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You went to a fabulous first date, only to find
yourself confused when you never hear from the
guy again. So, you are left to wonder … What
happened?. Most girls have experience this scenario a lot of time that they start to think if something is wrong with them somewhere. You sit around with your girlfriends and debate why he didn't call you back. What happened in between the lines? You speculate, you obsess, you rationalize, you justify. You want to know why. When your friends tell you, "It's not you, it's him," you want to know if they're trying to be nice or telling you the truth. Guess what? There is someone who does know the truth about what really happened on your fabulous date. But it's not you. It's not your friends. And it's certainly not your mother. It's the guy you went out with. He wouldn't tell you because he doesn't want to hurt your ego, he feels the best thing to do is to vanish. He smiles throughout the time he on a date with you, but inside his mind he like " i can't wait to vanish".

Many times we often send out negative signals we
might not be aware of. Like girls , guys can be self
conscious too, and if he don’t think you want him to
call, he definitely won’t. This are 7 reasons why a guy may never call again after first date:

1. You are boring: I don't mean to sound harsh here, but Most girls always feel that it's a guy's duty to entertain them with jokes and stories when on a
first date while she relax to watch the show. He
asked you lots of questions, and you gave him a
minimal response in an unexcited tone. You never
cared to ask him any questions, or the only question you care to ask him is "what do you do for a living?". My dear, you are boring, 10 minutes with you will seem like one hour, because you are not really participating in the conversation, and you expect him to call you again for a second date? Babe, Na vanishing things o

2. Acting like a boss lady: Most girls do this. She
tries to intimidate the guy by telling him things like
how rich her family is, and how she can survive
without a man, or how she doesn't take poo from
men. This often make the guy thinks you have a
prickly attitude and imagines that smuggling with
you is like hugging a porcupine in a pin-striped
business suit. Your are perceived as argumentative,
controlling, overly independent, and not feminine or warm. Humble yourself, the guy will respect you
more when he finds out (by himself) about how
successful and secure you are . Try showing your
warm, sensitive side first by talking about your
adorable little nephew.

3. Refusing to eat or drink: Most girls think not
ordering dinner or drink will make them appear
skinnier, prettier, sexier, more feminine, or more
mysterious, guess what? It won’t. What it will do is
probably make the dude a little uncomfortable, especially if he takes you to a restaurant. Men often read it that you are only refusing food and drink because you just want the meeting to be brief, you don't intend to spend much time with him. How do you expect him to be comfortable eating and drinking, while you mop at him like a little rabbit. It's dam boring and he is likely won't call for a second date. Na vanishing
things.

4. Obsessively checking your phone
every minute: This includes Texting, taking a phone
call or just glancing at your phone screen every
minute. I'm not saying you shouldn't make use of
your phone while on date, if you genuinely have to
and you are apologetic, that’s fine. Otherwise, it's a
red flag. There is nothing ruder than trying to have a conversation with a person who’s constantly stating at their screens. It makes you look disinterested in whatever he is saying. And he just can't wait to vanish.

5. You asked for more refreshment (Oliver twist): He
buys you a drink and you tell him you don't drink
without meat, or asking for more stuffs. You don't
know how much he has with him, then why ask for
more? It only shows you are a self-centered person
who doesn't care about other people's feeling. If he
buys more , lucky you, but if he doesn't , don't
request. Some girls will even go to the extend of
requesting for take away, so she can take home for
her friends or siblings. And yet you expect him to
call you for a second date? Na vanishing things dear.

6. You didn’t at least offer to pay for anything: A girl
who is going out on a first date with a guy should
put some little cash in her bag to avoid any
embarrassment. When it's time for payment , offer
to split the bill. Normally, the guy will decline your
offer and insist to pay, but he will be impressed by
your gesture and will respect you for that. Sitting
back all night eating and drinking without offering to
split the bill, makes you look like a hungry gold
digger. That could be why he vanished.

7. You showed a sign of eagerness: yeah, most girls
do this ,and it's bad. You text or call him immediately after the date to thank him; I am not
saying text or calling a guy after a date to thank him
is bad, but it's the way you do it that matters. If you
had a good time and feel like sending him a casual
text the next day that says “had a great time, thanks
again!”, That's good . But sending a casual text the
next day that says "OMG so I know I only left you a
few minutes ago, but I had the best time ever, you
are sooooo amazing and I can’t wait to see u again".
Don't expect a second date. if a guy likes a woman,
he would rather do the chasing, not the other way
round. So don't appear desperate.


Guys, feel free to add more

why spamming this section


https://www.nairaland.com/2313979/7-reasons-why-guys-often

you created same thread yesterday

Thumbs up bros... You hit the kpako and the nail on the head.

[b]I think you should replace that your no7 their absolutely nothing wrong with calling someone you just went out with immediately you got home to let him know you are home and you had a fabulous time.
"let me help you"
7. You arrive with your team mates: Ladies why do that First date is supposed to be where you get to know your selfs, how do i ask my question if your angry looking team mate keeps staring at me like i stole her phone . Am not even talking about the financial implications . They order like they have not eaten for weeks
There was this girl in my jss days, i meet her in benue when i went for service, and out of courtesy i asked her out for lunch.
At lunch asked her what she will like to eat, she said
Fried rice and salad with chicken. I had to include juice , that was not my problem, you need to see how she barely touched the food (someone i know how hungry her parents are) she even had the guts to ask for icecream and tfare when she was going [/b]

Is eida her armpit dey smell or She fart on dia first date.....

tho your introduction is too long but I must say this is a very good write up.

No.7 tho


And what is this about spamming

Adeoba10:
Is eida her armpit dey smell or She fart on dia first date.....

hilarious

8. You asked him not to do so, you took your Sim card, broke it, burnt the pieces and got a brand new line with another network.

9. He doesn't have your number. I hope that's the reason that guy haven't called me yet.

agarawu23:
why spamming this section

https://www.nairaland.com/2313979/7-reasons-why-guys-often
you created same thread yesterday

Yeah, what's your biz !?

Adeoba10:
Is eida her armpit dey smell or She fart on dia first date.....

Fart? Which girl does that?