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Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Yinkame123(m): 5:35pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
joywendy: 2 Likes |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by bawz012(m): 5:36pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
u can argue from today till forever... but d point is that every one has the right to choose wat he /she thinks is right for him/herself... period! 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Iyowuski: 5:37pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
joywendy: joy u and certificate.... abi INEC go ask for am wen i want run for election |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Yinkame123(m): 5:40pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
We need to understand the contest of the argument of the writer to really appreciate its substance. While we tend to mix Marriage and Wedding together despite there clear difference, our suitable ladies are refusing getting married to eligible suitors because they cannot afford the so-called white wedding which is just an ordinary ceremony that contributed no value to the newly married couples. That is more reason why you see ladies that above 30 and 40s still remained single. If you married at age 40 or above how will you not use your pension paying school fees? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Sharp9: 5:40pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
tiamiyukunle69:We can even invite d pastor(s) to come and bless d union during d traditional wedding. win win for both d church and tration. simple 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Ericsdm55(m): 5:42pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Some post here are very irratating. It's sad that some people took this post personal. The op gave his points and they were very convincing. We don't need white wedding only by choice. 2 Likes |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by tete7000(m): 5:48pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
macof: You know your problem? You are poorly educated and rebellious towards anything church and you carry that into different aspects of life. Culture I repeat is dynamic (ask people who went to school and are trained in this area). Elements from other cultures that gets in contact with our traditional society gets assimilated into our culture and becomes part of our lives and culture. Christianity if we are to list elements of our contemporary African culture will be listed as one of our modern religion. Since our forefathers embraced Christianity, they invariably embraced white wedding, so if you don't want or believe in white wedding its your right; find a wife from the traditional religion, pay her bride price and go to the shrine to marry her. Stop talking trash and confuse people here. Many who are Christians are not oppose to white wedding. Leave them with their right and conscience. You can also see you are the illiterate and slowpoke. 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by stinggy(m): 5:48pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Amusaopeyemi: 1, 000 likes You sound so much like a friend of mine, very brainy. Why attach so much import to a silly sheet of paper or that miserable piece of metal I am African. I hate white weddings! Chimkaire, it is still 12AM, meet me under the agreed Oshodi bridge and let's tie the knot 3 Likes |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by bengoodcreature: 5:49pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
My bro. God wld bless u for this post, many young men now are so scared of geting maried cs of d white-weding expenses, dont forget that without trad , there wld be no white weding, let Africans cut our Coat acording to our material tanx |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by thaoriginator: 5:50pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
God bless the OP |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by devour129: 5:51pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
I believe the most important wedding is the traditional wedding .this is done in presence of family ,kinsmen and witnesses . In Igbo land ,the woman goes home with the hubby that day( where am from ) that means she is married , her bride price has been paid and they both can do whatever they want with their bodies . White and court is just formalities. 3 Likes |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by todayguest(m): 5:56pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Should we discard anything western and pick up our old cultures, because we don't want to be termed slaves? I think we should thank the westerners for coming. They have unarguably changed us for the better.However, White wedding(wearing suits and gowns) shouldn't be made compulsory in our church weddings. Pastors should accept intending couples in our own attires. 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by tete7000(m): 5:57pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Rapmoney: The way you talk out your idea sounded imposing and you make it sound like the whole world should listen and buy your idea. If you doubt me, review your language. It is why I replied you. I am a Christian, I believe in Church's wedding for what it is as much as I respect a certain aspect of traditional values. Christians have long ago renounced some of their traditional values and embraced certain values that accompany their new found faith. Church wedding is part of it and every elements of that ceremony has a significance. It is for serious Christians and not for everyone. You are free to opt out of it if you are not a Christian. 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by devour129: 5:58pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
bengoodcreature:why should they be scared ? A person scared of expenses just have complex ! Do your thing according to your pocket , no body can force you to over spend unless you want to . The truth is nobody cares unless you put it out there. Went for a white wedding in Abuja on a Friday evening and reception in Apple bees wuse 2 . The couple never marry ? They don marry if you are busy thinking it was low key for your pocket . Went for another wedding in lag and the reception was in the guys home ,matter don end . There's no problem with doing all three but there's a problem when you want to do like your friends when you don't have like them. You can do a low key wedding and 20 years down the line renew your vows in a splendid way. Don't get carried away , cut your coat according to your size and marry someone who doesn't give a hoot about society ideas of wedding . 4 Likes |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by tete7000(m): 5:59pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Rapmoney: The way you talk out your idea sounded imposing and you make it sound like the whole world should listen and buy your idea. If you doubt me, review your language. It is why I replied you. I am a Christian, I believe in Church's wedding for what it is as much as I respect a certain aspect of traditional values. Christians have long ago renounced some of their traditional values and embraced certain values that accompany their new found faith. Church wedding is part of it and every elements of that ceremony has a significance. It is for serious Christians and not for everyone. You are free to opt out of it if you are not a Christian. |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by SIRTee15: 6:01pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
