Frind d legal perspective, statutory/court marriage is d best form of marriage. In a society whr we have all dis repugnant culturens which are mostly against d women and female inheritance.
Some men often make the mistake that if a persn or ur wife asks u to write a Will it means she wnts to kill yu. Same thing applies to court marriage. In some places it is d siblings or family of d man that inherits esp if he has no male child. Who will take care of ur wife and kids if somting apuns to yu?
The benefits of court marriage is that where thr r traditions not favourable to ur wife and kids in d event of ur death d court will apply provisions of d law. Dat repugnant cutural law won't apply. Bt if u didn't do statutory mariage and d custom is dat ur eldest bro tkes over ur properties, if he sends ur kids to d village and his kids abroad thr is nothing d law can do for ur wife and kids.

Napoleone:
I get your point but you know it is now rampant to see people marrying strangers. Especially because someone jilted them

You bear your cross !!

Cos a man jilted me is no good reason to jump on the next band wagon..

Well, i will agree to court wedding last 4yrs buh not now..

I ve laboured my ass, acquired som properties that i cant stand to lose any for a lady.

Yes shez my wife buh d truth is that women of this 21st century cant b trusted nd having d knowledge of mysef i cant cope wiv any bullsh1t frm a lady..




My Opinion thou...

TNX, well comprehensive n educative write up quotee author=Napoleone post=32152013] When couples get married in the registry and when they are issued with the certificate, they will get in the registry, by a licenced place of worship, it has the same effect. As regards divorce, it is only a court of competent jurisdiction that can divorce the couple and they must prove that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. As regards the fate of the children, the court applies the "welfare principle" in deciding whether to award the custody of the children to the husband, wife or third party. The Act requires the court, in awarding custody of children, to regard the welfare of the children as paramount consideration. In other words, the court gives the child to the person that can take proper care of them.[/quote]

Sleekyshuga:

Napoleone made strong points, and I am grateful a man is seeing it from my own perspective..

Sincerely, I wasn't really digging into the property trash, and all that..

I asked someone: What if the lady turns out wealthier?

My major concern was for the lady, and her kids..
. A Kick against domestic violence..
. Child(ren) Care Support..
. It curbs excesses, e.g unfaithfulness ..

Everyone is civil, and acts according to the Law!!

I think Chibwike needs to see beyond the woman enjoying his property. How about his children? Don't you think if we close our eyes so a bad person can pass by, even a good person will pass? I repeat, why on earth will you marry a woman you are not ready to share you life, body and property with? Besides, if you don't do court marriage, your family may not allow your children to enjoy your property. I have a classmate that's a complete Orphan and is being sustained on her parent's property. Thanks to statutory marriage.
However, if you're the selfish type that doesn't want your wife to inherit your property, it's very simple, just make a will as early as possible and update it regularly. That's all!

brianperpetual:
Dats nt love! Bt contracted love!!

Clarify me, dear..
#Lost#...

What's not Love? Court marriage or.....

Inasmuch as I share the opinion of those advocating for court marriage, I also perfectly understand the fears of those who are against it. Marriage is supposed to be a blessing, but some just turn out to be the opposite. I used to be against celebrities who insist on contract, but I came to understand it. Some people actually incite the divorce for selfish gains, in most cases the women.
My dream & prayers has always been to marry someone who I wouldn't hesitate to share even my own life with, who would undoubtedly do same for me. But then, Ideal happens to be entirely different from reality. I just learned about the prenuptial stuff for the first time, it's a good way to go. If all things go well, it'll never be remembered afterwards.

Court .marriage is cheap. In Nigeria court marriage is more or less seen like a charade where all manner of people come to get certificate whether for real or for fraudulent intention.

I know a guy who stood in for his brother who lives abroad in a court wedding.

In a church wedding you go through a six months marriage class and they issue you both the church and court certificates.

So the long run is the final decision of the couple concerned.

Sleekyshuga:
It's quite a lengthy topic but also, an eye opener . Your patience is appreciated.

