Sophyrocks:


My dear, pulling this stunt wont work on me. People have been and are still contracting statutory marriage. Pointing at that guy and coming up with baseless theories are a waste of your precious time. nothing you can do. Let f00lish women continue to marry bad men. None of my bizwaxxx.

courts in Nigeria can't do much oh...they work on what the guy is willing to share or part with... why are women going into marriages with poverty?

Emaprince:
adoption? Lol...there's nothing like going through labour for your own kid. Not all women are killers my dear. But majority of our women does not marry who they loves but who has money. And that is the problem. As for going to grave with my money lmao..your blood dey boil o!..I'll give the world to my kids..my wife will be the happiest and most beautiful woman on earth..I won't divorce except if the woman is unfaithful. But then, women are the ones that goes to grave with their money because they don't spend it.

There are many women who have adopted. Many peple have used sperm donors. It wont be a big deal if all of men stay away from marriage. we women will take as the norm and adjust accordingly. We will only be concerned about kids and not you men. So No problem. Since you've gt it all figured out, why is this topic burning you up?

ferdimako:

u did not get me. Gbenga's wife has been listing all she wants and no court has granted her any. It is not by doing registry marriage oh...it is ur right to seek a redress if u are being wronged whether married or not. again u know only what he revealed but why do women marry strange rich men?....I think that is y d need for all talk.

ladies dat marries rich guys cos of money, na dem sabi. Am married 2 my heartbeat.

ferdimako:

courts in Nigeria can't do much oh...they work on what the guy is willing to share or part with... why are women going into marriages with poverty?

Ask the women in poverty and yourselves too. Why do you men marry women from poverty stricken homes?

nortcentrallord:
All these ladies shouting court marriage is a must and all that, 'll you marry yourselves in court alone?
A whole lot of folks don't even know what court marriage entails and the rights of both parties once bound by such oath.
In this age of sporadic divorce surrounded by child support and alimony. A whole lot of folks don't care about marriage not to talk about court whatever.

If you look. The amount of poverty is high in Nigeria and the affected people is mostly the women.
Can you imagine this., I have to divide my hard earn money. Which I and I alone work for it.



NIGERIA WOMEN AND THERE MENTALIY, ALWAYS THINKING Of WAY TO SUCK MEN DRY.

Busuyib:
ladies dat marries rich guys cos of money, na dem sabi. Am married 2 my heartbeat.

Good for you. If he misbehaves in the future and u want a judgement...u head to court and not that who didn't do a registry marriage isn't allowed to sue. Anybody can sue or be sued.

Sophyrocks:


Ask the women in poverty and yourselves too. Why do you men marry women from poverty stricken homes?

To help them...if they say rich guys should marry rich women only...omo eh...Oso ataa! But u can't dictate the tune when u are just the Piper.

ferdimako:

To help them...if they say rich guys should marry rich women only...omo eh...Oso ataa! But u can't dictate the tune when u are not the Piper.

So why the crying out in the end if these same women are to claim your properties? The men flash all these riches at their faces so why cry foul?

Sophyrocks:


So why the crying out in the end if these same women are to claim your properties? The men flash all these riches at their faces so why cry foul?

flash? u come in and see riches...how can a rich guy flash his wealth on a poor soul?...u were just overwhelmed and now want to call the tune. That is not fair!

ferdimako:

flash? u come in and see riches...how can a rich guy flash his wealth on a poor soul?...u were just overwhelmed and now want to call the tune. That is not fair!

How will a woman come in if she didnt see the riches flashed at her face. All men with ego who have money flaunt it. He will flaunt it anywhere he goes. dnt pretend men dnt have their roles they play. Money is worshipped in nigeria.

What do you mean by call the tune? Men who make money, who have they been making it for? is it not for women and children? why has it suddenly become a crime for your wife and kids to have a share from your properties? That means your making money has been in vain. If thats the case, let all men carry their money to the grave or dnt bother working at all to render themselves useless..

