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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Nature8(m): 7:04am On May 16, 2015

Ralphlauren:
i agree

he must be one in a million

after forgiving their cheating daughter, his MIL still has the audacity to be giving him attitude. SMH !

I'm telling you bro.. The MIL should be very grateful that she has such a nice guy as a son inlaw than misbehaving.. Women sef.. Mtchwww

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Nobody: 7:17am On May 16, 2015

nkem123:
brother, thank God for d grace upon u to be able to accept her back.
I dnt think I can do same if I were in ur shoe, even cheating girlfriends dnt have it back with me nt to talk of wife.I will take my kids and push her out without a pin including her phones and Sims
I hail u.

Who the hell do you think you are? undecided

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Youngpo413: 7:22am On May 16, 2015

andromida:
I don't understand why you are angry, your MIL dos not want you to know about her relatives so what? If you have forgiven your wife and you are at peace with your decision face your immediate family and forget about the MIL anytime your paths cross you simply be polite and kind to her you don't have to be buddies with your MIL.

who ever forgives a cheating girlfriend talkless of WIFE,is a very big fool!

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by justwise(m): 7:40am On May 16, 2015

de2oye:
I am a Yoruba man and I got married to an Ebira lady from Kogi state about six years ago. The marriage has been blessed with 2 sons. We lived happily together in the same city while my mother Inlaw lives in another part of the same city, as such we used to visit her together occasionally.

Sometimes last year, my wife told me she want to go and visit her mother Inlaw and I permitted her to go. Accidentally, I had a an unusual call from my office and I decided to branch and join my wife there since my office is just a stone throw from my Inlaw's place. I didn't inform my wife. As I got there, I requested for her phone to enable me make an important call since I've run out of power on mine. She was reluctant to release the phone and I could easily deduced that all is not well. That makes me go further and I to check her chat history. I was amazed and find it difficult that my wife of six years is having an affair with a much younger guy she's older than for at least five years. She started begging me that she can explain, explain what?. I was totally disappointed and confused, I left the place immediately and told her not to even bother coming to my own house again. The funniest thing was that I know this particular guy to be our Neighbour and he used to come to our house and I do give him money at times because he's a student. While all this was going on, the mother Inlaw was not around.

I decided to call her on phone and tell her what happened because the father inlaw was out of the country as at the time of the incidence. The woman pleaded that I should come back and I obliged, the first thing she did that really surprised me was that she started talking to her daughter in their local language known fully well that I don't understand a bit of it and both of them can speak both Yoruba and English fluently. What could she be telling her daughter after I showed her the chat history because I didn't release the phone since that's d only evidence I have against her. I was really angry and rose, I frankly told her that when she's ready to talk to me I will come back, she realized her mistake and refuse to allow me to go. I later left her there and decided to tell the father on phone. He pleaded that I should please allow her back into my house with d kids and I allowed them back only because of the innocent kids and the fact that I respected the man so much. Since then, we 'be never be in good terms again; I mean myself and the mother because she's not happy with the involvement of the father. I decided not to go to their house again except if the father is around.

About 2 months after, the father was around and he tried to settle the whole issue and I decided to let go. To worsen the situation, there was a particular day I went to their house on my way back from office, I was with my mother Inlaw and I asked about one of her relatives who was sick, the answer she gave me was that she didn't know his whereabout which I know she's lying and still keeping the malice. Since then I stopped going there and I have made up my mind not to ever visit her again. Kindly advise, I'm I wrong here?

Complete BS!, I think you are a cheat as well, married for 6 years with 2 kids and she cheated for 5 years with a neighbour you know, you took her back and now focus your anger on MIL rather than your cheating wife and possible father of those 2 kids?
Call me a cynic but you got a lot to hide.

