Jahblessme:



Ngokafor, very right
Kepppyy please go and delete or modify..
Plenty she males will dig up and use it against you.That's their stock in trade oo.

@babyosisi
Please modify where you quoted keppyy in case she's concerned about Nl..who knows?

Thanks for your concern, she does not need to do that...

I even have more revealing pasts on other threads..


I'm not new here sefffff and I'm definitely not scared.

See them whispering and plotting about how to clean up their mess from the thread.

Talk about glorying in shame.

SMH

Gaborone:

See them whispering and plotting about how to clean up their mess from the thread.
Talk about glorying in shame.

soo sweet,glorying in shamelessness.

@ Keppyy
No wahala!!

babyosisi:


Every girl who has opened her stupid mouth to blab to a man should read this post well well
Read it about 5 times consecutively
Simiolu1 thank you for this
Ladies,You must not be those girls,it's best you keep yourself but where you don't,apply wisdom
No matter how love is shacking you,you must not never never give out any past information about yourself to a man that is just passing by please stop doing that.it is to your detriment.

For those wondering why your relationships are coming to a sudden halt
Watch yourself
What are you saying and what have you said about yourself?

Absolutely no abortion stories
Never
Stop
No abortion stories should ever emanate out of your mouths

Let me shock you a bit; this particular girl was the one that broke up with me.
So it wasn't a case of me running away like Usain Bolt after hearing abbott her baggages.

simiolu1:

Let me shock you a bit; this particular girl was the one that broke up with me.
So it wasn't a case of me running away like Usain Bolt after hearing abbott her baggages.

But you have heard the story,each time you think about her,those stories are there
That is my point
Her story is already out there and she dates someone else and blabs again,they break up and she finds another and continues blabbing
What is she telling these stories for?
That is my beef and the pattern I would want these younger girls to break

keppyy:



Thanks for your advice...

I've been here long enough (this is a new moniker seffff) and I know how people dig up the past on nairaland and How supposed "friends" eat you up tomorrow...I know this place well and the "Craziessss" don't move me.

Gbam
You don't ever allow people intimidate you
This is my handle since 2006, anyone that has something to say to me always goes to wear a new robe to say it for the most part
I still dey
You respond when you feel like it and ignore when u don't
U log off the eediot disappears like a vapor
They can't do more than a dead rat and they know it

keppyy:



Yes, it's Probable but how do you discern if it's true or not

I dated a guy once who dumped me because I gave him a BJ as good as a Grade A LovePeddler (His exact words)...He never believed that I learnt it from Porn and several practice with a candle stick and he insisted that I was not a virgin (which I was)...Despite all the explanations from my sister and friends, he dumped my sorry Ass...

So tell me, how do you know what is true and what is not?

As for Body count, I know some girls that their body count is ab out 8 and have a out 10 sexual penetrations, while some have a body count of 2 with over a 100 sexual penetrations...

When Eve saw Adam in d Garden for the first time, she saw a full grown man even tho he was a baby. So this makes me know that even tho some people appear to be full grown, they are still babies.
There's an adage in Yoruba that translates "what the eye does not see doesn't make one sad". That is what I apply to issues like this.
And by the way, some men like me love their women to give wonderful BJs regardless of where she learnt it from.

babyosisi:


But you have heard the story,each time you think about her,those stories are there
That is my point
Her story is already out there and she dates someone else and blabs again,they break up and she finds another and continues blabbing
What is she telling these stories for?
That is my beef and the pattern I would want these younger girls to break

If you say so.

babyosisi:


But you have heard the story,each time you think about her,those stories are there
That is my point
Her story is already out there and she dates someone else and blabs again,they break up and she finds another and continues blabbing
What is she telling these stories for?
That is my beef and the pattern I would want these younger girls to break

Would you rather that she keeps her history so as to secure a man?

What exactly is your advise to young girls when they are directly confronted by a love interest about specific or significant details of their relationship past?

ApexTitan:


Would you rather that she keeps her history so as to secure a man?

What exactly is your advise to young girls when they are directly confronted by a love interest about specific or significant details of their relationship past?

