₦airaland Forum

cococandy:
time will take care of that.
Baby steps at a time.
But there will surely be a feminist revolution in Nigeria. As sure as the sun rises.

coogar:
of course....
no one tells me to man up more than my mom. when my siblings cheated me while growing up, all i was told was to man up, big boys don't cry.



it depends on the job....
if it's a task that requires less manual stuff, then you can choose a woman. if it's to dig a borehole, would you choose a woman?



women have had it harder? how?
i cannot believe you are saying this. women have had it very easy. what i kept hearing growing up was its not easy to be a man.

Darkrebel666:
@bold the hilarity in that ehhh. ..

African especially Nigerian feminists are the least informed. majority of the them don't even know what it is about or the purpose and idea behind the movement.
some are just following the crowd, others probably learnt of it two weeks ago and are carrying the matter on their head like hawkers, and some just think 'feminism' is a cool word.
very few really understand the concept which is really about equality of the sexes, not seeing the menfolk as monsters or wanting to have superiority over them.

Yet the so called self-acclaimed feminists would want me to pay for the meal after a date, wouldn't pay tax, wouldn't even support in the payment of school fees for their kids.
80% of Nigerian women don't contribute a dime in payment of their children's school fees, house rent, purchase of foodstuffs.
equality of the sexes indeed.

may god continue to punish whoever brought this blooper to this country. even all these small 17 year old girls would wanna be standing up to men and ranting what they don't know
for all you pseudo and fake Nigerian feminists, first of all you do not possess a testicle, you can never be a man. you were made a pussssy for a reason
secondly I've never seen any case of gender discrimination in Nigeria. If anything, women are even more favoured..
thirdly, go get a job and quit all this frivolous gobbledygook.. hasta la vista

VictoriaBee:
You sound like an Edo boy.

I'm done.

freecocoa:
1. Your mum didn't know any better, I bet your sisters were also told "don't talk to a man that way or you are a woman, don't do bla bla"

2. What are you talking about?if the woman can do the job efficiently, she's hired, like there aren't men who can't dig?duh!

3.So you were told to believe, because a man is so power hungry, he'd take the glory for doing nothing, you know, just having a penis around here, is reason enough to slap a woman, for the flimsiest reason.

coogar:
anambra by birth, mbaise by choice.



she knows better
she knows in this world, a weak man is the least desirable. women don't even want a cry-baby of a man. crybaby men don't inspire confidence.



how many women have you seen digging a well? of course, there are men who cannot dig & i am sure such men will not turn up for that kind of job. women are not designed for such tasks.



that's wrong.....
i don't condone any sort of violence. slap a woman cos of what? nah! a gentleman need not lay his hands on women. he won't even get himself into such situation to begin with. the ones you have seen slapping women for the flimsiest excuse are not men, they are animals.

bukatyne:
@Bold:

Which Nigeria? Especially for the married women

Let's say you are right:

If doing 20% of finance makes your wife inferior to you,
Does doing 20% of the chores make you inferior to her?

And bros, that your 80% is not working.

freecocoa:
1. Speaking up for your right doesn't make you weak, if you were cheated, there's nothing to be ashamed of, people should know better than to cheat.

2.I have seen women do such jobs, women do them everyday, more people from both genders, just tend to lean more in the direction of different jobs.

coogar:
it's nothing - just sibling tiff.
i would be telling my son the same thing too.



hahahaha!
i have also seen a dinosaur in onitsha market.

Darkrebel666:
do you sincerely and truly believe what you just said ?
You are comparing House chores to working to earn income?
do they weigh the same?

okay.. how about you women folks venture out every morning as early as 6am/7am daily just to fend for the family while the men sit all day at home doing house chores.?
that's improbable anyway, but I hope you get what I'm trying to say?

and I never said bearing 80% of the financial burden on my shoulders made the women folks inferior to me. I also believe in equality of the sexes, but in this Nigeria the cases of gender discrimination is immeasurably minute and vanishingly small. I don't know what part of Nigeria you live, but i live in Lagos and women are treated specially and even showered unmerited favours at times. .

