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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by just2endowed: 6:54pm On Apr 03, 2015
in my nysc, my bozz was a year older than me and I gave her all the respect.
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Nobody: 6:55pm On Apr 03, 2015
disloman:
Now i see y u ain't marry at this age of urs.What a shame.

I.diot

If you know my age, you would know that marriage is the least of my worries. I.diot
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by pressplay55: 6:55pm On Apr 03, 2015
Nneka123:
LOL! Oh well! What's so bad if you carried her handbag? You let your ego get in the way, forgetting that you were working for her.

Sorry o
how will you feel, when you see your husband carrying hand bag for one little bitch?

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by D33VA(f): 6:55pm On Apr 03, 2015
Thinkr:
what would be inside the brief case? Office file huh? What would be inside a handbag? Menstral pad. F^ck u undecided

So it is actually true shocked shocked an id**iot is born every minute. Ewu, all these stupid jambites evrywer
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Nobody: 6:56pm On Apr 03, 2015
You don't have to be a slave cos you are being paid.

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Nobody: 6:56pm On Apr 03, 2015
duni04:

Ignoring the stupidity...
And you quoted me?

You must be dumber than a rock
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Filmdirect: 6:56pm On Apr 03, 2015
Ilaje44:


And that's the reason the Arabs are running the world and calling the short today ain't it?

Don't mind them. If the Arab world is so great, why are they coming in droves to western countries where
the women are more liberated. I thought they have the perfect society since their women are "put in their places."

Some of you men wonder why you are not blessed in what you do, esp after marriage. I have met a few. It never occurs to
them that God is not pleased with the way they are treating his daughters.

Continue on.
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by kaboninc(m): 6:57pm On Apr 03, 2015
bukatyne:


It is not a woman's thing

Just that it is now common place to see women lead.

We are used to sucking up to male bosses.

Yeaaa... not a woman thing.

But come to think of it, imagine NOI asking her SA to Media to carry her hand bag while they 'work'?

Well I know its nothing but e get as e be......

Some will even dive at the request even when not called.....

All the same, he has learnt something...

But I know he will seek redress
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by rexharysn(m): 6:57pm On Apr 03, 2015
guy sincerely speaking you were wrong! that was insubordination to your boss and in the professional field that is not taken lightly.....

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by duni04(m): 6:57pm On Apr 03, 2015
Seun:

He could have respectfully declined in a mature way that would have made the boss say, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have asked you to do that".
She'd have done the same thing even if he did undecided
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by kaboninc(m): 6:58pm On Apr 03, 2015
Justfollowit:

And you quoted me?

You must be dumber than a rock

Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by TopHand: 6:59pm On Apr 03, 2015
klark3:
I was employed as an architect in a medium size architectural firm, my boss happens to be a lady.

I hitched a ride in her car after a meeting with a client on site, It's was even my first time of hitching a ride in her car, as I have always eschewed it, on getting to the office she asked me to carry her hand bag along, but I turned deaf ear to her request and swiftly went straight to the office, but she came to my office and gave me a sullen glare.

I thought the malice won't last long, but unfortunately for me, she fired me this morning for a no cogent reason.

I'm downcast and bewildered, she's just privilege to be the manager because it's her dad firm, she's my contemporary, and I was on the verge of supervising a gigantic project.

Was I wrong?
you missed yur chance, the woman liked you but you were too blind too see it, women are special, they are interesting, exciting and curious in nature, but they never make the first move but respond positively when a man they admire initial a move dont misunderstand me the admiration is not all about love, or something, women are just attracted to positive things like confidence, intelligence, strenght, beauty e.t.c. if you can find a way to sit down and talk to her, admit you were wrong but do it confidently in a I dont care manner, mainten good eye contact and speak softly to her lean nearer to her each time she responds to what you r telling her but dont invade her private space around her, make up a good story like family pressures at home, e.g pressure from helping a younger one, sell yurself yur qualities and how much you love and will miss working for her you will have a good chance of getting yur job back.
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by duni04(m): 6:59pm On Apr 03, 2015
Justfollowit:

And you quoted me?

