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gudrated:
lol...I work there...but that's not even the subject of discussion. There are many singles in the industry looking for husbands and wives..just like in any other industry in Nigeria

congrat bro. Hook me up with d single ladies. I promise to b loyal and honest and even turn to " mumu" for them.

drake99:
do you think handsomeness can do better in getting a nigerian girl more than money

When you have both, no girl will refuse you. But if you have just one of them, you can still be rejected.

djon78:
Most times these kind of men lack substance and are vain. They think that life is all about designer shoes, clothes, good ride and crib. Those things are good but the most important thing is who u are on the inside,ur personality and character like humility, respect, kindnes, caring, smart, considerate, wisdom, inteligence, real, honesty etc. When a guy possess these traits, he has 90percent chances of getting a decent good woman that will fall in true love with him.

Another judgemental fellow. People like you are quick to jump into conclusion without knowing the personality. Read my number 1, 2 and 9 points, that is if you even read the whole write-up before typing this.
I didn't write this only based on my experience, but experience of myself and others who can identify with these challenges.

prelinctus:
When you have both, no girl will refuse you. But if you have just one of them, you can still be rejected.

That is NOT true...

gudrated:
It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


lalasticlala

The greatest mistake a guy can make is not 2 get a serious patner when he is poor,jobless & husling if d lady can stay with u 4 what yu are not what u hav got when d going is tough,she will make a good wife.
I advice u Rich guys in this dilemna 2 live a low profile life,u can take a walk,take bus in b/stops,go out in jalopy cars dnt be tempted 2 flaunt yur wealth.
2.If u are looking 4 a good gal 4 wife u hav 2 network contact yur parents,pastors,frds (they can see what u cannot see,in yur quest u are blinded by beauty,lust,infatuation e.t.c) in yur locality they too will network & ask around 4 dissent gals since they see & interact with diff.ladies in their vicinity,mkt,church,thier frd houses or their frd neigbhours in no time u will hav numerous lists of gals 2 meet interact,access & choose from,dnt drive around in big cars you can even arrive on okada 4 a date.
I also advice u to get an american movie"coming to America" it will help you.

yinkeys:
did you mean that

oh yes...there are ladies like that and i am too. before i got married my mums friend wanted to introduce me to her nephew who was working with a multinational oil company. i refused and she was very surprised. she gave jists of how the guy wasnt in the country then and how rich he was etc. i wasnt moved even though my boyfriend (now hubby) was struggling then. when i told my bf what was happening at home ( it was during the semester hols) he was very scared. i told him not to worry that i would handle it. i sent messages to the lady not to disturb me because i already had som1 i wanted to marry. even my mum liked the idea since it was her friends nephew but after i sent her to her friend she understood that i wasnt interested and backed out.

we may not be as rich as the guy now but i appreciate the fact that my hubby is faithful. i alawys perceived rich guys as players then and i couldnt marry a player for a husband. most times its not their fault since most of these girls throw them selves at them.

i also met a guy working with schlumberger ...same story.

@ O.p, if u want a good girl for a wife u may need to speak with someone u can trust. most good girls are introverts and also always at home. so u'll hardly meet them in weddings, clubs, parties etc. it is also easy to get a good girl in church if u stop looking out for the classy ones. look out for moderation in a girl. she may not be an usher or church worker because she is very shy. she may also like to sit at the back or corner of the church for same reason. for most good girls , they spend 90% of their time at home, even her neighbours dont get to see her often. Also if u are on the look out for big asses, curves, front etc then u r not looking for a good girl.

AlienStar:
I wantd to ignore u buh dt will only make u cry n i dnt lyk seeing guys cry

he pain am

U r on ur own

IamLEGEND1:
But we go still make the dough anyways.

den we go fit go U.S go turn gày.

#WomenTooGetProblem

gudrated:
Another judgemental fellow. People like you are quick to jump into conclusion without knowing the personality. Read my number 1, 2 and 9 points, that is if you even read the whole write-up before typing this.
I didn't write this only based on my experience, but experience of myself and others who can identify with these challenges.

I am not being Judgemental bro, I hang around rich guys sometimes and I do see what they do a lot, most especialy here in Naija. Majority of them, have this bad attitude, arrogance and easily look down on people. I see the kind of women they hang around, very vain, fake, and money conscious. Personaly I am comfortable, and working towards good riches. I can easily sniff out good girls. I can personaly say I have had the priviledge of experiencing real love and likeness from 3 difft women, I didnt use money, or gifts etc. Women like real, honest men, a man that is plain. A man that can bypass their pretences and connect to their innermost core being, reach into their soul. If u do they can open up and let u into their innermost secrets. My guy that is one of the greatest feeling a man can experience. One of my elderly friends told me that the heart of a woman is as deep as the ocean.

prelinctus:
When you have both, no girl will refuse you. But if you have just one of them, you can still be rejected.

whaaaaat? No girl will reject you? Pls how old are you?

