Toks2008:


Oga proff abeg which part of my post are you having headache over?

Im too intellectually sound to decipher your rethorics ao please communicate effectively.

Nevertheless,except you are married at least for 10years without cheating on your wife please dont bother replying to this post.I expect men to catch my drift not boys or men with boys mindset.

You are actually intellectually limited to have suggested condoms don't protect against STI's.

Besides, saying most men are likely to cheat isn't the same as all men would cheat so your 95% stats from your moronic arse is a bit far fetched.

Cheating isn't gender specific so please get it in your head Sir

Dewze:
The day the modern woman will start understanding men for what they are is the day they will stop worrying about cheating husbands/boyfriends.

The problem with you op is that you are idle, get something doing as soon as possible (trade if you must) and you will start worrying less about your husband. He sees to much you and so is probably bored with you already. Most men are naturally adventurous and no amount of loving and good wifeing will change that in them. Understand your man and deal with him as such. Ignore such articles and advice that says "10 ways to know a good husband", they destroy relationships more than they keep them.

Please read her previous post. You will see how difficult her hubby made it for her when she wanted to go write a test for a job. He ended up breaking her head. Men are unfathomable

The earlier women accept the fact that 90% of men doing above average chat the better....the bitter truth is s..x is not the same as love to men...it's a form of recreation so to say...that's why most men love their wife n will not blink an eye to cheat...most important is not to endanger the life of your family by bleeping without protection...that's wickedness..


@OP please move on and no that time will heal you..and please warn him sternly not to endanger the life of your children and yours by his carelessness

Toks2008:


Get my point

95% of men will cheat on their woman meaning we have 5% who will not.

i have been with a lady for 12years wtout cheatn on her not because of the lobe i hve for her but because i am a believer with great love and fear for GOD but im only one of the 5%

Ladies will always lure even a man who does not want to cheat and this is where the problem lies..even a man who does bot want to cheat will be lured by these jezebels and how many men can withstand these sultry beauties.

Who is a cheat and how would you define it in your own words?

kalindaminda:

It would stop the pain...

pain continues for every wicked person, in hell.

nickibarb:


he wasn't a politician when I married him. he was just a regular Joe with a regular job. He occasionally says I did not support him when he ventured into politics and that is not far from the truth (you can see why). All I wanted was for us to go back abroad and continue to be regular people. Actually if I go abroad and get a job, i'll make a whole lot of money because my field is a hot cake and i'm qualified to work there.

don't worry he's not worth ur life all u need is counseling so that you two can get back along. If you need more help and advice add bbm 5628c76a.

Sweetheart, I feel your pain. but pls, don't commit suicide for that morons nonsense. I don't know what's wrong with men.

forgive but don't forget. don't retaliate. just don't show him luv again. drag him trough hell and make him miss your luv. make sure he suffer and repent from his did b4 U accept him back. mind u, don't accept him back easily if not he will ho back again.
this advice goes to any lady who's husband can't hold his side. stupid men that make all men look like cheats.

My sister, you are already at the losing end. All you can do now is minimize your trouble. Your husband has cheated and will probably continue cheating.

So if you get mind withstand d stigma, u can leave him, if you no get mind, stay but Aids is real o. Dont add taking drugs for the rest of your life to your already existing troubles.

May God help you sha, woman life no easy but take care of that life sha..

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

It won't solve the problem. .... and she stand divorced when caught. As a matter of fact, it takes a bad woman to cheat on her husband. Not offence I recommend a pardon!

She shd take it easy, the kids are worth more than anything negative.

This is not the worst case. Trust me.

I'm being practical here. I don't read text books on love.

elantraceey:


Op please do not listen to this, two wrongs never make a right.

My heart bleed while reading your story and honestly I can't say I know how you feel but I seriously feel for you.

I thank God for your life that he could come at the right time to rescue you it simply means that all hope is not lost with your husband . I know it will be difficult to forgive and just forget it all but I know love conquers all , you can forgive him but first you need to ask him these questions.

Why did he cheat on you? ( For everything I believe there's a reason , whether it's from you or him, it could be something you don't know that push out, though it's no excuse but find out)

Is he ready to be faithful now?

It's one thing to say sorry and another thing to not go back to it , He could do all the begging and still go about cheating probably this time he'll make it more secretive so you need to know if he's ready to be genuinely faithful now, It will be difficult to trust him again but you'll just have to.


Then he'll need to change his friends, this might be difficult but I tell you if he still keeps his cheating friends, he's going to go right back to it and you know most politicians are womanizers , if he still continues to organize ladies for them then he's never going to stop cheating then delete the what app and Bbm from his phone, take charge of your marriage ma'am .



