Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by missKiffy(f): 10:31am On May 31, 2015 |
Guys who take all this hook, line and sinker, good luck in finding that perfect woman, besides I disagree with the older women part, a man being a spiritual leader has nothing to do with age 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by kliq(m): 10:35am On May 31, 2015 |
Thanks |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by dotna(m): 10:37am On May 31, 2015 |
Teachings for the day |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Shubbylee(m): 10:38am On May 31, 2015 |
Nice Article but I don't agree with number 3!! A REAL MAN should be able to handle his wife even if she's 30years older. 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 10:41am On May 31, 2015 |
bushdoc9919: I am afraid I disagree with the older woman reason. Being the spiritual leader has nothing to do with age.....or would Timothy have been a leader of the(early) church?
Also disagree with the career driven woman.While I believe that housewife is important.....we do need more ladies in the workplace. The problem really is that laws governing the workplace do not favor mothers....and something needs to be done about that.
I am for conservative dressing....but I must also point out that conservative dressing ideas vary from place to place.Dress in a way that glorifies God...which means asking God for guidance.
Oh God! Are you for real? So you had to quote everything just to comment? Couldnt your click on reply button and spew whatever you had without quoting that long post? |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 10:45am On May 31, 2015 |
Toks2008:
The bolded are so spot on.
Anyman who marries a divorcee is on his own expecially if the lady diuvo9rcees the man over any other excuse asides wife battering and not even infidelity.
This may come as a shocker fore many but there was never a provision in the bible for a woman to divorce her hubby over adultery but it was specifically stated for the man to do so and this quote from the scriptures is not about a he been used for both gender.
If a lady leaves a hubby due to sexual infidelity then she will leave every man she enters into marriage with because 955 of men will cheat no matter how holy they may claim to be because men are polygamous by nature and evcen the closest men in the Bible to GOD were polygamists.
So trust me, guys must be very careful before they consider marrying a divorcee especially the one who left her marriage due to irreconcilable differences. Still the time I dey read bible, I never see were them mention do not marry two or three wife, EVEN Jesus no take anything about marrying only one woman. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 10:46am On May 31, 2015 |
erico2k2:
Post such as number 2 is what people take out of context and form their own sect.If God can forgive Saul who sort fo Christians and killed them and changed his name so that he delivered plenty how much more of a divorcee who was at the time of marriage naive to know what it realy meant to be married and there fall short of her obligation.SO you my friend be very careful of what you think and post in public forums as you know, religious incitement is getting considered as a criminal act.This is 20015 we should read more meaning into the word in the Bible and understand the context in which such views where made,some of them do not and no longer apply to today's society.I'm more than open to discus this with you if you have the time. For real @the bolded? When were we fast forwarded with an addition of 18000yrs? |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 10:47am On May 31, 2015 |
lol, after marriage the same men turn the saint they married to a demon. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 10:49am On May 31, 2015 |
Thanks a lot OP. This are all the reasons I need to quit my present relationship. Thank goodness I was about to propose to her... You just saved my life. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by amichaelz101(m): 10:49am On May 31, 2015 |
mizzyboy007: they are not all correct... so keep quiet. bros u qet mind oo u quote da whole text chai |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 10:50am On May 31, 2015 |
Crap! ... who are you to say No to these people when God actually wants them to get saved through you or when God wants to perform his act. In the book hosea, God to him to go marry a prostitute. What you got to say to that ? 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by somegirl1: 10:51am On May 31, 2015 |
2 and 3 are potentially conflicting points. If a woman shouldn't marry a younger man, at a certain age when most men older than her are married, she'd have to set her hope on the widower or the divorcee.
Now the divorcee's ex-wife, who through no fault of her own became the divorced woman, does not deserve to find love?
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Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by MrDojo(m): 10:51am On May 31, 2015 |
Nice write up Op....I concur to w@ u wrote especially @ point No.4 |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Jonwesley(m): 10:52am On May 31, 2015 |
OP, your Christianity claim is questionable. Please stop spreading falsehood and quoting scriptures out of context.