joywendy:The fact that you got so many likes for this rubbish you wrote shows the high number of empty skulls residing in this country. for your information, Africans were the first set of people to open universities in this world. go and read about university of Timbuktu, a school founded more than 1000 years ago. at its peak it had over 25,000 students and 700,000 books. it awarded degrees in medicine, mathematics, and postgraduate degrees. pls, grab a book and read before coming online to display your ignorance. 6 Likes |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by ribbit: 6:03pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Rapmoney:absolutely.. Nigerian women are the reasons why our culture is dying today.. Even if you pack 100 atheist or traditionalist here now you will barely see 3females amongst.. They so much like anything foreign... I still don't get why. If you go to churches today, na women dey full there. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by tete7000(m): 6:09pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Yinkame123: My brother, the grand ceremony that often accompanies church's wedding is a choice. I am a Catholic and have witnessed many quiet weddings done on week days at morning masses with only few family members and invited guest in attendance. People can do without lavish spending at Church's marriage but marriage has special significance in Christianity and as such a true Christian cannot dispense with it. It is only God acting true his minister that can consummate marriage. Any other without God is spiritually null And void. 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Nobody: 6:13pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Rapmoney: It's better as you said we made our culture inferior to there's,because if you look at some African(nigerian) marriage practice and culture like, floging the groom in fulanis culture, apesing some nonsense stature gods and others,will tell you it's better we follow there's. 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by otipoju(m): 6:14pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
KpagoGIN: When I was in Lagos, I no too dey wear native, when I reach here , I lived with some white friends, I rock different variety so try dem sey make I help dem get one. One even said, I like you a lot, you are so comfortable in your own skin. I said yes. Being african allows me to experience life to the fullest unlike you guys. You society is well organized but that is where it ends. I teach all of them to say " no wahala". I love being Nigerian . 3 Likes |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by SIRTee15: 6:17pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
tete7000: Oga I'm a Christian but I don't your theory Personal revelation is subject to different interpretations, so don't come here and expound unsubstantiated facts as the truth. Clearly show us in the scriptures where this so called church wedding is a must. if u fail to do so, then don't come here and ascribe church wedding as a core value to the Christian faith. please, start acting like the bereans' and stop allowing your pastor to brainwash you. |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Neplusultra(f): 6:17pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Thank God its just an opinion 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by SIRTee15: 6:19pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
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Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Rapmoney(m): 6:21pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
ribbit:They prefer to be seen as slaves of the white man's culture. |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Cornel88(m): 6:23pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
joywendy:Joy you fall wendy hand for this post. Eya, i feel for you o. |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by canalily(m): 6:23pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
joywendy:pls direct me, where did Jesus give certificate of marriage in the Bible |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by tete7000(m): 6:30pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
SIRTee15: If you claim you are a Christian and you want to start sleeping with a woman God has not joined with, then you must be living in grand delusion. The bible says 'what God has joined together, let no man put asunder'. If I may ask: 'At what point does God join a couple together?' At traditional marriage or in the Church? Traditional aspect were actually prelude to the ultimate Church's ceremony. Traditional aspect are only done to fulfil all righteousness (i.e. Done not to offend our traditional values not in opposition with Christianity), for a Christian they don't translate into legitimate marriage before God. This things have been before you are and they will remain after you are gone, your opinion changes nothing but you can start your own church and spread your own doctrine. Many have done that but please don't impose in on everyone. My church has a structure and doesn't have pastors who impose personal opinion on members. Only Churches found by your type does that but I am immune to your type of rebellious ideas. |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by tiamiyukunle69(m): 6:36pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Sharp9:abi o. At least no be curse we go curse for there now. |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by joywendy(f): 6:46pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Cornel88: lol! Thanks, but pls don't. I brought this upon myself by commenting on something i had little knowledge on and letting my emotions guide me. It is all part of life, at least i have learnt something today 4 Likes |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by Obaino2013(m): 6:55pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
Justfollowit: 1 Like |
Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by timoney45(m): 7:04pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
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Re: The Uselessness Of White Wedding In African Societies!!! by devour129: 7:07pm On Feb 23, 2015 |
tete7000:what about the bible saying whatever you do to your neighbor ,you done for me or whatever in bound on earth is bound in heaven . You cant say God won't recognise trad wedding. In fact to each man his own , the most important thing is we have been given the ability to discern what is right or wrong . I strongly believe trad in presence of our presence of our earthly presence trumps all others , the rest is just the paper which in Nigeria to an extent doesn't mean much coz people still do whatever they like . 1 Like |
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