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sukkot:
nigga there is no such thing as love. this is a concocted emotion used to sell books and magazines. there is lust and after lust there is compromise. those are the only two feelings between members of opposite s-e-x. LUST and when the lust dies you COMPROMISE. no such thing as love. so there is no such thing as not being in love with your wife. it does not exist. what his problem is is that he is not willing to get into the COMPROMISE stage. he is still a small boy looking for LUST. some people are addicted to LUST. it is a powerful emotion and as such they become serial cheats looking for lust all over the place.

You cannot speak for the OP bush African guy calling otherS nigga! If love doesn't exist in your life,it doesn't mean its absent in the lives of others. No love life is meant for robots and guys like you who is closed minded. Guys like you rape their unhappy wives.

refreshrate:
Babe you need to calm down with the 'threats' regarding this issue. A few weeks back we heard about a celeb whos husband got his girlfriend pregnant and the whole social media went gaga.

This is no different.

No different in fact from when you see a man with a seemingly perfect wife leave home and starts to live with another lady who might be termed uglier than his wife or even below his standard.

Ask why this happens and dig deeper rather than resorting to all this blackmail.

ill tell you one thing though men are like kings and kids together in one, he needs all the attention he can get (the kid in him) and needs to be made to feel like the most important person in your life as a woman (the king).

With women claiming they have equal rights today and whats that supid word that would end most marriages yeah 'feminism' i always laugh.

Seriously as a woman you cant say youre providing the man with the type of things expected of him in a relationship which he sometimes breaks his back to provide.

You on the contrary as a woman...feminist and all that, try to show him that you are independent and all that kind thing that God did not send you in the house. Before he says one youve talked twenty, ok o. He then meets another woman who listens to him, provides comfort and shows him theres a life without pressure and even if there is both of them can deal with it together, meanwhile you youre there forming 'i will give him drama all the time' as a confirmed drama queen. well done. ma.
Its only natural to find a place of comfort and stay there. Thing is he would have spoken to the wife in subtle tones about his displeasure on some of the things but women being who they are never hear or see the signs after all shes the woman and hes the man and so should be able to bear more stress (feminism always hides when shes thinking like this)

Then silifa comes in and takes over next thing the wife is asking how could you do this to me?
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Please ehn cos if you ask now, the women will say is he not a man (which i guess in their minds is good cause to kill the poor chap)

Im not trying to justify his having affairs but seriously i think its only fair we identify the true cause as to why he would take such a step.
Ive seen married women who believe its not right for them to apologize, when theres a problem. Meanwhile silifa is ready to apologize even kneel down just to ensure her 'king' is always happy.

Its supposed to be a marriage between two people non greater than the other except where you place your partner and your partner likewise places you. You put pride in the mix, prepare for whatever comes in.

Or what do you think the colleague he loves now is doing that is making him turn head?

Using the kids to blackmail him just wont cut it.

You have spoken intellectually in conformance with realistic semantics of marriage,man,woman characters and possible western media imposed feminism and your write up has enlists the likely scenarios that caused this and possible ways of disallowing such happenings again in our family lives.Thank you,Goodmorning!

sukkot:
who said pastors need to demonstrate decorum ?

2 corinthians 11 vs 6 But though I be rude in speech, yet not in knowledge; but we have been throughly made manifest among you in all things. << ALL PROPHETS BE RUDE IN SPEECH. ITS THE ONLY WAY TO GET INTO THE COCONUT HEAD OF THE REPROBATES

You are right, pastors do not need to demonstrate decorm. They do better with lack of understanding of the bible and sleeping with female parishers.

Slimzjoe:
Bruh......Take My Advice....Leave that Woman and Face your Wife.....even if you don't love your wife anymore, do it for the Kids......

Staying in a relationship with this other woman will surely Yield Negative Results

Shut up U child

BluStreak:
It seems everybody forgot that this man said he has urged his wife on many occasions to come over to his base so they can live as a family unit but the woman wouldn't. Is he going to drag her like a goat? If he applies force now, the same people berating him will be the 1st to seek for his head.

Can any of you guarantee that the woman in question isn't having an affair already? It is not easy for a man to want to up and leave his marriage and allow his children call another man daddy. Some women are just difficult by default that the best a man can do to save himself is walk away.

Okkk....and wat re u saying in essence.....


Dat he leave his wife and kids for the lady

blakky97:
are you a muslim mrschima? are you igbo too? im sorry im just curious. I am if you ask.

I am not a Muslim. You are Igbo..nice. What state?

MrsChima:
Blackmail? Did you quote the wrong post? What's you talking about? No one said anything about feminism and blackmailing children.

We can talk about feminism but the post is about a married man who has cheated on his wife with a colleague and he wants help with his ailment. I don't think my preaching of feminism will aid his pain and confliction. This matter is a bit more spiritual and I will let the religious fanatics handle this dilemma.

For the record, I suggest leaving the wife if he does not love her and to do right by his children. If I was the wife in question I wouldn't want to be with a cheater who has no respect for me or the family.