There was Mary Magdalene, they was a Rahab and as someone posted they was a Saul who was named Paul. All characters taken from the Bible. David sin was terrible, yet God said of him, a man after His Heart.
You are not God and stop spewing balderdash and claiming to be a christian or God sent. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by mystiqueDZ(f): 10:52am On May 31, 2015 |
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Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by MrDojo(m): 10:52am On May 31, 2015 |
majekdom2: Crap! ... who are you to say No to these people when God actually wants them to get saved through you or when God wants to perform his act. In the book hosea, God to him to go marry a prostitute. What you got to say to that ? Sori sir God told who to marry a prostitute..? |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Btruth: 10:57am On May 31, 2015 |
olasmith10: Simply means don't marry any woman at all.. nope! Just a guideline to a good marriage life nii. Think wisely. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by HASSANAASIA(f): 10:58am On May 31, 2015 |
postmann: “I have perceived among the youths, a young man lacking sense, passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house” (Proverbs 7: 7-8 )
Marriage - a lifetime covenant, an irrevocable oath reconized by GOD, man and spirits, separable only by death. With this truth in mind, a man has to be very careful and wise when considering marriage. And if you follow the counsel of GOD, HE will go before you to lead you to the right path.
NOTE: This is not a sexist post. It's only a guide for men intending to get married.
So here's the 10 women to avoid when considering marriage:
1. THE UNBELIEVER: Scripture is replete with exhortations against such marriages (in both the Old and New Testaments). Contrary to popular misconception, God’s prohibition against marriages to foreign women in the Old Testament was not due to racism. Instead, God was simply preventing the spread of idolatry. Israel, God’s chosen people in the Old Testament, represented what Christians would later represent in the New Testament. Hence, God’s prohibition against marrying an unbelieving woman in the New Testament (2 Cor 6:14) is simply the extension of God prohibiting a Hebrew man from from marrying a Canaanite woman in the Old Testament (Deut 7:3-4). “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your children away from following ME to serve other gods, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you” (Deut 7:3-4). What then, is a believer? A Christian essentially is someone who believes in the gospel of Jesus Christ. What then, is the gospel? The gospel is: 1. God is holy, loving, and just. He therefore, must condemn all sinners to punishment in the flames of eternal hell; 2. You and I are all sinners who deserve nothing but God’s wrath in hell after our deaths; 3. God loved humanity so much that He sent His only Son, Jesus (who was fully God and fully man), to die on the cross for your sins. Jesus paid the debt for your sins and absorbed God’s wrath on your behalf. 3 days later, Jesus resurrected from the dead; 4. If you repent (turn from) all your sins and personally put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord, God and Savior, then you will have eternal life.
2. THE DIVORCEE: Jesus clearly taught that unless the first marriage ended due to a partner’s sexual infidelity, a second marriage is to be considered invalid and adulterous. A divorced woman, therefore, is off limits for a Christian man. Unrepentant adultery being a sin that prevents one from obtaining eternal life (1 Cor 6:9). “If she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:12). “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9).
3. THE OLDER WOMAN: Not a sin, but certainly not God’s ideal. God expects men to be the spiritual leaders of the home (Eph 5:25) and it certainly requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you. Again, if you’re a man and you’re already in such a marriage, then honor it till the day you die–it’s still a valid marriage and divorce is not an option! However, if you’re not yet married but thinking about an older woman I want to remind you that God intentionally (with good reason!) created Adam before Eve in the First Marriage. Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority! Listen: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve” (1 Timothy 2:12-13). Evidently, within the First Marriage, God intended chronology (age) to be a reason for authority. Apparently, even secular researchers are now beginning to discover results that back up God’s wisdom as demonstrated in the Bible: “If you’re a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older.” (Source: Rebecca Kippen, Bruce Chapman and Peng Yu, “What’s Love Got to Do With It? Homogamy and Dyadic Approaches to Understanding Marital Instability,” Melbourne Institute of Applied Economic and Social Research, 2009.)
