₦airaland Forum

PreciousBro:
Religion and Tribe Reasons To Me Are Very Important, I Endorse It. I Think The Funkes and Funmis Should Stick To The Ayos and Dayos ,Leave The Uches and Emekas To Be With Their Nkechis and Ihuomas ,No Hating But, It Is What It Is.

Call Me a Tribalist...Well,F^ck You In Advance.

For Better Understanding ,Culturally and For Religious Compatibility.

And you wonder why racism is such an issue in the world today

Thank You

winetapper:
how many cows in exchange

Mademoiselle24:
Errrrm, some gals cannot cope with guys who speak bad English. U don't av to sound like a native speaker of English. A guy shd b able to communicate in simple correct English.

But really, that shdnt be a reason for rejecting a marriage proposal.

humilitypays:
Even though there seems to be much noise about scarcity of husband in the country, many single ladies are still turning potential suitors down for some reasons I think are funny and trivial.

In this short article, I want to hear peoples' varied view on these reasons; please feel free to add to the list because I am only listing out the ones I have heard or read about.

Below are the reasons:

1. Religion: in as much as I believe in partners sharing same religious belief, it becomes worrisome for a girl to reject a marriage proposal from her boyfriend or new man simply because he is not of the same religious denomination with her.

E.g. A girl who attends Winners Chapel turning down a guy because he attends Redeem, Assemblies of God, Jehovah's witness, etc.

I can understand Aisha, a Muslim girl turning down Tunde or Emeka a Christian, but Tina turning down James or Peter who share same Christian religious faith with her but different denomination sounds funny to me.

2. Community or State of origin:
As funny as it may sound, many won't believe that so many single ladies are still single today not entirely because quality single men aren't coming to ask their hands in marriage, but because they keep turning guys from other communities and States down while waiting for a Prince Charming from their hometown or state of origin.

I have noticed that this is more common amongst Anambra ladies, and whenever I hear such, I just shake my head because while these single ladies are busy waiting for Nnamdi, Emeka, Uche from their community or State, Emeka, Nnamdi and Uche are getting married to girls from far states like- Osun, Oyo, Benue, Kogi...and the ladies keep waiting for them, it sounds funny to me.

Ladies, why limit your chances by striking off guys from some communities and states? No one community or state have same character and trait.

Because Julius from Ondo divorced his wife after two months of marriage doesn't mean that Ayo from Ondo will do the same...so ladies please wise up and stop stereotyping for your own good.

3. Height: in as much as height matters in selecting a partner, some ladies seem to be so carried away by this height of a thing.

If you are up to 5ft7, marrying a man of 5ft7 or 5ft8 isn't bad at all...in fact marrying a man of 5ft6 isn't bad if he has some other great qualities....remember, height won't guarantee your happiness in marriage.

In fact, after spending some time (say 2years), the physical look of your partner may become inconsequential to you because plenty other factors will set in.

And short men don't always give birth to short offspring...if his family have a trait of tallness (if at all such word exist in English dictionary, lol), he will most likely give birth to tall children.

4. His manhood size:
As funny and unbelievable as it may sound, so many single ladies of today have rejected their boyfriends marriage proposal simple because he's not big enough down there. These class of ladies forgot that size doesn't guarantee absolute satisfaction during intimate activities; according to modern research on this.

5. Academic qualification:
Agreed, every lady dreams of dating or marrying a nerd or an intellect, but most times, academic qualification or class of degree doesn't always prove a man's level of intelligence, smartness, neither does it prove he's a nerd.

Some 3rd class graduates are more creative, witty than some 1st class graduates.

Some masters degree holders are more intelligent, learned than some professors.

Some OND holders are more smarter, productive and intelligent than some guys who graduated from Ivy League universities.

Most times its luck, opportunity, family background and life's unforseen uncurrences that land some guys into having the low academic qualification they have, but given time, they may end up higher than the guy with a 1st class today.