What Is Marriage?
It is a union between a man, and a woman who makes a permanent, and exclusive commitment..
It is otherwise called Matrimony or Wedlock..

What Is A Court Marriage? It is a legal back up union between a man, and a woman or the sealing of a marriage by Law..
***********************************

I got into a conversation with a friend this afternoon. He talked about his intentions to settle down when he comes back home (Nigeria, since he has been in Asia) by December.

He literally asked for my assistance in helping him search for a lady he can settle down with. I vividly remember the last time we spoke (Sept. 2013). When I asked about his girlfriend, he said she was fine, and that got me a little confused.
************************************

Fast forward to today.....

Jenny: You want to settle down?
Agozie: Yes!
Jenny: What happened to your girlfriend?
Agozie: She is fine.
Jenny: Why are you in search of another lady when you have a girlfriend?
Agozie: Her problems are much.
Jenny: *eager to know*.. What kind of problems?
Agozie: She is constantly asking for a court marriage.
Jenny: And what's wrong with that?
Agozie: Hmmmm... Ladies, and your sense of reasoning. She wants to 'Reap where she did not sow'. Traditional and white wedding is OK for us..

It got me thinking, and I got interested.. I randomly asked few males on my list (25-32 years) range on their take on court marriage.. I'll try to quote them..

1st guy: Why court marriage when I'll properly get married to her? Court marriage na for people wey get belle b4 marriage or people wey their parents no gree give approval..

2nd guy: I've not really thought about it, maybe because I still see it as a Western type of marriage..

3rd guy: Why should I? Na she buy me property?

I continued in my quest to know/learn...

4th guy: Yes, I will. It's the best form of marriage. It protects the lady from any form of maltreatment..

5th guy: Yes, I will. It gives the lady a right, and separation will follow due process..

6th guy: Yes, but other people's opinion matter (such as my spouse family), etc..

My fellow Nairalanders, what's your opinion(s) on court marriage.

never.
I have a problem trusting people. (girls)
maybe ive read too many bad books that say people are out there to break my head with a stone, steal my food and run away.
so I find myself always hovering like a helicopter on guard
well.... except I meet a perfect girl. oopss.... they dont exist in reality.
I need to change
im paranoid.
but till I change. no to court marriage.

Marry me sleekshuga

Peeps dey fear court marriage, shuo! see wetin property acquisition don cos for dem mind . Seriously though, the choice is dependent on the two people involved; first let us take into account the definition of marriage [you can add yours if you are not satisfied]. Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws. So whichever way you look at it, either from the traditional or legal perspective, something is being established and you are both obligated to follow through while it last. The traditional marriage may seem an easy way out for people that have concerns about the possibility of their 'sweat' being acquired by their better half. The fact is,you all have nothing to fear on consummation of your relationship with your loved one via the court process. Heck, it is even done indirectly via many churches around us. The idea that you hold your wedding in the church does not provide you anymore cover than obtained in an entirely court process. Make your life easy, dispatch those thoughts about your better half reaping from your sweat somewhere you can no longer reach for it,and make it real by keeping it true and legal. i troway salute.

grimadult:
Marry me sleekshuga

Traditional or court? lol.

@Op what is your own opinion on this?

bennyzer:
@Op what is your own opinion on this?

Op dey seek for advice nah, b4 she jump gun.

Trad first.






Church after 6 months and court after having all our kids.




#ThePlan.

bukatyne:
Court marriage also depends on the church you are getting wedded.

If your church is licenced to wed, then you can get a license from the court and get joined in the church.

Since the certificate is from the court, it is backed by legal jugunu same as doing court wedding.

Some people don't also believe in court wedding; worldly things and preparing for divorce.

There is no such thing as "Court Wedding". It is called Marriage at the Registry. The "Court" has nothing to do with it.

Yeah sure

Sleekyshuga:
It's quite a lengthy topic but also, an eye opener . Your patience is appreciated.

What Is Marriage?
It is a union between a man, and a woman who makes a permanent, and exclusive commitment..
It is otherwise called Matrimony or Wedlock..