4. THE FEMINIST: There’s no room within Christendom for the “Christian feminist.” Though women and men have equal value in the eyes of God (Gal 3:28), they certainly have different God- given roles. Any woman who tries to usurp her husband’s authority or even claims to be a co- leader with her man is gravely dishonoring the God who created her to be subject and obedient to her husband (Eph 5:22, Col 3:18, 1 Pet 3:1). Eve was distinctly created “for” man, a point that the apostle Paul makes abundantly clear in 1 Corinthians 11 when he writes, “For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9). Men, your wife is to be your “helper” (Gen 2:18)–not your leader and certainly not your equal in terms of authority. Look for a woman who agrees with you in this very vital God-ordained relational dynamic.
5. THE IMMODEST-DRESSER : Sexy might inadvertently catch your eyeballs, but it shouldn’t catch your heart. The way that a woman is willing to expose herself says much about her heart:
“And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart” (Proverbs 7:10).
The text in Proverbs explains that a woman will dress in a certain way to catch a certain type of man. Don’t be that man. Don’t be the fool who’s led by his hormones instead of the Holy Spirit. Remember: you want godly, not gaudy.
6. THE GOSSIPER/SLANDERER: Women may love to talk, but there’s wisdom in looking for a woman who speaks with wisdom. Gossip and slander are not good things to have in your marriage. Desperate housewives make for desperate husbands. “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” (1 Timothy 5:13).
7. THE CHILDBIRTH AVOIDER: Do not marry a woman who is not willing to have children of her own. In the Christian worldview, there is absolutely no room for two married, biologically capable, human beings to remain intentionally child-less. If you are adverse towards having children, then there’s a simple remedy for that: single-hood. However, if God has called you to marriage, then He actually expects children. Both the New and Old Testaments are very clear on this teaching: “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking ? Godly offspring” (Malachi 2:15). “Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control” (1 Timothy 2:15).
8. THE WANDER-LUSTER: There’s nothing wrong with the occasional family vacation. There is something very wrong with a girl who regularly needs to be “out of the home.” The constant desire for new experiences, new places, new faces, and new forms of entertainment only serves to clearly manifest the fact that the woman has not found her rest in God. Believe it or not, Scripture speaks repeatedly about such women: “She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home ” (Proverbs 7:11); “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house . And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to” (1 Timothy 5:13).
9. THE CARIEER-FIRST WOMAN: Now, I want to clarify something here. There is nothing wrong with a woman who works (Acts 16:14), what’s wrong is a woman who puts her career ahead of her family. Modern society might hate to hear this, but God made men to be the providers and women to be the nurturers of the home (in most instances). It’s okay for a woman to be a doctor, attorney, or any other professional. However, if her career is coming at the expense of her home, then something is wrong. If day-care is raising her young children while she’s working, then something is wrong. I understand that there might be a season of life where the wife might have to be the main bread- winner due to her husband’s unemployment, but it should not be the desired norm. The woman ought to be willing (and even desirous–to some extent) to give up her job for the sake of raising her kids in the Lord. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander” (1 Tim 5:14).
10. THE DEVOTION-LESS WOMAN : Is the woman having a regular, daily devotional time with her God? If she doesn’t love the Lord now, chances are, she won’t love the Lord after marriage. (Don’t delude yourself–you’re not going to change her.) You want to marry a girl who has an intimate relationship with Jesus. Jesus (not you) has to be the first man in her life. Here are some good questions to ask: Does she have an active prayer life? Does she have a heart for evangelism? Is she hungry for God’s Word? What does her pastor think about her? Do you remember this account from Scripture: Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. [39] And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. [40] But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” [41] But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, [42] but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42 ESV) Marry the Mary (no pun intended). Such women have picked “…the good portion, which will not be taken away” from them. God be with you men. Strong families start with strong wives. Choose wisely and choose in the Lord!
Totally disagree with you mr op 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Tumm(m): 10:58am On May 31, 2015 |
bushdoc9919: I am afraid I disagree with the older woman reason. Being the spiritual leader has nothing to do with age.....or would Timothy have been a leader of the(early) church?
