There have been questions why there are so
many single women of marriageable age in the
country who aren't in any relationship let alone a
serious one and why eligible bachelors seem to
be decreasing in numbers by the day. Infact it
seems the more readily available single ladies
we have, they less number of eligible bachelors.
When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are
known to be actively engaging. Apart from their
culture of carrying the financial burden of
relationship with women, they harness every
opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on
social-network sites, in their respective offices,
religious organizations, gym centers, parks, clubs
among others.
Despite the many romantic attributes that could
be said of men in Nigeria, women still hold a
contrary account about them. Predominant
among the contrary views women hold against
men here is that no matter how romantic they
are, getting them to the altar for marriage could
be very challenging.
So, what are those factors that scare Nigerian
men away from marriage? Here are some
reasons that might be responsible for most
men's jittery feelings to the Marriage
issue.please after reading through,add a reason
you feel might be missing.....
1. - No wife materials
Common among some men is the reservation
that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in
Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to
ladies not being in quantifiable distribution
among men, what they are complaining about is
that most ladies of this generation lack the
necessary attributes that will qualify them for the
lifetime commitment called marriage. If this is
the case, time of quality search can help heal
the wound of such man.
2. - They get sex freely without marriage than in
time past
Realizing now that they can get sex more easily
than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women
was a pass value to marriage, some men now
feel lot of women today have lost it when it
comes to keeping themselves whole. But, this
might not be the fault of women as promiscuity
is not an exclusive act that can be carried out
without the consent of either gender.
3 - Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a
woman in three different kinds of wedding-
Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of
marriage no doubt is something men find very
intimidating. As of last year, the average Nigeria
wedding cost something like N500,000 and the it
goes upward from that to more unimaginable
cost. For most people, especially in this
economy, that’s a lot of money. But all we
advise is that men should try and cut their coat
according to their material
4 - In search of a ‘working class’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a
wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities
with them. Gone are the days when men marry
‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living
has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have
a means of livelihood and willing to share with
their man, the burden of building a home.
5 - Fear of freedom ending
There is a common belief among some men that
marriage puts an end to one’s freedom. Single
men today are much more proud about not being
dependent and being on their own. They fear
marriage because they will become answerable
for every action they take to their spouse. That
is one big responsibility some men are not ready
to take up.
6. Career
One of the predominant question most men will
secretly ask themselves before making the
decision to marry are, Will my partner be agitated
about me being in office for long hours? Will he
or she understand my love for my career? These
are cogent questions and answering these
questions could slow the decisive actions to be
taken on marriage plans.
7. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set certain standards for
anyone who will marry their child, either be it
that such expectations are from the groom
parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes
affect relationships. If the expectations are
behavioral, the challenge might be little but are
some discouraging situations where parents
decide the profession qualifications, properties,
etc that must be acquired by the suitor before
they can give out their child to him in marriage.
8.Trust issues
Most times, people fear to get committed into a
relationship because of trust issues. Some men
have been bruised in their past relationships and
therefore they don’t want to put themselves out
there.
9.Bad Testimonies from Married couple
Generally, most men get intimidated by marriage
as a result of the testimonies they hear from
those in marriage. Before getting into marriage
talks, it is a common thing among men to ask
their brothers, friends who are already married
on how the social institution is and the
testimonies they get are most times
discouraging, as such they fear their marriage
will be a replica of the testimonies they have
gathered.
10.Cultural limitations
Nigeria is a country with diverse culture and The
diversity sometimes create challenges for men
who are in search of women with similar culture.
The good thing though is that those who
endeavor to explore inter-cultural relationships
get the opportunity to gain an in-depth
appreciation of other customs.

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Hmmmm

If i read dat long tin ehn "make i naked bath"

If i read dat lond tin ehn "make i naked bath"

Nonsense

I swear men are so hard to understand only GOD can help you understand dem.

nice points
but there's still more to that

grad2012:
I swear men are so hard to understand only GOD can help you understand dem.

its wah u tink

pbs4real:
its wah u tink

no seriously you men are just wonderful. You have to be calculative and seriously calmed as a woman and also prayerful cos you don't just know wat you might do that can chase your man away. Inbetween how are u pbs4real.

Tomfrench:
nice points
but there's still more to that

and i wonder whats that tomfrench??

grad2012:
no seriously you men are just wonderful. You have to be calculative and seriously calmed as a woman and also prayerful cos you don't just know wat you might do that can chase your man away. Inbetween how are u pbs4real.

am gud grad But u would also concur wit me that women are worst when it cums to issues like this,speaking frm experience tho,@ times i jez wonder if women act knws what they want. . .sup with u tho