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by cozyman: 7:42am On May 16, 2015

y cnt u marry d language you undstand?
am a copper servin currently in kogi...what i knw about ebira lady is dat they are always found of cheating and hardly can u see anyone that stay with one husband....though not all but 98% of them...#fact#

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Jerryolumide(m): 7:46am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
u didn't give ur wife d chance to explain , she said she could explain but u shunned her. u saw her phone n immediately jumped to d conclusion dat she was having an affair, u left her mother's house n told her not to come back into urs .

ur MIL didn't do anything wrong . pple's native language is always going to be their default language , esp when with family members , meaning dat is wat came natural to her . u cud hv nicely asked her to speak english , i'm sure she wud've done dat but again u got up angrily .

ur problem is dat u jump to conclusions too soon without giving pple d chance to explain their side of d story . d same thing u did to ur wife is what u did to ur MIL. u need to learn to be more patient n hear what pple hv to say

Are you saying all this because you're a woman huh

I'm sure the guy ain't he kid he sure knows When his wife is having an affair or not

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by LasoulMacuby(m): 7:46am On May 16, 2015

andromida:
I don't understand why you are angry, your MIL dos not want you to know about her relatives so what? If you have forgiven your wife and you are at peace with your decision face your immediate family and forget about the MIL anytime your paths cross you simply be polite and kind to her you don't have to be buddies with your MIL.

I wonder the bunch of ediot that liked this statement

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by LasoulMacuby(m): 7:49am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
u didn't give ur wife d chance to explain , she said she could explain but u shunned her. u saw her phone n immediately jumped to d conclusion dat she was having an affair, u left her mother's house n told her not to come back into urs .

ur MIL didn't do anything wrong . pple's native language is always going to be their default language , esp when with family members , meaning dat is wat came natural to her . u cud hv nicely asked her to speak english , i'm sure she wud've done dat but again u got up angrily .

ur problem is dat u jump to conclusions too soon without giving pple d chance to explain their side of d story . d same thing u did to ur wife is what u did to ur MIL. u need to learn to be more patient n hear what pple hv to say

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by LasoulMacuby(m): 7:53am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
u didn't give ur wife d chance to explain , she said she could explain but u shunned her. u saw her phone n immediately jumped to d conclusion dat she was having an affair, u left her mother's house n told her not to come back into urs .

ur MIL didn't do anything wrong . pple's native language is always going to be their default language , esp when with family members , meaning dat is wat came natural to her . u cud hv nicely asked her to speak english , i'm sure she wud've done dat but again u got up angrily .

ur problem is dat u jump to conclusions too soon without giving pple d chance to explain their side of d story . d same thing u did to ur wife is what u did to ur MIL. u need to learn to be more patient n hear what pple hv to say

Its natural for a cheat to show herself, am sure u didn't know when u typed this, it just comes cos it's inate. What explanations does a man need to know his wife is cheating? Or u mean he can't decipher a romantic conversation?

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by LasoulMacuby(m): 8:03am On May 16, 2015

freecocoa:
How will he be assuming if the content of the chat has confirmed she's cheating?

Freecocoa, I tire for this people o. Abi them think say person no get sense again.
See this: o. P's wife : Last night was incredible, what have u been doing that you left all ur energy till after five years. Wow! U are a machine on bed
Young boy: mama, u were looking so sweet last night, I had to give my all

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by kullozone(m): 8:17am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
taking to pple in nl is like talking to a damn wall . i actually sent a chat history ( for one particular afternoon last week ) to a friend yesterday and she sent me hers ! these are just call history of the calls we both made that afternoon . chat history / call history is simply that , chat history. it states the day & time calls were made . chat history is on the opposite end of the spectrum from texts bc with the former there is no content. chat/call history does not equal texts. you're saying the contents of the chat confirmed she was cheating, what content ?? pple just like making things up ! op didn't say texts , he said chat history . he himself didn't mention anything about content bc he had none to work with , all he saw was that calls were made to this guy and vice versa , no content !

you're more like an uncompleted building.

no offense!

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by creepsyme(f): 8:21am On May 16, 2015

REMMEI:

Chei!.. God why?...

u sound like u r head over heels in love wit a chic from this tribe, pls flush her out of your system asap a stitch in time saves nine, my advice though.##$÷%%×+.

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Charly68: 8:22am On May 16, 2015

It is high time you behave as a man..when her family need to see u they will visit you..why gslivanting around them asking for someone that is sick or not..your wife is attached to her mother and if care is not she will over indulge her in many nasty things that will collapse your home..cut her off from the woman technically. Be a man and rule over your home..your mother in law did not see anything bad in the attitude of her adulterous daughter and she knew her husband would bounced back on her knowing fully well she has been caught in similar fashion before..can't you see the trait of infidelity here.. Stand firm and forget about your I want to be good to in laws attitude of we Yoruba . The truth is some mother in laws are murder in laws .