Also disagree with the career driven woman.While I believe that housewife is important.....we do need more ladies in the workplace. The problem really is that laws governing the workplace do not favor mothers....and something needs to be done about that.
I am for conservative dressing....but I must also point out that conservative dressing ideas vary from place to place.Dress in a way that glorifies God...which means asking God for guidance.
You are very correct and I cannot agree less. Talking about the immodest dresser and by extension the "prostitute", I can recall that God ask one of his faithful prophets to marry such a woman. I also recall Rehab(a prostitute) who saved the lives of two isrealites spies and God blessed her eventually. I'm not saying marrying such a woman is ideal but there are exceptional cases. Now on the childbirth- avioder, that shouldn't have made that list. If God has given us the capacity to bear kids, he never said we must. Some don't want to have kids because of health or financial reasons. This should solely be a personal decision. Having said that, the OP did a nice work. I admire his familiarity with the Bible. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 10:59am On May 31, 2015 |
Trash! This topic is one of the reason I believe the holy books have little or no regards for women. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by mystiqueDZ(f): 11:00am On May 31, 2015 |
sheddybest: My thoughts 1. Don't you think if you use the opportunity of the union to bring her to Christ it would be a good thing? 2. I agree with u on number 2 3. If your number 3 is a piece of advice from u, then it ought not to be on d list. If u find love in older woman, why not? 4. Whether a woman is the bread winner or the cake loser , I think it's pertinent to always accord ur hubby dat respect! 5. U can make her understand the relationship of d immodest attire to her womanhood. If she listens, go ahead and tie d knot if u saw love there 6. If u try to change her and she remains adamant, it's therefore a prohibited zone 7. The ultimate aim of every reasonable union is procreation. If she isn't willing to extend ur geneology, trek back to ur family 8. It's good to explore, but not at the expense of ur home. #AllMyLadies take note! 9. Nice point. Please don't sacrifice ur home at d mercy of ur career! 10. A necessary point. Find time to talk to this invisible reality! please do tell why you do not agree on 2? Please do mind I do not advocate divorce if there's a remedy! But what if there's not? |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by dotna(m): 11:01am On May 31, 2015 |
missKiffy: Guys who take all this hook, line and sinker, good luck in finding that perfect woman, besides I disagree with the older women part, a man being a spiritual leader has nothing to do with age Its all about guidelines from scripture and not necessarily getting a perfect lady. Plenty ladies naturally av these attributes. With all the society n economic pressures in Nigeria esp from some parent, only Grace can keep one strong |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by JahsPet: 11:02am On May 31, 2015 |
God loved humanity so much that He sent His only Son, Jesus (who was fully God and fully man), to die on the cross for your sins. Jesus paid the debt for your sins and absorbed God’s wrath on your behalf. 3 days later, Jesus resurrected from the dead; 4. If you repent (turn from) all your sins and personally put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord, God and Savior, then you will have eternal life. fallacies that make me hate this kind of submissions. how can any one be fully God and yet fully man .... we can as well say we have more than one true God or rather, in the light of the bible that says we have only one true God; we can say, Jesus whom u just from your own ideology called fully God, a fake god ...... ops tried sa, but i disagree with most of your assertions. but in all, people shud learn to put things the way our creator wants and created them. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 11:04am On May 31, 2015 |
majekdom2: Crap! ... who are you to say No to these people when God actually wants them to get saved through you or when God wants to perform his act. In the book hosea, God to him to go marry a prostitute. What you got to say to that ? OK, answer my question, 1.if God tell you make you marry Prostitute, you go marry? 2. Can you marry a single mother? |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by myproperty(m): 11:04am On May 31, 2015 |
OP this your write up is great. In where some people may object, you gave what the bible says and intends and also gave suggestion for those who may have already married in such condition. very good write up. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by ednut1(m): 11:05am On May 31, 2015 |
arrant nonsense, twisting d bible is a hobby in Nigeria. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Flashh: 11:07am On May 31, 2015 |
baybeeboi:
so you are still are the psychiatric?
