Jahblessme:
HOLY!! HOLY!!! HOLY!!!

I love how when its woman matter they all start preaching confess confess.
Those people talking no vex oo but have you confessed totally how many prostitues you slept with or you are still sleeping with?

How about the one night stands?

How about the times you got your ex pregnant and she aborted?

Our society is NOT the right environment for any female to confess anything.If your brother comes and tells you his gf had 6 abortions, cheated on him or was an ashana won't you be the first to say dump her?? No matter how courageous she was or how reformed? Na una go scream 'harlot' pass.


Aren't 95% of you virgin hunters?? Una go poke but want to marry unpoked.Sorry.No wonder hymen repair is rampant.Sleep around, then go and become virgin again to fool d fools.And they'll be boasting,I married her a vajinn.Disregardng soo many other things about her character which are important.Was it not the other day that some governor married a chick and claimed he was disciplined while married to his first wife of blessed memory?? This same man famed for being a man -LovePeddler with uni chicks? shouting he married his wife cos she's a vajin? he and his mother also insulted Nigerian women


Abegg when men speak like others are dirt cos of any se xual past why would any sane thinking girl come out to really really talk about her body count?


Confess ko confess ni. Only an idi ot with a past would be reallly honest to the average Nigerian man.If you are caught red handed or if there's really no way out,then you can tell the truth as much as you feel is permissible cos a good percentage of the time,it will be used against you.

If you have chopped within or without the marriage/relationship, clean mouth quietly,discuss with your maker and move on.How many times has he come to you to confess that he chopped outside too? Even most men caught in the act will deny till they are blue in the face.

Only confess if you are ready to take a gamble that the relationship will die.If you are sick of his tired ass,please go into minute details ,he will flee by himself.

If you want to talk of the past,have u dated other people? - yes or no. body count questions are usually asked by the sanctimonious - avoid answering,its not his bizniz. abortion nko- of he asks,ask him how many he has taken part in first. A non judgey guy would never ever want to go into fine details cos he believes past is past,but the one wey go ask what color of pant you were wearing for each se xual act?? Flee.

Till Nigeria stops shaming women for having and acting on their sexual urges,nothing like confession.Mr Femi Kayode released na ked pictures of his ex gf when their relationship went south and he went to the extent of shaming her family and giving details of secrets she 'confessed' to him. ladies,talk at your own risk!

After all,if confession is so good why do the men who have forgiven cheating partners lie about it and join the crowd to shout God forbid,kick her out.Simple,its cos it is a taboo for them to accept that someone shined Congo better than them and they'd be laughed at for still going on with the 'slut'.

Talk if u have HIV or life threatening disease ,just be careful what you give away in the name of 'confession'.Daz all
I deviated a lot,sorry.

Gbamest.

bukatyne:


Is There anywhere the Bible says confess your past to your spouse?

All I asked was is it scriptural to confess to God and be free...is it?

pickabeau1:




All I asked was is it scriptural to confess to God and be free...is it?

Is There anywhere people confessed their sins publicly or to someone else?

Do you confess your sins to someone else apart from God?

dinachi:
We demand sincererity and honesty,end time marriage counsellors demand secrecy. The choice is yours. Whether you want to marry a stranger or marry someone you know. It is clear this women are only worried about hiding sexual histories! That tells you the kind of women they are!

comot for road.
see as that fat aunty finish you.

And in the spirit of virginity or not,

I see nothing absolutely wrong in wanting to marry a virgin (both male and female) even If you are not one (anybody can wish for anything)

Infact, it is ideal both parties are virgins.

Best for everyone

VintageCocktail:
Bros, calm down. You're indirectly confirming what op wrote by referring to the confessions made by someone on this thread and using it against them. Just pipe low.
If you see a virgin ...marry her, happy that I am teaching mine everything she knows about xex, is good to be the first and probably the last but I ain't filling in the gaps or completing any sentences or trying to find nearest or opposite in meaning to any past that needs to be forgotten.

God bless you.are these the type of matured men that somebody will open up to?

dinachi:
All these old hags like babyosisi and co who admitted their puccy was worn and torn before marriage should get it into their skulls that not everybody wants to use large tubers of yams to make love to their wives! If Azubuike had to use his legs and hands in there before you felt a thing, does not mean another man wants to be using his entire body in there before he makes an impact. Bottomine: end time marriage counsellors pls respect the choice of others.

you are nothing but a troll.

bukatyne:


Is There anywhere people confessed their sins publicly or to someone else?

Do you confess your sins to someone else apart from God?

