for the help several persons have gotten here but I must say its funny reading some comments and wondering if they are humans,but again they are a function of what has happened to them over the years,like some scar they dnt go away and when they advice you understand behind there is so much the world is more healthy not knowing about. Back to your post. If you are not ok with having your wife seeing a male gyny its perfectly ok,its just a phase you cannot process and no its not a must you must accept that(in certain societies this is provided for). (I have a relation who said 20yrs back that she would never be delivered by a male and this is in those communities where midwives in maternities were all you can smell,she had her 5 kids without being touched by a male). Yes some would say but what if there were complications and she was unconscious would she have had a say,no she wouldnt but in this case with her eyes wide open all she wanted was to have a say about who explores her based on the info she had and what the community could afford. I have seen 3 gynys in a labor room who couldnt count the heartbeat of an unborn baby and had to bring in the midwife to helpout and her say was what formed the last decision(Do you know why there is a female matron in every labor ward around?). Like to observe that most persons who would call you names are our fellow Christians,they dont know what they want in most cases and so blinded by ignorance.Its not about being jealous,its about what you want and does the society provide for such. In most northern states and FCT most moslem mothers dnt use male gyny and if they must they use the consultants except they cannot afford it(imagine a lady went to Nat Hospt and the male gyny told her to pull and lye,she being her first did hesitate,u cant imagine things this man said to her.After that preg I have been seeing this lady and I know something died in that human after that preg). If you're not ok by it discuss it with her(most cases she isn’t also bt have less info on where to register and scared of taking chances for the med sys we have) and you both get the female ones and consultants in major hosp should you need referal.Have you ever seen two women discuss such things as names of female consultants who are gyny or heard names of ones they consider very good,no. ...do u know people sue in some societies when they feel handled unprofessionaly? Maybe scared of their fellow women unconsciously with being entrusted with their lives. If you want Nigerian meals in Canada,go find it if you can afford it.Its there and dnt be carried away by those who feel why waste money or you dnt want to leave your village nature. Its your life,choose what you want if you can its sometimes called taste |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by tpia5: 10:35am On Oct 30, 2012 |
bjcole: i dnt knw if this topic has been posted b4, but i will like to know if its ok allowing one's wife to see a male gynecologst. Mine had a tear during childbirth, though it was sown, but a family friend that assisted during her recovery used too much of hot water on her. Later we discovered d stiches was coming out. So a midwife introduced us to a male gynecologist to restich it. So i will like 2 knw 4rm ladies if its just ok & 4rm guys, any emotional truama after this, though my wife is ok wit it. episiotomies are pretty routine- not sure why this is generating so much discussion. if you dont want your wife seeing a male gyne then by all means ask for a female one. its not a big deal, imo, and i personally think the issues should relate to how experienced the doctor is, not what gender is the doctor, but to each his own. if you're concerned about the doctor's professionalism, then that's a different matter. |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by tpia5: 4:44pm On Jan 23, 2013 |
i dont think its a big deal, but there are female gynaes, for those who arent comfortable with male ones. as has been pointed out. they've seen thousands of these things in their line of work?  |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Gambrosia: 10:09pm On Jan 23, 2013 |
Unbelievable. . . ! To think 'Sharia' mentality permeates all religions and culture regardless. I am short for words. A male gyn vs a female gyn? The black race really has a looooooooooooooooong ladder to climb!  |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by tpia5: 3:02am On Sep 04, 2013 |
bjcole: @ dare2think, i dont ve problem seeing a female doctor, but i cant remember going to one to inspect my private part or help shave d hair, or check if i my balls are still present, I dont why we cant compare things appropriately. Anyway thks 4 contributing does sickness know the doctor's gender? 1 Like |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by tpia5: 3:16am On Sep 04, 2013 |
dare2think: You clearly missed my comparison. thanks! |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Nobody: 12:06pm On Sep 04, 2013 |
uboma: @ op, i feel u. If its gonna be in a private hospital, u can as well accompany ur wife and be there during the procedure. Alternatively u could get a female family friend or female sibling (ur wife must be comfortable with d female friend/sibling) to be with ur wife during the process. In this way ur mind will be at rest that the doc aint trying anything funny.people like you are only afraid of WHAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF DOING YOURSELF.you should only be concerned about the well being of your wife and leave the gender of the doctor alone.that is not important at least as far as order of priorities is concerned 2 Likes |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Nobody: 12:24pm On Sep 04, 2013 |
