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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by winner01(m): 10:07am On Jul 08, 2015
zeb04:
spanking a 17yrs old girl who is already sexually active is not a good move. you have to be extremely careful at these stage.you want to win her over not drive her away.

let the dad or brother speak to her.there is a difference when a male speaks to her .

the reason I never had a boyfriend through out my uni days was because of my dad nd brothers not necessarily because of my mum's advice. all the talk about dignity as a lady nd how the only things these guy want from you is what's between your legs,"i am a guy too so I know what I am saying". and you listen to them because you know he is saying the truth.

also you pray for them.
Great post, i did the same for my sister..
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by hvq229(m): 1:11pm On Jul 09, 2015
winner01:
I quite agree, You might also have to warn the boy to stay away from her and cease her phones too ....Since she seems stubborn, spanking is also a good option. It would break her a little and the hopefully she can show some remorse and listen to advise....

Decided not to flog her. Instead she got a spanking from her aunt.
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by hvq229(m): 4:08pm On Jul 10, 2015
winner01:
I quite agree, You might also have to warn the boy to stay away from her and cease her phones too ....Since she seems stubborn, spanking is also a good option. It would break her a little and the hopefully she can show some remorse and listen to advise....

said I was going to flog her. Thought about it some more and decided not to. Her mother's been pushing for it. Anyway my wife's sister came over with her strap; we talked for a while and we agreed to let the child's aunt spank her with the strap. She's spanked the child before when she had been living with her. better I think a woman do it -- her aunt has her bare her bottom--I am not sure I would do that
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by winner01(m): 4:16pm On Jul 10, 2015
hvq229:


said I was going to flog her. Thought about it some more and decided not to. Her mother's been pushing for it. Anyway my wife's sister came over with her strap; we talked for a while and we agreed to let the child's aunt spank her with the strap. She's spanked the child before when she had been living with her. better I think a woman do it -- her aunt has her bare her bottom--I am not sure I would do that
After the spanking, when shes sober...her aunt and mother can now advise her gently...I hope it works
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by hvq229(m): 4:21pm On Jul 10, 2015
winner01:
After the spanking, when shes sober...her aunt and mother can now advise her gently...I hope it works

just curious. Do you have any concerns about baring her bottom. If I were to spank her I think that would be a concern but then the strap is more effective on bare skin.
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by Nobody: 4:30pm On Jul 10, 2015
xynerise:
Going through the developmental stages in life, some teens tend to take a wrong detour in life. Many teens are becoming rebellious to their parents and causing disunity in the family. Setting their own rules in the house and disrespecting anybody who tries to stop them from doing what they wish to do.

"Spare the rod and spoil the child". Does this also applies to teenagers? I guess not. What other psychological ways can we correct this rebellion?

My father /mother got tired of using the cane after they found out that it does nothing to reset my brain.I began to undergo counselling from my parents, relatives and respected family friends.Not all kids like the rod, infact it made me more rebellious and stubborn like a he goat.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by winner01(m): 4:34pm On Jul 10, 2015
hvq229:


just curious. Do you have any concerns about baring her bottom. If I were to spank her I think that would be a concern but then the strap is more effective on bare skin.
shes 17 so pls dont bare her bottom...

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by hvq229(m): 5:34pm On Jul 10, 2015
winner01:
shes 17 so pls dont bare her bottom...

Her aunt makes the child take them down. She insists it allows her to feel the full impact of the strap. My wife says that's the way it's always been done in her family.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by hvq229(m): 8:59am On Jul 11, 2015
winner01:
After the spanking, when shes sober...her aunt and mother can now advise her gently...I hope it works
thank you for the advice it's been helpful. I think we're making progress with the girl. I can't think she'll want another spanking so as long as her bottom still hurts and she can remember why her aunt's strap was laid on it she won't be rushing out to see this boy in defiance of her parents wishes. Of course we'll have to get her to understand why we don't want her to see and fornicate with this boy
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by winner01(m): 10:14am On Jul 11, 2015
hvq229:

thank you for the advice it's been helpful. I think we're making progress with the girl. I can't think she'll want another spanking so as long as her bottom still hurts and she can remember why her aunt's strap was laid on it she won't be rushing out to see this boy in defiance of her parents wishes. Of course we'll have to get her to understand why we don't want her to see and fornicate with this boy
You are welcome sir.
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by hvq229(m): 8:43am On Jul 27, 2015
favoured234:


Using myself as an example, although at 17 I was not rebellious


1.withdraw some benefits/treats from her.. (I wouldn't care much) .
2. Flog her (I hate it physical.. I must change)
3. Again try getting to meet the 20YO boy and talk some sense into them ( I hate embarrassing situations I go run leave the guy)

If none of these work, then let her learn the hard way
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by UyiIredia(m): 8:04pm On Jul 27, 2015
xynerise:
Going through the developmental stages in life, some teens tend to take a wrong detour in life. Many teens are becoming rebellious to their parents and causing disunity in the family. Setting their own rules in the house and disrespecting anybody who tries to stop them from doing what they wish to do.

"Spare the rod and spoil the child". Does this also applies to teenagers? I guess not. What other psychological ways can we correct this rebellion?

It's carrot and sticks for me. But one must realize that some kids are born to love good and some unfortunately love the bad.
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by lonelydora: 12:10pm On Aug 06, 2015
Hian
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by RichDad1(m): 12:10pm On Aug 06, 2015
Pankere is the way forward... grin grin grin grin
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by damiloladuke: 12:10pm On Aug 06, 2015
na beating sure pass



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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by lonelydora: 12:12pm On Aug 06, 2015
Atk01:
Send such teen to a military academy.