Why ask a question with another question


Once again I ask is it scriptural to confess sins to God and not also to the harmed party or undertake some form of restitution

Yes or No

Babyosisi thanks once again for this eye opening post.i ve learnt a lot from it.thanks

Ammy200:
Babyosisi thanks once again for this eye opening post.i ve learnt a lot from it.thanks

You are welcome sweetie

pickabeau1:


Why ask a question with another question


Once again I ask is it scriptural to confess sins to God and not also to the harmed party or undertake some form of restitution

Yes or No

Depends on the sin.

I do not see How restitution comes into someone 's past. A party Cheating in the present relationship... yes.

pickabeau1:




All I asked was is it scriptural to confess to God and be free...is it?

I ask again
Is there anywhere where women are instructed to confess their past to a spouse or future spouse
Let's settle that one first

Ammy200:


God bless you.are these the type of matured men that somebody will open up to?

Confess at your own peril,your story with salt and pepper added will be on CNN
These immature chatterboxes that can't even agree to disagree on a simple thread

bukatyne:


Depends on the sin.

I do not see How restitution comes into someone 's past. A party Cheating in the present relationship... yes.

Ok

At least you've made a stand

So why don't you make that clear in relation to the op which advocates confession without restitution

Using of Scripture to support ungodly injunction is what I did not expect and for you not to make that clear was all the more telling

pickabeau1:


Why add husband..was that my word
You said once you pray to God..you are free....not in the bible


You are the one veiling your earthly wisdom with scripture

The Bible says confess your sins one to another

I am here on nairaland with you how many of your sins have you confessed to me
Once you confess to God in total repentance ,not just lip service,your sins are forgiven and wiped away
That is scripture
Digging them up to " confess" to a man you meet after the fact is ignorance and foolishness
He has no ability to forgive sins
The sins are already forgiven and in God's eyes do not exist
Anything you add to it to suit you, makes it false doctrine

1 john 1

8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.

Doesn't get any clearer than that

pickabeau1:


Ok

At least you've made a stand

So why don't you make that clear in relation to the op which advocates confession without restitution

Using of Scripture to support ungodly injunction is what I did not expect and for you not to make that clear was all the more telling

Interesting you are going the Scripture route.

Does the Scripture support men cheating on their wives? Does it exult female chastity over male chastity?

Am I God a sinner is praying to that I would know If confession without restitution will not be forgiven ?

Did we read anywhere Paul restituted to the families he persecuted?

Have you restituted all your sins?

babyosisi:


I am here on nairaland with you how many of your sins have you confessed to me
Once you confess to God in total repentance ,not just lip service,your sins are forgiven
That is scripture
Anything you add to it to suit you, makes it false

That's not the bible

Christ advocated restitution
It's both in the new and old testaments

After Zaccheus had been saved he was told to go and refund stolen monies

even the apostle James said confess your sins one to another James 5 16

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.


I have no problem with you behaving like a demagogue and preaching mixed teaching but to justify repentance without confession or restitution Using the bible is warped

bukatyne:


Interesting you are going the Scripture route.

Does the Scripture support men cheating on their wives? Does it exult female chastity over male chastity?

Am I God a sinner is praying to?

Have you restituted all your sins?

I only went there when someone says God will allow to confess to him without restitution and you seemed to support it

Normally I would not have come in

Let's not use bible to justify human wisdom of keeping your marriage with a foundation built on lies and secrets

Una still dey hia?

There are some kinds of men you can confide in and there are some you should NEVER even say pim to even at the point of death.CHOOSE WISELY.


If Nairaland is to be the general representation of Nigerian males,do most of them sound like people any sane chick would want to confess anything to?


Ask why its the runs girls that are getting married while the good even churcheos sisters are single??
The babes have studied the Nigerian males and know what their medicine is- pretense.Ashawo male wants vajin- become one.. tell him exactly what he wants to hear.

Why do many females instead of admitting to se xual intercourse with maybe a boyfy they claim they are raped? Because the average Naija man would rather believe she was forced to have s ex than that she was in a full fledged se xual relationship.

Whether we like it or not,many females will keep having se x.The sooner the society and men in general become less judgemental about it,the better for everyone.

Se x is natural..what we should teach that se x is a beautiful thing between mature consenting partners,teach about protection and teach it earnestly. Illegal abortions are on the rise because people are not really serious about using condoms to protect themselves. Even the bible thumpers are sleeping with the choristers.Pastors living in white house with 'holy' sisters.Are they playing chess day in day out? let's stop deceiving ourselves..Fewer people are abstaining so we must increase se x education.
Not against abstinence,but along side it teach about the reality of se x not about transfer of spirits as a consequence of s ex.

Plus stop demonising mas turbation(sorry to the holies).. 98% of males who abstain are chronic wankers ,most even have carpal tunnel syndrome from excess use of their hands and Vaseline.So no one should come here and claim they don't shag they don't self-service..There must be an outlet( for most)

Mast urbation again is more demonized in females,for everything the woman is punished.The chicken has come to roost and many are rebelling.If I can teach my children everything they need to know about se x,curiosity will be reduced and they'll have more abilities to tackle peer pressure and the 'I'll just put the tip in' crew.