Sunnypar:
7 REASONS WHY YOU ARE NOT
GOING TO GET MARRIED
1) You have TRUST ISSUES, you
claim you have been hurt before,
and so it's difficult for you
trusting someone else again.
Well unless you go for
Counselling, just like you believe,
IT WILL ALWAYS BE DIFFICULT
FOR YOU TRUSTING ANYONE, and
sincerely speaking, without trust
a Relationship or Marriage can
NEVER survive.
2) You grew up in the midst of
FAMILY SECRETS, and had to tell a
lot of lies to cover up perceived
shame. And now you have
become a Pathological liar. Even
you are amazed at how you
can't say anything without
telling a lie. You want to tell the
Truth, but it is foreign to you.
Without Truth, you can't build a
lasting Relationship or Marriage.
Someday, EVERY LIE you have
told will come to light, and you
will be found out to be a
STRANGER, anyone and everyone
should run away from. Why
don't you seek Counselling.
3) People say you are Proud, but
don't know that it's because you
have a Complex. You have done
a good job exhibiting a
Superiority Complex to keep
people from coming closer to
you, because if they do, you
don't believe they will truly like
you as you are. Even you don't
like yourself, and that attitude
may be tough in a Relationship
or Marriage, because it takes a
person who loves and accepts
himself to love and accept
others. So with the help of an
expert, run a Personal Check on
yourself to have a very good
understanding of your
Personality, and how to make it
work for you.
4) You are NEVER wrong. As far
as you are concerned, you
believe you are the Seat Of
Wisdom. And so everybody
knows you are ready to argue
about anything and everything,
because you just have to be
right, while everybody else is
wrong. The way you get Angry is
also alarming. Haven't you
noticed that people are always
eager to stay away from you?
Now that won't work in a
Relationship or Marriage,
because it's only those who
prefer someone else to
themselves and are ready to
make the other person take the
shine, that relationship and
marriage works for.
5) You are Self-Serving and
Selfish. You always do things for
YOURSELF, and have no one else
in mind. So you cheat because
even though you are getting
80% of what you need from
your friend, you take it for
granted and go in Search of the
20% you think you are not
getting, but need from someone
else, and eventually lose the
Diamond in your possession
while going after Glitter.
Marriage only looks good on
those who put the other person
first and into consideration,
before they consider themselves.
6) There is a hole in your heart,
and no matter how many people
try to love you, you cannot
receive love. You drink, smoke,
and have sex with anything and
anyone. Commitment is difficult
for you. You are not even
committed to yourself, not to
talk of another Person.
Unfortunately for you, Marriage
requires TOTAL COMMITMENT or
nothing else. Get Counselling,
find out the root cause and deal
with it.
7) You have No Relationship
with God. Really? So why do you
want to get married? Don't you
know Marriage was instituted by
God. YOU NEED A RELATIONSHIP
WITH GOD IF YOU WANT TO GET
MARRIED AND STAY MARRIED!
But Jerome, I don't agree with
you, I have some of these flaws
and I am married today.
Really? Do you think having a
Wedding is the same thing as
Getting Married? I know you had
a big wedding, but ARE YOU
MARRIED?
Consultation with Jerome is not
free.
Whatsapp +2348037194335
SOUNDmind 2AFF30BF
jerome@jeromeis talking.org
08053JEROME.

Chineke .. I didn't even see this !

Brother, why choose my thread to advertise your topic, biko kwanu ?
What I asked was for your humble opinion on the issue @ hand, and not some research on why not to get married..

Pls, make use of the 'Create A Topic' Handle.. Twill suit you better..

God bless..

Sophyrocks:


How will a woman come in if she didnt see the riches flashed at her face. All men with ego who have money flaunt it. He will flaunt it anywhere he goes. dnt pretend men dnt have their roles they play. Money is worshipped in nigeria.

What do you mean by call the tune? Men who make money, who have they been making it for? is it not for women and children? why has it suddenly become a crime for your wife and kids to have a share from your properties? That means your making money has been in vain. If thats the case, let all men carry their money to the grave or dnt bother working at all to render themselves useless..

Haha...she must have seen the wealth ahead and concluded marrying even before the proposal. Anyway...rich men take care of their wives and kids. Even poor or not-so-rich husbands try their best. Wives can't remind men what is good but wives want to take over the wealth...that's the thing. Enjoy what u get or go make more if u are discontented.

Sophyrocks:


How will a woman come in if she didnt see the riches flashed at her face. All men with ego who have money flaunt it. He will flaunt it anywhere he goes. dnt pretend men dnt have their roles they play. Money is worshipped in nigeria.

What do you mean by call the tune? Men who make money, who have they been making it for? is it not for women and children? why has it suddenly become a crime for your wife and kids to have a share from your properties? That means your making money has been in vain. If thats the case, let all men carry their money to the grave or dnt bother working at all to render themselves useless..

Or they should kiss marriage goodbye.. Btw, it isn't meant for everyone..

If trusting the one lady you'll live your life for isn't worth it, then, don't bother going in..

I asked a question which no one has answered. Going by possession (since that's the part most men here are trolling), what if the lady/woman/wife is wealthier??

ferdimako:

Haha...she must have seen the wealth ahead and concluded marrying even before the proposal. Anyway...rich men take care of their wives and kids. Even poor or not-so-rich husbands try their best. Wives can't remind men what is good but wives want to take over the wealth...that's the thing. Enjoy what u get or go make more if u are discontented.