even on social media, a guy posts his profile pic and gets 2 likes in 1 year.
a female posts " I'm thirsty" and gets 100000 likes in half a milli second.
is that not gender discrimination against men?. why aren't we complaining?.. or you think we are automated machines that don't have feelings ?

feminists are females who want to be men and want to be treated like overgrown babies.

bukatyne:
If feminists wanted to be men, a sex change would solve the problem.

damiso:
I however feel that Nigeria's equality problems are multi faceted.Can a disabled person be said to have the same rights as an able bodied person? Is blatant age discrimination not practised is some Nigerian organisations? In a way sef I don't think extremely poor people are classed as humans that deserve dignity and respect in Nigeria (note I know there are poor people everywhere and being poor sucks anywhere but in Nigeria they are sub human)

bukatyne:
Which is harder in working and doing house chores? Except manual labor anyways.

@Liking of posts/pictures: you cannot force anyone to like them

Are you sure you live in Lagos? The consensus is that women should make more time for their families.

A lot of women in Lagos leave home very early for their daily businesses; Why do you think creche and daily nannyism are trending?

In a number of homes, the wives contribute a big chunk to the family finances.

The inequality here is more of mental.

If feminists wanted to be men, a sex change would solve the problem.

Besides you believe in gender equality but do not believe in feminism?

VictoriaBee:
Coogar, check again!

Our Igbo men are not complaining.
Most of the men that frequent this section and argue about submissiveness are not Igbo except that dude Njokusomething.

Our Igbo men love us.

Darkrebel666:
• Yes, I said I believe in equality of the sexes, but i strongly disagree that women are being discriminated against in Nigeria. you are given equal platforms, sent to school and can secure jobs as well.
I also don't think Nigerian feminists know what they really want. I think they are pretenders that just want to feel westernized, because I still don't know what they are vying for.
How can a free man be lamenting all day and begging for freedom?

• The "likes" and social media aspect was an analogy to prove to you that women(Nigerian) are shown preferential treatment and favoured and aren't discriminated against.
Why should a woman get 100000 likes on Facebook just for saying "she's thirsty online" and why should a man get 10 likes for his picture that's been up for 2 months?
. Isn't that gender discrimination against men? But are we crying. Yet we continue to like your photos cos unlike you we aren't nagging or cry babies. or you think its the Seraphim in the 7th heaven that likes the photo?

• Don't even include the house chore thing. its totally irrational and without a droplet of logic
How can you compare mere house chores to venturing out daily to face the asperity and harshness of the Spartan world to source for bread?. even if its not a manual job, house chores isn't close to that. Don't include it at all

• You said the inequality and discrimination is a mental thing?... correct. That's what you should have said sincr.
In as much as it isn't manifested physically in Nigeria here especially, its still ingrained in the cerebrums of every male in the spiral galaxy that we are superior to these people.(women)
I accept and agree. but I'm sorry you can't change that and I don't think that mentality is changing anytime soon.

(I'm not a believer) but even the Bible said youknowwho took from Adam's ribs to create 'b1tch'
The same bible said women should submit to their husbands.

• My point is: feminists should apply the animal farm theory which is: All animals are equal but some animals are more equal than others

In this case we males are more equal, no matter how equal the society may seem or you want it to be. that utopian society feminists want is never gonna happen.

We are biological animals and its all about survival of the fittest. Why would you think you are equal with someone you are physically stronger than, faster than, emotionally fortified than, and most times more smarter than?

If you really want equality then I should be able to slap a woman without being called names.

Lalai Ali should be ready and able to get into a ring with Floyd may weather or Vitali klitchko

Venus Williams must be ready to play with Rafael nadal

women and men should also play soccer together and compete. I.e Lionel Messi play with women and against women etc

That's when its gonna be equal, but why are we deceiving ourselves though.? no matter what , we(males) would still come out on top...
.feminists/women would never own a phallus or be men.
Cheers.

babygirlfl:
OP I like the fact that you said for now because it was a joke too in England for a long time but isn't today. Fact is that Nigeria is decades and maybe up to a century behind but a drop of water they say makes a mighty ocean. Women have to do their little even if it means being called any name. Our hope is that we do the little we can now and leave the next generation of women a better world than we had.