So ladies, give guys a fair chance because its not always about degree and qualification; some men who didn't pass through the walls of higher institution today are employing the so-called graduates from top global universities and such will keep happening till the world ends.

5. Position in the family:
I have heard that ladies do turn down a guy's marriage proposal because of his position in the family; mostly because he's the first born child or the first son.

But why?

6. Profession or type of job:
I won't stress much on this because I won't entirely blame ladies, but sometimes when I hear it, it sounds funny to me and doesn't hold water because guys marry ladies irrespective of their profession or type of job. In fact, guys marry even broke, jobless girls, so why discriminate against guys when it comes to their own profession or type of job? What's good for the goose is also good for the....you know na? Lol

6. Place of meeting:
I have heard that some ladies will never marry a guy they met in a certain place, location or environment.

Though guys are also guilty of this, but to me, it sounds funny because where you meet people doesn't matter, what matters is how they behave, their character and personality...because the guy you met in a club maybe more disciplined and focused than that guy you met in the church choir or mosque.

I would love to see ladies start reasoning beyond certain things.

Because you met a guy on the social media or internet, you just write him off as a marriage potential, why? Don't you know its the same people you see going around the street and in church that are also using the internet? Are those ones online ghost?

You can meet your partner anywhere at any time....don't pre-programme your mind as to where you will meet your partner.

Many ladies believe they will meet their partner in their workplace; big mistake, some believe he is in their church; another great mistake, while some plan to meet him at the airport, in certain highbrow environments where they believe rich guys come....please re-programme your mind now!

You can meet your partner in a public bus (most happy couples met like this), on the road, in the market, online (many have), in the bank (also possible), shopping mall, etc. The ideal thing is; free your mind and give guys a fair chance irrespective of where u met them cos you never can tell.

7. Poor English:

This is the funniest of all to me, lol.

Because he can't speak Queens English and form Americana, you just tell him: NO! Lolz

Will speaking Queens English put food on the table? I doubt

Will speaking Queens English make him to treat you like a queen, I doubt.

And Nigerian ladies must also understand that English is not Nigeria's mother tongue...Russians, Germans, French guys, Chinese, Japanese guys don't speak English o...if he can communicate effectively, why the fuss about phonetic English speaking?

Dear ladies, please help yourselves and also help the guys and make life easier for all.


Note: I only felt like sharing my opinion on this issue as a way of enlightening single ladies so that they can make amendments and corrections where necessarry for the benefit of both genders. Let's try and make life easier for ourselves by letting go some funny characters and mindset.



I will drop my pen here for now, see you guys some other time and do have a beautiful week.

ThoniaSlim:
So let me get this straight, are you saying a woman with two degrees should get married to a man with just an OND? So she can be regarded as a virtuous woman or whatever term you wanna use to describe her?

ThoniaSlim:
So let me get this straight, are you saying a woman with two degrees should get married to a man with just an OND? So she can be regarded as a virtuous woman or whatever term you wanna use to describe her?

hedonistic:
So how does having two degrees or even 10 post graduate degrees make you a more worthy wife or increase your uxorial value in any man's eyes? Some of you girls are incredibly misguided.

"Just an OND". Imagine the offhanded condescension. Such a peacock with a huge chip on her shoulders...without good reason.

Mekybliss:
Number 4 tho . I don't like big things joor. I prefer small and workable. I don't want thing that will come and give me a bow leg and a long hole

zinachidi:
i know a girl hu has vowed to marry only a last son in a family....

tete7000:
Religious compatibility is important in marriage. Often times, it looks not important at the early stage of marriage, however as children comes it becomes serious issue. When you are convinced about what you believe, what you want your children to believe becomes your preoccupation.
Even within the same faith, doctrinal differences can often strain family relationship. Marriage is often not enough to make someone starts believing what he/she has hitherto consider heretical. While marriage across divides within pentecostal fold is often not serious enough to cause much conflict in marriages; doctrinal issues resulting from marriage between orthodox christians and pentecostal christians can really restrain marital union. I honestly won't advice a born and bred Jehovah witness to marry a devout Catholic neither do I think it is appropriate for a deeper life Christian and some other Pentecostal movement to marry into the catholic fold.

humilitypays:
Even though there seems to be much noise about scarcity of husband in the country, many single ladies are still turning potential suitors down for some reasons I think are funny and trivial.

