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I stumbled on this online and decided to share it with my fellow nairalanders, dunno if there is a thread like this before anyway.

Yesterday, I went to interview a preacher. He came
three hours late to his church, venue of our meeting
and I was a bit angry. But when he explained what
kept him, not only did I forgave him quickly and
learned some lessons, but I decided to share this with
you so that some of us could learn.
Husbands and wives should learn how to settle their
quarrels without delay. I have seen situations where
couples allow simple disagreement to fester for days.
Husband is silently hurting, expecting the wife to
speak to him first. Same for the wife, hurting and
expecting the husband to play the man. The waiting
game leads from one thing to the other. If you are at
this level of matrimony, please read this. You might
have a reason to call your spouse and together take
an oath that “OUR QUARREL WOULD NOT LAST
BEYOND THAT MOMENT.”
The story as told by the reverend: Husband and his
wife (his church members) had a domestic
disagreement one morning. The man said he was was
so bitter about it, claiming his wife knew she was
wrong but refused to apologise. She felt it was a non
issue and the husband should overlook easily. To say
“I am sorry, darling”, to her husband was difficult for
her. So many people are like that. So many wives
take their husbands for granted tooooooooo much.
We are humans o. Blood flows in our veins. Make una
hear well well.
Three days on, malice reigned in the house. The
husband said he must get that “I am sorry.” Wife
cooked, husband refused to eat. Everyday he came
home with food from Tantalizer. He boycotted
matrimonial bed. Husband found new friends in the
children. Same with wife. By the way, the children
were too small to break the ice. I’ve been there
before. Thank God I am wiser now.
On Sunday, last Sunday, they went to church in their
different cars but sat side by side during service,
pretending to be jolly good husband and wife. Fraud
in the house of God! Jibiti ponbele! May God forgive
some husbands and wives. But after service, husband
went home with the children while she waited for
women’s meeting. That day, Satan decided to enter
the crevice they allowed in their home.
The husband was home already. When he
perfunctorily checked his phone, his wife had called
him thrice. He disregarded calling her back. Malice.
The wife drove in some forty minutes later. He saw
Usman opening the gate for her as his phone went on
ringing. He checked it. It was his wife. She was in her
car at the garage already. What is she calling me for?
Foolish and stubborn wife! He said and ignored her
calls. The call went on for a while. He ignored it as he
sat with the TV.
Thirty minutes later, she did not come in. Something
told him to go and check. Is she still in the car? Yes
she must be there. He called Usman, Is madam in the
car? Few minutes later, Usman rushed in. Madam dey
sleep inside the car o. That was when he woke up
and rushed downstairs. Asthma! Could she be having
her usual attack? Could she have forgotten her
inhaler?
He quickly took the inhaler and rushed downstairs.
When he got there, she was almost breathless.
Usman and husband quickly carried her to the back
seat and off, he sped like a bat out of hell, to the clinic
nearby. Madam was confirmed dead!
If he had picked her call early enough, probably she
could have been saved. When you leave domestic
disagreement to fester for too long, it leads to greater
evil. The preacher said husband is weeping mad,
blaming himself…i killed my wife! Only God knows
how many wives, husbands, children have died such
a needless death.
Couples must cultivate one another. No matter how
angry I am with my wife, I, in my office, she, in her
shop….I call her at least three times during the day. I
call even when I have no reason to call. All I could
say is “Where are you?” “Wetin dey?” “Anything for
your boyfriend?” I am not saying this to impress
anybody, but because it is the truth!


May God help us all oo. I'm so guilty of this in my relationships.

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Never knew men do keep malice like dis oh!

Chai!

Chai! Infact am speechless.
Poor woman!

You will be shocked if you hear the kinda malice some men keep.

lagmostkuit:
Never knew men do keep malice like dis oh!

Chai!

My dear iceberylin, try and read thru.

iceberylin:
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i never knew men could keep malice like this oh

anyways one good thing about we temperamental petites is that we get angry easily but it ends at that moment

lagmostkuit:
Never knew men do keep malice like dis oh!

Chai!

