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queencalipso:
Who ever said money is not important in a r/ship doesn't knw wht he is saying. Money is important no matter how small. I use to think so until I dated a broke guy for how long will ur woman continue to come to ur house without u offering her tp for once yet u will always like to see her, u don't offer her money for her hair do or evenn body cream no matter how small even though she doesn't ask yet u will want her to look Good and sexy. Even if a woman does everything for her self a day will come when she will throw it back at ur face bcz a woman will always be a woman she expects u to do somethin for her no matter how small

Bottom line is, money is very very important in a r/ship at least for the simplest of thing that keeps a r/shp going only love is not enough.

thank you for being truthful and sharing your experience

henribj:
thank you for being truthful and sharing your experience

thank um this thread also reminds me of a thread that said broke guys should not ve access to sex even if that is not entirely true there is some sense in wht she said nnow b4 u guys crucify me, let's just say a lady eventually falls in luv with a broke guy, they made luv and unluckily for them she gets pregnant now tell me how will this broke dude handle it, even if they decide to abort it where will the money come from? If it come from the lady bcz her man is a broke ass how long will she continue to love u and mk luv to u knowing fully well that she alone will bear the pain,n the risk and the financial burden of wht u both enjoyed. All the guys in this forum where busy cursing and calling her all sorts of name without giving a deeper thought to it apart from the gold digging aspect.
Though I think she would ve said broke and lazy guys bcz me I try to look beyond the present status of a man unless he is the lazy type

Lastly wht mks a man is not ur age nor ur third leg but ur ability to handle responsibilities, mk decisions and live with consequences of ur actions.

queencalipso:
thank um this thread also reminds me of a thread that said broke guys should not ve access to sex even if that is not entirely true there is some sense in wht she said nnow b4 u guys crucify me, let's just say a lady eventually falls in luv with a broke guy, they made luv and unluckily for them she gets pregnant now tell me how will this broke dude handle it, even if they decide to abort it where will the money come from? If it come from the lady bcz her man is a broke ass how long will she continue to love u and mk luv to u knowing fully well that she alone will bear the pain,n the risk and the financial burden of wht u both enjoyed. All the guys in this forum where busy cursing and calling her all sorts of name without giving a deeper thought to it apart from the gold digging aspect.
Though I think she would ve said broke and lazy guys bcz me I try to look beyond the present status of a man unless he is the lazy type

Lastly wht mks a man is not ur age nor ur third leg but ur ability to handle responsibilities, mk decisions and live with consequences of ur actions.

yeah ur right. Calypso, d name reminds me of d greek goddess dat seduced oddyseus in d movie odyssey

ronald4lif:
Yes money is very important in a relationship, like some one posted earlier it role can never be over emphasised. Not like it is the most important but it plays a very vital role in a relationship. In life, money is like oxygen. It's true that money doesn't solve every problem in life but it makes the search for solution a lot easier. What's there to live for in life without money and what can one be able to achieve or attain fulfilment for without money? Now when you juxtapose the importance of money in life to that of a relationship it importance in a relationship is not far fetched.

How do you put up with a relationship without money? It's possible but the chances are very slim. For starters, let's understand what ignites a relationship and makes it interesting. Most things that enhance a relationship are of monetary value. Some of which includes; surprises, great time outs, dinners, showing that you care and can at least be there for your partner at her 'trying times', and putting 'smiles' on their faces.

In a Nigerian setting, how do you put up a smile in a girls face when you don't have money? By running errand for her and washing her undies abi lol?. Let's say you wake up in the morning and like it's expected you need to hear your woman's voice, how do you do that when your phone balance is running low? What surprises do you want to put up with her with a less than 5K account balance. Okay it's weekend and she tells you she wants to see you, as we already know when a girl says that is for you both to hang out prolly in an eatery so how is that possible when you got no money? What about hairdos and some once in a while gifts.

It was because she was looking good and flashy that made you got attracted to her no be so? She had some sexy wears on, the right make up, and you liked what you see. Do you think they are cheap items. No dear they aren't. If she had not spend her little fortune to appear that way you may not have found her attractive. There are a lots of girls who are more beautiful than her but who can't afford any of those things, hence doesn't appear that attractive, but we don't look their way twice, all eyes are on the shining babes. Better soup na money kill am remember. Been to facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc and see the women with most likes and followers? You must be shinning, wearing sexy stuffs. Those stuffs are money mehn.

I have heard a lot of guys say why can't their parents buy them these things they demand from guys and some other incomprehensible stuff, their parents are not chyking them, we the guys are.

