₦airaland Forum

Justfollowit:
This is different. Yes, we imitate other western cultures. It is understandable for practices we have no alternatives and we cannot do without in this modern age however what is the essence of keeping those western cultures we can do without especially when we have got better alternatives in its place.

Two different cultural weddings for the same purpose, I say it is insanity and inferiority complex

bro @ur last statement, I have been saying that for ages now...very i diotic and inferiority complex I tell ya.

As for me. We do traditional first , go court and then do thanksgiving on Sunday

Oliveronline:
There are many things we do in Africa that's not a part of our culture from the beginning. you may as well throw your college degree in to the bin since it's un African. you may as well stop typing in English and start typing in your native dialect because every other thing is unafrican. you may as well stop wearing western attire because its unafrican. you may as well drop your religion and go back to the African religion of sango and all because its unAfrican.
Who told u education is not part of our culture from the beginning? Go and read about the early Egyptians. Africans were the first to go to school.. The first doctors, engineers, astronauts were Africans.

culture is subject to modifications to make life easier, but repeating things for no reasons as in white wedding is foolishness

itops:
To those that can do It , do it. If u can't , don't , is a thing of choice.

It's not any choice, I call it stupidity and show off.

joywendy:
really op no one is focusing you to do a white wedding.
just say you don't want to do it, than coming here to rant that it's unafrican. There is always a court marriage which is way much cheaper and faster, if that's your problem.

the trad marriage does it offer a certificate to prove that you are both married? i think not correct me if am wrong. that the most important thing in a wedding the marriage certificate.



There are many things we do in Africa that's not a part of our culture from the beginning. you may as well throw your college degree in to the bin since it's un African. you may as well stop typing in English and start typing in your native dialect because every other thing is unafrican. you may as well stop wearing western attire because its unafrican. you may as well drop your religion and go back to the African religion of sango and all because its unAfrican.

if you claim you want to boost the African culture.


ladies who tend to just be normal and don't apply facial makeup are seen as members of the s.u. when she does she is suffering from cultural slavery.
The generalization in your post irritates me.
i know some ladies who prefer trad wedding to the white one.

everyone knows that the white wedding isn't from Christianity. so what exactly are you blabbing about?

inferiority complex
i laugh in Swahili ain't you part of those Africans?
who discriminate others who are trying to continue the old culture by referring to some of things done has barbaric? you will be the first to point fingers at people who decided to wore bare on their feet and tie wrapper.

#smh

hypocrisy at it's peak.

Who told u education is not part of African culture?
Africans were the first to go to school...
The first doctors, engineers, astronauts, mathematicians were Africans..... Go nd read about the early Africans

DuchessLily:
What is white wedding?? It's only traditional wedding, church wedding and court wedding I knw oo...

@DuchessLily lets just allow the white wedding thing to remain because the muslims are on the white gown thing also... so calling it church!! no no, there should be room to accommodate other faith.

Rapmoney:
As the name implies, 'white wedding' is a cultural way of getting married in the western world. Why do Africans now see it as superior to the normal African cultural marriage where two families meet and dowry is paid? Of what sense does it make to do African traditional marriage and still crown it all with this so-called annoying white wedding? Must we Africans wear those ill-fitting suits and gowns to prove that we have now been married? I personally think Africans are relegating their culture to the background and promoting the white man's culture!

I overheard a colleague of mine at work telling someone that it is a sin to sleep with your 'wife' if the white wedding is not done, even though the dowry has been paid. To me, that is the highest level of cultural inferiority and slavery!!! Are we saying that our cultural marriage is not sufficient? That it must be completed by white wedding?

Our women are not helping matters because they are the most significant agents of cultural slavery. With so much artificial stuffs on them-fake hair(Brazilian, Indian, Peruvian, Venezuelan, Colombian etc), fake eye-lashes, fake nails, fake names, etc, none would want to be married only in our traditional way. Tell a naija girl that you would want only a trad and see the speed she go take leave you. Even the speed of a Bugatti Veron dey learn.

White wedding, over the years, has been erroneously seen by many Africans (Nigerians) as a Christian practice. If truth be told, white wedding has nothing to do with Christianity. All the marriages that are recorded in the Bible were done in the trad way...from Genesis to Revelation. Even the one Jesus attended and performed His first miracle was done in the Jewish trad way. Jesus never went there as a bishop, pastor, etc to officiate the marriage. He went as every other guests.

