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Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Slimmos(m): 3:58pm On Mar 01, 2015
HoneySwag:



Omg! Do u knw dat u insultd me? Wat d hell wil warant such,do u knw me b4... Don't ever in ur life insult me again cos am nt 1 of those gals u throw stupid words on
i dont know u b4 but by ur choice of words, i know u type and i know u are d gold digging type. u want to reap where u didnt sow... dont reply me again if not u wilk hate urself
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by HoneySwag(f): 4:02pm On Mar 01, 2015
Slimmos:
i dont know u b4 but by ur choice of words, i know u type and i know u are d gold digging type. u want to reap where u didnt sow... dont reply me again if not u wilk hate urself

wats wrong wit u,stop insultin me for God sake....
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by shegxi(m): 4:23pm On Mar 01, 2015
D biggest problem is dat we do not think for ourselves as a people, we like to major on d minors. Wheneva u allow people's opinion/outlook to define ur life, u're definately gonna run into trouble. In d end, dose we try to impress dn't rili mata in grand scheme of things.
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by SWG1: 6:50pm On Mar 01, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Trash! White wedding is a waste of resources, it's not biblical. People need to be wise and stop chasing shadows. Paying of the woman's bride price is what expected of every male Christian to perform even the celebration after paying the dowry is a total waste, I don't subscribe to it. Any pastor that refuses to recognise a wedding done traditionally needs to be questioned if he truly understands the bible.

Pls don't get it twisted, in white wedding u have the church solemnization and then the party which must of us call reception. As a Christian I are under obligation to go before God's presence with a priest present to join the man and the woman. The reception is your choice and whatever u spend to put a facelift or impress people is your choice too. Pls think about this, don't deprive urself of the church blessing Cos of reception . You might as well merger ur reception and traditional wedding.

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Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by afamgod(f): 7:27pm On Mar 01, 2015
What is all these noise about high cost of white wedding? In my church, wedding is as free as the air we breath. Whether you hold a reception or not and how much you spend on it(if any) is ur choice. All that is required is parental consent and presence of some witnesses.
Christianity came from the western world so also white(church) wedding. You can't accept Christianity and reject white wedding. It is taking ur marriage to the alter of God before the presence of God's people. IT IS NOT A WASTE OF TIME.
At first i thought the op was talking about high cost of bride price/dowry.

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Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by fuckerholic(m): 7:43pm On Mar 01, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Trash! White wedding is a waste of resources, it's not biblical. People need to be wise and stop chasing shadows. Paying of the woman's bride price is what expected of every male Christian to perform even the celebration after paying the dowry is a total waste, I don't subscribe to it. Any pastor that refuses to recognise a wedding done traditionally needs to be questioned if he truly understands the bible.
Baby you just changed my mind now about my marriage plans..if we can have up to 1000 women. Like you in the nation I tell you there will be a change in mentality
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by ammyluv2002(f): 7:45pm On Mar 01, 2015
fuckerholic:

Baby you just changed my mind now about my marriage plans..if we can have up to 1000 women. Like you in the nation I tell you there will be a change in mentality
Tnx dear! We really need to change our mentality especially on matters like dis

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Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Slimmos(m): 8:09pm On Mar 01, 2015
HoneySwag:


wats wrong wit u,stop insultin me for God sake....
madam mgbeke stop quoting if not u will receive more insult
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by HoneySwag(f): 9:26pm On Mar 01, 2015
Slimmos:
madam mgbeke stop quoting if not u will receive more insult

na ur mama be mgbeke god punish u,e no go beta for u idiot frustrated fool. U dis animal because i dey kip quiet abi.. ur useless mama na gold diga,ur sis na cheap LovePeddler ur entire family nai u dey insult.
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Evina(f): 9:37pm On Mar 01, 2015
anukulapo:



You can have your way. Traditional wedding only is rather becoming the order of the day. More people are embracing the truth (which always sets people free) and damning the sentiment of "church white wedding" burden.



You can follow my pattern. Tell them that they should carry the burden of the party while you alone pay for the bride price.
Moreover,awon lo ye ki wan se igbeyawo for omo (na dem suppose dey proud of doing marriage for their child)

Lol. In this regard, I can't have my way. My Fiance says there MUST be a white wedding. He wants it and I can't deny him his wish.