Keep her story to keep her dignity
Why must she be the blabbing partner?
Did you even read the story I responded to
This is not even about marriage


About your last question,my opinion on it is all over the thread already

Ok

pickabeau1:


Read my posts to bykatyne
I was referring to stuff done in marriage

Why r u confessing to priest when u have a husband?

simiolu1:

When Eve saw Adam in d Garden for the first time, she saw a full grown man even tho he was a baby. So this makes me know that even tho some people appear to be full grown, they are still babies.
There's an adage in Yoruba that translates "what the eye does not see doesn't make one sad". That is what I apply to issues like this.
And by the way, some men like me love their women to give wonderful BJs regardless of where she learnt it from.

I personally believe for every Action there is a equal and opposite Reaction but we don't know if the reaction will be good or bad...

Now, I believe that Madam Osisi's thread is just an ADVICE and we all can decide to accept it or not...

Life is not a straight Path, it's not a must that what works for A will work for B...

I've gone into a relationship before Pretending to be who I'm not and it crashed, Will I do it again, definitely not....

I may have a not so bad past that may be easy to forgive but I can never advice a girl with a history of several abortions or high body count to Confess because I can't say I'll do the same, if I were in her shoes.

njokusboy:


Lolzz, I was not done before you quoted that post, the new one includes my reason for quoting you and an apology

no wahala

babyosisi:


Keep her story to keep her dignity
Why must she be the blabbing partner?
Did you even read the story I responded to
This is not even about marriage


About your last question,my opinion on it is all over the thread already

Re: my last question, unless I am mistaken you have counselled women to not reveal anything that might jeopardise their current relationship. I want to know specifically in the event where the man does ask directly, does your counsel still stand in that case?

ApexTitan:


Re: my last question, unless I am mistaken you have counselled women to not reveal anything that might jeopardise their current relationship. I want to know specifically in the event where the man does ask directly, does your counsel still stand in that case?

If it's a direct question, I believe you should speak the truth or choose not to answer...My Opinion

I'm Sorry for quoting you.

cococandy:
Ok

Do you believe once you confess to God or priest it's ok?

I'm sorry. Off topic

So you dey travel that long distance every week to knack akpako? Chai.
This is serious

simiolu1:
As a teenager, I understood that every1 has a past whether good or bad. In fact, I see it a fundamental human right.
I have mine too and in every relationship, I make my partner always understand that their past would not be an issue if it does not interfere with our relationship and future.
With this mindset, my partners have been able to open up to me and I've heard things that would make most ears tingle!
I've once dated a mother of twins (in fact she was my first gf), a girlfriend once admitted to being in a lesbian relationship etc. But the one that suprised me most was a girl who once told me she was a virgin (she told me of her own volition; I never ask if a girl is a virgin or not cos I know that time would tell).
Later on when we were about to start dating, she told me she wasn't a virgin but that she's been abstaining from sex. When things got serious, she told me that once I hav sex with her, she won't be able to control her urges. This made me travel from Ogbomoso to Oyo every week back then. One night while in my arms, she opened up to me and delved into her past relationships, how she became a sex addict, got pregnant for her ex-bf and did an abortion.
What I've learnt is that ladies are calculative. They ain't stupid. If they tell you about their past, it's a test. They do so cos they trust that you'll keep their secret. On the guys part, you must be mature enough to handle a relationship and all the issues and baggages that come with one. If you are not, you have no business being in a relationship.
A friend of mine told me about the sex life of his current relationship. He, the girl and I attend the same church and cos my friend is a "bro" I just assumed they weren't shaggin. My friend expressed his suprise to me bout the different sexx styles this lady has been showing him in d bedroom and asked me where she learnt them from. I was like are you a learner?

pickabeau1:


Do you believe once you confess to God or priest it's ok?

and do penance. absolutely.

keppyy:



If it's a direct question, I believe you should speak the truth or choose not to answer...My Opinion

I'm Sorry for quoting you.

Do not apologise for quoting anyone, this is a public forum if anyone does not want to be qouted they shouldn't make any comments in the first place.

cococandy:
and do penance. absolutely.

What does penance mean

Like charity gifts to orphans?

pickabeau1:


What does penance mean

Like charity gifts to orphans?

Something like That or volunteer work.
Just about anything that cost you something to do.

