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bukatyne:
[size=20pt]BROS!

A maid as used in the bold is a woman; not housemaids.

Maids were referred to as servant girls.

Softly softly twist the Bible![/size]

iS THERE ANY TWIST THERE?

was only referring to the fact that even Bible gives a funny picture of the possibility of men sleeping with maid servants from time memorial.

Adufetohposh:
And some men will not fall for that Beyonce or Kim K's Body, not because they don't find her attractive, but because they are disciplined and will rather go out instead of sleeping with someone under their wife's nostrils.


So what if the maid falls in love with the man and decides to poison madam and her children so she can take over the home completely....

I will blame the man. if he needs to cheat on his wife, it shouldn't be with her maid.

Why would a man 'need' to cheat?

Toks2008:
iS THERE ANY TWIST THERE?

was only referring to the fact that even Bible gives a funny picture of the possibility of men sleeping with maid servants from time memorial.

The Bible never gave any funny picture...

The maid there is a woman ...

Some versions say how a man loves a woman

streetzdreamz:
yea I know its not easy,but u oughta think about all that before going into the act,if your wife is frustrating you to the extent of sleeping with your house maid I see nothing hard in ending the relationship .

@bolded,

I think it wud be inconsiderate to just end ur marriage cos ur wife is inadequate. I wud expect u to consider if itz in d best interest of ur kids, if NOT then dnt do it nw but leave it till another day wen ur kids r grown; perhaps she wud av enjoyed d ample time to improve herself which I doubt.

Itz sad dis is d dilema in which we find ourselves but nonetheless life goes on regardless.

Ur philosophy though... I shiver o.

babygirlfl:
That is why I said women have the power to stop men from cheating. The day women start making men pay for their cheating ways is the day we will start noticing at least a reduction in the number of cheating men.

How will they make men pay? Is it by killing them or divorcing them?
If it the later, then its a win win for men! Because divorced and old women no dey move for market. That is the only reason why women tend to remain with cheating men. Forget excuses like " I'm staying because of my kids". 98% divorced women end up extremely promiscous and free sex givers to low life men. I see a lot of them. The wealthy ones pay jobless guys for sex while the poor ones are taken advantage of by randy old married men who use and dump them. If you go through their purses, you'll see condoms.... lmao... They be begging and seducing men for sex.

Btw, if men are also making cheating women pay, they won't be existing again. Or do you think women don't cheat as much as men? If nigerian guys should start crucifying their cheating girlfriends, no woman will be alive in this country. A place where a single woman will be dating 3 different guys(including married men) at the same time. They go into marriage and still continue. Just last week my friend's married ex visited him and seduced him for sex. The hubby will be thinking he has a good wife.

My point is, you can't do nada to cheating men as long as more women cheat everyday. Though they do it secretly.

Aminat508:
This long standing anomaly of men sleeping with house helps even in most times ending up the woman leaving her matrimonial for the maid....who gets blame?
does the wife takes a greater blame by leaving the house maid to run everything in the house...even attending to the man's needs

while she plays madam sitting doing nothing nd forgetting her wifely duties

Married women sleeping with their drivers...who's to blame?

D woman oooo cos most of dem neglect der duties chasin career. Some r nt gud at it. Some delibrately deny deir men cos dey dnt like it no fire in dem forget dat its deir numba 1 job to make d man relax look agile and work well. May be d woman don't clean up well and d maid has an edge

omooba969:
@bolded,

I think it wud be inconsiderate to just end ur marriage cos ur wife is inadequate. I wud expect u to consider if itz in d best interest of ur kids, if NOT then dnt do it nw but leave it till another day wen ur kids r grown; perhaps she wud av enjoyed d ample time to improve herself which I doubt.

Itz sad dis is d dilema in which we find ourselves but nonetheless life goes on regardless.

Ur philosophy though... I shiver o.

man,u can't be more right,but this issue still boils down to both partners I wouldn't tolerate a cheat for any reason in the world, so far they are both married,marriage really ain't a bed of roses but u gat to stick to your wife,pray,advice and do whatever u can to make her change for better,not take solace in another woman all because of frustration,the points u gave and a few more personal reasons mks marriage a useless institution to me,lols at ur last sentence, I believe in the best or nothing.

Adufetohposh:

person ask you question you come begin do shakara
wetin sef?

why una too like to dey show colour sef?

Maximus85:
A lazy one is identified!

I will take my cars to the carwash, I can't put my life in the hands of a so-called driver, so I'm gonna drive myself, mowing my lawn if I ever decide to grow one will make me live longer. Its an exercise to my borrrrry. I need no gateman, my gate will be automatic.

When it comes to cooking and catering to your children, No one can do it better. You can decide to leave your bed chores though, cos there are millions of hotter ladies that can do it far far better than you.