tpia@:i tire o.infact the discomfort your wife is experiencing will not make her notice the gender of the doctor.this brings to my rememberance when me and my doctor friend were jisting some time back.he said when the husband of a patient took her to he hospital for child delivery because her water was already broken,it was only male doctors and male mid wives around.the woman was screaming in pains and the husband said he will wait till the female midwives comes.he doesnt want male doctors to see his wives vagina.they tried convincing him that they are not interested in the wife's vagina and moreover they have seen hundreds of vagina.he said he doesnt care,he just doesnt want any male to attend to his wife.of course he said they all left her.when the pain became unbearable for the wife and she started acting funny,she yelled doctor ema da oko mi lohun.i am ready o.on her own she pulled everything she was wearing.about 3 men were deeping hand inside the womans vagina to bring out the baby.so the point is when someone is in pain,she doesnt care about shame.so abegiii get a grip op 1 Like |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by tpia5: 3:05pm On Sep 04, 2013 |
stories like these remind one of hearing about the women who descend on their husbands in fury during delivery. that was quite insensitive, your wife is in pain and about to deliver YOUR baby, and you're still feeling coy about what exactly? if female health workers are available, fine, but when they arent, please let the baby get out with the assistance of whoever is there? this is one advantage of having some training in the health care field- you get familiar with every part of the human body. most unexposed folks base their impressions of the body on what they see in raunchy tabloids. then later they come back to complain of smell and whatnot after they find airbrushing isnt real. 1 Like |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by soulglo: 1:38pm On Sep 05, 2013 |
bjcole: Please. Stop. There is nothing wrong with your wife being stitched up by a male OBGYN. God forbid she was having a baby and either life was at risk would you then wait for a female OBGYN to get there? Not to be rude but your stance on this is embarrassing. You do not have to follow your wife there either. You will never ever be able to go to all her appointments. There will be times when she will need a male OBGYN. It is silly to be this obsessed about who provides this care to her. |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by wendycog: 6:13am On Sep 06, 2013 |
I am pretty conservative so when I had my kids, I was very particular about seeing female doctors. But the day I found a lump in my br3ast, I ran to the doctor's office and saw the male doctor who was available. He poked around, and made his diagnosis and then sent me for a mammogram, again done by a man. At the end of the day it wasn't as bad as I imagined. I think it should depend on your wife's comfort level and not yours. |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by itstpia8: 7:26am On Feb 17, 2015 |
i tire o.infact the discomfort your wife is experiencing will not make her notice the gender of the doctor.this brings to my rememberance when me and my doctor friend were jisting some time back.he said when the husband of a patient took her to he hospital for child delivery because her water was already broken,it was only male doctors and male mid wives around.the woman was screaming in pains and the husband said he will wait till the female midwives comes.he doesnt want male doctors to see his wives vagina.they tried convincing him that they are not interested in the wife's vagina and moreover they have seen hundreds of vagina.he said he doesnt care,he just doesnt want any male to attend to his wife.of course he said they all left her.when the pain became unbearable for the wife and she started acting funny,she yelled doctor ema da oko mi lohun.i am ready o.on her own she pulled everything she was wearing.about 3 men were deeping hand inside the womans vagina to bring out the baby.so the point is when someone is in pain,she doesnt care about shame.so abegiii get a grip op this husband sha, |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by sexylemo: 2:37pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
denzel2009: But why are Nairalanders wicked?? Lmao Had a good laugh mehn!  |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by itstpia8: 2:47pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Was it that funny? |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by KanwuliaJara: 2:52pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Nor be one 'man' disvirgin am, while one or several gif am belle? Na wetin she wan hide again wey man nefa see bifor? Na OBUDU CATO ranch? |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by druid06(m): 2:56pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara: Sorry for asking but your persona is so much alike to idwuogbo. Are you her? |
| Re: Anything Wrong With Allowing My Wife To See A Male Gynecologist by Jammiiee(m): 3:33pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
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