Abi o, instead of committing adultery,adultery wey dey bring badluck,poverty,he will soon realise it.

lonelydora:
At my age, I don't give a grown man advice on this kind of topic. Why didn't you marry the said lady.

Of what use will my opinion when you had your mind made up.
Abeg do as you wish jare.
The pr**k is your strength.

Op you better retrace your step for your own good, what you are doing is morally wrong,you are claiming to love this your bank colleague so much that you can't leave her, then if you are proud of your relationship why did you guys abort the fruit of your so called love,you know the truth you are just looking for someone to validate your evil lifestyle.
Also remember that as a bank worker your work is not guaranteed and anything can happen anytime,will *sweetnina* still be with you if you lose your job?the answer is No.go back to your wife,ask for a transfer to Abuja instead of putting the relocation issue on your wife only.we all make mistakes,so take this as a mistake and correct it now for the sake of your family.

mysweetnina:


I pay back to the last kobo.

Well either your wife is stingy or you have no sense of humor

mysweetnina:
Nairalanders, I need mature and real people opinion here.

I am a banker, 32, married with two kids, boy and girl. My wife works with a MDA in abuja while I work out from Nassarawa. I rented a 2 bedroom flat for them in Lugbe, abuja while i visit every weekend. I love her and love the kids however I notice we dont agree on a lot of things, mostly financial matters. she prefer i spend all on her and her kids and whenevr i am broke, she will gladly lend me cash. I dont ve ish with that and i ve been enjoying it for years now. I cheat on her but i dont see it as cheating but rather caring for my emotional needs. I have talked her into coming to stay in lafia with me before but i noticed she is very comfortable with her job and i dont want to be the reason for career truncation/ dissatisfaction in her life.

i decide to live my life in my own way; strategically sleeping with other ladies as need be. recently, i asked my colleague out. a lady banker, same level. for 3 months now, we have been hot and i can no longer touch or tolerate my wife. my colleague recently took in for me but we took care of it. i am scared as she is madly in love with me and she is available. I am also madly in love with her. i am choosing her over my wife right now. how can I solve this.

Guys I love her, dont tell me to leave her. we enjoy sex together in a way I dont with my wife. Just give your honest opinion to help those that may find themselves in my place someday.

Thank u.

why do you want to put your children in danger? why? why? why?
why are you trying to destroy years of work, and commitment because of an erect pen1s? why?

The OP has told us in clear terms that we should not advise him to leave the new lady. My advise is therefore to others: there is a way that seems right to everyman, but the end thereof is destruction.

Abio atleast,so they can efight and curse, but am thinking the prostitute banker is here on nairaland.

oismail:
I just wish both ladies are Nairalanders

chairman hmmmm

danla44:
My brother. Pls marry her as your second wife. Its better to go for polygamy than adultery. If America can legalise Gay Marriage when God says "NO"! Why not polygamy since the Bible did now frown at it. (Lamech Genesis 4:19)

Am a Muslim and I have one wife, my intention is to go for second wife soon.

ha sangbafo oooo

mgbedianya:
l know this guy, l know where his family lives. The wife is screwing one man

uplawal:
Abio atleast,so they can efight and curse, but am thinking the prostitute banker is here on nairaland.

I don't think she's a prostitute neither she's acting as one. She is only in love with the wrong person and only took advantage of the wife who preferred carrier to family union.

you dnt have brain at all, inn life you sacrifice,particularly marriage,not a good thing for couple to leave separately,the husband is the head,he can't quit for her,as sole responsibility rest on him.

Daresh:


Why should she quit her job and move to Lafia and be at the man's mercy. Nonsense men

Very very very simple. marry her as your second wife.!

Some people are just responding without laying all the cards on the table. I am not in support of what this guy is doing, but who has wondered what he may have been through? Men too go through emotional torture and his reaction may have been borne out of paranoia and then he found himself where he is today.

Some women can really bring out the other side of even an angel Gabriel.

DrGroove:
@op..99.9% of married men are doing exactly what you do(adultery).
Yours is even decent to an extent..Just enjoy it while it lasts
It's typical of men,always wanting new adventure,new taste.
All men do it!
So enjoy while it lasts
Just make sure you don't catch any STDs.
Cheers!!

drgroove, how are u so sure? Dont cause trouble for ursef one day with dis idea that all men cheat. . . I'm a guy & I dont think I can ever do that. . There are many guys who cant too. 99.9% haba. . . U reason am na

NifemiOlu:
After reading OP's details, his wife knew and just joined Nairaland.


Congratulations OP. She's aware.




But OP, as a kid, have been in a situation where your parents bought you lovely packaged food? You enjoyed it until you got to the base of the package only to find out its getting spoilt.
You're a banker. Do the math.

you made d op to deactivate by dis revelation. oya update us. i hope d wife will file for divorcei cant stand a cheatn hubby

@Post

You see why I keep saying that most Nigerian marriages are a scam? First of all, I thought pathetic Nigerians say that being married means that the person is responsible? Can you call this OP (mysweetnina) a responsible man? Why do many Nigerians even waste their time taking marital vows when most of you are going to break those vows down the line anyway? Many of you married folks are just a bunch of losers nursing that sexually transmitted disease your cheating spouses passed on to you.