For example if you're rich, giving 10k to one orphan out there is not considered a sacrifice because it didn't cost you anything really in value.
So you're kind of expected to be honest with yourself and do something really sacrificial.

cococandy:

Something like That or volunteer work.
Just about anything that cost you something to do.

For example if you're rich, giving 10k to one orphan out there is not considered a sacrifice because it didn't cost you anything really in value.
So you're kind of expected to be honest with yourself and do something really sacrificial.

Ok..

ApexTitan:


Re: my last question, unless I am mistaken you have counselled women to not reveal anything that might jeopardise their current relationship. I want to know specifically in the event where the man does ask directly, does your counsel still stand in that case?

Let us do some role playing
I meet you,you are not a virgin neither am I
Please tell me some of these questions you will ask me

See the number of males supporting Vivian's Uncle who said vivian should sleep her way to get a job in the other thread.
Open another thread to get opinions of what will these same guys do if their gf confessed to them that she slept her way to get her job and see if you will get any other opinion apart from dump her.

kilode100:





Who broke your heart boy??

you look fabulous

Let the haters hug transformer

Cococandy dear,

Confessions you make while single aren't all the time same with one you make in marriage union as far as I know in the Catholic Church.

Assuming you committed a sin against your body, the confession starts with your spouse and by extension to God.

Reason is that you share one body with your spouse. You sinned against God as well as him/her.

Without confessing to your spouse, your penance is incomplete.

The catholic faith!!

So I'm supposed to bring my past and tell my spouse?

jnrbayano:
Cococandy dear,

Confessions you make while single aren't all the time same with one you make in marriage union as far as I know in the Catholic Church.

Assuming you committed a sin against your body, the confession starts with your spouse and by extension to God.

Reason is that you share one body with your spouse. You sinned against God as well as him/her.

Without confessing to your spouse, your penance is incomplete.

The catholic faith!!

cococandy:
So I'm supposed to bring my past and tell my spouse?

Yes
And if you ever as much as look at any man and any unholy thing flashes through your mind,it is equal to adultery biblically, that ,you must also confess to the husband to be forgiven.
That is the wife rule
Open your bible and read it
Every woman must do total disclosure to every man she meets and dates so he can make an informed decision
Anything short of that is deception and God hates deceptive women who won't blab


Kitikpa rachaa kwa ha anya dia

cococandy:
So I'm supposed to bring my past and tell my spouse?

The scenario I gave is in a marriage union.

If I understand "your past" to be "before your marriage union" the answer to your question is yes, if:

1. it will in anyway be detrimental to your future (marriage)

2. it is required to expel any fears the baggage of the past may bring into the future (marriage)

babyosisi:


Yes
And if you ever as much as look at any man and any unholy thing flashes through your mind,it is equal to adultery biblically, that ,you must also confess to the husband to be forgiven.
That is the wife rule
Open your bible and read it
Every woman must do total disclosure to every man she meets and dates so he can make an informed decision
Anything short of that is deception and God hates deceptive women who won't blab


Kitikpa rachaa kwa ha anya dia

Common!

It's my question and I have answered her.

Keduzi ka isi chozia ka nkita rachazia anyi anya?

He will give me the side eye and be like
"I don't wanna hear that"

The look on his face will make me not want to even mention anything concerning other guys from before. Except I deliberately want to spoil his mood.

I don't know what these ones want to torture themselves for.

babyosisi:


Yes
And if you ever as much as look at any man and any unholy thing flashes through your mind,it is equal to adultery biblically, that ,you must also confess to the husband to be forgiven.
That is the wife rule
Open your bible and read it
Every woman must do total disclosure to every man she meets and dates so he can make an informed decision
Anything short of that is deception and God hates deceptive women who won't blab


Kitikpa rachaa kwa ha anya dia

I agree with number one. I think I said that in my first post. If it will affect the marriage health wise or fertility wise then of course you should tell him even before the marriage. No other reason is enough.

jnrbayano:


The scenario I gave is in a marriage union.

If I understand "your past" to be "before your marriage union" the answer to your question is yes, if:

1. it will in anyway be detrimental to your future (marriage)

2. it is required to expel any fears the baggage of the past may bring into the future (marriage)