We need to promote our culture because the whites do not marry in our own way. This reminds me of Mr Okadu and Mr Tsiba, characters in Kobina Sekyi's 'The Blinkard'.

White wedding is useless and irrelevant in our culture. It makes mockery of us.

Lets discuss this monster eating the brains of our people? Thanks.

Nobody force you to do it. Leave those who believe in it. I really wonder why people always think their individual opinion can change an already enshrined culture. Whether you like it or not white wedding is already part of our culture. Culture is dynamic and changes with time.

Op is somehow very correct and joywendy I understand where u re coming from. Joywendy I want u to get something. CIVILIZATION IS NOT WESTERNIZATION

otipoju:
As for me. We do traditional first , go court and then do thanksgiving on Sunday

Yes bro! traditional first and then thanks giving in church on sunday......... and reception starts and ends with the traditional and in the traditional venue.

joywendy:
really op no one is focusing you to do a white wedding.
just say you don't want to do it, than coming here to rant that it's unafrican. There is always a court marriage which is way much cheaper and faster, if that's your problem.

the trad marriage does it offer a certificate to prove that you are both married? i think not correct me if am wrong. that the most important thing in a wedding the marriage certificate.




There are many things we do in Africa that's not a part of our culture from the beginning. you may as well throw your college degree in to the bin since it's un African. you may as well stop typing in English and start typing in your native dialect because every other thing is unafrican. you may as well stop wearing western attire because its unafrican. you may as well drop your religion and go back to the African religion of sango and all because its unAfrican.

if you claim you want to boost the African culture.


ladies who tend to just be normal and don't apply facial makeup are seen as members of the s.u. when she does she is suffering from cultural slavery.
The generalization in your post irritates me.
i know some ladies who prefer trad wedding to the white one.

everyone knows that the white wedding isn't from Christianity. so what exactly are you blabbing about?

inferiority complex
i laugh in Swahili ain't you part of those Africans?
who discriminate others who are trying to continue the old culture by referring to some of things done has barbaric? you will be the first to point fingers at people who decided to wore bare on their feet and tie wrapper.

#smh

hypocrisy at it's peak.

"Has barbaric?", "wore bare?"..wah dju mean? Cos I don't get...

I overheard a colleague of mine at work telling someone that it is a sin to sleep with your 'wife' if the white wedding is not done, even though the dowry has been paid. To me, that is the highest level of cultural inferiority and slavery!!! Are we saying that our cultural marriage is not sufficient? That it must be completed by white wedding?

I blame the government who has refused to acknowledge traditional weddings as a formal form.

Ishilove:
Necessary for?

Money is neutral, its what you do with it that counts. I regect the notion that its western in nature, cos it has been NIGERIAnised. Nigeria's own is filled with a lot of glamour and lavish spending, choosing of identical clothes and head gear by women, is that western in nature? Nigeria is such a country that modifies things, to fit our nature. Not doing it, people tend to see the wedding as dry (that's why its necessary). From the Alikos to the poor man on street, marriage is something you have to spend lavishly on. Look at how westerners bury their dead, why have we not copied it? Its simply because its not filled with the glamour women want.

Colomentality

If you say you be colonial man,
you don be slave-man before,
them don release you now,
but you never release yourself...

As simple as it sounds,na so e be. Na colomentality.
Xenocentrism

joywendy:
really op no one is focusing you to do a white wedding.
just say you don't want to do it, than coming here to rant that it's unafrican. There is always a court marriage which is way much cheaper and faster, if that's your problem.

the trad marriage does it offer a certificate to prove that you are both married? i think not correct me if am wrong. that the most important thing in a wedding the marriage certificate.



There are many things we do in Africa that's not a part of our culture from the beginning. you may as well throw your college degree in to the bin since it's un African. you may as well stop typing in English and start typing in your native dialect because every other thing is unafrican. you may as well stop wearing western attire because its unafrican. you may as well drop your religion and go back to the African religion of sango and all because its unAfrican.

if you claim you want to boost the African culture.


ladies who tend to just be normal and don't apply facial makeup are seen as members of the s.u. when she does she is suffering from cultural slavery.
The generalization in your post irritates me.
i know some ladies who prefer trad wedding to the white one.

everyone knows that the white wedding isn't from Christianity. so what exactly are you blabbing about?

inferiority complex
i laugh in Swahili ain't you part of those Africans?
who discriminate others who are trying to continue the old culture by referring to some of things done has barbaric? you will be the first to point fingers at people who decided to wore bare on their feet and tie wrapper.

