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Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:07am On Jun 05, 2015
Hello ladies and gent....

When I was a child,I see ladies with engagement ring and I am like why did she accept the ring when they can just proceed to married without wearing that engagement ring? Again I noticed the lady in question have been wearing that ring for years scaring guys away who would want to wife her immediately. My question is;

-is engagement important in a relationship?
-if yes,for how long?
-if no,why?

I need reasonable and matured answers please....Thanks
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:08am On Jun 05, 2015
kiss kiss kiss
When I was a child,I see ladies with engagement ring and I am like why did she.....
now that you are no longer a child what are you like when you see them wearing the rings?
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by agarawu23(m): 9:09am On Jun 05, 2015
its important if the guy is truly ready not just some hustling guys holding down ladies with engagement rings

6month is OK.
you can't hold engagement ring for years, if the guy isn't ready to settle down, he should continue his bf & gf game
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Cirphrank(m): 9:12am On Jun 05, 2015
agarawu23:
its important if the guy is truly ready not just some hustling guys holding down ladies with engagement rings
May God not let them meet Lord Of The Rings. Lol, una go wait tire, and I wrote una, cos, he'd have engaged many others too.

However it is important in a relationship sha, when the guy is ready to tie the knot soon.
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by ammyluv2002(f): 9:12am On Jun 05, 2015
agarawu23:
its important if the guy is truly ready not just some hustling guys holding down ladies with engagement rings

6month is OK.
you can't hold engagement ring for years, if the guy isn't ready to settle down, he should continent his bf & gf game
Agreed!
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by agarawu23(m): 9:15am On Jun 05, 2015
Cirphrank:
May God not let them meet Lord Of The Rings. Lol, una go wait tire, and I wrote una, cos, he'd have engaged many others too.
exactly.
some guys believe giving her engagement ring will hold her and scare guys away from her and this guys aren't ready to face financial challenges.
A lady that is yours will definitely be. you don't need to hang her with your ring when you are still in 100 level
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by agarawu23(m): 9:17am On Jun 05, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Agreed!
oh!!! seems we are now reasoning together this days grin no more argument cheesy

morning
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by ammyluv2002(f): 9:18am On Jun 05, 2015
agarawu23:
oh!!! seems we are now reasoning together this days grin no more argument cheesy

morning
tongue tongue


Have a blessed day
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Afrok(m): 9:22am On Jun 05, 2015
Well when u see genuine engagement rings on people u'll know, forget abt those things u see on the fingers of some ladies that don't even have boyfriends not to talk of fiance, they're wearing it just to belong.
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:22am On Jun 05, 2015
krall3:
kiss kiss kiss now that you are no longer a child what are you like when you see them wearing the rings?
Lol
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:26am On Jun 05, 2015
agarawu23:
its important if the guy is truly ready not just some hustling guys holding down ladies with engagement rings

6month is OK.
you can't hold engagement ring for years, if the guy isn't ready to settle down, he should continue his bf & gf game
Thanks for your answer..

If he's truly ready why not go for marriage instead of the engagement?

I have seen a lady with engagement ring for 4yrs(donno if she's lord of the rings o)
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:30am On Jun 05, 2015
Afrok:
Well when u see genuine engagement rings on people u'll know, forget abt those things u see on the fingers of some ladies that don't even have boyfriends not to talk of fiance, they're wearing it just to belong.
Yea I agree cos ladies wear fashion ring these days.....but I know an engagement ring when I see one.

Whosoever that wears a ring to "belong"is on a long thing and she's deceiving herself.
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by dharay99: 9:33am On Jun 05, 2015
uhm maybe.

#btw...mehn
see 0p mouth for her dp. grin grin grin
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by missKiffy(f): 9:33am On Jun 05, 2015
It's important so that at that moment, you know you are committed to someone, at the same time engagement shouldn't be too long, for me I wuld say 6 months, at most a year, anything beyond that is a no no
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:36am On Jun 05, 2015
dharay99:
uhm maybe.

#btw...mehn
see 0p mouth for her dp. grin grin grin
undecided
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by GeneralQuamdeen: 9:37am On Jun 05, 2015
Enqaqement solve some "wait till we qet married" problems.
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Afrok(m): 9:37am On Jun 05, 2015
Eseohe23:
Yea I agree cos ladies wear fashion ring these days.....but I know an engagement ring when I see one.

Whosoever that wears a ring to "belong"is on a long thing and she's deceiving herself.
yeah! That's why the price of "aso ebi" keeps increasing every weekend.
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:38am On Jun 05, 2015
Op
I think yes you have to get engaged first then marriage .. Hence y married couples wear two rings (wife)
Also engagement can even be merged with introduction.
It can be personal btw both couples or they can announce it to friends, family n have a party.

But there is no time frame, some ppl stay engaged for one year , 2,3 some months before they get married. Lol hope this helps smiley
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by agarawu23(m): 9:41am On Jun 05, 2015
Eseohe23:
Thanks for your answer..

If he's truly ready why not go for marriage instead of the engagement?