What Is A Court Marriage? It is a legal back up union between a man, and a woman or the sealing of a marriage by Law..
***********************************

I got into a conversation with a friend this afternoon. He talked about his intentions to settle down when he comes back home (Nigeria, since he has been in Asia) by December.

He literally asked for my assistance in helping him search for a lady he can settle down with. I vividly remember the last time we spoke (Sept. 2013). When I asked about his girlfriend, he said she was fine, and that got me a little confused.
************************************

Fast forward to today.....

Jenny: You want to settle down?
Agozie: Yes!
Jenny: What happened to your girlfriend?
Agozie: She is fine.
Jenny: Why are you in search of another lady when you have a girlfriend?
Agozie: Her problems are much.
Jenny: *eager to know*.. What kind of problems?
Agozie: She is constantly asking for a court marriage.
Jenny: And what's wrong with that?
Agozie: Hmmmm... Ladies, and your sense of reasoning. She wants to 'Reap where she did not sow'. Traditional and white wedding is OK for us..

It got me thinking, and I got interested.. I randomly asked few males on my list (25-32 years) range on their take on court marriage.. I'll try to quote them..

1st guy: Why court marriage when I'll properly get married to her? Court marriage na for people wey get belle b4 marriage or people wey their parents no gree give approval..

2nd guy: I've not really thought about it, maybe because I still see it as a Western type of marriage..

3rd guy: Why should I? Na she buy me property?

I continued in my quest to know/learn...

4th guy: Yes, I will. It's the best form of marriage. It protects the lady from any form of maltreatment..

5th guy: Yes, I will. It gives the lady a right, and separation will follow due process..

6th guy: Yes, but other people's opinion matter (such as my spouse family), etc..

My fellow Nairalanders, what's your opinion(s) on court marriage.

Please Edit your Topic Head. There is no such thing as "Court Wedding". It is called Marriage at the Registry. The "Court" has nothing to do with it. The Federal Registry situate at Kings Way is Run by the Ministry of the Interior and not by the Judiciary or Ministry of Justice while the Marriage Registry situate at Obalende , share the same compound and building with Eti-Osa 2 is run by the Local Government.

Most churches nw get d licences frm court then seal d marriage in d church.
Bsides d court is just when when it comes 2 marriage issues.
4 those who think dt dey can run away frm court troubles if u nd ur wife have issues u. Will still settle it in court irrespective of d type of marriage because Nigeria recognise both traditional nd religious marriage
So my fellow nairalanders just b optimistic abt ur marriage don't start thinking rubbish nw bsides pray nd look 4 a gud spouse.

As a matter of fact I'm going to do all 3 of them. Traditional marriage, court marriage and church wedding.

Sleekyshuga:

Hmmmm... This suspense is killing me ..

A friend from Woji? *thinking seriously*..

I used to have an online mum (2go 2 be precise).. I lost her contact.. Is that you?

I used to have another friend here, though I lost her.. Seriously trying to remember her name.. You have 2 kids? An Igbo lady who married a Yoruba/Hausa man.. Is that you?

I giff up ..

Lemme do you a mail.. I'm so eager to know you..

I have replied ur mail.

Sleekyshuga:

Bless you !!
Those words: "Marry your friend" has always been my watchword..

Ladies Dont Actually Marry there Friend,they friendzone there friend and marry an outsider.

zeb04:
I love you too babe

R u ppl lesbian and fingerings ursef while dropping comment on Nairaland?

Cuz d way una Dey Lov una sef,sumtin Mst b inside Dat hole!!

remember prickk s best ohh

Amynature:
Yes i will. Infact am tellin ma hubby to b, dat we will do court marriage. I jst pray he aspect it and if he said he dnt ve money for dat, i dnt mind using ma own money fr dat.

English brutal!!

Mst b igbo chiccck.