Go learn my dear. It will be easier for a man to poke the housemaid than Kabiru the gateman penetrating his wife with his shaft.

You will take your car to the car wash, and your gate will be automatic ba? You're a hypocrite. Aren't all these things meant to make life easier for you but ur wife commits a great sin by getting a maid to assist her with the chores. If a woman doesn't suffer, you guys won't be happy. I cant deal with your hypocrisy. Abeg! It's easier for a man to poke the housemaid than the the gateman doing madam? Ok na. Tell that to those men who don't know their raising their gateman's spawn.

And who says there aren't men who neglect their wives' sexual needs? There are equally millions of hotter and richer guys out there to service madam

agarawu23:
3 reason why you should blame the wife ?

2. If a woman is hardworking, I see know reason why she should need a house girl. Even if you are working in the bank, (which is not our business) you have to create time for your house work and focus on your husband.

smh..

I feel sorry for whoever uv chosen as ur slave wife.

Creamish:
smh..

I feel sorry for whoever uv chosen as ur slave wife.

What's your take on this booboo?

agarawu23:
haha
is this the best way to defend yourself ?

im not defending anything I'm just saying I hope you blame yourself when you are put in the same position there is nothing wrong with that is there?

Joy1706:
You will take your car to the car wash, and your gate will be automatic ba? You're a hypocrite. Aren't all these things meant to make life easier for you but ur wife commits a great sin by getting a maid to assist her with the chores. If a woman doesn't suffer, you guys won't be happy. I cant deal with your hypocrisy. Abeg! It's easier for a man to poke the housemaid than the the gateman doing madam? Ok na. Tell that to those men who don't know their raising their gateman's spawn.

And who says there aren't men who neglect their wives' sexual needs? There are equally millions of hotter and richer guys out there to service madam

Shouldn't proximity of the enabler be a factor?

A maid would most certainly live inside the house and would most certainly come into close contact with the man more often than norm

Whereas the gate man in the same context is expected to see madam on very few occasions during the course of the day

Creamish:
smh..

I feel sorry for whoever uv chosen as ur slave wife.

I personally, prefer getting a house help...so that my wife won't be too stressed, with the house chores.... but not a sexy one

jaybee3:
What's your take on this booboo?

No matter wat, I see sleeping with the maid as total disrespect for d man as well as his wife. If there is an issue, trash it out. Nothing should lead the man to cheat with the maid because it thins out the respect the maid will have for either of the couple as well as the possible irreparable damage it would cause on the marriage.

Is the maid really worth the breakup of the home? really?

There is no relationship without issues.....thatz where maturity and luv comes in. Trash it out btw urselves. I dont see anything wrong with having a maid/manservant if the woman is not a full time housewife. The way men come back home tired from work is the same way women come back home exhausted and still try their bit to take care of the home. Women support their men any way they can and that also includes providing for the home. Its always better when there is a 2-way inflow of funds so there can always be a back-up when 1 channel closes abruptly. So i'm an advocate for a career woman. However, she must know to set limits on her ambition and not allow it cloud her responsibilities at home.

There should always be that understanding that can allow for patience, tolerance & sacrifice. The maid is no source of consolation for any wrong. It's an abomination.

The spineless, immoral, unreliable cheating-azz, weakling MAN!!!


Everyone is responsible for their own sin.

Creamish:
No matter wat, I see sleeping with the maid as total disrespect for d man as well as his wife. If there is an issue, trash it out. Nothing should lead the man to cheat with the maid because it thins out the respect the maid will have for either of the couple as well as the possible irreparable damage it would cause on the marriage.

Is the maid really worth the breakup of the home? really?

There is no relationship without issues.....thatz where maturity and luv comes in. Trash it out btw urselves. I dont see anything wrong with having a maid/manservant if the woman is not a full time housewife. The way men come back home tired from work is the same way women come back home exhausted and still try their bit to take care of the home. Women support their men any way they can and that also includes providing for the home. Its always better when there is a 2-way inflow of funds so there can always be a back-up when 1 channel closes abruptly. So i'm an advocate for a career woman. However, she must know to set limits on her ambition and not allow it cloud her responsibilities at home.

There should always be that understanding that can allow for patience, tolerance & sacrifice. The maid is no source of consolation for any wrong. It's an abomination.

You are absolutely right though you've introduced a significant dimension into the scenario being played out.

The husband didn't cheat on the wife as a direct result of any misunderstanding between them. He did so because he was simply attracted to the maid meaning he never had an excuse to cheat considering the fact that he then proceeded to marry the maid as far as the scenario is concerned.

Creamish:
smh..

I feel sorry for whoever uv chosen as ur slave wife.

oh sorry!
did I hit your nerves?

But my wife isn't complaining. everybody has his/her own way of doing things and I personally don't like career women.

Don't judge me with my post miss .
it's my opinion

She is only helping her boss. haba!