Please don't you ever think of committing suicide ever again , whenever the thought comes, just look at your kids and imagine what will happen to them, no man is worth dying for.

And also get a job asap, in case anything happens you'll not be at the losing end.

Pls forget Nigeria men dey can never b faithful

sexyeyes:
Pls forget Nigeria men dey can never b faithful

I disagree, not all of them and cheating isn't gender specific.

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

And who is ds one? Can you give ur child dsame advice... ?

jaybee3:

You are actually intellectually limited to have suggested condoms don't protect against STI's.

Besides, saying most men are likely to cheat isn't the same as all men would cheat so your 95% stats from your moronic arse is a bit far fetched.

Cheating isn't gender specific so please get it in your head Sir

I will pretend that i did not see your display of childishness and lack of manners.

Now let me give u some valuable
enlightenment about the fact THAT CONDOM DOES NOT PREVENT STIs OR EVEN HIV

Do you know that condom does not cover
the entire shaft or penile region?

the base of the shaft and part of the srotal
sac makes contact with the vaginal fluid
during intercourse.

We also know that HIV is prevent in the
vagina fluid and it can pass through a delicate membrane such as the delicate skin in the penile region so apparently as we make love with psycological pleasure,we also stand the risk of contracting hiv nd other sti once thepenile shaft or srotal sac touches her fluid and she can also get the virus if an infected lover has the virus as a result of mild abbraisons on the man pnis so please rid urself of the ignorant mentality that condoms prevent sti.

my word of advice,be matured and decent when you make posts on ab online socia platform so that you will not be percieved as a low life social tout.

sexyeyes:
Pls forget Nigeria men dey can never b faithful

Why are u bashing us like dis nau?
At least recognize the few good guys that are tryin for their spouses

I guess u should find a lawyer nd ask him about d divorce if u want a divorce. Commiting suicide? It is nt going 2 solve a problem, choose wisely LEAVE OR STAY.

Toks2008:


I will pretend that i did not see your display of childishness and lack of manners.

Now let me give u some valuable
enlightenment about the fact THAT CONDOM DOES NOT PREVENT STIs OR EVEN HIV

Do you know that condom does not cover
the entire shaft or penile region?

the base of the shaft and part of the srotal
sac makes contact with the vaginal fluid
during intercourse.

We also know that HIV is prevent in the
vagina fluid and it can pass through a delicate membrane such as the delicate skin in the penile region so apparently as we make love with psycological pleasure,we also stand the risk of contracting hiv nd other sti once thepenile shaft or srotal sac touches her fluid and she can also get the virus if an infected lover has the virus as a result of mild abbraisons on the man pnis so please rid urself of the ignorant mentality that condoms prevent sti.

my word of advice,be matured and decent when you make posts on ab online socia platform so that you will not be percieved as a low life social tout.

Stop acting half smart.
I don't even need to treat your ignorance with respect to how STI's are transmitted.

Google should be your companion for the next 48hrs

If i were to even entertain your tomfoolery, how would the HIV strain from the virginal fluid pass through the condom?

Why would WHO advise condoms as a necessity for safe sex if it isn't secure?

olushowunm:
... Madam, you are just too young to understand most things. Love is about self-interest and not some emotional things. Your husband has done his best by respecting you and giving you honor by putting the ring on your finger.. You don't to worry yourself about his escapades... Just ignore his philandering ways and focus on what you know how to do best.. Love and support him.

love is abt self interest,so d wyf too can do as she like ryt?

sexyeyes:
Pls forget Nigeria men dey can never b faithful

Well i dont know if i will ever be faithful again but i was indeed faithful to my ex for 12years.

The truth is that even the few guys who are faithful have realized that its not worth it.

Nevertheless im very choosy as per the type of lady i want so that i wont be so prone to cheating on her because if i marry a lady im not sexually attracted to,i may love her but still cheat on her.

elantraceey:


I disagree, not all of them and cheating isn't gender specific.

hello pls,wat wud u do if u feels ur spouse neglects u always or tak u for grantd

elantraceey:


I disagree, not all of them and cheating isn't gender specific.

Ur intellect radiates ur beauty woman
May every other woman look like queen kong in your husbands eye
Your husband will have eyes for only you and will never give you cause to cry
May your husband be among the not all of them you mentioned

Oh....and if you're not married may I be the husband in the prayers

Becos of u i opened a username in nairaland... Contact me... Pweetyberry@yahoo.com. Am hoing thru exactly 100 percent same tin as u... Its so sad but i tell u if u kill urself he wont wait 2 months to marry another. My advice start saving like crazzzy

jaybee3:

Stop acting half smart.
I don't even need to treat your ignorance with respect to how STI's are transmitted.

Google should be your companion for the next 48hrs

If i were to even entertain your tomfoolery, how would the HIV strain from the virginal fluid pass through the condom?

