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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Mprex(f): 3:09pm On Apr 02, 2015

Islie:
Is he suppose to behave like a sisi...

Don't you know the number of times the guy must have said that to the lady before coming to that conclusion of she either choose him or the master.....
that doesnt make it right. if he loves her, he should be encouraging her to attain higher heights in life and not otherwise

I believe the guy didn't just wake up one day and say that....

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Dygeasy(m): 3:15pm On Apr 02, 2015

Islie:
Am sure she knows what she wants she only want someone to validate her choice

Still too dependent for her age

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by ronald4lif(m): 3:24pm On Apr 02, 2015

shugga:
None of the above, definitely day dreaming

Oh well.

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Nobody: 4:01pm On Apr 02, 2015

If I were in her shoes, I will most definitely go for the masters.

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by tomzman: 4:04pm On Apr 02, 2015

Dump him.

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by rigarmortis: 4:18pm On Apr 02, 2015

who is Mr. masters degree? is he tall, dark, rich and handsome

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by dre11(op): 4:25pm On Apr 02, 2015

bisous:
If only we all can sharpen our spiritual eyes and ears,we'd make decisions faster and have a better world

Few people understand spiritual dealings ......
That's why it so easy for some so called "men of god" to deceive us.

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by dre11(op): 4:29pm On Apr 02, 2015

[quote author=Mprex post=32274591][/quote]Just thinking

Maybe the lady applied for master in let say Lagos and the husband is in Port Harcourt

So, the guy was just crossed and decided to give such ultimatum

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by dre11(op): 4:31pm On Apr 02, 2015

Missmossy:
What sort of man will tell her such?

She should better wise up!

Wise up in what sense ma undecided

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Islie: 4:34pm On Apr 02, 2015

[quote author=Mprex post=32274591][/quote]You did made some sense in your post..... But we humans are just different and the way we do reasons some things makes us different

But, her mama stand on him not being the right man just added another salt to the injury

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by bola1100(m): 4:36pm On Apr 02, 2015

ronald4lif:
What a condition.

She should dump his sorry ass and pursue her career/masters.

Relationship and men/women can wait but career-pursuit waits for no one. Earlier the better.

Should she succeed tomorrow drones of guys will be wrestling to win her love.

Who love don help

is it just me, I kinda find that word "sorry ass" distasteful

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Islie: 4:38pm On Apr 02, 2015

I am soo confused about life and my situation. How many issues will I pray about? I need the counsel of your readers and yours before I take any decision.

The only issue I see her praying about its just the spiritual aspect about if she feels its the will of God for her to proceed in the marriage

The rest she can use the wisdom of God and her own discretion to settle it........ That's why we have the right to CHOOSE

So, let her use that right on the rest

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by ijustdey: 4:41pm On Apr 02, 2015

I am thinking of applying for my further studies, but the guy is not well disposed to my decision for a higher degree.

what kind of reason or reasons can a guy give to be well indisposed for someone who is to become his better half not to attain some level of educational qualification if she so desired

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by ronald4lif(m): 4:46pm On Apr 02, 2015

bola1100:
is it just me, I kinda find that word "sorry ass" distasteful

I have to admit it's distasteful but in this context I am not sure it is.

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by ijustdey: 5:48pm On Apr 02, 2015

How do I get out of this confusing state of mine?

I believe her best friend had help her out by saying she should go to God in prayers..... but why did she bring her mother case to it.....

she should have allowed her have a realist thought of it without any interference whatsoever by what her mum did say concerning the whole issue

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by mizkeleke(f): 6:49pm On Apr 02, 2015

my dear any guy who doesn't want your dreams fulfilled isn't worth it.

My Opinion duo

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Nobody: 9:01pm On Apr 02, 2015

Takes a lot of discipline ,sometimes we hear and still fail to heed..........

dre11:
Few people understand spiritual dealings ......
That's why it so easy for some so called "men of god" to deceive us.

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by dre11(op): 10:42pm On Apr 02, 2015

bisous:
Takes a lot of discipline ,sometimes we hear and still fail to heed..........

that when we don't know how the spiritual do communicate with us

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by dre11(op): 10:44pm On Apr 02, 2015

mizkeleke:
my dear any guy who doesn't want your dreams fulfilled isn't worth it.