I have seen a lady with engagement ring for 4yrs(donno if she's lord of the rings o)
4years is too much.
Another thing is you ladies, you want a guy to be fully loaded before you guys wed. You guys don't wanna hustle with any guy unless you see the already made guys. The already made guys didn't became rich overnight if their parents aren't rich.
Some guys are just scared to face marriage palava with their little cash that's why they end up engaging a lady for years though some guys are not just serious.
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:41am On Jun 05, 2015
LadyBoss1:
Op
I think yes you have to get engaged first then marriage .. Hence y married couples wear two rings (wife)
Also engagement can even be merged with introduction.
It can be personal btw both coup,es or they can announce it to friends, family n have a party.

But there is no time frame, some ppl stay engaged for one year , 2,3 some months before they get married. Lol hope this helps smiley
Okay...thanks
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by mayorkyzo: 9:42am On Jun 05, 2015
I think an engagement ring should be given to a girl a few months to the wedding..when concrete plans are in place for the wedding..not giving a lady a ring to hold her down for years...
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:43am On Jun 05, 2015
agarawu23:
4years is too much.
Another thing is you ladies, you want a guy to be fully loaded before you guys wed. You guys don't wanna hustle with any guy unless you see the already made guys. The already made guys didn't became rich overnight if their parents aren't rich.
Some guys are just scared to face marriage palava with their little cash that's why they end up engaging a lady for years though some guys are not just serious.
4 years is not too much
If there is guarantee he will marry some guys just take a lil longer before they sign dotted line
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by dharay99: 9:44am On Jun 05, 2015
Eseohe23:
undecided
lolz,
Am i gonna get beaten for dat?
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by agarawu23(m):
LadyBoss1:
4 years is not too much
If there is guarantee he will marry some guys just take a lil longer before they sign dotted line
bolded is the main issue. the guarantee is not certain, he might end up dumping her. don't forget ladies aren't the same with guys.

A guys can stay on engagement for years but the story isn't the same with ladies
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:52am On Jun 05, 2015
agarawu23:
4years is too much.
Another thing is you ladies, you want a guy to be fully loaded before you guys wed. You guys don't wanna hustle with any guy unless you see the already made guys. The already made guys didn't became rich overnight if their parents aren't rich.
Some guys are just scared to face marriage palava with their little cash that's why they end up engaging a lady for years though some guys are not just serious.
Ehn! For a lady to have been engaged to the guyfo 4yrs,think they've been throuh so many things together.so the idea of not hustling with him shouldn't be there.
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 9:57am On Jun 05, 2015
mayorkyzo:
I think an engagement ring should be given to a girl a few months to the wedding..when concrete plans are in place for the wedding..not giving a lady a ring to hold her down for years...
.....Exactly my thought..
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by agarawu23(m): 9:57am On Jun 05, 2015
Eseohe23:
Ehn! For a lady to have been engaged to the guyfo 4yrs,think they've been throuh so many things together.so the idea of not hustling with him shouldn't be there.
hmmmmm
If marriage can break, what does it take engagement to crash? ladies out there aren't ready to soak garri with you and that's the fact. the few ones are scarce like the fuel scarcity.
if a lady can endure 4years engagement without pressure from friends & family, definitely she is a teen because 4 years is just too long..
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 10:12am On Jun 05, 2015
Not all relationships lead to marriage. However, when one decides to take his relationship further to marriage, it's paramount for both party to come together and assure themselves of committing to make it work. That's why it's called ENGAGEment.

This is where many persons miss it. Engagement is not a time to see if you guys are compatible. What were you doing all the while you were dating? That period of engagement is a period of planning and preparation(financially, spiritually and otherwise). Though I'm not a fan of long engagement, 6 months is an inadequate time frame for effective and solid preparation. It depends largely on what their relationship was like before the engagement though.

That'll be all for now. So, engagement is not overrated. smiley
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 10:15am On Jun 05, 2015
dharay99:
lolz,
Am i gonna get beaten for dat?
Nah you won't lipsrsealed
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by dharay99: 10:16am On Jun 05, 2015
Eseohe23:
Nah you won't lipsrsealed
so...y d bent face undecided
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 10:17am On Jun 05, 2015
agarawu23:
hmmmmm
If marriage can break, what does it take engagement to crash? ladies out there aren't ready to soak garri with you and that's the fact. the few ones are scarce like the fuel scarcity.
if a lady can endure 4years engagement without pressure from friends & family, definitely she is a teen because 4 years is just too long..
Engaged for 4 years? Doesn't she get tired of wearing the ring?
4 years is damn too long to be engaged.
Re: Is Engagement Overrated? by Nobody: 10:17am On Jun 05, 2015
AgapeCharis:
Not all relationships lead to marriage. However, when one decides to take his relationship further to marriage, it's paramount for both party to come together and assure themselves of committing to make it work. That's why it's called ENGAGEment.

This is where many persons miss it. Engagement is not a time to see if you guys are compatible. What were you doing all the while you were dating? That period of engagement is a period of planning and preparation(financially, spiritually and otherwise). Though I'm not a fan of long engagement, 6 months is an inadequate time frame for effective and solid preparation. It depends largely on what their relationship was like before the engagement though.

That'll be all for now. So, engagement is not overrated. smiley
okay....Thanks.
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