In this short article, I want to hear peoples' varied view on these reasons; please feel free to add to the list because I am only listing out the ones I have heard or read about.

Below are the reasons:

1. Religion: in as much as I believe in partners sharing same religious belief, it becomes worrisome for a girl to reject a marriage proposal from her boyfriend or new man simply because he is not of the same religious denomination with her.

E.g. A girl who attends Winners Chapel turning down a guy because he attends Redeem, Assemblies of God, Jehovah's witness, etc.

I can understand Aisha, a Muslim girl turning down Tunde or Emeka a Christian, but Tina turning down James or Peter who share same Christian religious faith with her but different denomination sounds funny to me.

2. Community or State of origin:
As funny as it may sound, many won't believe that so many single ladies are still single today not entirely because quality single men aren't coming to ask their hands in marriage, but because they keep turning guys from other communities and States down while waiting for a Prince Charming from their hometown or state of origin.

I have noticed that this is more common amongst Anambra ladies, and whenever I hear such, I just shake my head because while these single ladies are busy waiting for Nnamdi, Emeka, Uche from their community or State, Emeka, Nnamdi and Uche are getting married to girls from far states like- Osun, Oyo, Benue, Kogi...and the ladies keep waiting for them, it sounds funny to me.

Ladies, why limit your chances by striking off guys from some communities and states? No one community or state have same character and trait.

Because Julius from Ondo divorced his wife after two months of marriage doesn't mean that Ayo from Ondo will do the same...so ladies please wise up and stop stereotyping for your own good.

3. Height: in as much as height matters in selecting a partner, some ladies seem to be so carried away by this height of a thing.

If you are up to 5ft7, marrying a man of 5ft7 or 5ft8 isn't bad at all...in fact marrying a man of 5ft6 isn't bad if he has some other great qualities....remember, height won't guarantee your happiness in marriage.

In fact, after spending some time (say 2years), the physical look of your partner may become inconsequential to you because plenty other factors will set in.

And short men don't always give birth to short offspring...if his family have a trait of tallness (if at all such word exist in English dictionary, lol), he will most likely give birth to tall children.

4. His manhood size:
As funny and unbelievable as it may sound, so many single ladies of today have rejected their boyfriends marriage proposal simple because he's not big enough down there. These class of ladies forgot that size doesn't guarantee absolute satisfaction during intimate activities; according to modern research on this.

5. Academic qualification:
Agreed, every lady dreams of dating or marrying a nerd or an intellect, but most times, academic qualification or class of degree doesn't always prove a man's level of intelligence, smartness, neither does it prove he's a nerd.

Some 3rd class graduates are more creative, witty than some 1st class graduates.

Some masters degree holders are more intelligent, learned than some professors.

Some OND holders are more smarter, productive and intelligent than some guys who graduated from Ivy League universities.

Most times its luck, opportunity, family background and life's unforseen uncurrences that land some guys into having the low academic qualification they have, but given time, they may end up higher than the guy with a 1st class today.

So ladies, give guys a fair chance because its not always about degree and qualification; some men who didn't pass through the walls of higher institution today are employing the so-called graduates from top global universities and such will keep happening till the world ends.

5. Position in the family:
I have heard that ladies do turn down a guy's marriage proposal because of his position in the family; mostly because he's the first born child or the first son.

But why?

