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Hi nairalander.
Please I need some logical reasoning in this issue I'm about to raise here. I don't need no lectures on how to run my life just your fair opinions. Thanks.

So I am seeing this awesome young man who adores me and really wants us to be happy at all times. I do my own bit too and he really appreciates my efforts all the time. I am one person who really takes my time in a relationship before opening up GRADUALLY but with him, it was different. We connected with speed and I opened up like a crazy flower. And No, I didn't hop into bed with him (we are on the 180-days-rule roll *heeheehee*).
In my past relationships, I hardly spoke my mind. I stomached a lot of nonsense and accommodated all forms of excesses. But I had a self talk before meeting the present guy and I believe that was one factor that contributed to the new direction in our relationship. I say things I want to say. Apologize when I have to. Say yes or no when I want to.
At first I was scared that being that brazen might push him away but as he encouraged me to be that way, I relaxed. I let him know the things that piss me off and one of them is hanging up the phone on me. One day after a heated argument (we can argue like we were in a law court), he hung up on me. In anger I sent him a strongly worded text message, warning him sternly to "NEVER EVER HANG UP ON ME EVER AGAIN!" The following day he called me and reprimanded me for that SMS saying that I was not humble. He took his time telling me that humility requires I do not say or send such words to my man. I apologized and we made up but I made it clear to him that I did not share that opinion with him. So in that context, can someone define humility for me? Does it mean I shouldn't express my anger and disappointment at my man? Does it mean I should keep accommodating all excesses and shut up and never speak up even when am dying inside?

Note: I give him the maximum respect he deserves that sometimes he could get almost pissed at the way I treat him cos he wants me to place him on the same pedestal with every regular guy which I don't want to do every time. Come on, he is special nah...

Please forgive every possible grammatical blunders.

Sorry, I can't read all these stuffs! I am on for accreditation

The funny thing about humility is the second you think you have it, you don't.

0p, ur charm worked, I couldn't bliv I read dat long note, plz kindly return my wasted Mb for opening ds thread cuz nuffin consyn me wid ur relationship.


#thank u