My only hope is that what Nigerian feminist or pseudo-feminist as some call us are facing today is no different from what the western women faced long time ago but did it stop feminism from happening? No. One of the major setback that early feminist in the west experienced was huddles from fellow women. Women who were either scared to go against the norm or women who have the need to get approval from men. It does not surprise me. It was and is still expected. Even Queen Victoria of England in the 1800s did not like feminists and even said Feminists ought to get a good whipping. That still did not stop feminism from happening.

Op, Most feminist I know say it that it's the culture so I don't understand what you mean by men against women. The west too had very strict cultures that oppressed women at the time feminism was at it's infancy. If they could do it then, we can do it.

Yes there is an adage that says that when you are ready for a fight, you should be ready to get injured. For feminism to happen, some of us will get called names, some of us may not get married, some of us may get divorced etc. If people can go to war and get killed to get peace, being called names, not getting married and getting divorced is a little price to pay for feminism. It is also important to know that some of us will also live a very happy life. Remember also that some non-feminist women will still be single for life, be called names and get divorced.

Kay17:
I strongly doubt physical strength implies mental fortification

Darkrebel666:
• Yes, I said I believe in equality of the sexes, but i strongly disagree that women are being discriminated against in Nigeria. you are given equal platforms, sent to school and can secure jobs as well.
I also don't think Nigerian feminists know what they really want. I think they are pretenders that just want to feel westernized, because I still don't know what they are vying for.
How can a free man be lamenting all day and begging for freedom?

• The "likes" and social media aspect was an analogy to prove to you that women(Nigerian) are shown preferential treatment and favoured and aren't discriminated against.
Why should a woman get 100000 likes on Facebook just for saying "she's thirsty online" and why should a man get 10 likes for his picture that's been up for 2 months?
. Isn't that gender discrimination against men? But are we crying. Yet we continue to like your photos cos unlike you we aren't nagging or cry babies. or you think its the Seraphim in the 7th heaven that likes the photo?

• Don't even include the house chore thing. its totally irrational and without a droplet of logic
How can you compare mere house chores to venturing out daily to face the asperity and harshness of the Spartan world to source for bread?. even if its not a manual job, house chores isn't close to that. Don't include it at all

• You said the inequality and discrimination is a mental thing?... correct. That's what you should have said sincr.
In as much as it isn't manifested physically in Nigeria here especially, its still ingrained in the cerebrums of every male in the spiral galaxy that we are superior to these people.(women)
I accept and agree. but I'm sorry you can't change that and I don't think that mentality is changing anytime soon.

(I'm not a believer) but even the Bible said youknowwho took from Adam's ribs to create 'b1tch'
The same bible said women should submit to their husbands.

• My point is: feminists should apply the animal farm theory which is: All animals are equal but some animals are more equal than others

In this case we males are more equal, no matter how equal the society may seem or you want it to be. that utopian society feminists want is never gonna happen.

We are biological animals and its all about survival of the fittest. Why would you think you are equal with someone you are physically stronger than, faster than, emotionally fortified than, and most times more smarter than?

If you really want equality then I should be able to slap a woman without being called names.

Lalai Ali should be ready and able to get into a ring with Floyd may weather or Vitali klitchko

Venus Williams must be ready to play with Rafael nadal

women and men should also play soccer together and compete. I.e Lionel Messi play with women and against women etc

That's when its gonna be equal, but why are we deceiving ourselves though.? no matter what , we(males) would still come out on top...
.feminists/women would never own a phallus or be men.
Cheers.

shaybebaby:
That's my girl! Well said!

coogar:
anambra by birth, mbaise by choice.

njokusboy:
I think you are referring to me.....
How may I help youv

VictoriaBee:
I'm doubting your claim about Enugu.

Translate Chimamanda, Ngozi, Ifeoma to English.
Those I know, anyway.

VictoriaBee:
I'm doubting your claim about Enugu.