Yes, they do.
I know of a couple who kept malice for 10yrs, 10 gud damm yrs, and they leave under same roof n attend same church.
Its was on one sermon their pastor was preachin dat touched the man's heart and he confessed to the pastor and everytin was settled. Jux imagine, hubby n wify kept malice for 10yrs.

I am facing the same thing in my relationship.
buh all i can say is that both of them were wrong.

Blebleswag:
Yes, they do.
I know of a couple who kept malice for 10yrs, 10 gud damm yrs, and they leave under same roof n attend same church.
Its was on one sermon their pastor was preachin dat touched the man's heart and he confessed to the pastor and everytin was settled. Jux imagine, hubby n wify kept malice for 10yrs.

O ma se o!

Snowangel4:
I am facing the same thing in my relationship.
buh all i can say is that both of them were wrong.

Yeah, both were wrong buh d hubby took it too far.

i am experiencing same thing as i speak. u men r very mean and mostly immature. d man in d story is jst like my hybby. loves to kip malice, sadistic...

Nice but sad story..this will help as a good advise to those that love keeping malice.

Touching story. God kip me n my spouse in love waxing stronger & stronger in jesus name Amen

Someone shld please summarize this for me

WoW......


What an interesting narrative essay
When we do the basic necessary things to foister growth and harmony in relationship.... This kind if problems won't surface.

Let's learn to say "sorry" and "please"
This words goes a long way

bbeckky:
I stumbled on this online and decided to share it with my fellow nairalanders, dunno if there is a thread like this before anyway.

Yesterday, I went to interview a preacher. He came
three hours late to his church, venue of our meeting
and I was a bit angry. But when he explained what
kept him, not only did I forgave him quickly and
learned some lessons, but I decided to share this with
you so that some of us could learn.
Husbands and wives should learn how to settle their
quarrels without delay. I have seen situations where
couples allow simple disagreement to fester for days.
Husband is silently hurting, expecting the wife to
speak to him first. Same for the wife, hurting and
expecting the husband to play the man. The waiting
game leads from one thing to the other. If you are at
this level of matrimony, please read this. You might
have a reason to call your spouse and together take
an oath that “OUR QUARREL WOULD NOT LAST
BEYOND THAT MOMENT.”
The story as told by the reverend: Husband and his
wife (his church members) had a domestic
disagreement one morning. The man said he was was
so bitter about it, claiming his wife knew she was
wrong but refused to apologise. She felt it was a non
issue and the husband should overlook easily. To say
“I am sorry, darling”, to her husband was difficult for
her. So many people are like that. So many wives
take their husbands for granted tooooooooo much.
We are humans o. Blood flows in our veins. Make una
hear well well.
Three days on, malice reigned in the house. The
husband said he must get that “I am sorry.” Wife
cooked, husband refused to eat. Everyday he came
home with food from Tantalizer. He boycotted
matrimonial bed. Husband found new friends in the
children. Same with wife. By the way, the children
were too small to break the ice. I’ve been there
before. Thank God I am wiser now.
On Sunday, last Sunday, they went to church in their
different cars but sat side by side during service,
pretending to be jolly good husband and wife. Fraud
in the house of God! Jibiti ponbele! May God forgive
some husbands and wives. But after service, husband
went home with the children while she waited for
women’s meeting. That day, Satan decided to enter
the crevice they allowed in their home.
The husband was home already. When he
perfunctorily checked his phone, his wife had called
him thrice. He disregarded calling her back. Malice.
The wife drove in some forty minutes later. He saw
Usman opening the gate for her as his phone went on
ringing. He checked it. It was his wife. She was in her
car at the garage already. What is she calling me for?
Foolish and stubborn wife! He said and ignored her
calls. The call went on for a while. He ignored it as he
sat with the TV.
Thirty minutes later, she did not come in. Something
told him to go and check. Is she still in the car? Yes
she must be there. He called Usman, Is madam in the
car? Few minutes later, Usman rushed in. Madam dey
sleep inside the car o. That was when he woke up
and rushed downstairs. Asthma! Could she be having
her usual attack? Could she have forgotten her
inhaler?
He quickly took the inhaler and rushed downstairs.
When he got there, she was almost breathless.
Usman and husband quickly carried her to the back
seat and off, he sped like a bat out of hell, to the clinic
nearby. Madam was confirmed dead!
If he had picked her call early enough, probably she
could have been saved. When you leave domestic
disagreement to fester for too long, it leads to greater
evil. The preacher said husband is weeping mad,
blaming himself…i killed my wife! Only God knows
how many wives, husbands, children have died such
a needless death.
Couples must cultivate one another. No matter how
angry I am with my wife, I, in my office, she, in her
shop….I call her at least three times during the day. I
call even when I have no reason to call. All I could
say is “Where are you?” “Wetin dey?” “Anything for
your boyfriend?” I am not saying this to impress
anybody, but because it is the truth!


