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Cutehector:
Some people should study d full meanin of maga

adrainuche:
OMG Am really sorry sir, it wasn't intentional to hurt you in anyway .. I felt since I was dating her at least I owe her some support whether finicially or in any other way ... Once again sorry ...

MRBrownJ:
may i ask, on what grounds did you decided that it was a wise choice to send her money? shouldnt you offer to help someone when they deserve it?



so from a gift, now it became a MUST that you should give her this money every month? again, on what ground? this is when your effort are now being taken for granted.



(no offense) some men have nothing to offer some women and therefore they MUST pay in order for these women to stay with them. you as a person should be the main price, and nothing else, while instead it is your wallet. if you want to know the type of woman you have, do NOT give any more money and see the true self of that criminal you are dating. i do feel a bit sorry for young men who are being taken on a ride like yourself, to the point where women will even fight with you if you dont pay them. here is the two question you should ask this demon you are dating:
1) how did you fend for yourself before you met me?
2) what will you do if i cant provide this money blackmail?

sadly the majority will either leave you or just find another mugu to defraud until you get yourself some more money.



wait....are you saying you guys are not even in the same country, and this is a LDR?!

Cutehector:
Some people should study d full meanin of maga

adrainuche:
Its been more than a year since I started dating my present GF and money seems to be one of the major problem in our relationship ... There's no need to know which part of Nigeria she's from

Previously I send her money at will or when she asks but I noticed it was becoming too rampant and sometimes recursive, so I decided to place her on monthly allowances .

Another problem has boiled out she says she wants
30k per month so in 12 months (NVM) although to me its a bit better because previously am sure I send her more than 30k a month, ...

So please I want to know if its a good idea for one to place his GF on monthly allowances and how much is ideal I once insisted I slash her monthly allowance to 20 or 15k monthly but she nearly killed me

Some of my friends feel its a bad idea that it seems too formal like as if dating me is a job, she's 21 and am 23 , we are both in university tho I don't study in naija presently ...



Am sure some Elderly Folks may find this insipid am honestly sorry

netmillionaires:
I don't see anything wrong in giving her money once in a while. The problem is when the girl start thinking it is her right to always collect it. The moment a girl follow me do shakara like this, the next thing na to stop giving her anything. Abeg make she do her worse. I no even dey gv girl anything again.
The first girl wey I date na so I dey gv am come dey study am. 2 years later she don collect every week and never buy me one single pant. Wetin be her excuse? She go say money no dey. Chai! Dis girl smoke? U dey collect d money everyday and no gree set aside part of the money to buy me just #500 pant in 2 years. If u collect 5k dis week or month, common sense no dey tell u say make u comot #500 use am buy ur man something back. Haba! I just dey study d girl dey go. One day her brother dey do birthday, she come buy watch of about #2,500 as birthday gift. Later I confront am, she come dey tell me say make she no lie say she like her family pass me na. Na so I tell am say for U not to make effort to buy me gift once mean say U no even like me at all.... **U know d rest na.
Nowaday, if I go out and see a beautiful dress I go remember my sister b4 I go remember any GF. And If i chose to buy a dress for her, I will just take her shopping there the next day. That is because I chose to buy it for her and not because she disturbed me to. If a girl think she can come and be shouting dear I need BB10, I need Samsung Galaxy X6, dear I need 100k... I swear she never see her maga.

Bennymontana:
Hmmm..Op,seems u"ve made up your mind to be sending her money wotsoeva! Dont even know why you"ll need our opinions anyways...
I have also created a similiar topic on this issue,though it didnt hit frontpage...
First of all,you"re too young to be paying a girl that amount every month,thats some parents salary with kids o...u"re not working yet sha;but maybe when you start working u"ll loook back and realize how "magarish" u"ve been...
The Girls in question's prolly too young and has not gotten in touch wit reality in life yet,thats why she makes such demands off you,likewise;you also are too naive cos "money-miss-road"...u"re quite lucky to be in a university outside nigeria sha,but you need serios street orientation,even if money-miss-Road like you die...
Dont know who ur parents are or how much they give you for ur upkeep and what not;is it up to 1mill?...i mean,if its up to that,then 30k's like a drop of water sha...anywaz,you dont seem to also have responsibilities and dont know what to do wit money probably
Finally,u"re young,naive wit women and all...but you dont need money to keep her,if you really want to keep her,you dont nid her to stick around cos of the money...u"re simply too young and av lots of pretty young girls out there that will simply want to be wit you without allowance...so,i dont know why u wanna stick wit this "allowance girl" that will use your money to be paying anoder nigga to service her,cos u"re obviously not around...
So in the long run,she uses your money to pay a guy to service her...trust me,i av bn dt kinda nigga dt service girls that collect such money from people like you...
They nid your money,to keep the nigga they need...

