Cutehector:
I think marriage pressure comes more on the men than the ladies.

edwife:


Really?I don't think so.
The only pressure a man has is when he is doing okay financially he is expected to get married in order to be "responsible".He can decide to get married by 40 and no one will question him.

The ladies on the other hand are constantly reminded how they are getting old(30),how menopause is fast approaching therefore won't be able to have kids at a certain age,how their beauty is fading and many more....

akpumping7720:
This reminds me of a lady I saw sometimes ago, her dad accompanies her to come wash her head in a stream near my area. I told a friend of mine who also knows her and d next thing my friend said was that she came to wash her head so as to get an husband... And d lady in question is 28 yrs! If to go by what my friend said it might be that The pressure came from d parents dat they haven't seen her bring any man home. Though I don't have any idea on what's she is passing through in respect of her relationship.

Cutehector:
what do u think is d cause for dese ladies not to be maRried at dat age

boynigeria:
most of this pressure comes from the parent and then friends

u and ur gf ive been dating for over 3yrs, ur gf's friend got engaged in a grand way and she got 51 like 40 comments on FB + 70likes on instagram simply for posting her cheapass breakable glass-rocked ring, just kn dat ur in emotional soup dat week, d best of nagging is coming ur way

boynigeria:
most of this pressure comes from the parent and then friends

u and ur gf ive been dating for over 3yrs, ur gf's friend got engaged in a grand way and she got 51 like 40 comments on FB + 70likes on instagram simply for posting her cheapass breakable glass-rocked ring, just kn dat ur in emotional soup dat week, d best of nagging is coming ur way

Xiadnat:
This lot is complete utter nonsense.

I gotta say; the older I get, the less attractive the idea of marriage appears to me.



Sayonara to the tradition......modern day relationships.

Xiadnat:
This lot is complete utter nonsense.

I gotta say; the older I get, the less attractive the idea of marriage appears to me.



Sayonara to the tradition......modern day relationships.

Cutehector:
what do u think is d cause for dese ladies not to be maRried at dat age

boynigeria:
most of this pressure comes from the parent and then friends

u and ur gf ive been dating for over 3yrs, ur gf's friend got engaged in a grand way and she got 51 like 40 comments on FB + 70likes on instagram simply for posting her cheapass breakable glass-rocked ring, just kn dat ur in emotional soup dat week, d best of nagging is coming ur way

edwife:


What age exactly are you talking about?

Well it's not like some of them are actually responsible for their predicaments.There are many cases let me point some:

-Some ladies grew up with a mother who took poo from her husband and ended up hating the dad,thus feeding the girl with all types of atrocities like men are terrible,men are cheats,men are this and that,never trust a man....
-Some grew up in a violent home,the only language in the house was beating.
-A lady who grew up with a mother who fight for everything in her marriage even when she is wrong.
-A mother who had nothing but an abusive mouth towards her husband,she can't keep quiet or address an issue without verbally abusing her husband.
-When you grew up in a family where the mother was the breadwinner and mistreated her husband,why do you think such lady will need a husband?
- some Ladies are single because they choose to be. They are simply not interested in being in a serious relationship at this time in their life. Others are single due to the circumstances of their lives. They may have just gotten out of a meaningful relationship or have dated relentlessly and just haven't found their soul mate.
-Some ladies are pickier and more judgmental. Some after they had bad experiences, where they were deceived or rejected by a person for whom they had strong feelings. Many women start to have thoughts like, “There are no decent men out there” or “All the good ones are taken.
-With age, people tend to retreat further and further into their comfort zones. Modern women are more and more successful, accomplished and self-sufficient.

This does not only apply to ladies alone,some men fall under this category.

edwife:
@chigoizie7 Everything you said is absolutely correct but then again do you know that just witnessing domestic violence in the home can have harmful effects on children.
Unless they are taken away from such destructive environment,that child will turn out to be an abuser. Because it is the way dad or mum communicated,it is normal for them.

A young lady/man who is born and grew up with a mother/dad who abused the other parent,will never know wrong or right unless she witness the opposite to what she has known all her life;unless someone tells her that it is wrong.

You grew up doing the right thing because you wanted to change that,you took it positively.Some don't have such mind.

90% of abusers were abused as a child or grew up around violence.

Mznaett:
After going through this post, i'm delighted to say you're all on the right track. I keep telling people that 'marriage' is a calling and you have to sacrifice so much for it if you're called.

I've got 3 nieces of whom 2 are in their early 40's and the other is 50+. Now,the other 2 got married last 2yrs and last saturday made it exactly 2wks we buried one of the husband. But the eldest is still single as am typing now.


Some people create storm for themselves and then get upset when it rains..dnt let anybody 2rule over u dats my advice



#lady4rmmars

edwife:


Really?I don't think so.
The only pressure a man has is when he is doing okay financially he is expected to get married in order to be "responsible".He can decide to get married by 40 and no one will question him.

The ladies on the other hand are constantly reminded how they are getting old(30),how menopause is fast approaching therefore won't be able to have kids at a certain age,how their beauty is fading and many more....

chigoizie7:


@Edwife, u re not wrong after all. I guess, its a case of different tales to different folks.

I don't know what else to say, but it should not be a reason not to marry on time.

edwife:


Well for some it is. They are scare and don't want a repeat of what they witness when growing up.

The fear of the unknown can make one to totally avoid trying,others tried once and were hurt by the man they loved so they decided to throw the towel.

Many i can give you which are also cited in my previous post.

FTBOY:
ur analysis are ok and quite acceptable, but have u forgotten.....or u prolly don't know that men undergo financial stress to start a family of their own. all u ladies have to do is keep urself pretty n wish mr right comes by

In Nigeria it is estimated that 40%-50% of all first marriages end up in divorce (www.marmalette.com).

edwife:


Lol with what we read everyday on front page i am not surprise

I doubt there is even 20% in SE but if it's Lagos and North i don't doubt the report