Listen here, some of you ought to stay single if you know you cannot stay in a monogamous relationship faithfully. Many married Nigerians make marriage look like a joke because many of you don't take the marriage institution seriously. Later on, many of you will have the nerve, the audacity, to ask single people why they are single when you the married one continue to mess up.

OP,

You better free your wife if your heart and soul is no longer in your marriage and take good care of your offspring. Make sure you don't marry again because marriage is not for people like you who disrespect the sanctity of marriage.

Mamaflex:
Wait o, I'm I the only one who read the part where he refered to the kids as "her kids"? .

Op, (mysweetnina) you are such a prick.
Who knows, Nina might be the name of the girl

I pity your wife.

u're not the only one.

dasparrow:
@Post

You see why I keep saying that most Nigerian marriages are a scam? First of all, I thought pathetic Nigerians say that being married means that the person is responsible? Can you call this OP (mysweetnina) a responsible man? Why do many Nigerians even waste their time taking marital vows when most of you are going to break those vows down the line anyway? Many of you married folks are just a bunch of losers nursing that sexually transmitted disease your cheating spouses passed on to you.

Listen here, some of you ought to stay single if you know you cannot stay in a monogamous relationship faithfully. Many married Nigerians make marriage look like a joke because many of you don't take the marriage institution seriously. Later on, many of you will have the nerve, the audacity, to ask single people why they are single when you the married one continue to mess up.

OP,

You better free your wife if your heart and soul is no longer in your marriage and take good care of your offspring. Make sure you don't marry again because marriage is not for people like you who disrespect the sanctity of marriage.

The reason for this is because there are no penalties for a Nigerian man when he cheats on his wife:

will your wife leave you taking half of your wealth and your kids - no
will you be denied access to your kids if you cheat - no
will you be forced to work two jobs to keep up with child support payments - no

so why wouldn't cheating be part of life to the average Nigerian man.

Many marry not for love but to find someone who will cook, clean and have children for them with no consequences.

You can beat her up or walk out on her and she will still come back on her knees begging to be forgiven - A
paradise for misogynists!

sukkot:
woman you have no wisdom. now keep quiet

job 39 vs 17 Because God hath deprived her of wisdom, neither hath he imparted to her understanding.

let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth. but that which is good for edifying, that it may minister grace to the hearers.
show the love of God, not your "wisdom" . Child of God.

temifisayo:



let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth. but that which is good for edifying, that it may minister grace to the hearers.
show the love of God, not your "wisdom" . Child of God.

2 CORINTHIANS 11 VS 6 But though I be rude in speech, yet not in knowledge; but we have been throughly made manifest among you in all things.

I k ow how you feel.

I don't subscribe remaining in a loveless union. Also remember though, the grass is sometimes not greener on the other side.

MrsChima:


You are right, pastors do not need to demonstrate decorm. They do better with lack of understanding of the bible and sleeping with female parishers.

I respected you before........ smh

sukkot:
2 CORINTHIANS 11 VS 6 But though I be rude in speech, yet not in knowledge; but we have been throughly made manifest among you in all things.

I just wish you could represent Christ with the love of God.

temifisayo:



I just wish you could represent Christ with the love of God.

isaiah 45 vs 7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things.

The path in which you are threading will only lead to divorce n it will surely have an adverse effect on ur kids.
Retrace your steps. Go for counseling with your wife n call it quit with your office lover immediately.

If you think you are enjoying your adultery life now, you will cry n find no one to consol you later.

My 50 cent. All the best.


See my signature. Check my blog.

sukkot:
isaiah 45 vs 7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things.

am done with you man.

Stupidity personified! This is not love, this is satisfaction of your wicked desires. You are no different from politicians who believe the 'ends (desires) justifies any means'...If your wife had the same ideal and decides to have a toy boy to mess with, your new girlfriend decides to add your boss to the list of bed mates and your kids decide to have fun by doing drugs and practicing incest...what moral backing would you fool have to correct them...

Monumental fools like you provide the ethical flaw that back every ill in our society!

temifisayo:



am done with you man.

you cant handle the truth ruth

The truth must be told.
That lady is demonic , agent of Satan, on one mission to destroy your marriage and destroy your life.
she is almost at the point of mission accomplished, retrace your steps and call on Your God to save you before its too late.
All, you feel now is pure fantasy that would evaporate once she had accomplished her mission
you have been warned ignored at your own detriment

Op is mad, undeveloped and uncultured.He is a disgrace to fatherhood,his profession and worthless man who deserve to be stoned for the comment he has made herein.

I have never EVER seen a man with his right senses that would make such uncomplimentary statement about his legally married wife and kids and even went ahead to say "her children" and I ow wonder if actually this guy is normal.Only mad man refers his children as her children when a woman cannot make children unless a man is involved.

He needs to be taken to Yaba or to Prophet T. B. Joshua to know the kind spirit that has taken over him and get him delivered.

temifisayo:


I respected you before........ smh

ok.

Miscellaneous:


drgroove, how are u so sure? Dont cause trouble for ursef one day with dis idea that all men cheat. . . I'm a guy & I dont think I can ever do that. . There are many guys who cant too. 99.9% haba. . . U reason am na

I am 100% sure! You people say you are naturally polygamous.Bleep is food to you,one woman can never be enough.you can't eat one type of food everytime, so u gat change mouth. abi no be so? which African married man doesn't commit adultery?at least once in that marriage?? personally,i dont have a problem with that.Just play safe, don't defile my daughter and bring not your thrash home!