Why would WHO advise condoms as a necessity for safe sex if it isn't secure?

I had my first degree in microbiology so i know what im implying but for all i care..its your call and watever rocks ur boat is yours to tackle.

G night abeg.

sexyeyes:
Pls forget Nigeria men dey can never b faithful

Stereotypical bull crap!!!!

So you sampled all Nigerian men before you reached this conclusion?

Waooh!!!!!. You are really the uncrowned SuperHead!!!!

Which inversely and logically means Gaynians ,other African men ,Mongoloids,Aliens and Caucasians are faithful?

I know age has nothing to do with wisdom but.......

If i may ask,How old are you?

DICKtator:


Stereotypical bull crap!!!!

So you sampled all Nigerian men before you reached this conclusion?

Waooh!!!!!. You are really the uncrowned SuperHead!!!!

Which inversely and logically means Gaynians ,other African men ,Mongoloids,Aliens and Caucasians are faithful?

I know age has nothing to do with wisdom but.......

If i may ask,How old are you?

Ahn ahn, hit his not a blowin steam stuvs....e neva reach to fight nau
U con put smileys to cushion the effect of the wash abi?
I see u oooo

anwo247:


It won't solve the problem. .... and she stand divorced when caught. As a matter of fact, it takes a bad woman to cheat on her husband. Not offence I recommend a pardon!

She shd take it easy, the kids are worth more than anything negative.

This is not the worst case. Trust me.

I'm being practical here. I don't read text books on love.

Thanks.
but it shows clearly that d man didn't love d Woman. if he does, he won't give cheating a second thought. very soon, he will pregnate a lady and chase out d woman or d woman is at risk of STD.

Nobody as giving a genuine advice on how to stop dis cheating on d part of dis Man.

chii8:


hello pls,wat wud u do if u feels ur spouse neglects u always or tak u for grantd

I'll find out why and try to work things out but I'll first make sure what I'm feeling is true and not just some feelings , it could be that there's something going one and that's why I feel neglected. I believe this things comes up in marriage once in a while.

oseod:
Ur intellect radiates ur beauty woman May every other woman look like queen kong in your husbands eye Your husband will have eyes for only you and will never give you cause to cry May your husband be among the not all of them you mentioned
Oh....and if you're not married may I be the husband in the prayers

AMEN

No need madam his girlfriend will come to ur burial.If na so e bi then almost all women go die now

[quote author=elantraceey post=34398996]


I'll find out why and try to work things out but I'll first make sure what I'm feeling is true and not just some feelings , it could be that there's something going one and that's why I feel neglected. I believe this things comes up in marriage once in a while.[/quote


thanks

pablomaria:
yawns

Take a moment to clap for yourself abeg. Op is obviously an old beginner.

@op, u are being dramatic and irresponsible. I will not indulge you any further

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Babymama1:


Listen to yourself
You have a family that loves you,your husband alienates your mom from you and kids and you accepted it because you want to be a good wife.people can't even say tell your mil,mil doesn't want anything to do with you.if you had been paralyzed from waist down after the push last time from hubby,she wouldn't have cared less neither will she care now.
Here you are popping pills like a lunatic after a husband who is organizing runz girls for politicians and catching his own fun,basically a man patronizing prostitutes on a regular basis,confessing to even doing it unprotected and advising that you both go get tested
Is that the sort of life you want to live as a 27 year old
Testing yourself every few months for diseases like an ashawo
For how long?

If you were my sister my advice would be

1. Go get yourself tested for hepatitis B ,HIV and syphylis for starters,hopefully you haven't been infected
2. Tell your parents immediately.
They love you unconditionally.your husband doesn't
They care about your life and welfare,your husband doesn't
Your parents won't knowingly want to harm you,your husband will
Your parents have endured so much insult from your husband already,haven't they
Is this the price you are willing to pay for the sake of marriage ?
If your answer is yes then you are a fool,sorry

As for the kids,no courts will give custody of babies to a man unless ...
Let me take that back
Wth a history of attempted suicide you will be seen as unfit to be a mother and he will win
The evidence is there
No courts will grant custody of young children to a crazy

Do I think he will change?
No I don't
You either accept it or move on

The other option of how u can keep the kids ,if you chose to leave,
if you can still go back overseas,lay low,trick him into sending you for a vacation with the kids and don't go back,this will be tough but people have done it and succeeded
I know two women that did that and they are doing fine now but you can't let a soul in on that plan.
I doubt if you have the balls to do that
You are too clingy

Well Said BabyMama....where do I send your kisses to?

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

Please don't give such kind of advice. Two wrongs can't make a right. Adulterers and adulteresses have no part in the Kingdom of God. Think abt it