Use ur money n drag ur husband to hell

Napoleone:
Wow! This is very nice...in fact, I'm falling in love with you right away!
It is noteworthy that the term "court marriage" is informal. It is called "statutory marriage" or "marriage under the Act". In essence, it is not the venue of the marriage that matters or determines but whether the procedures stated in the Marriage Act have been strictly followed. For instance, apart from going to the registry, a statutory marriage can also be conducted in a licenced place of worship-this requires the certificate to be returned to the registry. This goes to show that church blessing is not tantamount to statutory marriage.
However, it is not uncommon for woman to leave the wedding arrangement in the charge of the man. If the man fraudulently pretends to have done 'court wedding' and starts using that to maltreat the woman or threaten to divorce her by any means, the woman can seek legal redress and succeed.
I must also address the fact that "if you're not ready to share what you have with your partner, then why tell her you love her talkless of marrying her?". Research has shown that most males shy away from statutory marriage for a number of reasons which includes, but not limited to, the desire to enjoy the potential to marry as many wives as possible(which the customary marriage guarantee), the reluctance to share both movable and immovable property with the woman, the mischievous intention to divorce her in any manner and at any time etc
The disadvantages of a lady undergoing only a customary marriage with a man are countless but I will mention a few.
1. Polygamy: The man has the right to marry as many wives as possible. In fact, it has been submitted that he has a right to commit adultery.
2. Divorce: The man can divorce the woman in an unscrupulous manner. For example, he can just wake up one morning and send the woman packing. That's the end of the marriage.
3. Custody: The man will have exclusive custody of the children. In other words, the man is the owner of the children unlike statutory marriage where they are jointly owned. The implication of this is that if the man has been nowhere to be found since the birth of the child and the woman has been taking care of the children, he can even come when the they are less than 18years to take them away. Etc
My submission is that any man that refuses to marry you under the Act i.e 'court wedding' is not worth marrying you at all because he is subjecting you to grave insecurity. You should be suspicious of such man.
LADIES!!! YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!!!

Funny enuf,u will discover Dat if dis man is married!! Neva near court marriage.

Rather said all points n Mke him look perfect.

Yet d wife is crying @ home.

GOD bless Nigeria.

Sleekyshuga:

It doesn't literally mean I'll date all my friends to know who to marry...

Who Is A Friend?

A person other than a family member, spouse or lover whose COMPANY you enjoy or feel affection for..

You can train a crush, an outsider, an acquaintance etc to becoming a friend..

A major criteria criterion is your ability to study this person..

I think if religious places now have the right to issue certificates that can stand as legally documented paperwork, then no need to over-duplicate things. People should try to be saving cost when getting married.

If you don't have the cash to throw around, do the needful and have a hot marriage instead of hot weddings.

Kandaha:


Please Edit your Topic Head. There is no such thing as "Court Wedding". It is called Marriage at the Registry. The "Court" has nothing to do with it. The Federal Registry situate at Kings Way is Run by the Ministry of the Interior and not by the Judiciary or Ministry of Justice while the Marriage Registry situate at Obalende , share the same compound and building with Eti-Osa 2 is run by the Local Government.

Please, where did the 'Wedding' emanate from?

Herzumpther:
As a matter of fact I'm going to do all 3 of them. Traditional marriage, court marriage and church wedding.

If u foot the bills..fine! Your dad don agree for the Yoruba guy?

MrsOJ:

I have replied ur mail.

Nice to hear from you again..
Lotta catch up to do .

Sleekyshuga:

Nice to hear from you again..
Lotta catch up to do .

Lol can't wait for the gist to start rolling in.

comradeodunze:


Op dey seek for advice nah, b4 she jump gun.

Those who didn't read the story
but only got attracted by the heading.

blakky97:

never.
I have a problem trusting people. (girls)
maybe ive read too many bad books that say people are out there to break my head with a stone, steal my food and run away.
so I find myself always hovering like a helicopter on guard
well.... except I meet a perfect girl. oopss.... they dont exist in reality.
I need to change
im paranoid.
but till I change. no to court marriage.

Lotta Nollywood movies ?