My Opinion duo

are you sure that's her dream because that's her resort when she didn't have any work.......

so, I guess having a work is her dream and maybe the guy is working something out

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by MrsChima(f): 10:47pm On Apr 02, 2015

LOL AT DICK OVER A DEGREE grin

I will not forego my education for a dick. Sorry.

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Richiy(f): 11:05pm On Apr 02, 2015

Men, who said she would have to wait till 40 before she comes close to marriage? Please, it is not true.

The odds are already against his favor. As for your mum, has she been prophesying before? Has it always come to pass?

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Motolank: 11:17pm On Apr 02, 2015

Choose both of them and stand your ground...don't mind men o, they only want full house wives

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by hotgunz(m): 11:18pm On Apr 02, 2015

Missmossy:
What sort of man will tell her such?

She should better wise up!

i swear d guy didn't. It might b her conscience battling wit her 27yrs Oil company haba no b nigeria we dey

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by hollandis(f): 11:19pm On Apr 02, 2015

Masters has no benefit in Nigeria

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Nobody: 11:19pm On Apr 02, 2015

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by Idrismusty97(m): 11:20pm On Apr 02, 2015

Choose masters for singleness.

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by professore(m): 11:22pm On Apr 02, 2015

Go for ur masters,if he is NOT the will of God for u,u will blame yourself if u marry him,neglecting ur masters will be yet another regret.

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by millionboi(m): 11:22pm On Apr 02, 2015

Sorry!!!

Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by ozodigboo(m): 11:25pm On Apr 02, 2015

This is a ' bread and butter ' case na.
Somehow, mothers tend to be spot - on on issues like this.....u can't throw away her advice.
She may have seen something you, in your desperation, can't see.
If the guy loves you, he shouldn't be giving you an ultimatum.....I MUST MARRY BY JUNE......smh......who does that ?
27 yrs is not yet an emergency.

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by OracleMxNelson(m): 11:31pm On Apr 02, 2015

The first problem is that your mum has to tell you what the will of God is...

Marriage is one area in life where you can't afford to let someone tell you what the Will of God is... What have you been doing with your Christian life and walk with God...

Can you please ask your mum if your Dad was/is God's will for her?

You said your husband is well paid... Yet you are furthering to be able to get a job... Sister, you want more money... period

Why didn't your mum tell you from the start that your fiancé wasn't the will of God for you? Or He was and now he is not... The will change abi?

You are fuelled by ambition... which can also be called the pride of life...

Who said you can't do masters from your husband's house?

Bottom line... Go and pray and hear God by yourself... And follow his word left or right...
Is your mum also going to determine the will of God for your grandchildren?
Let me not tell you other things you won't want to hear... Have a nice day.

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by HenryG(m): 11:32pm On Apr 02, 2015

Ask him his plan for you If its not related to how to get a decent and good job or on how to work things out for the Master prog. before and after the wedding. If he doesn't have any gud plan for you, he may probably be selfish about his own wants. His reaction so far leave a doubt if u ll be able to do ur Masters after wedding. Neither his work nor ur age should be a deciding factor. If he LOVES you he will reason with you and be ready to work it out.

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Re: I Am Torn Between HIM And Masters Degree by adozie(m): 11:32pm On Apr 02, 2015

dre11:
http://www.tribune.com.ng/quicklinkss/converse-with-yemisi/item/33111-i-m-torn-between-him-and-masters-degree

I am a well educated professional in the same field with my wife. We both have advanced degrees. I have 4 daughters who are all smart and have high asppirations. I am sorry to say that I do not believe that any man who is willing to derail your pursuit for higher education truly loves you. He should embrace your interest in undertaking a masters degree.
Now let me tell you what I tell my girls on daily basis ; 'that man is only interested in you today because of what you have done for yourself". If you were a secondary school drop out, he will not be interested in you.
Intellectual and financial freedom is the only way a woman can protect herself from abuse from men (husband included). You can not give your husband absolute power over you, and you do so be denying yourself these two important survival tools in the modern world.
Honestly I can not understand why a successful like he is will think of not encouraging a future partner (note"partner" wink

to pursue higher education, unless he intends to dominate her. I am very worried that he is giving you the option to choose between your education and him. Mark my words, this is the begining of the many of such ultimatums to come.

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