ITbomb:
Baby mama is when you have a baby for a celebrity or politicians who used and dump you for a more responsible woman
While
Single parent is when you don't know the father or the father is just not capable of going ahead with marriage

ZedX6:
The term babymama has got to the the most _stupid and degrading word ever invented. More foolish are the ladies who wear such badge with pride.

Dumbass, a man finds you attractive enough to sleep with, you father his child, but he doesn't fancy putting a ring on it and making you his wife? What are you? A FOOL!

You'll be _stupidly grinning when you're called "olamides babymama" for instance, and not his wife? It may sound fun now, but when you have growing past the age of stupidity, you are bound to regret your foolish actions.

Attach more respect to yourself! You weren't created to be anyone's cum bucket. . . I have no respect for babymamas and randy babydadas - they are all fools.

luxanne:


Thank you, you've spoken indeed well.

Was thinking about this term some days ago trying to fathom why it got embraced in Nigeria and couldn't come with any good reason, its sad really and more sad is the fact that these baby mamas are all cuties with loads of men drooling over them, how they choose to be a baby mama instead beats my imagination. SMH!

ZedX6:
It's a popularity stunt that lasts only a few years. . . They do it for money and fame. You know something about babies? After a while, they aren't so cute anymore. That's when reality bites. . . No man really wants a lady who is someone else's toy or is someone's else's babymama or has been some babymama somewhere, unless it's just for sex.

I wonder why the dumbass feminists aren't kicking against this trend. They are more concerned about equality with men. . . Kmt

ZedX6:
It's a popularity stunt that lasts only a few years. . . They do it for money and fame. You know something about babies? After a while, they aren't so cute anymore. That's when reality bites. . . No man really wants a lady who is someone else's toy or is someone's else's babymama or has been some babymama somewhere, unless it's just for sex.

I wonder why the dumbass feminists aren't kicking against this trend. They are more concerned about equality with men. . . Kmt

luxanne:


All for the money and fame -VANITY. Couldn't agree less.

But this fight is not a fight for the feminist alone. This degrading trend concerns all, male and female alike - we've got sisters, nieces and cousins who are females and we will one day grow our own daughters. If the feminist aint doing nada about this maybe because this issue hasn't been brought to their awareness, it doesn't also mean we should be quiet as well.

Ok lemme ask you this, have you done or written some awareness talk on ur social accounts about this growing trend? If you haven't, then am sorry to say you also like the feminist doing nothing to curb this trend, we are all guilty.

Would call on a friend to write something about this on her blog, should be a good start.

Mizmycoli dear, I've got an interesting topic for your blog on here, holler!

akinsadeez:



Why would feminists kick against it? 'Babymamaism' plays directly into what most of them express or want. Feminists advocate constantly for the emancipation of women even in marriages. They will argue that a woman should have d right to choose to have children without the constraints of being married or being in a man's house. Most feminists believe that the notion that a woman has to be married, be under a man's roof or take a man's name is wrong. Remember when Beyonce wanted to go on tour and named her tour 'the Mrs Carter tour'. She was severely criticized by some feminists who felt she was sending a wrong message to young girls by using her husband's name as d title of her tour.
Bro, if a woman is living alone, taking care of her child without necessarily depending on d man, she is d poster child of feminism.

akinsadeez:


But why is it that only the woman faces the opprobrium in cases like this? For every baby mama there is a Babypapa. Why can't we address babypapas with the same disdain? Flavor has a baby mama but says he is still single and searching.... people were quick to criticize d babymama without anything being said about Flavor himself. It takes two to make a baby doesn't it?
I think the focus should be more on the men. If men become more responsible the incidence of babymamarism will reduce. Don't impregnate a lady if you are not ready to wife her, simple.

MizMyColi:
*screeches into thread*
*grasping for breath*

Phew Phew!

Luxanne Dear, I'm here
Please inspire me.

luxanne:


LoL

You need to talk about this growing trend bae, it concerns us greatly. We need to know the minds of this babymamas, what makes them become this way and then proffer a way out, an alternative worthy choice. And most importantly, we also need to educate our younger females about this growing trend (which to me is gaining grounds by the day) they need to be enlightened and guarded in their relationship path.

Now how about that for an inspiration coli

I'm about to derail this thread.
Please bear with me, it's just one post --- hopefully.