A balanced society is coming soon where the males MUST realise that the girl they are with may have been with some other guy. Simple. The less judgey you are about it,the more likely it is that she will be more truthful.If not body count remains 2 or < 2 forever.

I wonder why a dirty used up guy would think he has rights to marry a virgin.Who are these dirty guys cheating on theiir wives with?? Is it not the ones they call the sluts? What does that make you?

The only person who should be asking body count and co is a guy who has been able to keep himself chaste..Look at how men treat ladies who before had engaged in s ex and then choose to desist? So much scorn.

Abeg use stapler on your mouth till society is fairer.

Confess ndi mmo.

Biko she males and sh it stirrers desist from.quoting me.
Thank you

pickabeau1:


That's not the bible

Christ advocated restitution
It's both in the new and old testaments

After Zaccheus had been saved he was told to go and refund stolen monies

even the apostle James said confess your sins one to another James 5 16

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.


I have no problem with you behaving like a demagogue and preaching mixed teaching but to justify repentance without confession or restitution Using the bible is warped

Don't take scripture out of context
No place does the bible say a girl meets a man and starts blabbing about her past
Relate whatever you are saying to the topic at hand
Confess your sins one to another to be healed,complete the scripture,don't shorten it to suit your purposes
A girl who slept with 29 men in her past and has moved on from it is already healed so she there is no confession to make ,she already made it
A healed man needs no physician.
What restitution does one do towards a person you neither sinned against nor wronged
Please take your yahoo 419 preaching elsewhere
After God has forgiven Mary,she happens to meet you and somewhere without confessing to you her sins automatically reappear?
That is a lie from the pit of hell

babyosisi:


Don't take scripture out of context
No place does the bible say a girl meets a man and starts blabbing about her past
Confess your sins one to another to be healed,complete the scripture,don't shorten it to suit your purposes
A girl who slept with 29 men in her past and has moved on from it is already healed so she there is no confession to make
A sick man needs no physician.
What restitution does one do towards a person you neither sinned against nor wronged
Please take your yahoo 419 preaching elsewhere

I am particular once again about your twisted version of confession without restitution
So of a woman cheated on her husband once she confessed to God she is good to go right?

pickabeau1:


I am particular once again about your twisted version of confession without restitution
So of a woman cheated on her husband once she confessed to God she is good to go right?

I asked you to stick to one topic so you won't be all over the place
We are still at the topic of a woman meeting you and confessing her past sins or are you in agreement that it's unecessary?
That is where I am right now,you dismissed the word husband in my initial post to you so we are not at the husband phase yet

babyosisi:


I asked you to stick to one topic so you won't be all over the place
We are still at the topic of a woman meeting you and confessing her past sins or are you in agreement that it's unecessary?
That is where I am right now,you dismissed the word husband in my initial post to you so we are not at the husband phase yet

Let's skip to the husband phase

That's my interest

pickabeau1:


I only went there when someone says God will allow to confess to him without restitution and you seemed to support it

Normally I would not have come in

Let's not use bible to justify human wisdom of keeping your marriage with a foundation built on lies and secrets

You folks are specialists in making up stories and telling them
Please what is restitution in this context we speak
A girl has a past and meets you,what is the restitution she owes you
Oya tell us please

pickabeau1:


Let's skip to the husband phase

That's my interest

Oh really
Hahahaha
No confession and restitution on the girl meets boy,boy and girl interested in knowing each other phase anymore?
Are we settled on that

babyosisi:


You folks are specialists in making up stories and telling them
Please what is restitution in this context we speak
A girl has a past and meets you,what is the restitution she owes you
Oya tell us please

I have been particular about marriage

Using the bible to justify crap is why I came in

Jahblessme:
Una still dey hia?

There are some kinds of men you can confide in and there are some you should NEVER even say pim to even at the point of death.CHOOSE WISELY.


If Nairaland is to be the general representation of Nigerian males,do most of them sound like people any sane chick would want to confess anything to?


Ask why its the runs girls that are getting married while the good even churcheos sisters are single??
The babes have studied the Nigerian males and know what their medicine is- pretense.Ashawo male wants vajin- become one.. tell him exactly what he wants to hear.

Why do many females instead of admitting to se xual intercourse with maybe a boyfy they claim they are raped? Because the average Naija man would rather believe she was forced to have s ex than that she was in a full fledged se xual relationship.

Whether we like it or not,many females will keep having se x.The sooner the society and men in general become less judgemental about it,the better for everyone.