You must be well taken care of. I think you should focus more on your English rather than tribalism. Idiot_ 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by marvelling(m): 11:10am On May 31, 2015 |
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Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by swaz(m): 11:11am On May 31, 2015 |
These is serious.... postmann: “I have perceived among the youths, a young man lacking sense, passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house” (Proverbs 7: 7-8 )
Marriage - a lifetime covenant, an irrevocable oath reconized by GOD, man and spirits, separable only by death. With this truth in mind, a man has to be very careful and wise when considering marriage. And if you follow the counsel of GOD, HE will go before you to lead you to the right path.
NOTE: This is not a sexist post. It's only a guide for men intending to get married.
So here's the 10 women to avoid when considering marriage:
1. THE UNBELIEVER: Scripture is replete with exhortations against such marriages (in both the Old and New Testaments). Contrary to popular misconception, God’s prohibition against marriages to foreign women in the Old Testament was not due to racism. Instead, God was simply preventing the spread of idolatry. Israel, God’s chosen people in the Old Testament, represented what Christians would later represent in the New Testament. Hence, God’s prohibition against marrying an unbelieving woman in the New Testament (2 Cor 6:14) is simply the extension of God prohibiting a Hebrew man from from marrying a Canaanite woman in the Old Testament (Deut 7:3-4). “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your children away from following ME to serve other gods, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you” (Deut 7:3-4). What then, is a believer? A Christian essentially is someone who believes in the gospel of Jesus Christ. What then, is the gospel? The gospel is: 1. God is holy, loving, and just. He therefore, must condemn all sinners to punishment in the flames of eternal hell; 2. You and I are all sinners who deserve nothing but God’s wrath in hell after our deaths; 3. God loved humanity so much that He sent His only Son, Jesus (who was fully God and fully man), to die on the cross for your sins. Jesus paid the debt for your sins and absorbed God’s wrath on your behalf. 3 days later, Jesus resurrected from the dead; 4. If you repent (turn from) all your sins and personally put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord, God and Savior, then you will have eternal life.
2. THE DIVORCEE: Jesus clearly taught that unless the first marriage ended due to a partner’s sexual infidelity, a second marriage is to be considered invalid and adulterous. A divorced woman, therefore, is off limits for a Christian man. Unrepentant adultery being a sin that prevents one from obtaining eternal life (1 Cor 6:9). “If she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:12). “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9).
3. THE OLDER WOMAN: Not a sin, but certainly not God’s ideal. God expects men to be the spiritual leaders of the home (Eph 5:25) and it certainly requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you. Again, if you’re a man and you’re already in such a marriage, then honor it till the day you die–it’s still a valid marriage and divorce is not an option! However, if you’re not yet married but thinking about an older woman I want to remind you that God intentionally (with good reason!) created Adam before Eve in the First Marriage. Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority! Listen: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve” (1 Timothy 2:12-13). Evidently, within the First Marriage, God intended chronology (age) to be a reason for authority. Apparently, even secular researchers are now beginning to discover results that back up God’s wisdom as demonstrated in the Bible: “If you’re a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older.” (Source: Rebecca Kippen, Bruce Chapman and Peng Yu, “What’s Love Got to Do With It? Homogamy and Dyadic Approaches to Understanding Marital Instability,” Melbourne Institute of Applied Economic and Social Research, 2009.)
4. THE FEMINIST: There’s no room within Christendom for the “Christian feminist.” Though women and men have equal value in the eyes of God (Gal 3:28), they certainly have different God- given roles. Any woman who tries to usurp her husband’s authority or even claims to be a co- leader with her man is gravely dishonoring the God who created her to be subject and obedient to her husband (Eph 5:22, Col 3:18, 1 Pet 3:1). Eve was distinctly created “for” man, a point that the apostle Paul makes abundantly clear in 1 Corinthians 11 when he writes, “For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9). Men, your wife is to be your “helper” (Gen 2:18)–not your leader and certainly not your equal in terms of authority. Look for a woman who agrees with you in this very vital God-ordained relational dynamic.