We also do NOT like the idea of asking family to pay for anything, except in cases where they may consider it a slight. Even after we said no asoebi, family still decided to do their thing. Lol.
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Evina(f): 10:10pm On Mar 01, 2015
anthoniaz:

You are right.
Make up=60k
Hairdo =10k or even more than
Gown =70k and above.

Here is what I did during my wedding, I called a friend to help me style my hair that morning because my hair is my brazillian weavon grin I so love my hair that I can go a year without weavon or braids.The least amount I was told by people I contacted for make up, was 50k.I spent about 45k buying the things I need which will last me for more than a year and did my make up myself.I also did not buy my gown, I rented a gown.

Even if the money is there, sometimes it's wise to cut
cost.. I don't do what people say or think; I do what is best for me.Some them were like,"it's only one day"do this do that,"get a cheap brazillian weavon" and I said nooooooo.

Some people spend big money for make up and gown and end up with a ring of 5k which won't last a month before it changes colour.

Wow gurl! You look beeyouteeful wink
Well, I initially planned on making myself up, but oga said NO WAY! Lol.
You gown is soo lovely. I wanted to rent, but we got a really "bad" gown from davidsbridals. I don't feel so bad cos I will bless someone with it.
Honestly, I would like to have a really simple and intimate wedding, but it won't happen. My Fiance's favorite quote these days is, " money is earned, to be spent". But, I am just too frugal. tongue, I like to save and spend "wisely".

I'd rather spend on a good vacay, than on a ceremony that'd have people come assess, speculate and gossip about your networth.

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Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by anthoniaz(f): 10:13pm On Mar 01, 2015
Evina:


Wow gurl! You look beeyouteeful wink
Well, I initially planned on making myself up, but oga said NO WAY! Lol.
You gown is soo lovely. I wanted to rent, but we got a really "bad" gown from davidsbridals. I don't feel so bad cos I will bless someone with it.
Honestly, I would like to have a really simple and intimate wedding, but it won't happen. My Fiance's favorite quote these days is, " money is earned, to be spent". But, I am just too frugal. tongue, I like to save and spend "wisely".

I'd rather spend on a good vacay, than on a ceremony that'd have people come assess, speculate and gossip about your networth.
Lol...thanks.
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Nobody: 10:35pm On Mar 01, 2015
Evina:


Wow gurl! You look beeyouteeful wink
Well, I initially planned on making myself up, but oga said NO WAY! Lol.
You gown is soo lovely. I wanted to rent, but we got a really "bad" gown from davidsbridals. I don't feel so bad cos I will bless someone with it.
Honestly, I would like to have a really simple and intimate wedding, but it won't happen. My Fiance's favorite quote these days is, " money is earned, to be spent". But, I am just too frugal. tongue, I like to save and spend "wisely".

I'd rather spend on a good vacay, than on a ceremony that'd have people come assess, speculate and gossip about your networth.
Remember to send my IV smiley
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Slimmos(m): 10:53pm On Mar 01, 2015
HoneySwag:


na ur mama be mgbeke god punish u,e no go beta for u idiot frustrated fool. U dis animal because i dey kip quiet abi.. ur useless mama na gold diga,ur sis na cheap LovePeddler ur entire family nai u dey insult.
i know ur type.... those razz poor smellows looking for a man they will prey on
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by anukulapo: 11:02pm On Mar 01, 2015
Evina:


Lol. In this regard, I can't have my way. My Fiance says there MUST be a white wedding. He wants it and I can't deny him his wish.

We also do NOT like the idea of asking family to pay for anything, except in cases where they may consider it a slight. Even after we said no asoebi, family still decided to do their thing. Lol.
Ok. That solves it then. In as much as the "burden" is not from outsiders.
Asking family to pay for it is not like you can't afford it. Just that if there is any luxury they want that won't fit into your budget,they better handle it.
It is well. You will only take as much as you can.
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Rapmoney(m): 11:35pm On Mar 01, 2015
Lennylinconlee:


Guy u make me laff away my sorrow dis first day of the mnth.........you mean we have e-warriors in nairaland........laffin in grandstyle
Yeah bro. Real e-warriors o! grin
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by anukulapo: 7:56am On Mar 02, 2015
sophtaf:
its actually nt a bad idea cuz those ppl olso helpd one way or the other in raisin her too buh that's nt the case here.we talkin bout the items u'r to take to her parent and probably grandparent n I believe that has nth to do with feeding the"whole world" as u put it!
They better include her primary and secondary school teachers, and her lecturers' things on the list too. They also help one way or the other in raising her.
Lolz.
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by sophtaf(f): 9:17am On Mar 02, 2015
anukulapo:

They better include her primary and secondary school teachers, and her lecturers' things on the list too. They also help one way or the other in raising her.
Lolz.
it was a contract and they were paid!
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Evina(f): 10:02am On Mar 02, 2015
anukulapo:

Ok. That solves it then. In as much as the "burden" is not from outsiders.
Asking family to pay for it is not like you can't afford it. Just that if there is any luxury they want that won't fit into your budget,they better handle it.
It is well. You will only take as much as you can.

smiley wink

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Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Evina(f): 10:04am On Mar 02, 2015
AgapeCharis:
Remember to send my IV smiley

Oh sweetheart, do you mind being my "man" of honor? Aka maid of honor, aka chief brides maid? grin

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Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Atigba: 10:46am On Mar 02, 2015
Funjosh:
A friend of mine is about getting married to a benin woman, and the list giving to him is approximately 1.5m sad
I don't believe this
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Funjosh(m): 10:51am On Mar 02, 2015
Atigba:

I don't believe this

Ho! You need the pix of the list or what
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Nobody: 11:08am On Mar 02, 2015
Evina:


Oh sweetheart, do you mind being my "man" of honor? Aka maid of honor, aka chief brides maid? grin
Hahahahahaaa

Sure I will grin
Anything for you wink
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Atigba: 11:13am On Mar 02, 2015
Funjosh:


Ho! You need the pix of the list or what
We don't charge bribe price up to that amount
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Evina(f): 11:44am On Mar 02, 2015
AgapeCharis:
Hahahahahaaa

Sure I will grin
Anything for you wink

cheesy kiss smiley
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Funjosh(m): 12:34pm On Mar 02, 2015
Atigba:

We don't charge bribe price up to that amount

Yea I think you are correct, its like is the girl family that decided to Bill the man was told may be becos her dad wasn't alive again lipsrsealed
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Atigba: 12:40pm On Mar 02, 2015
Funjosh:


Yea I think you are correct, its like is the girl family that decided to Bill the man was told may be becos her dad wasn't alive again lipsrsealed
The girl family is on their own



The last marriage conducted in my family we only collected 25 naira as official bribe price and some list
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by HoneySwag(f): 1:13pm On Mar 02, 2015
Slimmos:
i know ur type.... those razz poor smellows looking for a man they will prey on

story for d gods.... U empty vessel, poor mentality,u dey craze,e no go beta for u,dem tell u say i dey find man,useless fool
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by Funjosh(m): 1:51pm On Mar 02, 2015
HoneySwag:


story for d gods.... U empty vessel, poor mentality,u dey craze,e no go beta for u,dem tell u say i dey find man,useless fool


shocked shocked shocked
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by steppin: 1:55pm On Mar 02, 2015
HoneySwag:


story for d gods.... U empty vessel, poor mentality,u dey craze,e no go beta for u,dem tell u say i dey find man,useless fool
Honeyswag, carpenter fit use this your legs do plank. grin
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by anukulapo: 2:00pm On Mar 02, 2015
sophtaf:
it was a contract and they were paid!
I bet they imparted more than they were paid for.
Re: How Marriage Has Become A Luxury In Nigeria by bukatyne(f): 2:04pm On Mar 02, 2015
anthoniaz:

You are right.
Make up=60k
Hairdo =10k or even more than
Gown =70k and above.

Here is what I did during my wedding, I called a friend to help me style my hair that morning because my hair is my brazillian weavon grin I so love my hair that I can go a year without weavon or braids.The least amount I was told by people I contacted for make up, was 50k.I spent about 45k buying the things I need which will last me for more than a year and did my make up myself.I also did not buy my gown, I rented a gown.

Even if the money is there, sometimes it's wise to cut
cost.. I don't do what people say or think; I do what is best for me.Some them were like,"it's only one day"do this do that,"get a cheap brazillian weavon" and I said nooooooo.

Some people spend big money for make up and gown and end up with a ring of 5k which won't last a month before it changes colour.

You still look very beautiful with the cost cutting

Luckily for me, I went shopping with my mum and cous so I could rely on their experience of 'this is a waste', 'that has a substitute' etc. Looking back now, I might have still cut on little stuffs ....

Most of those stuffs end up as waste and occupy space grin

The important that is the life afterwards which a lot of people don't care about

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