May God help us all oo. I'm so guilty of this in my relationships.

When you come across a story as this, you immediately know those who have a head on their shoulder, unlike the 'KIDS' and 'TODDLERS' drooling all over the place in the Romance section!

OP, God bless you so much for this very incisive write up.

Arguably one of the best thread I ve come across on Nairaland in recent times!

Food for thought nonetheless and a GREAT lesson to be learnt from the story!

One thing for sure, I'm wiser now, after reading this piece...

starlingbawa:
When you come across a story as this, you immediately know those who have a head on their shoulder, unlike the 'KIDS' and 'TODDLERS' drooling all over the place in the Romance section!

OP, God bless you so much for this very incisive write up.

Arguably one of the best thread I ve come across on Nairaland in recent times!

Food for thought nonetheless and a GREAT lesson to be learnt from the story!

One thing for sure, I'm wiser now, after reading this piece...

Tnx a lot, i'm honored

10 gud years? Really?

Yes, they do.
I know of a couple who kept malice for 10yrs, 10 gud damm yrs, and they leave under same roof n attend same church.
Its was on one sermon their pastor was preachin dat touched the man's heart and he confessed to the pastor and everytin was settled. Jux imagine, hubby n wify kept malice for 10yrs.

Snowangel4:
I am facing the same thing in my relationship.
buh all i can say is that both of them were wrong.

God will surely intervene in urs if He hasn't already...

Like seriously, those words go a very long way.

Islie:
WoW......


What an interesting narrative essay
When we do the basic necessary things to foister growth and harmony in relationship.... This kind if problems won't surface.

Let's learn to say "sorry" and "please"
This words goes a long way

Amen to your prayer as i silently pray mine too....

Vision4God:
Touching story. God kip me n my spouse in love waxing stronger & stronger in jesus name Amen

Maamin:
Nice but sad story..this will help as a good advise to those that love keeping malice.

It is good to get angry but when it births malice is when a prob sets in. Malice is such a bastard, it always takes pride wt it whereva it goes nd it subsequently results to irreparable damages.. That is when u hear one of the parties involved saying 'Me, say sorry? Over their dead body. May God pls help us all.

flakesy01:
i am experiencing same thing as i speak. u men r very mean and mostly immature. d man in d story is jst like my hybby. loves to kip malice, sadistic...

God will intervene sis, you know sometimes we ladies can be very pushy but then it doesn't justify the act of keeping malice 4 any man sha.

bbeckky:
It is good to get angry but when it births malice is when a prob sets in. Malice is such a bastard, it always takes pride wt it whereva it goes nd it subsequently results to irreparable damages.. That is when u hear one of the parties involved saying 'Me, say sorry? Over their dead body. May God pls help us all.

you are right, as of recent , i had two female friends that did exactly what are talking about...but they finally cut it out over a common enemy, lol.

Maamin:
you are right, as of recent , i had two female friends that did exactly what are talking about...but they finally cut it out over a common enemy, lol.

truth is almost all of us av, @ 1 point or d oda, done dat or behaved close 2 it.

bbeckky:
truth is almost all of us av, @ 1 point or d oda, done dat or behaved close 2 it.

Yep!

lesson learnt the hard way. may God help couples. settle ur differences on time. that's y bible said, the sun should not set on ur anger. wives respect ur husbands. husbands love ur wives.

God will help us

thuao:
lesson learnt the hard way.
may God help couples.
settle ur differences on time.
that's y bible said, the sun should not set on ur anger.
wives respect ur husbands.
husbands love ur wives.

When posting something you took from a website, you should include the source

chai so touching