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The truth is one must know when to propose and at the right time...for sure both parties must be seriously into each other to that point where one cant bear the thought of loosing the other...at such time one can easily pop the question and for sure a YES would be the answer.... .....na so e be ooo...

Nice

missbronze:
. why wont u like my location, badoo.


No, we didn't lead him on. we dated him to know ourselves better, and, along the line, we realized is nt what we want.

yeah,I love ur sense of reasoning

missbronze:
See your mouth like the best place to be. Smh 4 u.


Back to topic, it has nothing to do with until a new guy shows up. You dont fancy him for marriage, you dont.!!

Afterall, all r/ship must not end in marriage.

yeah

[quote author=Oyind17 post=36881996]That number 5 though, one of my friend on Nl comes to mind, he doesn't believe in kneeling before a girl to propose.

On a second thought marriage na wash !!






























But ur parents were married to produce u or are u a bast..........??

princealeto:
reminds me of my used to be Prity neighbors,too Prity that she thinks no one is type.still single @43

shame

missbronze:
Very correct.


Truth is that, not all men are husband material.


In one way or the other, a lady will see what will make her nt want to get married to a guy. or have her reason for nt accepting the marriage proposal.




But, trust guys, they will nt want to know the reasons, or accept their fualts, and, work towards being a better person.


Rather, they will start labelling the gal all sorts of name. and, will be wishing her evil.

So technically, it is the guys fault when they propose and the ladies refuse?

Oyind17:
That number 5 though, one of my friend on Nl comes to mind, he doesn't believe in kneeling before a girl to propose.

On a second thought marriage na wash !!

Does kneeling down make the man a better husband or does it make the marriage successful?

rawtouch:
During this scarcity of husbands no lady will say no

Some will surprise you.

They (ladys) should keep forming and be rejecting a man's proposa,l by the time the his beauty faded and he is plus 33years he will be visiting church to mosque from radio to television in search of a man whose God fearing

Awon oniranu gbogbo, let me just see any woman that will turn down my proposal. i will just port to a more serious lady instead .....

Oyind17:
That number 5 though, one of my friend on Nl comes to mind, he doesn't believe in kneeling before a girl to propose.

On a second thought marriage na wash !!

Marriage is an uncessary burden one heap on oneself,marriage is over rated.too much hyping....

missbronze:
I no dey for online bragging.


just give me time. and venue.

By the time i am tru with you..., aswear you wont see rd come nl again.

unless my name is nt bronze again.

Hey, missbronze and pbs4real should get a room!

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noniwealth:
I would say you are speaking from personal experience as its not all guys that will call a default gal evil names,most guys I know won't want to call a gal evil names as it automatically pronounce they were involved with the evil @ dat tym
The OP spoke facts,and truth is there is no husband material or wfe material,but we have to make do with what we have and mould him as husband material.
Some of us get decieved thinking a caring yahoo guy is a husband material while a caring official worker is not because he cannot meet up with our financial needs and also the tym D family demands of him atm.
I see most of theproblem as civilisation!
The gadgets and the ease of communication
In the past our love life relied upon lettersznand once u can write a touching letter to ur lover,it goes a long way in D relationship.
But these days f u don't call and another toaster that lives closer does the frequent calling and meeting of basc needs,I.e hair nails and if given room to sex,we discover we tend to believe the guy more than the husband to be,
Wat are ur criterias for a true husband material?

u are very mature in ur views. I agree with u. Only an intelligent and wise lady will decipher what u have written

rawtouch:
During this scarcity of husbands no lady will say no

rawtouch fire on!

Mzflexydeeva:
The thought of a lady saying no to a marriage proposal to many is unrealistic. Many a time ladies are characterized by their attitude towards trapping a man into marriage rather than refusing a proposal but as uncommon as it may seem to many, guys still get their rings thrown back in their faces.

7 common reasons why ladies reject marriage proposals include:

1. Financial independence

When financial independence is mentioned, a lot of people are quick to say ladies are only after the money, want a well to do man but this isn't about the man. Not that the "independent state" of a man doesn't count but some ladies reject marriage proposals because they (the lady) want to be financially stable before starting a family. Not every girl likes the idea of a man taking care of all her needs. Some ladies want to also be able to contribute and support their husbands financially before their answer is yes.

2. Family attachment

A man who loves his family can be said to be a good man. He can also be said to be one who would make a good husband and father but when a man is too attached to family it can be a reason not to be taken seriously when he pops the question. A man who can't make decisions until he gets approval from his family still has an invisible umbilical cord round his neck.
A guy who has to meet all the needs of his family before considering the needs of his "to be" wife may not change after marriage. No woman wants a man whose decisions can only be final after the parents have certified

3. Age factor

Many ladies have lost great men because they have allowed themselves to be consumed by the feeling of "still young".
A lady who feels she is too young to get married shouldn't be in a relationship. Some ladies claim to be ready but when the proposal comes they say they are too young. This has more to do with their inability to deal with commitment.

4. Mending fences strategy

Relationships are never perfect and a good surprise is always welcomed but proposing during a misunderstanding or a fight usually backfires. It is good to want to work through issues easily and have them sorted out quickly but proposing when she's mad at you is risky. A no may just be what you get.

5. Proposal method and ring choice

Ladies usually have things they fantasize about. One of which is their wedding and also the way you propose. Ladies have been known to turn down marriage proposal because they felt it wasn't romantic enough, others because it was too extravagant. Choice of ring too has not been left out. Ladies love to show off among their peers, no wonder a lady would say no to a guy simply because she feels the ring used in proposing is not befitting.