Se x is natural..what we should teach that se x is a beautiful thing between mature consenting partners,teach about protection and teach it earnestly. Illegal abortions are on the rise because people are not really serious about using condoms to protect themselves. Even the bible thumpers are sleeping with the choristers.Pastors living in white house with 'holy' sisters.Are they playing chess day in day out? let's stop deceiving ourselves..Fewer people are abstaining so we must increase se x education.
Not against abstinence,but along side it teach about the reality of se x not about transfer of spirits as a consequence of s ex.

Plus stop demonising mas turbation(sorry to the holies).. 98% of males who abstain are chronic wankers ,most even have carpal tunnel syndrome from excess use of their hands and Vaseline.So no one should come here and claim they don't shag they don't self-service..There must be an outlet( for most)

Mast urbation again is more demonized in females,for everything the woman is punished.The chicken has come to roost and many are rebelling.If I can teach my children everything they need to know about se x,curiosity will be reduced and they'll have more abilities to tackle peer pressure and the 'I'll just put the tip in' crew.

A balanced society is coming soon where the males MUST realise that the girl they are with may have been with some other guy. Simple. The less judgey you are about it,the more likely it is that she will be more truthful.If not body count remains 2 or < 2 forever.

I wonder why a dirty used up guy would think he has rights to marry a virgin.Who are these dirty guys cheating on theiir wives with?? Is it not the ones they call the sluts? What does that make you?

The only person who should be asking body count and co is a guy who has been able to keep himself chaste..Look at how men treat ladies who before had engaged in s ex and then choose to desist? So much scorn.

Abeg use stapler on your mouth till society is fairer.

Confess ndi mmo.

Biko she males and sh it stirrers desist from.quoting me.
Thank you

Spot on! At least the responses from the males in this thread has proved the Op right. Many men are not ready to hear the whole truth and would certainly use your baggage against you. Some have outrightly decided that they would rather not know. Until all of that changes, until people are less judgemental, women will keep being secretive. This is why runz babes get married fast!! I dnt take nairaland seriously because peeps here fantasize a lot and dnt like to be realistic about what goes on beyond nairaland. So ladies, Zip it!!

pickabeau1:


I have been particular about marriage

Using the bible to justify crap is why I came in

OK, do you advise restitution If a husband cheats on his wife?

I'm disappointed at some, I didn't think this thread will drag itself to this degenerate form, I thought this thread was suppose to be cantered on "What Women/Female Shouldn't Tell Their Fiance" ? :O. How did it relate to men as the excuse that justifies why certain points should be endorsed and practised ? You can see that with this premise that some women are perpetual followers to Men and hence don't have a mind of their own, the fickleness of the female mind is disheartening and depicts of mental and emotional dependence. There's nothing independent about some women and its bad.

This thread is suppose to preach the goodness of the will of truth by all standards and what is right, why have we decided to pick vice over virtue ?

The questions we should ask are;

What Precedes Forgiveness ? Is it not remorse,repentance ?

How can we say we are clean and indeed changed of our old ways when we haven't come to self-realisation of the truth at hearts with our intended spouse(s), given that we'd be one and share everything as one including the body(your body and to become his by virtue) you already defiled in the past ?

Don't underestimate the power to hide or what led to your secrecy, that same power will make you commit same misdeeds and return to your old ways

Come clean to your spouse my dear females and males, its liberating and full of everything pure at mind. I repeat,don't think you re wiser than God! Smh

It is even more damage to your spouse to hoard things on the grounds that he/she might leave you.

You hide things because you know your stay and the likelihood to remain married is dependent on the truth (your revelation) and can alter his decision, people marry people with bad past ordeals and escapades,it is not new and certainly not news.

Amidst all said on this thread ,I only have one question to ask,

Are you saying it is right to not reveal your past ordeals to your soon-to-be partner ?

Your answer will give me a hint of what the world has turned to and for that reason I'll start now to advice guys/men to see the need to ask her about her past relationships ,s3xual escapades with ex, and other necessary required information too from her, by so doing ,you'll put her in a corner where she'd have to bear the consequences in the future should she lie.

jmoore:
@Timbuktou so you want a virgin bride too? This guy sef.

The problem is you think you know me. Seriously, you don't. How you dey?

bukatyne:


OK, do you advise restitution If a husband cheats on his wife?

That is scriptural

No body has a monopoly of knowledge to what will happen in the future if things are done like this or that.

You owe it to abide by the ultimate rule to follow what is written to attain wisdom by doing good because only good comes out of doing good,so what is wise in doing what is bad and expecting good in the future.

Smh

Book of james 5:16, says and I quote, "confess your sins to one another and pray for one another because the prayer of a good person is powerful"

.......now if you confess to one another you ease your conscience and restoration is assured.