adrainuche:
Y should I be lie-ing ... U want to see my bank statement ??

adrainuche:
No am not she's not particularly from a very rich home tho ..

redcliff:
Lmao!.the guy is such a folly

netmillionaires:
so u are one bad nigga that bleep this kinda girl. Hmmm! Great
I was offered such a deal too while I was in university too. There was this beautiful girl in law dept. We stay in d same hostel. While me and 4 of my guys rest a flat together, she single handedly get hers alone. Wow. This girl fine and tall no be small. Na small I use tall pass am. She claimed her boyfriend is in abroad. She invite me over to come and play everyday even at night maybe because I was d only guy without a girl friend at the hostel... I refused all her moves and proposal simply because I av a GF in lagos and am not the cheating type... Guy I really regret not dating this babe; babe wey fine and get money wella. I realized too late that my lagos babe too was bleeping someone while I was away in school.

smvinreal:
If you up to the task i don't see anything bad in that

Saraben:
I assume you are financially boyant since you can give her much,is not bad since you have

medexico:
Hahaha, sorry.
Story of your life

Desdemona:
it's a more reason why she shud be humble? Can her father afford to place her on a monthly salary of 10k? To be honest with you, a girl who loves you for real will be shy to ask you for money. In fact, she sees you as a MAGA.

marshalcarter:
Did dis rabbit just typed 30k??



Wait wait......


You said you wanted to reduce her cash to 20k nd she nearly killed you??



Wait wait.......



Is she working for you





Wait wait........




I need just 2k for transport dis week nd I dnt knw whr to get dem from....




Wait.....




You mean 1 snake will just sit down while 30k enters her f**kin acct every month



I HATE YOU WITH PASSION@MR OP




Dey dere dey waste money while we have children in the street beggin each day just for water....we still gat kids in the orphanage home.....nd u're here wastin it on 1 full bodied babyRat
GOD knws I'll never try it



Had it been she's ur wife..its better....but she's ur so called damn f**kin g.f who will dump you for sum1 she loves and yet u're still blind?


F**k you a billion tyms!!!!

netmillionaires:
abeg no feel sorry for me na. Na so d story b o. But everything na experience. I don even dey package everything into movie script make I sell give kunle Afolayan.

adrainuche:
Its been more than a year since I started dating my present GF and money seems to be one of the major problem in our relationship ... There's no need to know which part of Nigeria she's from

Previously I send her money at will or when she asks but I noticed it was becoming too rampant and sometimes recursive, so I decided to place her on monthly allowances .

Another problem has boiled out she says she wants
30k per month so in 12 months (NVM) although to me its a bit better because previously am sure I send her more than 30k a month, ...

So please I want to know if its a good idea for one to place his GF on monthly allowances and how much is ideal I once insisted I slash her monthly allowance to 20 or 15k monthly but she nearly killed me

Some of my friends feel its a bad idea that it seems too formal like as if dating me is a job, she's 21 and am 23 , we are both in university tho I don't study in naija presently ...



Am sure some Elderly Folks may find this insipid am honestly sorry

adrainuche:
Its been more than a year since I started dating my present GF and money seems to be one of the major problem in our relationship ... There's no need to know which part of Nigeria she's from

Previously I send her money at will or when she asks but I noticed it was becoming too rampant and sometimes recursive, so I decided to place her on monthly allowances .