I am telling you that there is no man with ego who has riches that doesnt flaunt it in the presence of women especially if he is a womanizer. so i will take it that you cnt accept the truth. Wives do not strive to take over wealth for they know that parts of it are to go to the kids. In fact, thats the major concern of every woman except she is just a golddigger. But whose fault is it that a man ends up with a gold digger? Its no one but his. Only a f00lish man whoo gets carried away with beauty, b00bs and a$$ fall into the traps of golddiggers. Its left for you men to look well before leaping. Make good choices of wives. shikena!!

Sleekyshuga:

Or they should kiss marriage goodbye.. Btw, it isn't meant for everyone..

If trusting the one lady you'll live your life for isn't worth it, then, don't bother going in..

I asked a question which no one has answered. Going by possession (since that's the part most men here are trolling), what if the lady/woman/wife is wealthier??

Hardly u see women coming in with their wealth. From where sef? Anyway if she has she will be looking for a rich guy. I don't think a guy will sue his wife for the sole aim of getting her wealth.

Sophyrocks:


I am telling you that there is no man with ego who has riches that doesnt flaunt it in the presence of women especially if he is a womanizer. so i will take it that you cnt accept the truth. Wives do not strive to take over wealth for they know that parts of it are to go to the kids. In fact, thats the major concern of every woman except she is just a golddigger. But whose fault is it that a man ends up with a gold digger? Its no one but his. Only a f00lish man whoo gets carried away with beauty, b00bs and a$$ fall into the traps of golddiggers. Its left for you men to look well before leaping. Make good choices of wives. shikena!!

Men get all the blame all the time. Rich men don't marry real wives...that is the prize they pay.

Sleekyshuga:

Or they should kiss marriage goodbye.. Btw, it isn't meant for everyone..

If trusting the one lady you'll live your life for isn't worth it, then, don't bother going in..

I asked a question which no one has answered. Going by possession (since that's the part most men here are trolling), what if the lady/woman/wife is wealthier??

Exactly. Marriage is nt by force. It isnt doorway to the kingdom of God. Its nt everybody that is well suited for marriage so if they see that they cnt share any of their possessions, they should remain single. Dnt mind them. They have forgotten there are many women who earn more than their husbands. I guess to them its a sin for a woman to be richer.

ferdimako:

Men get all the blame all the time. Rich men don't marry real wives...that is the prize they pay.

Gbam. So nobody should cry foul. Men get women who could stand by them when they had nothing. Things start getting rosy and the men decide their women are too old or not their class. then they end up with gold diggers. They forget their riches attract gold diggers. If they are married, they start cheating and spending millions on wh0res. And when they die, the same wh0res upgraded to baby mamas have shares in their wealth. So you see. You men make your money for women. I wonder why you men bother so much about women taking your wealth when you chase these same women everyday.

ferdimako:

Hardly u see women coming in with their wealth. From where sef? Anyway if she has she will be looking for a rich guy. I don't think a guy will sue his wife for the sole aim of getting her wealth.

Hardly, you say?
Funny you!!

I have loads and loads of examples..

Presently, my kid sis course mate (a boy) will be getting married by April (next month).

Sponsor: Girl + her parents.

Another is coming up by June..

Sponsor: The lady and her parents..

@ Boldened:
The younger guys jump @ that option @ every given chance that surfaces..

Ever asked yourself why would a young boy settle down for a 70 years old woman?

Still rare ??

Sophyrocks:


Gbam. So nobody should cry foul. Men get women who could stand by them when they had nothing. Things start getting rosy and the men decide their women are too old or not their class. then they end up with gold diggers. They forget their riches attract gold diggers. If they are married, they start cheating and spending millions on wh0res. And when they die, the same wh0res upgraded to baby mamas have shares in their wealth. So you see. You men make your money for women. I wonder why you men bother so much about women taking your wealth when you chase these same women everyday.

The wiser men don't want it and the women can't understand. All men are not the same.

Sleekyshuga:

Hardly, you say?
Funny you!!

I have loads and loads of examples..

Presently, my kid sis course mate (a boy) will be getting married by April (next month).

Sponsor: Girl + her parents.

Another is coming up by June..

Sponsor: The lady and her parents..

@ Boldened:
The younger guys jump @ that option @ every given chance that surfaces..

Ever asked yourself why would a young boy settle down for a 70 years old woman?

Still rare ??

For papers if it is abroad...the ladies here must be old...no option for now.They divorce later though.

