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I am 28 and I have dated my boyfriend for seven years. We had plan to get married. He just secured a good job and I already had a good job too,he is 32.
I have met his parents and he also have met mine and what everyone around us is waiting for is when the weeding bells would ring.
My boyfriend's attitude and behavior changed drastically few months ago, precisely four months ago. He won't call and when I do or send text message he wouldn't reply. Initially, I thought this sudden change was due to pressure at work,but I find out it was otherwise when I checked him at his office one day after closing and I was told he was on leave.
I was shocked for words, how would he be on leave and I would not be in the know? I went to his house and learnt that he had travelled. I went to see his mum; (his only surviving parent). She confirmed that he had traveled,but she didn't know that I was not in the know.
His action got many people worried until he came back. When I learnt that he was back, I visited him unannounced and I was shocked at the sight that welcome me.



My classmate and childhood friend, who is pregnant; open the door for me. She was equally shocked to see me and to my greatest shock and surprise, she ran back inside.
My boyfriend came to the door and he told me that he was sorry and needed to explain some things to me. I later learnt that my boyfriend is responsible for my friend's pregnancy. I didn't wait to hear more. I left and since then he had been calling, even his parents called and when I refused to speak with his mother, she went to see my mother.
I am confused as to why he is begging me.






Please, how do I handle this?

My little advice: the did has been done.

Sorry you where in a wrong relationship all this while.

In this life,
Action speaks louder than voice.

Your boyfriend has taken the action, I hope you know what that mean.

You guys are not made to be together forever. Is time to move on

, move on and look your own Home

HeartRobber:
!

what do you advised her to do?

shollynoob:
haha marry her na

Am not her boyfriend.


Please read again.
She need advice urgently.

Its a pity. You have to move on though it will not be easy. God will see you through and Has a better plan for you.

hmmm

Destinyfavour:
Its a pity. You have to move on though it will not be easy. God will see you through and Has a better plan for you.

Seven years no be beans o bro.

Abeg make she look else where o, although 7 yrs relationshp no be moimoi, bt are u ready to start a polygamous house? & besides with ur childhood friend, dat thought will always be on ur mind. My advise 4 u is to leave them even though it is nt easy. Leave the two of them 4 God to judge & believe God will surprise u with a better person soon.

The story is concluded already.
Her ex-boyfriend has found himself a lady to marry.
She's single again and has to search.

Move on with your life and u will find out u re moving on to greener pastures. Do not even think of d wasted years and don't listen to his pleas. He is not your man, urs will come

I am approaching this thread

Abeg,tell the woman to furqing go to hell and tell the boy to furqing face his ratchet ,back-stabbing,boyfriend snatching,miserable looking,beetchy ass baby mama.



They deserve each other,truly.


Move on to something more beautiful.

Gal dnt tell me u wanna let go after spending 7solid years of ur life with him,deep down u may have even aborted for him,that ur best frnd need serious beating while the guy brain need to be reset,bt babe u try o. SEVEN YEARS! NO ANGAGement,no bride price..hmmm the deed has been done,therefore let them taste the bitter pill too. tit for tat.

Been in a relationship for good seven years is not easy.


I have advice her to move on,that the deed has been done but she wouldn't listen.



She has been crying all night and day.
Couldn't eat nor go to work ever since this incident happen.

Jollyjoy:
Gal dnt tell me u wanna let go after spending 7solid years of ur life with him,deep down u may have even aborted for him,that ur best frnd need serious beating while the guy brain need to be reset,bt babe u try o. SEVEN YEARS! NO ANGAGement,no bride price..hmmm the deed has been done,therefore let them taste the bitter pill too. tit for tat.

What do you advice her to do?


Beating her will be suicidal, considering the anger in her. She might beat her to death,also she is pregnant.

Sorry Dear,
It has occurred but you have to move on, you people were only made to know each other and not to be be with each other.
That perfect man destined for you is waiting to kiss you.
God bless you.

CC: Ferano, Ishilove .

What's there to be said or done, really? The damage has been done. The dude is an untrustworthy louse. She needs to cut both of them out of her life. No mess & less stress.

Freemanan:

Why the long face, hun?

To some of us trust is EVERYTHING. Once it has been broken, then there's no going back to how it was. It'll always be a trigger. But I get that we're wired differently as people. Personally, he'll be a goner because I have low tolerance for betrayal. Double betrayal at that! Oh, no! It's too much!

PunkyOh:
Why the long face, hun?

To some of us trust is EVERYTHING. Once it has been broken, then there's no going back to how it was. It'll always be a trigger. But I get that we're wired differently as people. Personally, he'll be a goner because I have low tolerance for betrayal. Double betrayal at that! Oh, no! It's too much!

I agree... It's Just that it's too blunt.

Freemanan:
I agree... It's Just that it's too blunt.

Lol.

Well, it's how I talk. I don't shuck & jive

PunkyOh:
Lol.

Well, it's how I talk. I don't shuck & jive

I awe it...

He was never meant or destined to be ur HUSBAND, i know its hard but u have to MOVE ON. Everything that happens in life has reasons, there is a reason why he didn't make it to ur future (home as ur husband), only time and u moving forward will tell.

Yes 7years is not 7days, 7weeks or 7months and i don't think u planned getting married for just 7years, so let the wasted 7years be behind u so that u can enjoy more than 7years with ur real Husband.

You will never ever be happy....NEVER! Married couples that don't have it as bad as you (have no serious problems) are struggling to make it work because marriage itself is freaking tough. Now, combine your dilemma to a marriage...HELL ON EARTH.

Why don't women like peace of mind? Why don't you wanna wake up in the morning and have nothing to be worried about? Y'all are emotional masochists, Your drawn to emotional pain and drama just to avoid normal life because normal is too boring for you. SAD!

IdisuleOurOwn:
Seven years no be beans o bro.

yeah we know...she kant be 2nd wify. I will still advice her to try and move on....(NL) can help kip her company while she iz out the emotions.

dah yo frnds get mind pass army oh...smh.
I pray she bounce back on her feet as soon as possible & wont chase other niggers coming her way having in mind dah all guys are the same. This is woh life is all abouch if yhu ask me (ups&down). (na all dz fins de mak gurls turns to lez).

God see yhu through....err'body help me say Amen by hitting like

Sue him! Sue his ass! This offense is punishable under section 419, sub section 19 in the constitution of the federal republic of LOVE. Lols (take hrt dear, such is life)