6. Profession or type of job:
I won't stress much on this because I won't entirely blame ladies, but sometimes when I hear it, it sounds funny to me and doesn't hold water because guys marry ladies irrespective of their profession or type of job. In fact, guys marry even broke, jobless girls, so why discriminate against guys when it comes to their own profession or type of job? What's good for the goose is also good for the....you know na? Lol

6. Place of meeting:
I have heard that some ladies will never marry a guy they met in a certain place, location or environment.

Though guys are also guilty of this, but to me, it sounds funny because where you meet people doesn't matter, what matters is how they behave, their character and personality...because the guy you met in a club maybe more disciplined and focused than that guy you met in the church choir or mosque.

I would love to see ladies start reasoning beyond certain things.

Because you met a guy on the social media or internet, you just write him off as a marriage potential, why? Don't you know its the same people you see going around the street and in church that are also using the internet? Are those ones online ghost?

You can meet your partner anywhere at any time....don't pre-programme your mind as to where you will meet your partner.

Many ladies believe they will meet their partner in their workplace; big mistake, some believe he is in their church; another great mistake, while some plan to meet him at the airport, in certain highbrow environments where they believe rich guys come....please re-programme your mind now!

You can meet your partner in a public bus (most happy couples met like this), on the road, in the market, online (many have), in the bank (also possible), shopping mall, etc. The ideal thing is; free your mind and give guys a fair chance irrespective of where u met them cos you never can tell.

7. Poor English:

This is the funniest of all to me, lol.

Because he can't speak Queens English and form Americana, you just tell him: NO! Lolz

Will speaking Queens English put food on the table? I doubt

Will speaking Queens English make him to treat you like a queen, I doubt.

And Nigerian ladies must also understand that English is not Nigeria's mother tongue...Russians, Germans, French guys, Chinese, Japanese guys don't speak English o...if he can communicate effectively, why the fuss about phonetic English speaking?

Dear ladies, please help yourselves and also help the guys and make life easier for all.


Note: I only felt like sharing my opinion on this issue as a way of enlightening single ladies so that they can make amendments and corrections where necessarry for the benefit of both genders. Let's try and make life easier for ourselves by letting go some funny characters and mindset.



I will drop my pen here for now, see you guys some other time and do have a beautiful week.

ThoniaSlim:
So let me get this straight, are you saying a woman with two degrees should get married to a man with just an OND? So she can be regarded as a virtuous woman or whatever term you wanna use to describe her?

Mekybliss:
go and check my modified post. It's clearly you didn't understand before insulting me.

zinachidi:
i know a girl hu has vowed to marry only a last son in a family....

ceejay4real:
Ha ha ha! You are way too funny! On a more serious note, my thing is average & very efficient! Pls gimme a chance so I can take u 2 cloud 9 for the rest of your life! Just indicate interest & I will give you my contact ok? Thanks dear!

Alexgeneration:
let me get this straight,are you saying a man with "just OND" can't make a good husband because the wife has "two degrees"? Pls what happens to professors who married uneducated and broke ladies,does that make them less professors?

Alexgeneration:
Does that mean that people who share the same faith or doctrine don't divorce?

Mekybliss:
daddy mba

Mekybliss:
Number 4 tho . I don't like big things joor. I prefer small and workable. I don't want thing that will come and give me a bow leg and a long hole

ThoniaSlim:
So let me get this straight, are you saying a woman with two degrees should get married to a man with just an OND? So she can be regarded as a virtuous woman or whatever term you wanna use to describe her?

dancok:
I be young guy o, no mind my language. See my signature to add me for a chat. Who knows?..

Mekybliss:
na space fully occupied

Mekybliss:
na space fully occupied

RedBenson:
Occupied but single?

ceejay4real:
Ha ha ha! You are way too funny! On a more serious note, my thing is average & very efficient! Pls gimme a chance so I can take u 2 cloud 9 for the rest of your life! Just indicate interest & I will give you my contact ok? Thanks dear!