#smh

hypocrisy at it's peak.

Who is this for God' sake must u always show ur ignorance and lack of simple understanding...so if u need cert for marriage why do we have registry all local local govt s secretariats....dnt even knw d way some pple think self

Misogynist2014:
Money is neutral, its what you do with it that counts. I regect the notion that its western in nature, cos it has been NIGERIAnised. Nigeria's own is filled with a lot of glamour and lavish spending, choosing of identical clothes and head gear by women, is that western in nature? Nigeria is such a country that modifies things, to fit our nature. Not doing it, people tend to see the wedding as dry (that's why its necessary). From the Alikos to the poor man on street, marriage is something you have to spend lavishly on. Look at how westerners bury their dead, why have we not copied it? Its simply because its not filled with the glamour women want.

You have a point. I have often wondered at the rationale behind aso ebi.

Oliveronline:
Who told u education is not part of African culture?
Africans were the first to go to school...
The first doctors, engineers, astronauts, mathematicians were Africans..... Go nd read about the early Africans

Astronauts?

They want to promote culture yet they talk about European premier league, listen to foreign music, sit all day to watch foreign movies, drive foreign cars, play foreign games, practice foreign religion, (abi how many of una dey practice African religion
),wear foreign designer clothes, suits and shoes, some don't even have a piece of African Clothing in their wardrobe.

Many do not give their kids the cultural names anymore, they all bear aliona, white, alora, audery, and so on, yet you open your mouth to condemn people, indirectly bashing women as usual like they are the only ones who copy western lifestyles . Yeh, Nigerian men can be shameless hypocrites.

@Op, even your username is unafrican . If you wanna condemn Nigerians' unafrican ways, then make sure you are 100% African, anything outside that is PURE HYPOCRISY and UTTER foolishness.

joywendy:
did u read my post?

correct me if am wrong. do you get a certificate from a traditional marriage?

thanks for the correction and you too alexchoce

Why would the English man do his wedding in the African way when he isn't African?
Are we not the ones who want do it their way?

if you choose to do a trad wedding and then getting a certificate, fine!

it's better than coming here to rant that the white wedding is useless, no one is focusing you people to do one.



we are as africans are not yet independent we still depend alot on the west than ourselves am not saying because of this we should abandon our culture no.

we are the roots of our own problem. We place too much emphasis on things that we shouldn't even be looking at, instead of solving and facing the real problems at hand.

i'm not a slave neither am i deceiving anyone here.
i just gave my own personal opinion and the truth. You are entitled to yours.

have a lovely night.

Lolz......... She is neither here nor there! What are you saying? Take a stand and stay put! Rep an average naija babe. Rant up and down..... Lolz.....

[quote author=joywendy post=27336850]i get that, but whose fault is that?

ask yourself that question.

no one is putting anything above the culture if we were, there will be no trad wedding at all to begin with.


like i mentioned earlier a certificate is not issued after a trad wedding so indirectly when you sleep with her after the trad, it is seen as not right. As you guys are according to the law not married.[/quote
LOL... Tell me u r joking!!!! After paying dowry u are not still legally married Go do some research about traditional marriage and wot d law says.

[quote author=joywendy post=27336850]i get that, but whose fault is that?

ask yourself that question.

no one is putting anything above the culture if we were, there will be no trad wedding at all to begin with.


like i mentioned earlier a certificate is not issued after a trad wedding so indirectly when you sleep with her after the trad, it is seen as not right. As you guys are according to the law not married.[/quote
LOL... Tell me u r joking!!!! After paying dowry u are not still legally married Go do some research about traditional marriage and wot d law says.

watching with 4D oooooo



Traditional Traditional wedding try am with igbo girls ur acct go turn Red

tete7000:
Nobody force you to do it. Leave those who believe in it. I really wonder why people always think their individual opinion can change an already enshrined culture. Whether you like it or not white wedding is already part of our culture. Culture is dynamic and changes with time.

