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Reasons why dating Is more difficult For Men Than Women by Dotwillis1(op): 1:29pm On Feb 19, 2015*

...Dating is doubly difficult for men than it is for women. The rules of the game have shifted in favour of the women decisively so much so that some men have completely given up on dating, and instead finding succour in video games, apps, and other things that generates money, lol. Do you agree?
Here are my reasons;

Fit Into A Stereotype

The general stereotype about guys is that they are either marriage material or mama's boy or too cool to be tamed and so on. It is demeaning to fit guys Into a stereotype because even they have distinct personalities. Rather than understanding men, women today find it easier to slot them into a stereotype and then decide whether they want to see
him again or not. No such pressures exist for women though. They can take their time to open up and dare you slot them into a category!

Increased Expectations

A man is burdened with expectations right from the beginning. He has to be brave, charming, funny,sensitive, emotional, built well, etc. Sinking under the weight of so many expectations, men who fail in some of these areas will find themselves isolated in the dating market for no other reason except that they couldn't satisfy ALL the expectations thrust upon them. Women, on the other hand, simply have to show up and let
their femininity do the talking.

Proving Commitment

A perennial bugbear with men at all stages of a relationship is the need to prove their loyalty and commitment to the woman they love. Sometimes this leads to bigger fights over the most mundane thing like not saying 'I love you' to your partner in a single day leading to the blame game. Please ladies, we don't accuse you of infidelity every chance we
have. Do return the favour to us too.

Satisfying Contradictory Societal Norms

In what kind of world would a man be manly enough to fix the broken wires in the house and yet also wake up in the morning to make breakfast for his partner to show how loving he is. He must be a
gentleman at all times yet he must know how to rock his woman's life in the bed. When he fights in public It's an issue but when he doesn't do anything, he's a
wimp. Seriously women, what kind of men do we have to be to have you in our lives?

Unrealistic Chivalry

With the rise of feminism and disposable income among the fairer sex, one would have thought that chivalry was on its way out. But this is another roadblock for guys. Most of us do not know how far
you want us to be chivalrous. We aren't sure if pulling the chair for you is going too far or whether not assisting in loosing your hair offends you. In an ideal world, we would know what to do but your mysteries have us tangled up in knots over how chivalrous we really need to be!

Too Much Pressure On Guys

Let's not even debate this. From having a high-paying job with great career prospects to reading a woman's mind every time and everything in between, the expectations placed on guys today is
enormous. Men need to be successful, smart, sexy, dependable and go-getters if they need a chance to score a date.

No Need To Be Understood

Women are always cribbing about not being understood. But, in fact, it is men who are taken for granted. Once in a while at least, we guys too would
like to talk freely without being judged. We want to share things but the fear of sounding like a sissy and societal pressures about stoically taking everything thrown at us 'like a man' is what bugs us

Your views?

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