Do you know that a girl can even reject you because you have both of them?

djon78:
I am not being Judgemental bro, I hang around rich guys sometimes and I do see what they do a lot, most especialy here in Naija. Majority of them, have this bad attitude, arrogance and easily look down on people. I see the kind of women they hang around, very vain, fake, and money conscious. Personaly I am comfortable, and working towards good riches. I can easily sniff out good girls. I can personaly say I have had the priviledge of experiencing real love and likeness from 3 difft women, I didnt use money, or gifts etc. Women like real, honest men, a man that is plain. A man that can bypass their pretences and connect to their innermost core being, reach into their soul. If u do they can open up and let u into their innermost secrets. My guy that is one of the greatest feeling a man can experience. One of my elderly friends told me that the heart of a woman is as deep as the ocean.

I am honest, i am real. I personally don't live in an estate, and i chose not to live there, not that i can't afford it. However, being comfortable is part of my lifestyle. It's part of who I am. It"s hard to find a lady who will not judge you by the size of your pocket if you are rich. Even if you dont discuss money and keep it simple, they tend to make opinions about you based on your financial status.
The only exception is if you are talking to lady of equal or comparative social status. So am I missing something?

egobetatoday:
oh yes...there are ladies like that and i am too. before i got married my mums friend wanted to introduce me to her nephew who was working with a multinational oil company. i refused and she was very surprised. she gave jists of how the guy wasnt in the country then and how rich he was etc. i wasnt moved even though my boyfriend (now hubby) was struggling then. when i told my bf what was happening at home ( it was during the semester hols) he was very scared. i told him not to worry that i would handle it. i sent messages to the lady not to disturb me because i already had som1 i wanted to marry. even my mum liked the idea since it was her friends nephew but after i sent her to her friend she understood that i wasnt interested and backed out.

we may not be as rich as the guy now but i appreciate the fact that my hubby is faithful. i alawys perceived rich guys as players then and i couldnt marry a player for a husband. most times its not their fault since most of these girls throw them selves at them.

i also met a guy working with schlumberger ...same story.

@ O.p, if u want a good girl for a wife u may need to speak with someone u can trust. most good girls are introverts and also always at home. so u'll hardly meet them in weddings, clubs, parties etc. it is also easy to get a good girl in church if u stop looking out for the classy ones. look out for moderation in a girl. she may not be an usher or church worker because she is very shy. she may also like to sit at the back or corner of the church for same reason. for most good girls , they spend 90% of their time at home, even her neighbours dont get to see her often. Also if u are on the look out for big asses, curves, front etc then u r not looking for a good girl.

does that mean that a good girl can't have big ass,curve and front

Codyt:
Boring boring? like we care about your contribution? your bf get money pass am ni?


Just say u want him* SIMPLE

When stupeed people try to get under your skin. *sighs*




I know a kid when I see one.

ahsekeena:
When stupeed people try to get under your skin. *sighs*




I know a kid when I see one.

So you're the adult? Congratulations .

Good riddance.. ..

gudrated:
I am honest, i am real. I personally don't live in an estate, and i chose not to live there, not that i can't afford it. However, being comfortable is part of my lifestyle. It's part of who I am. It"s hard to find a lady who will not judge you by the size of your pocket if you are rich. Even if you dont discuss money and keep it simple, they tend to make opinions about you based on your financial status.
The only exception is if you are talking to lady of equal or comparative social status. So am I missing something?

Maybe u encounter the wrong ones. Like I told u, I can sniff out good women. I dont know whether it unique to me, if I meet a lady now, once I converse with her I can detect the kind of person she is, if I like the personality, then I can continue, if not I discontinue immediately. Another thing is you have to know what u realy want from a woman, what u are seeking for and ensuring u have the character within u to attract such. Also forget all these stuffs about a lady on ur class level, u can go below ur class but u must diffrentiate btw money conscious ones by withholding giving money, classy restaurants or any expensive spending. Lock the tap, the one that stays is interested in ur person not ur money, then build on that. When u lock the tap, balance it with ur good personality character, the good one will say 'this guy might not be the money spending type, but he is a nice guy'. Now ur personality is what draws her to u, work on it well, with time, u can start spending on her, but do it small small, because true love gives. And also keep trying/ searching, dont give up, u might fail in the early trial, just keep on trying, with time u will be shocked u can reach to the inner core of ur woman, which is sustained by honesty, being true, trust.

drake99:
does that mean that a good girl can't have big ass,curve and front

Ajuju?