Please don't do this, he will come out worse than how he was. A military or seminary school is a collection of stubborn children whose parents think they will come out better. But they finally come out worse. That's why you have cult group in some military and seminary schools.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by steppin: 12:14pm On Aug 06, 2015
Depends on the age...Heart to heart talks, living an exemplary life and above all, accomodating regardless of what comes up.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by MPEROR: 12:15pm On Aug 06, 2015
Show her a movie about Syphilis and what it can do to you and your body
.Movies about AIDS and people that are infected
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by Melahou(m): 12:16pm On Aug 06, 2015
Atk01:
Send such teen to a military academy.

and when he or she is maimed for life...

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by FrankValency(m): 12:16pm On Aug 06, 2015
Sit them down,then Tell him/her words,not just words alone but words of wisdom bcs it changes thougts.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by Melahou(m): 12:17pm On Aug 06, 2015
RichDad1:
Pankere is the way forward... grin grin grin grin

with koboko or with rubber cain
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by shizzy7(f): 12:17pm On Aug 06, 2015
**Abiola come hear**,,,
*You don't want to stop being rebellious **,,
* Nkechi bring me that koboko**,,,
*I will beat REBE out of your life today**,,,
*if you don't change, I will beat LLIO**,,,
*If you don't change, US would be done at military school*,,,
*The bible says**,,,
*Spoil the rod and spear the child *,,
*I will spoil this koboko on your head today**,,,
*Not in my lifetime, will you be like this **


A Typical Nigerian parent ,, who is tired of talking and advicing..

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by shizzy7(f): 12:18pm On Aug 06, 2015
**Abiola come hear**,,, *They said that you're rebellious **,,, * Nkechi bring me that koboko**,, *I will beat Rebe out of your life today**,, *if you don't change, I will beat LLIO**,, *The bible says**,,, *Spoil the rod and spear the child *,, *I will spoil this koboko on your head today**,,,
A Typical Nigerian Tired,, who is tired of talking and advicing..
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by sellydion: 12:19pm On Aug 06, 2015
Pray and pray ( Also take them to prayer meetings )


Challenge them ( music class, language class , computer class )

Change school ( Bad companies corrupt good manners)


Discuss with them about their or your future plans.

Show them love.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by Nobody: 12:23pm On Aug 06, 2015
Practice an honest form of communication with your teen.

Develop a set of rules with well understood consequences.

Encourage individual accomplishments.

Show respect.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by Marineremmanson(m): 12:27pm On Aug 06, 2015
Atk01:
Send such teen to a military academy.
if u send me go NDA or MAN Oron that means u don butter my bread b that
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by yinkeys(m): 12:28pm On Aug 06, 2015
Atk01:
Send such teen to a military academy.
bThat won't solve it, it will worsen it. The military secondary school I attended worsened the behaviour of some wayward teenagers back then. Not to talk of what kind of metamorphosis will take place if its the academy
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by tevinsolt: 12:29pm On Aug 06, 2015
xynerise:
Going through the developmental stages in life, some teens tend to take a wrong detour in life. Many teens are becoming rebellious to their parents and causing disunity in the family. Setting their own rules in the house and disrespecting anybody who tries to stop them from doing what they wish to do.

"Spare the rod and spoil the child". Does this also applies to teenagers? I guess not. What other psychological ways can we correct this rebellion?
In the US, Parents let them loose, to face the real world. they have to get a job and pay their own bills.
"my roof, my rules" is a well known saying.

some do eventually grow up, others end up a hot mess, but is it the parent's fault?

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by oluwaahmed: 12:34pm On Aug 06, 2015
Send d brat 2 military schl wer he will learn discipline & respeck, weda he/she likes it or not.
Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by Pidggin(f): 12:34pm On Aug 06, 2015
hvq229:


I asked a question about a rebellious teenager-- a 17 year old girl -- who willfully disobeyed her parents by continuing to see a 20 year old boy she had been told to stay away from- and she's been spreading her thighs for him. Should I flog her? Most on the other thread think not and they mostly make good arguments against it

Obviously mistakes have already been made in her training for her to have the guts to continue with the guy after being warned. I suggest beating and then talking to her with love afterwards. Also the boy should be warned and reported to his parents. The girl should also be kept busy, if not she will keep going back to him. Find something productive for her to do, it will help.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by gabicon: 12:39pm On Aug 06, 2015
xynerise:
Going through the developmental stages in life, some teens tend to take a wrong detour in life. Many teens are becoming rebellious to their parents and causing disunity in the family. Setting their own rules in the house and disrespecting anybody who tries to stop them from doing what they wish to do.

"Spare the rod and spoil the child". Does this also applies to teenagers? I guess not. What other psychological ways can we correct this rebellion?

Surround them with love and prayer. Stop telling them they won't amount to nothing in life.

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Re: How Do You Control A Rebellious Teenager? by olu4life(m): 12:40pm On Aug 06, 2015
I recently read a book dealing with this matter. Truth is that most Nigerian parents handle adult children wrongly. Lemme give some tips perhaps could be of help to some of us.
Firstly, u dont dictate to an adult child from age 13 upwards. There is what we call supervisory and cooperative parenting.
Make the child ur friend, let him/her trust u to a particular level. Build a relationship with the child. Communication is key here.

Also seek d opinion of d child on things that affect the family. Likewise correct and chastise in LOVE.

Encourage the child to bring his/her friends home. This is very crucial, its better u are comfortable seein ur child's friend in ur house than disallowing it. Giving it room for ur child to keep bad company.

Lastly issue of prayer cant be over-emphasized. Pray together with the child.

Well this are basic points I think can help some

Cc xynerise

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