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In our times, it is very difficult to totally rule out long distant relationships, there are situations that warrant it, like work or school. Long distance relationships can be really tough to handle with both parties feeling the strain everyday. More and more long distance relationships break by the day due to a myriad of reasons which include but are not limited to a break down in communication, the presence of someone new who is always there, suspicions about whether the other person is still faithful which leads to distrust, etc.

Long distance relationships however have their positive sides too. For one, it helps both guy and girl focus on building real friendship rather than getting distracted by lust. They also help to make both people appreciate each other more and to appreciate the little thing. If they get it right, nothing and no one is taken for granted between them. I am going to share tips on making a long distance relationship work like clock work below.

1. Make a serious commitment

To make this work, you both have to make up your minds to 'just see how things go'. Rather, be determined to make things go the way you want them to. Believe me, everything including relationships have a mind of their own except you consciously make them subject to your own will. Communicate your commitment to each other and re affirm your commitment regularly. If yo begin to notice that re affirming commitment is getting difficult, then you know something is wrong that you will have to fix.

2. Communicate regularly and effectively

Thank God for modern technology! You can stay in touch over several media now: chat, voice calls, voice notes, Skype, the possibilities are endless. Involve each other in your daily life and activity as much as possible. No one should get out of the loop concerning what is going on with the other. To be able to communicate effectively however, you both need to know each other's daily schedules very well.

3. Plan regular visits

Don't kid yourself, it will be very difficult to stay strong if you and your significant other will be separated for a significant amount of time without any visits. Even if you can't afford a lot of visits, at least make plans for a couple of them. If your partner handles surprises well, you could even plan a surprise visit for a special occasion like a birthday, convocation or anniversary. Seeing each other after a long time always gives an excellent boost to your relationship.

4. Keep yourself productively busy

Being idle when you are in a long distant relationship with someone that actually means the World to you can be very depressing. You need to fill your own time up and avoid getting caught up in negative thoughts or overly missing the person. Get your a life and live it to the fullest!

5. Avoid 'dangerous situations'

You know what I mean. When Peter is far away in Australia, avoid spending so much time alone with Paul, your unit member in church. When Grace is in Canada trying to earn her diploma, don't get caught up with Shalom, the hot secretary at work doing seemingly innocent things like going to the cinema, or lunch dates all the time. If you do stiff like that, you are setting yourself up big time! It always starts innocently, but before you know it, everything blows out of proportion.

6. Have an end in mind

You can't stay separated forever, there must be an end to the distance between you that you both agree to from the beginning. As soon as you can, begin to make plans towards being together again. Having an end in mind give you something to work towards, something to hope for. Without something feasible to work towards, a long distance relationship is inherently doomed.

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True talk!

dharay99:

not d points i was expecting.

Make i tutor u on long d-rltnshps...ehn

Please do...i could learn a thing or two

Even with all this, a guy/lady who has the intention to cheat will do so freely over and over again. No 5 tho'.

Traditional charm can do some wonders too.. All you need is an hammer to knack it in a tree.

nawtibownie:
Even with all this, a guy/lady who has the intention to cheat will do so freely over and over again. No 5 tho'.

it's not all about cheating, it's about not having a strong bond whatsoever with the "chetee"

dharay99:

just stay away from aving any link 2 a 2nd girl bcuz d 1st girl is far.

2, if at all, u suddenly develop negative tuts abt ur far away partner, kill d tut instantly by being like, (mtcheeeeew, as long as its unknown to me, I trust her still)

3,never postpone issues or leave dem unsolved... Ds is one great tips from my experience.

4, if der is an issue and yr partner is at fault buh he/she is not not coming around, drop ur ego n talk to her...let her see where it went wrong.

5,suprise her once in a wyl...eg, mayb u guys just finished talking on fone, u can get an unknown numb to call her, call her back immediately and as soon as she picks, ur 1st statement could b "honey, I'm still in love wid u" she wuld pause, den tink nd should recognize ur voice nd u will see hw she will smile. (Suprizeddd)
##lemme stop der#

boss!

dharay99:

hmm..

is she still with u?

dharay99:

yea sure.

wow! u know these long-distance warev doesnt work for some/most people...especially when there is no level of trust, in it.

Dharay99 ...tanx man
Seems you d boss of distance relationships

RobinHez:
wow! u know these long-distance warev doesnt work for some/most people...especially when there is no level of trust, in it.

yea..buh im ohk wid mine & d trust.
Guess wah, its been over 20months we last saw.
& i aint rilli so bodad cuz im busy chasinq paper not chicks.

dharay99:

yea..buh im ohk wid mine & d trust.
Guess wah, its been over 20months we last saw.
& i aint rilli so bodad cuz im busy chasinq paper not chicks.

four months short of two years

I reiterate; BoSS!!!

dharay99:

ßoss, I wish o0

really? to keep it going for such a long time...takes a lot of hardwork, and only bosses can do that .
so where is she based? (hope i'm not asking too much questions )

Op thank

risky buh its worth it.

Making relationship work is no big deal, be it long or short distance....

No distance is far when the love is there but frequent communication strengthens long distance relationship.....