Translate Chimamanda, Ngozi, Ifeoma to English.
Those I know, anyway.


No, sorry sir

Joy1706:
As for the whole 100000 likes thing? My dear u have ur fellow men to thank 4 dat. Out of that 100000 likes, I'm sure 99999 likes will be from guys. All in the quest for free pvssy perhaps.
Secondly, if you've never spent a whole day doing chores, you have no idea what it entails. Thus you have no right to call it 'mere' house chores

Joy1706:
As for the whole 100000 likes thing? My dear u have ur fellow men to thank 4 dat. Out of that 100000 likes, I'm sure 99999 likes will be from guys. All in the quest for free pvssy perhaps
Secondly, if you've never spent a whole day doing chores, you have no idea what it entails. Thus you have no right to call it 'mere' house chores

coogar:
this is the easiest question ever.....
•chimamanda - God's power is above all •ngozi - blessing •ifeoma - good thing(s)

Tallesty1:
My God Will Not Fall.

VictoriaBee:
Lol, are you minding his fallacy of hasty generalisation.

I know some facebook guys with over 500likes and girls that barely get 5Likes.

Darkrebel666:
I also know of some women that get treated like the duke of Edinburgh , drive posh cars, and command respect while some males don't even get an iota of that. .. so?

VictoriaBee:
That won't stop people from using derogatory names on her if she's single unlike men or when she divorce and spare her man.

That's discrimination.

Darkrebel666:
That's jealousy and hate which has always been a seed planted in man.
that's not discrimination.


in a face me I face you apartment. if a certain neighbour is progressing and others become hostile to him or her because of that.

is that hating or discrimination?

VictoriaBee:
Lol; really?
Okay, i agree

Darkrebel666:
• Yes, I said I believe in equality of the sexes, but i strongly disagree that women are being discriminated against in Nigeria. you are given equal platforms, sent to school and can secure jobs as well.
I also don't think Nigerian feminists know what they really want. I think they are pretenders that just want to feel westernized, because I still don't know what they are vying for.
How can a free man be lamenting all day and begging for freedom?

• The "likes" and social media aspect was an analogy to prove to you that women(Nigerian) are shown preferential treatment and favoured and aren't discriminated against.
Why should a woman get 100000 likes on Facebook just for saying "she's thirsty online" and why should a man get 10 likes for his picture that's been up for 2 months?
. Isn't that gender discrimination against men? But are we crying. Yet we continue to like your photos cos unlike you we aren't nagging or cry babies. or you think its the Seraphim in the 7th heaven that likes the photo?

• Don't even include the house chore thing. its totally irrational and without a droplet of logic
How can you compare mere house chores to venturing out daily to face the asperity and harshness of the Spartan world to source for bread?. even if its not a manual job, house chores isn't close to that. Don't include it at all

• You said the inequality and discrimination is a mental thing?... correct. That's what you should have said sincr.
In as much as it isn't manifested physically in Nigeria here especially, its still ingrained in the cerebrums of every male in the spiral galaxy that we are superior to these people.(women)
I accept and agree. but I'm sorry you can't change that and I don't think that mentality is changing anytime soon.

(I'm not a believer) but even the Bible said youknowwho took from Adam's ribs to create 'b1tch'
The same bible said women should submit to their husbands.

• My point is: feminists should apply the animal farm theory which is: All animals are equal but some animals are more equal than others

In this case we males are more equal, no matter how equal the society may seem or you want it to be. that utopian society feminists want is never gonna happen.

We are biological animals and its all about survival of the fittest. Why would you think you are equal with someone you are physically stronger than, faster than, emotionally fortified than, and most times more smarter than?

If you really want equality then I should be able to slap a woman without being called names.

Lalai Ali should be ready and able to get into a ring with Floyd may weather or Vitali klitchko

Venus Williams must be ready to play with Rafael nadal

women and men should also play soccer together and compete. I.e Lionel Messi play with women and against women etc

That's when its gonna be equal, but why are we deceiving ourselves though.? no matter what , we(males) would still come out on top...
.feminists/women would never own a phallus or be men.
Cheers.