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I seek to understand many things. I seek to understand especially how one can be in love with someone that consistently beats and abuses one and vice versa. How does one forgive such person? How does love work in such instance? I know wounds heal but scars are ugly reminders of times we wished we never had to go through. I once asked a friend of mine how she coped with her abusive boyfriend and she said ‘Fisayo, you should get to know him, you’ll realize he is not such a bad person, he just has a bad temper’.

I wanted to scream at her then and probably borrow her my eyes to take a look at her life through but somethings were not so logical. Hers was not the only one, there are so many other cases. While in the university, there was a time we had to break the doors of one of our neighbors to rescue her from her abusive lover.

There was this other time when I was much younger when I witnessed one of our neighbors descend on his wife like a lion does its prey and rip her off every piece of clothing. What was sadder was their young kids cowered in a little corner, visibly shaken from the ordeal. It took the intervention of other neighbors to rescue her and the kids. Sad thing is she stayed with him after that till she almost died during one of those brutal beatings that she decided enough was enough and escaped with her kids in the dead of the night.

Having seen different cases of abuse, I have noticed common traits in the characters of those abused and they are as shared below:
- See more at: http://www.covenantrelationships.org/2015/06/five-reasons-why-victims-dont-leave.html#sthash.kJvtnTVw.dpuf

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