You must be dumber than a rock
Still ignoring the stupidity....... undecided
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by disloman(m): 6:59pm On Apr 03, 2015
Justfollowit:


I.diot

If you know my age, you would know that marriage is the least of my worries. I.diot
u definately shown u r beacon of stupidity.i rest my case.
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by OKUCHI11(m): 7:00pm On Apr 03, 2015
Fabdedon:
you are too proud..
You can even get better payment if you just carry it and joke with her like..
Girls sha.. See big bag like say no be wrapper de inside.. Just simple..
see wetin pride dey do african man
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by bukatyne(f): 7:00pm On Apr 03, 2015
kaboninc:


Yeaaa... not a woman thing.

But come to think of it, imagine NOI asking her SA to Media to carry her hand bag while they 'work'?

Well I know its nothing but e get as e be......

Some will even dive at the request even when not called.....

All the same, he has learnt something...

But I know he will seek redress

Redress ke?

This one Don pass grin
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Neplusultra(f): 7:00pm On Apr 03, 2015
Person dey do like mumu sometimes make him get wetin him want..u sound like uv got a big ego undecided
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Thinkr(m): 7:01pm On Apr 03, 2015
D33VA:


So it is actually true shocked shocked an id**iot is born every minute. Ewu, all these stupid jambites evrywer
jambites? Hahaha I guess your still in higher institution to make such statement. Goodnight I hope you got my point tho.
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by duni04(m): 7:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
TopHand:

you missed yur chance, the woman liked you but you were too blind too see it, women are special, they are interesting, exciting and curious in nature, but they never make the first move but respond positively when a man they admire initial a move dont misunderstand me the admiration is not all about love, or something, women are just attracted to positive things like confidence, intelligence, strenght, beauty e.t.c. if you can find a way to sit down and talk to her, admit you were wrong but do it confidently in a I dont care manner, mainten good eye contact and speak softly to her lean nearer to her each time she responds to what you r telling her but dont invade her private space around her, make up a good story like family pressures at home, e.g pressure from helping a younger one, sell yurself yur qualities and how much you love and will miss working for her you will have a good chance of getting yur job back.
This has to be the silliest post so far! A cocky woman would trip for a man that would cringe in fear and carry her bag!
Omg!!!

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by logica(m): 7:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
October1960:
You did the right thing. Getting fired might be a blessing in disguise.

We have to learn to fight this evil system of 'Ogas' with impunity in Nigeria else things will not change.

If you were a woman must you also swallow your pride and sleep with a male boss??

My friend, I was fired over a decade ago and started my own business. I thank God now that I was fired.

It is the beginning of good things to come, so start your own firm small, take it slow and steady and you will compete with them.
Exactly. The truth is, the people who would rather carry oga's bag than be fired cannot own a business; they were born to be employees. They were born to be followers. Those are the ones you see jostling for positions in a company for 40 years. Getting fired is a good thing if you were made to own a business. The fire goes right into your belly (if you know what I mean). Let the bag carriers continue carrying bags; you will eventually run the mediocre bunch out of business.

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by ayooyee: 7:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
I pity u guy. Dere r sacrifices to mak bfr u get to d top. Oda people ll giv u in ur own tim.

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by pappizeezu: 7:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
Mr man u are very wrong....since she's ur boss she has d right to tell u to do anything
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by stonecoldcafe: 7:02pm On Apr 03, 2015
I for carry. As far nor be shi.t.
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Neplusultra(f): 7:03pm On Apr 03, 2015
Orunto:
You are very wrong, insurbodinated abd covetous. How can your boss give you Instruction and you immediately start coquetting? You are on your own. You want to be Joseph without knowing how to dream.
Hahaha
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Braggante(m): 7:03pm On Apr 03, 2015
saintneo:

@klark3, I believe the above quoted responses are from sane human beings like you. Nigerians have gone to the gutters to be slaves just to have their daily bread, but God is your strength. Just ensure you be more diplomatic and trust in God for your future.

Bro u too get sense. It's sad how people here are calling the guy proud or arrogant. It shows how we have lost all sense of honor and dignity as a people, all for daily bread. Here's a story like that in the bible, where one guy eagerly gave away his birth right for porridge. Obviously many nigerians will do same if in that position.

It's not about insubordination or rudeness, cos bag carrying is not part of his work, unless he is her PA or secretary. So those abusing the OP obviously think low of themselves- low self esteem.
To me it's about human dignity, talk less of being a man. If it were his wife, no problem, but an employer in an office environment, no.