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by omoiyaolowo: 8:24am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
u didn't give ur wife d chance to explain , she said she could explain but u shunned her. u saw her phone n immediately jumped to d conclusion dat she was having an affair, u left her mother's house n told her not to come back into urs .

ur MIL didn't do anything wrong . pple's native language is always going to be their default language , esp when with family members , meaning dat is wat came natural to her . u cud hv nicely asked her to speak english , i'm sure she wud've done dat but again u got up angrily .

ur problem is dat u jump to conclusions too soon without giving pple d chance to explain their side of d story . d same thing u did to ur wife is what u did to ur MIL. u need to learn to be more patient n hear what pple hv to say

What's this one saying mshew how can she speak a language he doesn't understand while he's there haba put yourself in his shoes

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by nkem123(m): 8:31am On May 16, 2015

Justfollowit:
Who the hell do you think you are?

I guess u are d LovePeddler of a wife we are talking abt here? well, u can search for d answer of ur question on Google

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by cbaba: 8:34am On May 16, 2015

U c my guy we learn everyday. I would have commended u and told u to forgive but u probably heard it all. The biggest thing to shape all this to a win-win is to speak ur native inner language to yourself. Yeah Jst like when she and mil whr talkn and she ddnt want u to knw.

Tell yourself in that language what your fault were opening that space for that boy. U must have faults bro. Trust me women r extremely complex. Think deep and find out. Becos now its not a 0% chance she wont do it again and s stats keep growin'....and for God sake stay away from outside influence. u r the dad and hero of the house. Keep it in and stand on that!

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by dotune(m): 8:50am On May 16, 2015

Obviously it isn't such a big deal in your wife's family to flirt or cheat. Your MIL must have been doing that to your FIL. You are a man, concentrate on building your career and family while ignoring your MIL tantrums. Meanwhile, state clearly your terms for your wife, incase her libido wants to dance shoki again and be in charge. Thank God for a forgiving heart that you have got.

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by popiong(m): 8:51am On May 16, 2015

de2oye:
I am a Yoruba man and I got married to an Ebira lady from Kogi state about six years ago. The marriage has been blessed with 2 sons. We lived happily together in the same city while my mother Inlaw lives in another part of the same city, as such we used to visit her together occasionally.

Sometimes last year, my wife told me she want to go and visit her mother Inlaw and I permitted her to go. Accidentally, I had a an unusual call from my office and I decided to branch and join my wife there since my office is just a stone throw from my Inlaw's place. I didn't inform my wife. As I got there, I requested for her phone to enable me make an important call since I've run out of power on mine. She was reluctant to release the phone and I could easily deduced that all is not well. That makes me go further and I to check her chat history. I was amazed and find it difficult that my wife of six years is having an affair with a much younger guy she's older than for at least five years. She started begging me that she can explain, explain what?. I was totally disappointed and confused, I left the place immediately and told her not to even bother coming to my own house again. The funniest thing was that I know this particular guy to be our Neighbour and he used to come to our house and I do give him money at times because he's a student. While all this was going on, the mother Inlaw was not around.

I decided to call her on phone and tell her what happened because the father inlaw was out of the country as at the time of the incidence. The woman pleaded that I should come back and I obliged, the first thing she did that really surprised me was that she started talking to her daughter in their local language known fully well that I don't understand a bit of it and both of them can speak both Yoruba and English fluently. What could she be telling her daughter after I showed her the chat history because I didn't release the phone since that's d only evidence I have against her. I was really angry and rose, I frankly told her that when she's ready to talk to me I will come back, she realized her mistake and refuse to allow me to go. I later left her there and decided to tell the father on phone. He pleaded that I should please allow her back into my house with d kids and I allowed them back only because of the innocent kids and the fact that I respected the man so much. Since then, we 'be never be in good terms again; I mean myself and the mother because she's not happy with the involvement of the father. I decided not to go to their house again except if the father is around.