Almost everything in life is all about money, relationship can't be an exception. There's no point to complain about it, if one can't put up with a girl due to lack of money then let her be. Search for girls who don't care about money as much. Oh sorry, forgot they are not as sexy and appealing like the bling bling girls we all love. Sad!

You made good points but you messed it all up by making it sound - PLEASE GIRLS...PLEASE GIRLS.. IT'S ALL ABOUT THE GIRLS. This is a bad mentality that makes most of our females to leech on us males. It's pathetic. Must it be the men that will take care of the bills? If the ladies work for their monies and take care of themselves, will they die? Must a BF provide all these things? We are not talking of marriage o. Is the BF her father. Your advice screams - ladies look fab at the expense of your BF. If he can't provide for you, dump his ass.

I don't pray for such girls. If every Nigerian girl take up the mentality in your posts, I'll marry outside our shore. WTF!!

This your advice - "In a Nigerian setting, how do you put up a smile in a girls face when you don't have money? By running errand for her and washing her undies abi lol?. Let's say you wake up in the morning and like it's expected you need to hear your woman's voice, how do you do that when your phone balance is running low? What surprises do you want to put up with her with a less than 5K account balance. Okay it's weekend and she tells you she wants to see you, as we already know when a girl says that is for you both to hang out prolly in an eatery so how is that possible when you got no money? What about hairdos and some once in a while gifts." sucks!!

No wonder foreign ladies are working to be independent and we're here encouraging ours to live a dependent life. BS!!

queencalipso:
thank um this thread also reminds me of a thread that said broke guys should not ve access to sex even if that is not entirely true there is some sense in wht she said nnow b4 u guys crucify me, let's just say a lady eventually falls in luv with a broke guy, they made luv and unluckily for them she gets pregnant now tell me how will this broke dude handle it, even if they decide to abort it where will the money come from? If it come from the lady bcz her man is a broke ass how long will she continue to love u and mk luv to u knowing fully well that she alone will bear the pain,n the risk and the financial burden of wht u both enjoyed. All the guys in this forum where busy cursing and calling her all sorts of name without giving a deeper thought to it apart from the gold digging aspect.
Though I think she would ve said broke and lazy guys bcz me I try to look beyond the present status of a man unless he is the lazy type

Lastly wht mks a man is not ur age nor ur third leg but ur ability to handle responsibilities, mk decisions and live with consequences of ur actions.

This is the scenario you get when the lady is also a BROKE ASS. Two of them are broke asses. Stop making it a man affair!!

queencalipso:
thank um this thread also reminds me of a thread that said broke guys should not ve access to sex even if that is not entirely true there is some sense in wht she said nnow b4 u guys crucify me, let's just say a lady eventually falls in luv with a broke guy, they made luv and unluckily for them she gets pregnant now tell me how will this broke dude handle it, even if they decide to abort it where will the money come from? If it come from the lady bcz her man is a broke ass how long will she continue to love u and mk luv to u knowing fully well that she alone will bear the pain,n the risk and the financial burden of wht u both enjoyed. All the guys in this forum where busy cursing and calling her all sorts of name without giving a deeper thought to it apart from the gold digging aspect.
Though I think she would ve said broke and lazy guys bcz me I try to look beyond the present status of a man unless he is the lazy type

Lastly wht mks a man is not ur age nor ur third leg but ur ability to handle responsibilities, mk decisions and live with consequences of ur actions.

well spoken. but why would two ppl in a relationship who are not ready for kids be having unprotected sex?
having sex should not mean you should be stupid while having sex nah
if the dude wants to have unprotected sex, the gf should stop him
if the gf wants unprotected sex, the bf should stop her
two of them no need be stupid at the same time
as per being broke, we all know what 9ja is all about, not all broke dudes are lazy, na just economy dey mess men up

wait o, i think we all need to understand that not every relationship is based on love, yes the guy can love the girl, but the girl will like him, or vice versa.
if a girl truly loves her man, believe me, she will never ask him for that which she knows he can not do/provide

[quote author=sinizia post=31502207]This is the scenario you get when the lady is also a BROKE ASS. Two of them are broke asses. Stop making it a man affair!! [/quote
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I guess u didn't read my comment, didn't u see where I mentioned the girl bearing the burden alone both in finance? Now how will she be able to do that if she is a broke ass. My point is she will not hold onto that r/ship for if she alone will continue bearing the burden without a single help from the guy. She will definitely be having a second thought abt that romance