Sophyrocks:


Exactly. Marriage is nt by force. It isnt doorway to the kingdom of God. Its nt everybody that is well suited for marriage so if they see that they cnt share any of their possessions, they should remain single. Dnt mind them. They have forgotten there are many women who earn more than their husbands. I guess to them its a sin for a woman to be richer.

Dad will always tell us: The way ladies chase after all-ready made men is the same way men chase after all-ready made women..

Gone are the days when men settle for liabilities, and vice versa.. A lady should be a product of who she represent; wealth, knowledge, ideas etc.

My dad gave lots of examples of ladies who made their men (now husbands) who they are today..

Sleekyshuga:

Dad will always tell us: The way ladies chase after all-ready made men is the same way men chase after all-ready made women..

Gone are the days when men settle for liabilities, and vice versa.. A lady should be a product of who she represent; wealth, knowledge, ideas etc.

My dad gave lots of examples of ladies who made their men (now husbands) who they are today..

We appreciate when ladies are bright and educated..if those translate to wealth..fine. But is the talent only to make men? Few men are gold diggers but the women involved must have been old with some sort of milk cow. Not necessarily her cow.

ferdimako:

For papers if it is abroad...the ladies here must be old...no option for now.They divorce later though.

And the old lady has no possession?
Just the paper? No, Sir..

Ooogh!!! They divorce, still ?

So, why are you getting pissed @ the ladies?

Sometimes, you meet your kind of people.. A greedy man entangles with a greedy lady..

ferdimako:

We appreciate when ladies are bright and educated..if those translate to wealth. But is the talent only to make men?

A bright lady's idea can help her husband's venture..

A bright lady's success rubs on her soul mate (which is her husband), and kids..

A bright lady's connection can uplift her man..

A bright lady succeeds... Her husband succeeds..

Sleekyshuga:

And the old lady has no possession?
Just the paper? No, Sir..

Ooogh!!! They divorce, still ?

So, why are you getting pissed @ the ladies?

Sometimes, you meet your kind of people.. A greedy man entangles with a greedy lady..

Most guys who marry 70-yr-olds do that abroad and largely for papers.

I'm not pissed at ladies..I want the type for building the house together and that is what I will have or...

Sleekyshuga:

A bright lady's idea can help her husband's venture..

A bright lady's success rubs on her soul mate (which is her husband), and kids..

A bright lady's connection can uplift her man..

A bright lady succeeds... Her husband succeeds..

Let it transcend in monetary values if u worry on his finances most. That is my point! Not you are educated and he must be rich follows...go get d cash too. Rubbing off on the kids, we see that and appreciate..not what to sue sb for.

ferdimako:

Most guys who marry 70-yr-olds do that abroad and largely for papers.

I'm not pissed at ladies..I want the type for building the house together and that is what I will have or...

The papers + her wealth inclusive ..

Then, work towards it ..

Sleekyshuga:

Dad will always tell us: The way ladies chase after all-ready made men is the same way men chase after all-ready made women..

Gone are the days when men settle for liabilities, and vice versa.. A lady should be a product of who she represent; wealth, knowledge, ideas etc.

My dad gave lots of examples of ladies who made their men (now husbands) who they are today..

Thank God you brought these examples. I have an uncle whose wife made him a manager in a bank by her connections. I even see how men are now hammering on marrying ladies who have jobs. No more liabilities. so what do these men making noise here have to say about that? In cases where both husbands and wives share properties together and even contribute equally financially, you wont see all these grammer peeps are blowing here. You would even be surprised that men who have women feeding them are here making noise. Gold digging is in men as much as it is in women jare.

ferdimako:

Let it transcend in monetary values if u worry on his finances most. That is my point! Not you are educated and he must be rich follows...go get d cash too. Rubbing off on the kids, we see that and appreciate..not what to sue sb for.

Where you get my point(s) wrong..

I was never of the opinion that an educated lady must marry a very wealthy man.. "Every lady to your own".

I was more concerned with ladies who are wealthier, though few but they still do exist.

Btw, marriage comes with its own blessing..

Sleekyshuga:

The papers + her wealth inclusive ..

Then, work towards it ..

No that was before... I'm marrying a Nigerian here in Nigeria. Not for her wealth but for the fact she's learned and willing to start a union with muah.

Sleekyshuga:

Where you get my point(s) wrong..

I was never of the opinion that an educated lady must marry a very wealthy man.. "Every lady to your own".

I was more concerned with ladies who are wealthier, though few but they still do exist.

Btw, marriage comes with its own blessing..

OK...I was talking abt those who get educated and bleach up..then start making list of demands.