BabyMamas.......
You see why Chubhie's post hit me where it did?

I remember, not too long ago, I felt this surge of compassion for people in this category.
I thought to write about them, and possibly seek a successful single mum's (I prefer that please) [A teenage or young adult one.] take and then craft a wholistic message from that.

But I became scared of how people'd perceive me and dropped that idea.
I somehow convinced myself it wasn't worth it.
Now I'm back on the same matter.

I dropped that idea at a time when I came under attack both online and offline.
I was very very very emotionally unhealthy at the time.
Toxicness everywhere!!!!!!!

But I'm in a better place now.
I hope the cosmos helps me gather my thoughts on the matter again and talk about it with the same passion I had back then.

So yes, thanks dear.
I am, inspired.

MizMyColi:



I'm about to derail this thread.
Please bear with me, it's just one post --- hopefully.


BabyMamas.......
You see why Chubhie's post hit me where it did?

I remember, not too long ago, I felt this surge of compassion for people in this category.
I thought to write about them, and possibly seek a successful single mum's (I prefer that please) [A teenage or young adult one.] take and then craft a wholistic message from that.

But I became scared of how people'd perceive me and dropped that idea.
I somehow convinced myself it wasn't worth it.
Now I'm back on the same matter.

I dropped that idea at a time when I came under attack both online and offline.
I was very very very emotionally unhealthy at the time.
Toxicness everywhere!!!!!!!

But I'm in a better place now.
I hope the cosmos helps me gather my thoughts on the matter again and talk about it with the same passion I had back then.

So yes, thanks dear.
I am, inspired.

Thanks Lux Luv.
Tanchuuuuuu

luxanne:


but thread has already been derailed with our talk on babymama strictly whereas the op was asking a question on the Difference between "baby mama" and "single parent", apologies OP (Tokiniofficial), we shall take our leave now after this post


Oh dear! Sorry you had to go through all that, damn! but am superglad, superglad the pain made you a better being We'l get there, a step at a time - being more better, grounded in knowledge and wisdom, and understanding of both ourselves and people than our former self did. Not an easy feat to pass thru but surely worth the pain all the way.

According to maslow hierachy of need (which you know of), its our utmost desire and wish to be loved by all and not be found wanting or even when found wanting, be corrected in/with love but in reality, its ineveitable dear and so for the sanity of our minds, spirit and soul, we have to learn to accept some things we can't change.
So bae, go ahead and do your thing, Be your own damn motivation. You don't need a fanclub to achieve your purpose in life, you ONLY need YOU first and then people who believe in your vision no matter how few they are.

We are all a work in progress!

And to add in your research, talk to more single mums as you can, one is too small a number to draw a wholistic conclusion on, contrary views will definitely arise, we shall read, learn, advice and take corrections where need be. All the best bae and you are most welcome anytime

ZedX6:
The term babymama has got to the the most _stupid and degrading word ever invented. More foolish are the ladies who wear such badge with pride.

Dumbass, a man finds you attractive enough to sleep with, you father his child, but he doesn't fancy putting a ring on it and making you his wife? What are you? A FOOL!

You'll be _stupidly grinning when you're called "olamides babymama" for instance, and not his wife? It may sound fun now, but when you have growing past the age of stupidity, you are bound to regret your foolish actions.

Attach more respect to yourself! You weren't created to be anyone's cum bucket. . . I have no respect for babymamas and randy babydadas - they are all fools.

prettythicksme:
Too know #what are u saying?absolutey rubbish!

ZedX6:
Dumbass, what have you said?

Are you a babymama? Did my words hurt you, turtle?

prettythicksme:
i am not a babymama but ur words hurt when u call innocent people silly names!

ZedX6:
Ok, turtle.

Name the innocent people I was referring to.

prettythicksme:
Bleep off goat ,u are so annoying!

prettythicksme:
Too know #what are u saying?absolutey rubbish!

meanwhile,,we are yet to see your own meaningful contribution

tokiniofficial:
Hello to my esteem NL readers.
So i was confused during a chat i had with some friends about how the term "baby mama" started. Basically "baby mama" is mostly used by celebrities that have children outside wedlock. So my question is what's difference between "baby mama" and "single parent" ?

naijaboiy:

meanwhile,,we are yet to see your own meaningful contribution

ZedX6:
You're a cretin.

You quote me unnecessarily to engage me in unless banter?