Walk with me on this, please calmly if you may.
Please.

When you start asking someone how will you explain this to your son...or how will your daughter that, dont you think thats blackmail?

Ah the religious card...when all else fails!
Surprising we have so many and more women in places of worship?

Have you noticed how even you have failed in any way to see any fault from the wife even though clearly stated by the OP you are trying to help?

ifeness:
You cannot speak for the OP bush African guy calling other nigga! If love doesn't exist in your life,it doesn't mean its absent in the lives of others. No love life is meant for robots and people guys like you who is closed minded. Guys like you rape their unhappy wives.

Brother, the definition of LOVE in its purest form means COMPROMISE. thats what LOVE means. even GOD tells you that if you LOVE me you will keep my commandments, telling you what ? LOVE is an action not an emotion. it is act of COMPROMISE. keeping someones commandment is an act of compromise. if your wife says i hate sleeping in the darkness and you say OK we will leave the lights on. that is a COMPROMISE. thats what love is. not some ' feelings '. any emotional feeling is lust. so you get to the stage where LUST disappears and then the question is do you care enough to still be amicable and friendly and hang around after the lust is gone ? thats what LOVE is. its an action not a feeling

john 14 vs 15 If ye love me, keep my commandments

mysweetnina:
Nairalanders, I need mature and real people opinion here.

I am a banker, 32, married with two kids, boy and girl. My wife works with a MDA in abuja while I work out from Nassarawa. I rented a 2 bedroom flat for them in Lugbe, abuja while i visit every weekend. I love her and love the kids however I notice we dont agree on a lot of things, mostly financial matters. she prefer i spend all on her and her kids and whenevr i am broke, she will gladly lend me cash. I dont ve ish with that and i ve been enjoying it for years now. I cheat on her but i dont see it as cheating but rather caring for my emotional needs. I have talked her into coming to stay in lafia with me before but i noticed she is very comfortable with her job and i dont want to be the reason for career truncation/ dissatisfaction in her life.

i decide to live my life in my own way; strategically sleeping with other ladies as need be. recently, i asked my colleague out. a lady banker, same level. for 3 months now, we have been hot and i can no longer touch or tolerate my wife. my colleague recently took in for me but we took care of it. i am scared as she is madly in love with me and she is available. I am also madly in love with her. i am choosing her over my wife right now. how can I solve this.

Guys I love her, dont tell me to leave her. we enjoy sex together in a way I dont with my wife. Just give your honest opinion to help those that may find themselves in my place someday.

Thank u.

If you like, divorce your wife and marry your banker babe. Let us see how your 2nd wife will agree to leave her job for you and let me see how your 'love' will wax stronger. Mr banky dog.

Your story is what medical doctors call,brought in dead BID

God please, may such men as 'mysweetnina' never come my way, Amen.

MrsChima:
You are right, pastors do not need to demonstrate decorm. They do better with lack of understanding of the bible and sleeping with female parishers.

aint nobody said nothing about sleeping with female parishoners. get your mind out of the gutter woman

sukkot:
Brother, the definition of LOVE in its purest form means COMPROMISE. thats what LOVE means. even GOD tells you that if you LOVE me you will keep my commandments, telling you what ? LOVE is an action not an emotion. it is act of COMPROMISE. keeping someones commandment is an act of compromise. if your wife says i hate sleeping in the darkness and you say OK we will leave the lights on. that is a COMPROMISE. thats what love is. not some ' feelings '. any emotional feeling is lust. so you get to the stage where LUST disappears and then the question is do you care enough to still be amicable and friendly and hang around after the lust is gone ? thats what LOVE is. its an action not a feeling

john 14 vs 15 If ye love me, keep my commandments

Please throw that bible into a bin and talk like a man. Have I been quoting from some ancient book while talking to you?

refreshrate:
Walk with me on this, please calmly if you may.
Please.

When you start asking someone how will you explain this to your son...or how will your daughter that, dont you think thats blackmail?

Ah the religious card...when all else fails!
Surprising we have so many and more women in places of worship?

Have you noticed how even you have failed in any way to see any fault from the wife even though clearly stated by the OP you are trying to help?

Excuse me...blackmail applies when someone has information or secrets that can alter someone's reality or stability. How is telling a man to be the man he wants his son to be to his future wife and his daughter to choose as a husband blackmailing?

Secondly, I don't care if his wife did not wash her toto for 70 months and cooked horrible meals...it gives no reason for anyone to commit adultery! If he was unhappy with her for whatever reason he could have sat down and communicaate! If that did not work then seek professional help and if that fails then make a mutual decision to separate or divorce.

What is the point being in a loveless marriage and certainly not for the kids! Kids are smarter than we give them credit for and we as parents owe it to our children to do what is right for the children! If divorce is the answer so be it! What we do in our relationship teachesoour children to either have healthy or unhealthy relationships!