IMHO, the older a man gets, the more difficult it is to marry for affection. It is not easy to start going from CMS to Victoria Island with danfo just because I want to see a decent woman. How many women are open towards conversation with random strangers in buses? Eh? How many?

djon78:
Maybe u encounter the wrong ones. Like I told u, I can sniff out good women. I dont know whether it unique to me, if I meet a lady now, once I converse with her I can detect the kind of person she is, if I like the personality, then I can continue, if not I discontinue immediately. Another thing is you have to know what u realy want from a woman, what u are seeking for and ensuring u have the character within u to attract such. Also forget all these stuffs about a lady on ur class level, u can go below ur class but u must diffrentiate btw money conscious ones by withholding giving money, classy restaurants or any expensive spending. Lock the tap, the one that stays is interested in ur person not ur money, then build on that. When u lock the tap, balance it with ur good personality character, the good one will say 'this guy might not be the money spending type, but he is a nice guy'. Now ur personality is what draws her to u, work on it well, with time, u can start spending on her, but do it small small, because true love gives. And also keep trying/ searching, dont give up, u might fail in the early trial, just keep on trying, with time u will be shocked u can reach to the inner core of ur woman, which is sustained by honesty, being true, trust.

Ok...I really appreciate your advice. I will follow it. However, I hope I won't be tagged stingy as they always do.

gudrated:
It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


lalasticlala

so what do you want us to do

Brandnew2:
Takes the X factor to get a girl to fall in love. Money only makes it faster.

#MyHumbleOpinion.

True talk
money makes the love even sweeter

Guy, u gotta get some charisma as well. I tap into your blessings sha.

most guys never realised this stuff till they are in their mid thirties... please how old are you?

gudrated:
It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


lalasticlala

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hopeforcharles:
Tis okay on that dating part I was joking, I can't do distant relationship stuffs anyway, I just hope he knows that he has gotten an exceptional pricy jewel in you, I for my own part I am always luck I meet good girls, I believe it's because I have a good heart.

Awww! How I love guys with good heart, they're as rare as seeing Genevieve shopping at balogun market.lol. Keep it up sir

if u're cool with a long distance friendship delta state...add me up 561db4ee...then come bck n comment to tell me 1st,3rd,5th and 7th number or letter of ur pin.....so i can add jst u..dat way u n i can be safe

6,9 and 10 especially.

You're often misunderstood. Small joke and you become the talk of the area. "You think it's because you have small money"....

Automatically, u become a loner.

Wealth alienates a man.

That is true. You cannot be living in a yard with 30 to 50 occupants if you are rich. You don't bike or trek to church. Or use public transport

I met a lot of good girls as a poor guy but the desire to play took me away from them. Now if a girl is not courageous enough to flirt at me, we may never talk. ie bad or extroverted girls.

Another problem is that rich guys are too selective and we lose interest in women a lot. I can count how many pretty good girls I came close to being their boyfriend or marrying but one minute loss of interest made me forget them totally. Sometimes you just rememeber how the girl later blamed you for not taking any action. Women self too dey pretend. She will be acting good friend while she is dying to become girlfriend. Just one day, she stops talking to you

lynn360:
A Awww! How I love guys with good heart, they're as rare as seeing Genevieve shopping at balogun market.lol. Keep it up sir

thanks dearie,
But the Genevieve part, lol. Why would she shop there since her levels been updated. U r funny.

gudrated:
Another judgemental fellow. People like you are quick to jump into conclusion without knowing the personality. Read my number 1, 2 and 9 points, that is if you even read the whole write-up before typing this.
I didn't write this only based on my experience, but experience of myself and others who can identify with these challenges.

Baba just accept it that you have issues that women resent or you have self esteem issues? from your write up, you are not rich,so i do not see why you can't have a relationship. I think you need to mingle with people of your social status or even higher, do not go close to broke girls ooo! Your location matters too, You need to be around people of likeminds.

CaptPlanet:
6,9 and 10 especially.

You're often misunderstood. Small joke and you become the talk of the area. "You think it's because you have small money"....

Automatically, u become a loner.

Then you have to be around people of like minds. You can't earn 5million naira monthly and still live in orile or okota, you will be seen as a very flashy and flambouyant dude, but if you live in Ikoyi or Victoria Island,people around will be able to relate with you normally because there you have people of like minds.

Truth....but I'm not rich though.

But its true.

drake99:
do you think handsomeness can do better in getting a nigerian girl more than money

YES I totally think and know so sir

yinkeys:
Oga sir, good & responsible girls dey. U never ready wan drop ego settle. I think you are a geek or a learner when it comes to women affairs. No offense sir, but I know your type. Like dechandel said, you can start with omo mummy's. Those soft hearted babes

I posted d above and u cannot judge if u are not in our league of rich matured bachelors. Once u get to that circle u ll understand wot am saying better.

goodgate:
Baba just accept it that you have issues that women resent or you have self esteem issues? from your write up, you are not rich,so i do not see why you can't have a relationship.

Ignored....