₦airaland Forum

coleon:
I posted d above and u cannot judge if u are not in our league of rich matured bachelors. Once u get to that circle u ll understand wot am saying better.

humilitypays:
All what the poster said are nothing but the truth!

The more money u acquire in life, the more chances of you meeting nonsense people; guys and ladies!

Guys, the best place to find a good girl for future commitment is:

1. In public buses
2. On the street while strolling
3. Internet (forums or groups like nairaland where life issues are discussed...not badoo, 2go, etc where people go basically to find date)
4. School environment

Money only helps to sustain love and kind of give a guy confidence to reach out for love but money most times don't get love.

My advice to rich single guys:

Go for your equal- find single ladies who are comfortable too.

Best girls are girls from rich family background raised under strict and confined environment...but the problem is where and how to even meet them, sighs.

Avoid meeting girls at bars, clubs, malls, parties...sometimes drop your car and stroll or do some street drive in the evening.

Ajibo girls are your best option once u become rich and still single...shun broke girls...they should go for their fellow broke guys and labour with them to make it.

The world is not fair...a man must suffer for everything- suffer to get admission, suffer to graduate, suffer to go for NYSC, suffer to secure a job, suffer to find a girlfriend to date, suffer to make money, suffer to find a wife, suffer to do wedding, suffer to raise his children, gosh!

To be a man is not easy at all!!

God will help u @op and others in your shoes...its well

gudrated:
Yea...a lot won't understand. The best period to get good girls is when you are still struggling. I met a couple on my way up, but really, it wasn't my fault that I couldn't establish a firm relationship then. Location, family bavkground, etc made it challenging.
Some just assume to know my life inside out. Whoever said I was never involved in a meaningful relationship before?? It's surprising how people can assume to be biographer of your life history. Some here are just judgemental and opinionated. However, some offer constructive advice which I will heed to.

Cateyes07:
am in the same shoe , at a point l got fed up, even thought is evil forces

Hehehhehe
Evil forces? More like using your pics to play Ludo for your villa

gudrated:
Ignored....

goodgate:
you see it? You do not have BAR and you are still arrogant,forming BADGUY, infact GO AND DIE!!!!!

gudrated:
It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


lalasticlala

gudrated:
Lol. Who is condescending and throwing around insults now? I try to avoid people that are quick to insult..can't feed on negative energy. I won't quote you again.

Slimmos:
sharp girl, u just quickly wan apply to. Why are u telling him u are single? Yimu, dat Op is not working in any oil company so stop disturbing urself

missinquisitive:
Gudrated, please tell me are you hoping to get the attention of young women or are you plain desperate to land a girl quick?
Truth is, there is really no need to tell the whole world what you do for a living or what sector of the economy you work in, that is for attention seekers. You want a good girl try being friends with her first and see how it goes. Like they say- "have an open mind" and the rest will follow. You probably think everyone is after your money, think again, some of us work as hard as you do.

egobetatoday:
oh yes...there are ladies like that and i am too. before i got married my mums friend wanted to introduce me to her nephew who was working with a multinational oil company. i refused and she was very surprised. she gave jists of how the guy wasnt in the country then and how rich he was etc. i wasnt moved even though my boyfriend (now hubby) was struggling then. when i told my bf what was happening at home ( it was during the semester hols) he was very scared. i told him not to worry that i would handle it. i sent messages to the lady not to disturb me because i already had som1 i wanted to marry. even my mum liked the idea since it was her friends nephew but after i sent her to her friend she understood that i wasnt interested and backed out.

we may not be as rich as the guy now but i appreciate the fact that my hubby is faithful. i alawys perceived rich guys as players then and i couldnt marry a player for a husband. most times its not their fault since most of these girls throw them selves at them.

i also met a guy working with schlumberger ...same story.

@ O.p, if u want a good girl for a wife u may need to speak with someone u can trust. most good girls are introverts and also always at home. so u'll hardly meet them in weddings, clubs, parties etc. it is also easy to get a good girl in church if u stop looking out for the classy ones. look out for moderation in a girl. she may not be an usher or church worker because she is very shy. she may also like to sit at the back or corner of the church for same reason. for most good girls , they spend 90% of their time at home, even her neighbours dont get to see her often. Also if u are on the look out for big asses, curves, front etc then u r not looking for a good girl.

jpphilips:
@op
For you to get yourself in an oil company you must have made very good grades.

To make good grades, you must have a high level of discipline so I have no doubt you traded your social life for good grades except if you are a genius, then you can combine both.

Most of the things you wrote are laughable, your money gives you a kind of power you don't seem to know how to use.
You lack the pernaphenalia of social panache due to your academic indulgeance not any fault of urs though.
You lack what it takes to allow your persona outshine your status.

By what you wrote, I can tell you a few things about yourself, you are a shy person and you are definitely not attractive.

You said you spend more on women than average guys, well, most rich guys hardly do that except when they are socially disadvantaged.


A married man will definitely spend more on women than a bachelor for obvious reasons, as a wealthy bachelor, you are on a social advantage but you seem not to have the social skills to make it count.
And why do you alienate yourself socially? you should take a walk often in ur hood to know who is out there.
In an expensive car you can collect number in traffic na ur liver kill am. there is no limitation to how far a rich dude can get.

know when to be nice to women and know when to be ruthless it is a very thin line, if you lack the former, chances are that you will end up a mugu.

A man with a good job is serendipitous, you will never understand who you are till you meet your ilks who made money on the street.

I have been there done that and I have been everywhere, you are really wasting.

You need a coach to brush you up a bit.

Get a rich friend who made money on the street and learn his ways, your obvious challenge is your source of income.
Sorry bro!!

drake99:
its obvious you don't understand what the op is talking about,from your respond you are describing how to get a girl which is not what the poster is talking about,he's talking about getting a woman who'll love him

yilly:
well, jst try nt to expose urself too much dat u hv d money. U c, like i said, nt evry gal likes to ask for money frm a guy. I find it hard to even beg for money frm my parents talkless of a guy. Pple like dat are hard to find. Tk ur tym n find d right one. I can date a guy for mnths wtout askng for even a #100 recharge card sef n its nt like am wrkng or something. Again, nt all gals are dsame.