There is NO EXCUSE FOR ADULTERY!!!

ifeness:
Please throw that bible into a bin and talk like a man. Have I been quoting from some ancient book while talking to you?

thats the problem. in the ancients is where the wisdom is. you are devoid of wisdom.

andromida:
Nina is the colleague right?

You be the wife? Ahh madam you don show?? I no put mouth for this mata o

sukkot:
aint nobody said nothing about sleeping with female parishoners. get your mind out of the gutter woman

Did I say someone said it? Stop being petty.

sukkot:
thats the problem. in the ancients is where the wisdom is. you are devoid of wisdom.

Yes wisdom of puppets embracing their slave masters. When the ancients see a spacecraft they call it a god #madness.

Stop derailing the thread mr Bible. Do you open the bible to help your kid with his school work of pay your house rent. Be reasonable for once in your life.

MrsChima:
Did I say someone said it? Stop being petty.

aiittttt. so what you doing on a saturday night, besides bothering me of course

Bruv, philosophically speaking , you are actually doing what's right seeking your happiness first ia equal to living authentic life, but I want you to remember one thing that your family is your life, its better you fu ck this girl till she SH!ts and go home to your wife , you can't tell me you don't love your wife but you are actually using the principle of nearness and bird in hand theory, trust me she will fade , I will never tell you to leave her at the same time don't leave your wife never make the mistake of getting her pregnant again, I'm not always a fan of eating one thing over and over but make your wife your constant , something you will always go back to, do it for your kids, fu ck this bit ch like crazy but never take SH!it to your family, let me tell you, you don't love its the punny that you are attracted to, it will soon fade away like dross, but your familywill wait for you, just use her to do your dirty joblet her understand that you have a wife and kids and she's comfortable with it make her know that your wife will kill you if she finds out you have a child outside, as I'm talking to you right now my woman is having an affair in school were she's working I asked her and she didn't lie about it and the funniest thing is that I'm not mad about it I only tell her to stop when she's had. Enough.

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U no need advice bro....
Follow ur church.

ifeness:
Yes wisdom of puppets embracing their slave masters. When the ancients see a spacecraft they call it a god #madness.

Stop derailing the thread mr Bible. Do you open the bible to help your kid with his school work of pay your house rent. Be reasonable for once in your life.

yes we are derailing so let me make my last point to you... the bible is not an ancient book as some have thought it to be. the bible is a coded book of astrology and astronomy. all the codes to the universe are in that book. well hidden. just to give you one example, the seven angels of the book of revelation is the group of stars known as the seven angels aka pleaides in the constellation taurus. and so you unlock the mystery of the universe if you can unlock the bible.

You call hot Bleep with another lady love? My dear, there's more to a relationship than sex. Face ur wife and ur kids joor and try to get a transfer to Abuja. I am sure that ur colleague is not the only lady u r fucking. You r neither the only man she's fucking too and to think u do this without condom? Too bad bro.

sukkot:
aiittttt. so what you doing on a saturday night, besides bothering me of course

About to give my husband some....bbl.

tammie24:
Ur such a genius I didn't read ur comment otherwise I wouldn't have bothered. As in eh

you are smart

He don d sow pussy now, he go still reap d pussy abi??

pretydiva:
Only u don advice urself finish say u nor go fit leave her, wey tin u say mk we cm talk. Jst so u no dat wat so ever a man sow, dat he shall reap

sukkot:
yes we are derailing so let me make my last point to you... the bible is not an ancient book as some have thought it to be. the bible is a coded book of astrology and astronomy. all the codes to the universe are in that book. well hidden. just to give you one example, the seven angels of the book of revelation is the group of stars known as the seven angels aka pleaides in the constellation taurus. and so you unlock the mystery of the universe if you can unlock the bible.

I will let you be with your delusion if that helps you sleep well at night.

MrsChima:
About to give my husband some....bbl.

yeah you go ahead and do that. break him off a lil shumtin shumtin

mysweetnina:
Nairalanders, I need mature and real people opinion here.

I am a banker, 32, married with two kids, boy and girl.
I cheat on her but i dont see it as cheating but rather caring for my emotional needs.
I have talked her into coming to stay in lafia with me before but i noticed she is very comfortable with her job and i dont want to be the reason for career truncation/ dissatisfaction in her life.

to live my life in my own way;
strategically sleeping with other ladies as need be.
recently, i asked my colleague out. a lady banker, same level.
for 3 months now, we have been hot
and
i can no longer touch or tolerate my wife.
my colleague recently took in for me but we took care of it.

i am scared as she is madly in love with me and she is available.

I am also madly in love with her.

i am choosing her over my wife right now.

how can I solve this.

Guys I love her, dont tell me to leave her.

we enjoy sex together in a way I dont with my wife.

Just give your honest opinion to help those that may find themselves in my place someday.

Thank u.

By the time your eyes cleared, you would discover that not ONLY you dey shine her 'congo' but by then, she would be FAR ahead of you........

Even if you don't want to leave her then, she would definitely LEAVE you.

Think this through before you put your FAT on fire waiting for it to DRY

Sins of the flesh - Lucky Dube