Another problem has boiled out she says she wants
30k per month so in 12 months (NVM) although to me its a bit better because previously am sure I send her more than 30k a month, ...

So please I want to know if its a good idea for one to place his GF on monthly allowances and how much is ideal I once insisted I slash her monthly allowance to 20 or 15k monthly but she nearly killed me

Some of my friends feel its a bad idea that it seems too formal like as if dating me is a job, she's 21 and am 23 , we are both in university tho I don't study in naija presently ...



Am sure some Elderly Folks may find this insipid am honestly sorry

downcasted:

Dear nairalanders

Im an adent follower of this forum but mainly spends time reading more till today i decided to come forward with my depressing issue.

i left nigeria to cyprus for my msc since last year and after leaving tried all i could to keep in touch with my woman (22) whom ive been dating for the past 4years, although we had issues then but i tried to remain positive on the relationship and wanted to serious see if she could stand the test of time, i cut down all financial aspects at my young age (25), I wanted to see what she had to offer and if she could wait for the one year duration, to cut all story short may this year reports started getting to me bout my woman dating a dude a 400level finals student like herself, i confronted her with this story and she denied it - i pressed on, she opened up that she had to give in to the pressure of the dude during a period when we had some misunderstanding and that he guy has only kissed her and helped her out financially but hasn't slept with her, My world came crashing before me, my 4year relationship was going down -

I had to run back to Nigeria and i indeed confirmed tins for myself, flooded in her fone were pics of this guy, she had locks on all her fone and was so phone concious the whole time, I gave her a ring which she accepted after some serious talks trying to make her remember the past we shared before i departed the shores of Nigeria, she agreed but the next day - I noticed the ring was no where to be found on her hands -i asked her and she claimed it was missing somewhere in her room, i ignored it knowing fully well that she might have kept it
and whenever I asked why, she said the feelings were not there and that "like you said, they would come back with time" although we still Were Intimate but it was terrible as her mind didnt seem to be in it

Fast forward to a week later we had issues again as a result of that same dude and in the midst of anger, demanded my ring back cos im very temperamental and she returned the ring, i was ready to break it off this time and head back to europe - her family intervened and got the info of the dude and asked him to leave the girl alone (so i was told) had a couple of words with her and then she wanted a meeting - which i acknowledged, she wanted space to work on ourselves so she claimed - she said she no longer felt love for me any more and that she had like 40% love for me - tears rolled down my eyes knowing im so emotional but she wasnt moved - i wished her all the best and we agreed to give ourselves the space, she claimed she could always call me - try to keep in touch etc but i made up my mind that the sooner i left nigeria, the better for me as im going to delete all contacts of her from my life.

Sorry its quite long but it sure would make me feel better typing this all out - 2days after she asked for the space, she got in touch with a friend of mine and told her she needed tins to work out and then proceeded in asking me that we should make things work, I would like to maintain that ive since cut off all financial aspects away from the relationship which she never complained about - My family went behind me and my father personally asked her himself that we do some sort of introductions before i leave the country back to cyprus and she turned the offer down saying she wasnt ready - My family whom she was so close to saw how depressed i was and knew exactly what was happening to me as i took to alcohol and they were amazingly shocked - they washed their hands away from this girl and everyone within my family circle hated her

This time she seem ready and was more back to her senses but then a problem happened, her birthday happened to be october 19th and on the 18th nite to the 19th morning - i asked her to spend the night at my place after much talking she agreed but then she did something which i noticed and frowned at cos she stays at her school hostel - before coming to spend the nite at mine, she bought a new sim and placed it in her fone leaving her real sim back in the another fone at her hostel - i believe her intention was to avoid calls from whoever she was expecting calls from to wish her a happy birthday wish - 12am that nite she was sleeping already, i got up and called her line it kept ringing but her phone right in my hand was mute then i knew something was up, i woke her up and complained why wont she drop this cheating habit of hers and she said she did it knowing my temper decided to avoid any issue that would cause us having an arguments

the next day 19th (her day) , she decided to read that nite for her upcoming exams which i agreed to because i value education so well - i was completely cool with it, then 20th afternoon - i saw a friend who asked me where was my girlfriend last nite and i was quick to defend her that she was reading the whole nite back in her hostel the guy laughed and asked me to ask her well where she was last night - then i knew i was in trouble again.