Moana:
im not defending anything I'm just saying I hope you blame yourself when you are put in the same position there is nothing wrong with that is there?

I can't be in the situation because my wife isn't dumb to bring somebody like rokia.... as our housemaid. the more she turns her backside to me when cleaning our TV, the more my 'baba ibeji' trying to go to war

jaybee3:
person ask you question you come begin do shakara
wetin sef?

why una too like to dey show colour sef?

I've sent him my reply Via Email

jaybee3:
You are absolutely right though you've introduced a significant dimension into the scenario being played out.

The husband didn't cheat on the wife as a direct result of any misunderstanding between them. He did so because he was simply attracted to the maid meaning he never had an excuse to cheat considering the fact that he then proceeded to marry the maid as far as the scenario is concerned.

ok. I dint read the scenario. I only responded based on some comments i saw as well as my take on the subject itself.

agarawu23:
oh sorry!
did I hit your nerves?
But my wife isn't complaining. everybody has his/her own way of doing things and I personally don't like career women.
Don't judge me with my post miss .
it's my opinion

The judgement was an opinion as well...my opinion of ur opinion which still is an opinion..my opinion.

Tomfrench:
I personally, prefer getting a house help...so that my wife won't be too stressed, with the house chores.... but not a sexy one

..good choice.

blame the man who has no atom of self control nor respect for his spouse.

After reading all the comments above, I quite agree with most of the ladies n some guys' sentiments...



My take...



In marriage, we all have our distinct responsibilities.



The man to put the house/home in order



The woman to take care of her workshop(Kitchen)



Both to cordially agree on Bedmington!



Now, I'm not an advocate for the employment of maid.



Before marriage, you'll see the guy even cooking for his babe... The girl watching African Magic Yoruba/hausa/Igbo/Swahili, and the guy doing his laundry.... The guy even ironing the babe's dress... The guy being so caring that the babe wld be like "chai! Chineke, modupe fun megida yi oooo"



Why should we men change all these all in the name of 'I am the HEAD of the Family'?



Work? Yes we run up n down to keep the damn family together buh alas! the women are not our slaves.



Tiredness? Everybody dey taya nau buh then there are smthgs we can still do to help ourselves.



The Women are something else!!! They can frustrate our lives but that shldnt stop us from loving dem as that person we fell in love with den!



Let's try to be supportive! If we supported them, there wldnt be need to engage a house maid.



If the maids weren't employed, the men wldnt have been tempted!



With these, the MEN bear the responsibilities alone if they decided to #Crush any maid.



I believe it to be a CURSE for a man to descend so low grinding the maid. In fact, it's a lifetime CURSE to have extra marital affair.



May God help us all through our trying times. Amen

Teespice:
blame the man who has no atom of self control nor respect for his spouse.

You think say you sef no go tempt the most righteous with wetin you dey carry for front?

Creamish:
ok. I dint read the scenario. I only responded based on some comments i saw as well as my take on the subject itself.



The judgement was an opinion as well...my opinion of ur opinion which still is an opinion..my opinion.



.

you see yourself , you didn't read the main issue we are discussing on, you are just jumping on the comments

Abeg if a husband cheats on a wife with their "house girl of all people"? Then that means that woman has "NO SWAG whatsoever",either in the bedroom or in matrimonial character! She has given him the opportunity! FACT!

KoloOyinbo:
Yes but do not forget the VERY BIG DIFFERENCE between going looking for temptation and having it thrust in your face every day even n your own home where you cannot avoid it!

there is no difference. All is a matter of respect for your marriage. if you have none you'll step out maid or no maid.

first of all the [s][/s]maid is a woman. have you read the part in the bible where angels fell for daughters of men..
Genesis 6:2 ►
Parallel Verses
New International Version
the sons of God saw that the daughters of humans were beautiful, and they married any of them they chose.

New Living Translation
The sons of God saw the beautiful women and took any they wanted as their wives.

English Standard Version
the sons of God saw that the daughters of man were attractive. And they took as their wives any they chose.

New American Standard Bible
that the sons of God saw that the daughters of men were beautiful; and they took wives for themselves, whomever they chose.

i will always blame the woman,they have better instinct than the men,she definitely saw it coming but just felt because she is maid,forgetting she is a woman first.

Teespice:
blame the man who has no atom of self control nor respect for his spouse.

Lack of self control...is dat all?

Blaming us all d time will only prevent u lot frm tackling d root cause, of which neglect & d wife being insensitive are some of d root causes of d fuckery.

omooba969:
Lack of self control...is dat all?

Blaming us all d time will only prevent u lot frm tackling d root cause, of which neglect & d wife being insensitive are some of d root causes of d fuckery.

really. tell me something I don't know.

even if you have a perfect wife, you lot would still cheat and blame it on nature and hormones.

say something else abeg.