5. THE IMMODEST-DRESSER : Sexy might inadvertently catch your eyeballs, but it shouldn’t catch your heart. The way that a woman is willing to expose herself says much about her heart:
“And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart” (Proverbs 7:10).
The text in Proverbs explains that a woman will dress in a certain way to catch a certain type of man. Don’t be that man. Don’t be the fool who’s led by his hormones instead of the Holy Spirit. Remember: you want godly, not gaudy.
6. THE GOSSIPER/SLANDERER: Women may love to talk, but there’s wisdom in looking for a woman who speaks with wisdom. Gossip and slander are not good things to have in your marriage. Desperate housewives make for desperate husbands. “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” (1 Timothy 5:13).
7. THE CHILDBIRTH AVOIDER: Do not marry a woman who is not willing to have children of her own. In the Christian worldview, there is absolutely no room for two married, biologically capable, human beings to remain intentionally child-less. If you are adverse towards having children, then there’s a simple remedy for that: single-hood. However, if God has called you to marriage, then He actually expects children. Both the New and Old Testaments are very clear on this teaching: “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking ? Godly offspring” (Malachi 2:15). “Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control” (1 Timothy 2:15).
8. THE WANDER-LUSTER: There’s nothing wrong with the occasional family vacation. There is something very wrong with a girl who regularly needs to be “out of the home.” The constant desire for new experiences, new places, new faces, and new forms of entertainment only serves to clearly manifest the fact that the woman has not found her rest in God. Believe it or not, Scripture speaks repeatedly about such women: “She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home ” (Proverbs 7:11); “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house . And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to” (1 Timothy 5:13).
9. THE CARIEER-FIRST WOMAN: Now, I want to clarify something here. There is nothing wrong with a woman who works (Acts 16:14), what’s wrong is a woman who puts her career ahead of her family. Modern society might hate to hear this, but God made men to be the providers and women to be the nurturers of the home (in most instances). It’s okay for a woman to be a doctor, attorney, or any other professional. However, if her career is coming at the expense of her home, then something is wrong. If day-care is raising her young children while she’s working, then something is wrong. I understand that there might be a season of life where the wife might have to be the main bread- winner due to her husband’s unemployment, but it should not be the desired norm. The woman ought to be willing (and even desirous–to some extent) to give up her job for the sake of raising her kids in the Lord. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander” (1 Tim 5:14).
10. THE DEVOTION-LESS WOMAN : Is the woman having a regular, daily devotional time with her God? If she doesn’t love the Lord now, chances are, she won’t love the Lord after marriage. (Don’t delude yourself–you’re not going to change her.) You want to marry a girl who has an intimate relationship with Jesus. Jesus (not you) has to be the first man in her life. Here are some good questions to ask: Does she have an active prayer life? Does she have a heart for evangelism? Is she hungry for God’s Word? What does her pastor think about her? Do you remember this account from Scripture: Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. [39] And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. [40] But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” [41] But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, [42] but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42 ESV) Marry the Mary (no pun intended). Such women have picked “…the good portion, which will not be taken away” from them. God be with you men. Strong families start with strong wives. Choose wisely and choose in the Lord!
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Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by sewuun(m): 11:15am On May 31, 2015 |
I think i Don't agree with you on older women you seems not to be cool with it aside from been submissive to husband is like you are against Men marrying older women 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by ama123(f): 11:15am On May 31, 2015 |
The older women part is 100% senseless to me.for instance, My uncle is married to a woman he is 10yrs older than. Yet,he has no control over her. She insults him even in the presence of people and does not in any way give him d respect he deserves. I know a man whose wife is 9 yrs older than. She loves & respects her husband a lot. Their marriage is over 10 yrs now & they are stil very much in love with each other. For me,d day a woman marries is d day she accepts d man's headship over her even if d man is younger than her. Full stop! 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by baybeeboi: 11:15am On May 31, 2015 |
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I think you should focus of your English rather than tribalism. Idiot
and urs is even better, eeediot. 3 Likes |