I also think he did the right thing by refusing. And I applaud his boldness at that. If u can't stand for something, u fall for everything.

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by obrut(m): 7:03pm On Apr 03, 2015
klark3:
I was employed as an architect in a medium size architectural firm, my boss happens to be a lady.

I hitched a ride in her car after a meeting with a client on site, It's was even my first time of hitching a ride in her car, as I have always eschewed it, on getting to the office she asked me to carry her hand bag along, but I turned deaf ear to her request and swiftly went straight to the office, but she came to my office and gave me a sullen glare.

I thought the malice won't last long, but unfortunately for me, she fired me this morning for a no cogent reason.

I'm downcast and bewildered, she's just privilege to be the manager because it's her dad firm, she's my contemporary, and I was on the verge of supervising a gigantic project.

Was I wrong?
Y didn't u carry her bag? U thought it was beneath u right? If it was added to ur job description, u could have done it without qualms right? In a one man company, u need to do whatever is required of u so far as It's not illegal. Drop pride ma man.
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Misogynist2014(m): 7:04pm On Apr 03, 2015
I believe the guy is dumb to think all will go well, considering what he stood to lose and the lady was silly to have offered him the bag. But everything is not about opulence, you've got to protect your pride.

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Keemy88(m): 7:04pm On Apr 03, 2015
Yes you were. Pride goeth before a fall. Your being proud cost you your job. Learn from your mistake.

klark3:
I was employed as an architect in a medium size architectural firm, my boss happens to be a lady.

I hitched a ride in her car after a meeting with a client on site, It's was even my first time of hitching a ride in her car, as I have always eschewed it, on getting to the office she asked me to carry her hand bag along, but I turned deaf ear to her request and swiftly went straight to the office, but she came to my office and gave me a sullen glare.

I thought the malice won't last long, but unfortunately for me, she fired me this morning for a no cogent reason.

I'm downcast and bewildered, she's just privilege to be the manager because it's her dad firm, she's my contemporary, and I was on the verge of supervising a gigantic project.

Was I wrong?

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by kelvyn7: 7:04pm On Apr 03, 2015
drfk001:
dude you are wrong...she ain't your girlfriend who you can form alpha male for. Dust your cv and include carrying of bags as your special skill




hahahahahaha grin

u funny die!!!

make him include carrying of bags for him CV as special skill abi? issorite grin grin
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by CaptPlanet(m): 7:04pm On Apr 03, 2015
All of you that are saying the guy was wrong, like are u guys for real? Was it stated anywhere in his contract that he should carry her bag? What do u guys mean?
So if she tells him to kiss her foot, he should too? Just cos he wants to save his job. She was just being spoilt, that's all.

So you guys will actually do whatever for your boss just to retain your jobs? Well, that's the mentality we have down here sha....people will do whatever to protect their jobs.

My verdict, whatever the guy did at that point was his decision, if he decides to carry it, fine, if he decides not to, I don't see any reason why she should sack him.

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Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Nobody: 7:04pm On Apr 03, 2015
kaboninc:


Lol at head service.

Well, it could be a test but to me, a silly one oh. Carry her hand bag wey contain Mary K and mascara? Mbanu

Well, he pretended sha...

Maybe she felt threatened by his rising profile and wants to reiterate that she's the boss. cool

And now, na for the guy to go beg....chai cheesy

I think he'll go an beg sha.... smiley

Well like you said, humility somehow can take you places. cool

WOMEN sha.....


You came to conclusion too quick.

Do you know why she could not carry her bag herself? She had to carry files? extra luggage? anything else? and needed his help with the bag perhaps?

Did he himself bother to find out?

Perhaps no. Too arrogant to be concerned. If your boss is a woman or a man, as long as you signed your signature on the papers to work under him/her, be loyal and very respectful.

That young man was too cocky and I perhaps would have done what the lady did. Sack! Its difficult working with a surbodinate who is arrogant.
Re: She Asked Me To Carry Her Hand Bag, I Refused And She Fired Me. by Nobody: 7:04pm On Apr 03, 2015
Misogynist2014:
Under. But to be sincere, provided his testimony is true, he is very dumb grin. I don't think it is feminism (how I hate typing that word), it is mainly about pride.
Okay! But sincerely typing, if I was in his shoe; I will carry the bag for her. undecided lipsrsealed grin

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