About 2 months after, the father was around and he tried to settle the whole issue and I decided to let go. To worsen the situation, there was a particular day I went to their house on my way back from office, I was with my mother Inlaw and I asked about one of her relatives who was sick, the answer she gave me was that she didn't know his whereabout which I know she's lying and still keeping the malice. Since then I stopped going there and I have made up my mind not to ever visit her again. Kindly advise, I'm I wrong here?

you are a ma.
your thinking differs from that of a woman.

your MIL's attitude to me can be rightly placed
her pride had been shattered by her daughter's silly act
see her attitude as a sign of her being ashamed of facing you

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Nicepoker(m): 8:52am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
u didn't give ur wife d chance to explain , she said she could explain but u shunned her. u saw her phone n immediately jumped to d conclusion dat she was having an affair, u left her mother's house n told her not to come back into urs .

ur MIL didn't do anything wrong . pple's native language is always going to be their default language , esp when with family members , meaning dat is wat came natural to her . u cud hv nicely asked her to speak english , i'm sure she wud've done dat but again u got up angrily .

ur problem is dat u jump to conclusions too soon without giving pple d chance to explain their side of d story . d same thing u did to ur wife is what u did to ur MIL. u need to learn to be more patient n hear what pple hv to say

explain what. Women!!!!!!!

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by dotune(m): 9:00am On May 16, 2015

cozyman:
y cnt u marry d language you undstand?
am a copper servin currently in kogi...what i knw about ebira lady is dat they are always found of cheating and hardly can u see anyone that stay with one husband....though not all but 98% of them...#fact#

See ehn you just said what I've been holding back because I don't want to be seen as being tribalistic in here. I have heard true stories of Ebira wives cheating. Can anyone also confirm this? And give advice as to what the guy can do, cos the truth is his MIL is in support of it and it is likely to repeat itself.

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by funmilade4real(m): 9:03am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
u didn't give ur wife d chance to explain , she said she could explain but u shunned her. u saw her phone n immediately jumped to d conclusion dat she was having an affair, u left her mother's house n told her not to come back into urs .

ur MIL didn't do anything wrong . pple's native language is always going to be their default language , esp when with family members , meaning dat is wat came natural to her . u cud hv nicely asked her to speak english , i'm sure she wud've done dat but again u got up angrily .

ur problem is dat u jump to conclusions too soon without giving pple d chance to explain their side of d story . d same thing u did to ur wife is what u did to ur MIL. u need to learn to be more patient n hear what pple hv to say

What if what he saw was (Boyfriend: baby i cant stop loving you
Wife: I love it when you give it to me hard
Bf:Baby i cant wait for your Husband to die
Wife: honey please be patient with me

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Nobody: 9:10am On May 16, 2015

I figure out you married from a rich home.You don't really have a say in the marriage

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Texasquare(m): 9:19am On May 16, 2015

adebisiolumide5:
Hehehe..

u mumu gan he said he nid advise upon say u b first to comment.

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by zomoears(m): 9:21am On May 16, 2015*

veave:
Hmmmn...

Why would your wife cheat?
Kai!

No disrespect to the tribe...but it's almost their default mode. lived there for a while, and it's almost normal for the women there to cheat. The men there live with that reality.

Worst thing is, when d men get tough about d cheating ways, d women get diabolical. "Many have gone" when they confronted and emarassed d cheating wives.

It's a vicious cycle, dear. Mother to daughter....

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by kabnafs(m): 9:29am On May 16, 2015

de2oye:
I am a Yoruba man and I got married to an Ebira lady from Kogi state about six years ago. The marriage has been blessed with 2 sons. We lived happily together in the same city while my mother Inlaw lives in another part of the same city, as such we used to visit her together occasionally.

Sometimes last year, my wife told me she want to go and visit her mother Inlaw and I permitted her to go. Accidentally, I had a an unusual call from my office and I decided to branch and join my wife there since my office is just a stone throw from my Inlaw's place. I didn't inform my wife. As I got there, I requested for her phone to enable me make an important call since I've run out of power on mine. She was reluctant to release the phone and I could easily deduced that all is not well. That makes me go further and I to check her chat history. I was amazed and find it difficult that my wife of six years is having an affair with a much younger guy she's older than for at least five years. She started begging me that she can explain, explain what?. I was totally disappointed and confused, I left the place immediately and told her not to even bother coming to my own house again. The funniest thing was that I know this particular guy to be our Neighbour and he used to come to our house and I do give him money at times because he's a student. While all this was going on, the mother Inlaw was not around.