6. Sexual satisfaction.

The importance given to sex in relationships these days cannot be over emphasized. A lady could reject a proposal upon considering if the guy satisfies her in bed or not. In a relationship, a lady can still try to get her sexual satisfaction from someone else but in marriage she may not. Knowing that a guy can't sexually satisfy her is a good enough reason to say no for some ladies.

7. Lack of trust (too many female friends)

Lack of trust is one of the most common issues faced by relationships today. A lot of people are in relationships where trust is only a mirage. A major cause of lack of trust for ladies is encompassed in the fact that the guy has too many female friends. In such situations, the lady is likely to feel insecure and unsure. Even when the guy proposes, she tends to take it as a joke and the reply is usually no.

The author of this piece must be a teenager who is yet to know how 'hard' it is to come by men who are ready or willing to 'pop the question'. She and her cronies should keep on with their fantasies till their early and mid thirties, maybe by then, they'd know why even superstar ladies are becoming baby mamas by the minutes. If they had lousy mummies men to 'pop the question' during a physical fight, he won't have to finish the sentence before she drags him to the altar. The married ones are having a hard time keeping their husbands to themselves alone let alone the unmarried and maybe a totally dependent liability. Be wise, lady.

SexyStrawberry:
OP u nailed it with number 7! I just hate it when my man has too many female friends, but when I have too many male friends wahala go come burst! He will start asking what I am doing with too many male friends! I am doing the same thing u are doing M*o*d*a*f*u*c*k*e*r !

Hey its far better 4 a guy to have many female frnds dan d girl havin more male frnds..You knw why? ..its because a man has a better self control dan a woman in everythin ofcos except Sex

pbs4real:
if u knw say u capable,send me pm make we arrange to meet,whether u knw go testify to the satisfaction and ruggedity of my mamba

Lol.


Isiokpukpu. (strong head)

Comot for rd joor.

missbronze:
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You cant fit do anything to me.
I dare you.

Can you come into my trouser pls? Your attention is needed there.

sonofananimal:
SO IF THE GUY LATER BECOME BECOME A BETTER PERSON ( AS YOU MAY SAY)
AND YOU ARE NOT YET MARRIED, DID YOU THINK THE GUY WILL STILL COME BACK AND REPROPOSE TO YOU AGAIN

He may, he may not.

Is also left for the gal to give a second chance or nt.

6. Sexual satisfaction.

The importance given to sex in relationships these days cannot be over emphasized. A lady could reject a proposal upon considering if the guy satisfies her in bed or not. In a relationship, a lady can still try to get her sexual satisfaction from someone else but in marriage she may not. Knowing that a guy can't sexually satisfy her is a good enough reason to say no for some ladies.

7. Lack of trust (too many female friends)

Lack of trust is one of the most common issues faced by relationships today. A lot of people are in relationships where trust is only a mirage. A major cause of lack of trust for ladies is encompassed in the fact that the guy has too many female friends. In such situations, the lady is likely to feel insecure and unsure. Even when the guy proposes, she tends to take it as a joke and the reply is usually no.

no 6 and 7 on point.
men should stop lies.....

noniwealth:
I would say you are speaking from personal experience as its not all guys that will call a default gal evil names,most guys I know won't want to call a gal evil names as it automatically pronounce they were involved with the evil @ dat tym
The OP spoke facts,and truth is there is no husband material or wfe material,but we have to make do with what we have and mould him as husband material.
Some of us get decieved thinking a caring yahoo guy is a husband material while a caring official worker is not because he cannot meet up with our financial needs and also the tym D family demands of him atm.
I see most of theproblem as civilisation!
The gadgets and the ease of communication
In the past our love life relied upon lettersznand once u can write a touching letter to ur lover,it goes a long way in D relationship.
But these days f u don't call and another toaster that lives closer does the frequent calling and meeting of basc needs,I.e hair nails and if given room to sex,we discover we tend to believe the guy more than the husband to be,
Wat are ur criterias for a true husband material?

I agree to some of the tins u said, nt all.

As for criteria for husband material, it differs to individual.

What works for you, may nt work for me.

Demigods:
Man you ugly, wonder who will even wanna marry u. Smh for that person.

Sweet, u are too handsome.

Can we now talk like adults.

BRIGHTRIVERS:
Guys hw does it feel to get a NO??.. I'v never xperienced a NO

You've never xpernced a No
Sounds like u've proposed severally n yet u re nt married to any yet

missbronze:
Believe me,


You will be shocked.

Yet so many single women attend special "how to get married" seminar,I don't know what country you live in but the fact remains eligible bachelors are rare, in Nigeria, hence you see so many marriage women monitoring their husband's movement.

rman:
So technically, it is the guys fault when they propose and the ladies refuse?

What i am trying to say is that, nt a must a lady will accept a guy's proposal just because they are dating.

She may got reasons for her refusal. which may be from the guy or personal to her.

Mayflowa:
Hey, missbronze and pbs4real should get a room!

I will finish that guy.

missbronze:
Sweet, u are too handsome.

Can we now talk like adults.

Aint your sweet, ionn need your complements, I know I'm handsome already, my gf and lots of other girls said that already, what I want is

tivta:
Yet so many single women attend special "how to get married" seminar,I don't know what country you live in but the fact remains eligible bachelors are rare, in Nigeria, hence you see so many marriage women monitoring their husband's movement.

Even with all u wrote there,

A Nigeria gal will still refuse a guy proposal.

But, wait,

Are u saying because men are rare (according to u). That a lady should therefore accept any man that proposes.?

She shouldn't consider her own wants, likes, values, goals, feelings. etc. She should just accept.

permanentgrace:
Can you come into my trouser pls? Your attention is needed there.

U are nt serious.

if i catch u there ehn.