I approached her house and on getting there she wasnt in but her bag was in the living room, i angrily took the bag dropped it in my car and sped off waiting 4 her to call me so she cud tell me where exactly she was last nite, she didnt call. 6pm that evening the 20th october her mom rang me on my way there, i met a friend who confided in me that my girl did some birthday bash in a club that nite and that same boy whom her family has warned she stay away from was indeed there and after the birthday on their way to her hostel or where-ever got arrested by the police and locked up in prison, i thanked him for this info and went to see her mom on getting there - broke the news to the woman who apologized to me, reported her dad and he threatened to disown her after her entire family kept apologizing to me.

the 21st she came to meet me and went on her knees and confessed that it was a friends birthday bash after reading decided 2 go with some of her friends and met the guy coincidentally in the same club and by 11pm he was going to drop she and her friends off when they got arrested, she also confessed only kissing the guy and collecting money for up keep from him but never Were Intimate with him (Who cares) her father had a meeting with me a day before i travelled and it was agreed that December this year, i should come for some family introduction but my family are not in anyway ready for this because they hate this girl now so much cos of what shes done to me and the fact that she couldnt wait - they seem to have their own way of getting info about my girl from random sources close to her (all eyes fixed on us)

I met another young lady during my stay bout 2weeks before i left just to allow me get this girl off my head and my family immediately accepted her but truth to be told, i dont really love this girl as much as i love my original girlfriend.

Im back in europe again and she has started yet again,her attitude hasn't changed since i left - infact its even worse - I'm so confused n dnt knw wat to do again , her eyes seem to be so outside I dnt knw wat she's loookin for out there - 4days ago we had sum miss understandin and I angrily sent her a text she forwarded d message to her mom and brother who calld me and told me all sorts of Bullshiit -

I got talking with a friend of hers whom i happen to know through her and stays very close to her room in the same hostel and here was what the girl told me -
In quote " I know since ,she told people dat she loves d guy,dat d guy is caring,she said u always shout at her.when d boy called her, she said my boyfriend is calling me and i know becos she was wishing him sucess in his exam.a friend of mine stay close to d boys house and she told someone dat (my girl) do spend nite in d guys house.all her room mates and friends know about this."

I believe what this girl is saying but im blinded by love so is taking it all as lies, even if its true - theres notin i can do cos ive seen worst things from her

Nairalanders i understand you peeps would say read the handwriting on the wall which i have already done but im just having difficulty moving on - on the 30th of this month we would have been 5years together and shes graduating today from uni but ive decided not to call her again and so far till now she hasnt called me to tell me anything - This was a girl i paid her got admission for into her 100level botany nearly 5years ago - while i was in my finals

Please Nairalanders please dont advice me on how to go back to the 2nd girl who is more calm and collected than my first as i have no feelings for her but all i need is advices on how to save my first relationship and make things work out again - there is nothing i haven't tried under the sun, calling messaging, everything but yet still same issue especially when im away from the country

I have pleaded with her to tell me the truth - if shes going out with this guy but she denies every single time and flames up wanting to know whos been telling me things and that talks like that are what pisses her off
If she wants to be with the dude, i just want her to come clean and i would wish her the best of luck and move on with my life - shes not the first to double date, if she claims he is more caring than myself then tell me and i would go - whats the need keeping me when you are in the hands of someone else -

Im just confused, please insult me or call me names, i deserve it - i just need an advice on how to save my relationship once again
she means alot to me

Maybe i should have never left nigeria - she wants a bb torch by xmas and 25,000 naira to block all her final year school exams so she dont get an extension -
till i left nigeria tried giving her the ring but she refused saying keep it when the time's right i'll accept it

Now shes started acting weird again

adrainuche:
THANKX ALOT I NEVER FELT I WAS BEEN EXPLOITED, SHES NOT FROM A RICH HOME SO I JUST FELT SHE NEEDED THE MONEY ..