I decided to call her on phone and tell her what happened because the father inlaw was out of the country as at the time of the incidence. The woman pleaded that I should come back and I obliged, the first thing she did that really surprised me was that she started talking to her daughter in their local language known fully well that I don't understand a bit of it and both of them can speak both Yoruba and English fluently. What could she be telling her daughter after I showed her the chat history because I didn't release the phone since that's d only evidence I have against her. I was really angry and rose, I frankly told her that when she's ready to talk to me I will come back, she realized her mistake and refuse to allow me to go. I later left her there and decided to tell the father on phone. He pleaded that I should please allow her back into my house with d kids and I allowed them back only because of the innocent kids and the fact that I respected the man so much. Since then, we 'be never be in good terms again; I mean myself and the mother because she's not happy with the involvement of the father. I decided not to go to their house again except if the father is around.

About 2 months after, the father was around and he tried to settle the whole issue and I decided to let go. To worsen the situation, there was a particular day I went to their house on my way back from office, I was with my mother Inlaw and I asked about one of her relatives who was sick, the answer she gave me was that she didn't know his whereabout which I know she's lying and still keeping the malice. Since then I stopped going there and I have made up my mind not to ever visit her again. Kindly advise, I'm I wrong here?

.my guy u jst ve to take tins easy,I cnt say u are wrong bt for peace to rain since u r stil wit her daughter n ur kids,you ve to b patient n learn to tolerate d woman for now.pray over it as well she change wit time

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by simplymade(m): 9:34am On May 16, 2015

Why not just send the bi.tch packing....or just kill the cheating bastard

Use poison,or assasins

That's what cheats deserve

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by Joy1706(f): 9:34am On May 16, 2015

See all the guys raining fire and brimstone. That's why I can never advice any woman to forgive their cheating husband's cos they themselves wouldn't think 2ce b4 throwing them out. I say, he cheats once? Take ur kids and leave his ass. These men don't deserve forgiveness

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Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by BluStreak(m): 9:42am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
taking to pple in nl is like talking to a damn wall . i actually sent a chat history ( for one particular afternoon last week ) to a friend yesterday and she sent me hers ! these are just call history of the calls we both made that afternoon . chat history / call history is simply that , chat history. it states the day & time calls were made . chat history is on the opposite end of the spectrum from texts bc with the former there is no content. chat/call history does not equal texts. you're saying the contents of the chat confirmed she was cheating, what content ?? pple just like making things up ! op didn't say texts , he said chat history . he himself didn't mention anything about content bc he had none to work with , all he saw was that calls were made to this guy and vice versa , no content !

This person lives in Jupiter I swear. Pls leave earth matters to people here on earth as it is beyond your scope.

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by BluStreak(m): 9:50am On May 16, 2015

aflyingbird:
taking to pple in nl is like talking to a damn wall . i actually sent a chat history ( for one particular afternoon last week ) to a friend yesterday and she sent me hers ! these are just call history of the calls we both made that afternoon . chat history / call history is simply that , chat history. it states the day & time calls were made . chat history is on the opposite end of the spectrum from texts bc with the former there is no content. chat/call history does not equal texts. you're saying the contents of the chat confirmed she was cheating, what content ?? pple just like making things up ! op didn't say texts , he said chat history . he himself didn't mention anything about content bc he had none to work with , all he saw was that calls were made to this guy and vice versa , no content !

This person lives in Jupiter I swear. Pls leave earth matters to people here on earth as it is beyond your scope.

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by numericalguy(m): 10:08am On May 16, 2015

@OP, you are a damm fool and a verry weak man. Even the sl.ut you call a wife is now taking sides with her evil mother to the extent of telling you that would you have so rude to your own mother.

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by aswani(m): 10:17am On May 16, 2015

For the sake of the kids who are under 6 years old, ignore the boys on here telling you to kick her out. This is what being an adult is all about, knowing what battles to fight at the right time not letting your pride get in the way.

Continue to be respectful to your MIL by greeting her but minimise your interaction with her.

Re: I'm I being rude to my mother Inlaw. by REMMEI(m): 10:25am On May 16, 2015

creepsyme:
u sound like u r head over heels in love wit a chic from this tribe, pls flush her out of your system asap a stitch in time saves nine, my advice though.##$÷%%×+.

thanks though..i no dey in love with anyone from that part o..na ma bruh o.. was just wondering why it could be so?..need a whole lota research to do on this.

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