Nobody forced u to buy the idea I hold either. So save yourself the stress!!!

tete7000:
Nobody force you to do it. Leave those who believe in it. I really wonder why people always think their individual opinion can change an already enshrined culture. Whether you like it or not white wedding is already part of our culture. Culture is dynamic and changes with time.

look at this slowpoke. Wedding in church is our culture? What fool trained u up?

Moukafoam:
A wedding that is not Biblical

White wedding is not even biblical but traditional wedding is
I jst don't get all this religious morons

KpagoGIN:
@DuchessLily lets just allow the white wedding thing to remain because the muslims are on the white gown thing also... so calling it church!! no no, there should be room to accommodate other faith.

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itops:
To those that can do It , do it. If u can't , don't , is a thing of choice.

It's a thing of pride for us as Africans to keep our culture and promote it. White wedding should be scraped

joywendy:
really op no one is focusing you to do a white wedding.
just say you don't want to do it, than coming here to rant that it's unafrican. There is always a court marriage which is way much cheaper and faster, if that's your problem.

the trad marriage does it offer a certificate to prove that you are both married? i think not correct me if am wrong. that the most important thing in a wedding the marriage certificate.



There are many things we do in Africa that's not a part of our culture from the beginning. you may as well throw your college degree in to the bin since it's un African. you may as well stop typing in English and start typing in your native dialect because every other thing is unafrican. you may as well stop wearing western attire because its unafrican. you may as well drop your religion and go back to the African religion of sango and all because its unAfrican.

if you claim you want to boost the African culture.


ladies who tend to just be normal and don't apply facial makeup are seen as members of the s.u. when she does she is suffering from cultural slavery.
The generalization in your post irritates me.
i know some ladies who prefer trad wedding to the white one.

everyone knows that the white wedding isn't from Christianity. so what exactly are you blabbing about?

inferiority complex
i laugh in Swahili ain't you part of those Africans?
who discriminate others who are trying to continue the old culture by referring to some of things done has barbaric? you will be the first to point fingers at people who decided to wore bare on their feet and tie wrapper.

#smh

hypocrisy at it's peak.

God does not need a certificate to recognise marriage, it is the humans that created a certificate. Did anyone in the Bible collected certificate? Certificate is for human regulation and not God's. Your marriage is recognised immediately your parents ascend to it and blesses the union with witnesses around. Traditional marriage is it then go to the marriage registry to get your certificate after due process has been followed.

selfemployed:
One bottle of lacasara for u with a gala.

imagine. the church can not wed someone unless the person has done the traditional wedding.

why not merge the both together. carry ur pastor and church members to the traditional wedding and wear a white traditional dress.
after everything, come to church on sunday and give thanks.


how about WEDDING RECEPTIONS, that thing need to be scraped. i don't attend any.

It makes no sense! Just a waste of money and time!

I'm just here to read comments.
But if the plan succeed and no more white wedding, i will be happy, infact, i will marry early and save the #600,000 i would have spent on white wedding on my children school fees.

hayorbaami:
They want to promote culture yet they talk about European premier league, listen to foreign music, sit all day to watch foreign movies, drive foreign cars, play foreign games, practice foreign religion, (abi how many of una dey practice African religion
),wear foreign designer clothes, suits and shoes, some don't even have a piece of African Clothing in their wardrobe.

Many do not give their kids the cultural names anymore, they all bear aliona, white, alora, audery, and so on, yet you open your mouth to condemn people, indirectly bashing women as usual like they are the only ones who copy western lifestyles . Yeh, Nigerian men can be shameless hypocrites.

@Op, even your username is unafrican . If you wanna condemn Nigerians' unafrican ways, then make sure you are 100% African, anything outside that is PURE HYPOCRISY and UTTER foolishness.

This reply is so unintelligent. Sorry to say. There are no absolutes in nature. The op is saying why do you have to get married traditionally and westernly? Westerners listen to our music, they wear our brands, eat our food, dance to our beats, watch african nations cup which is our football(just the way we reciprocate as you highlighted) BUT don't get married the African traditional way. Why then do we marry westernly

I don't like white wedding, I'm sorry..I love traditional wedding, it z beautiful, always *love struck*
Bt joy z right to an extend, went to a club w out make, earings n all those n d niccur that I went w ws just giving me attitude..lol